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    Why Do Personal Development?

    Part of the nature of humans is to be constantly developing, growing and moving towardbalanced and mature way of being. Our present personality is determined by both whoand what we have been and by the person we strive to become. The goal of personaldevelopment is to learn and apply that which enables us to attain emotional wellbeing,understanding and effectiveness, and to share this knowledge with others.

    Personal development is the conscious evolution of human nature, and yet throughouthistory it has been sorely lacking! Although it is in our nature to learn and grow, we areheld back by our culture, which is predominantly focused on survival needs, each of us i

    competition with others, and our spiritual inner nature is repressed. The animal rules.We make no room for unconditional love.

    Even though the culture may have evolved with technological advancement andadministrative complexity, human nature has not moved forward as it might. We are nopaying the price for human selfishness and inconsideration. Going forward, the quality oour lives on this planet - even our survival - now depends on each of us takingresponsibility for our personal growth.

    The human being needs to awaken to the soul that inhabits each body and is our true seland source of inner knowing. Awaken through a process of self-discovery, leading to oneown, self-directed spirituality. We need to become mindfully conscious instead of ruled

    by the dictates of instincts, past habits and fixed beliefs. We need to throw away dogma,open our minds and reconsider. Instead of fear about our survival and competitive angs

    we will then be motivated by compassionate understanding and creative love.

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