Cyberbullying

Parent and Student Guide

www.cyberbullying.ca

Bill Belsey knows all! This is my main source of info for tonight Just giving credit…

What is Cyberbullying?

"Cyberbullying involves the use of information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others." -Bill Belsey

Cyberbullying is willful and involves recurring or repeated harm inflicted through the medium of electronic text. (Wikipedia)

Examples

Continuing to send emails to someone who doesn’t want to be contacted

May also include threats, sexual remarks, derogative labels (i.e., hate speech)

Publish personal contact information for their victims at websites.

They may attempt to assume the identity of a victim for the purpose of publishing material in their name that defames or ridicules them.

FAST FACTS 99 per cent of Canadian students have used the Internet 48 per cent of Canadian students use it for a least an hour a day nearly 60 per cent of Canadian students use chat rooms and instant

messaging This is the "Always On" generation (*74% of connected young

people use instant messaging several times a week. -Pew Report ). By 2005 the annual number of text and visual messages sent over

the Internet is expected to reach 1.2 trillion. In 2002, cell phone users passed the one billion user mark, this is

the fastest 10 year penetration of any product in commercial history. A 2002 British survey found that one in four youth, aged 11 to 19

has been threatened via their computers or cell phones, including death threats.

About 75% of people have been involved in spreading gossip or rumours electronically.

E-Mail

Works like an electronic post office (send and receive mail online)

Can send text, pictures, videos, etc.

Can be used to send harassing or threatening messages

It is hard to track Students share their

passwords with others and they use the account to send harassing emails to others

Instant Messaging (IM’s)

A private chat room with another person or group of people

Type messages back and forth in real time

ICQ, MSN, Yahoo Msger, etc.

Sends alerts when your contacts are online

Used to send threatening or harassing messages

“Trap” students into sticky situations with other friends

A major part of teenage culture today Paramount to a local

hangout spot

Ready to Snoop??

Be careful! Don’t invade their privacy- it’s a fine line Make sure you know what you are looking

for

Chat rooms

Real-time communication between two users via computer. Once a chat has been initiated, either user can enter text by typing on the keyboard and the entered text will appear on the other user's monitor. Most networks and online services offer a chat feature.

Can be used to stock Send threats Assume someone’s

identity Get private or personal

information

Chat Lingo- Get in the Know

TTYL Talk to you later <3 heart A/S/L? Age/sex/location? BF Boyfriend F2F Face to face GF Girlfriend H&K Hug and kisses ILU or ILY I love you IPN I'm posting naked IWALU I will always love you KOTL Kiss on the lips

LDR Long-distance relationship LMIRL Let's meet in real life NIFOC Naked in front of computer NP Nosy parents PAW Parents are watching POS Parent over shoulder PM Private message QT Cutie SOMY? Sick of me yet? TOY Thinking of you WTGP? Want to go private? WUF? Where are you from?

Texting and Cell Phones

Messages are sent from one cell to another

Messages can also be sent from computers or PDA’s

Text, pictures, videos and voice can be sent

Can be used to take pictures when people aren’t aware

Can forward private messages or pictures

Can be used to send threats

SPAM mail can cost you serious coin

Websites

A site (location) on the World Wide Web.

Each Web site contains a home page, which is the first document users see when they enter the site.

The site might also contain additional documents and files.

Each site is owned and managed by an individual, company or organization.

Cyberbullies can create Web sites that mock, torment and harass others.

Post pictures or gossip Bash Boards

Create a discussion board that people can post on about others

Voting / Polling Booths

Some Web sites such as www.freepoles.com, offer users the opportunity to create online polling/voting booths.

Cyberbullies can use these Web sites to create Web pages that allow others to vote online for "The Ugliest , Fattest, Dumbest etc. Boy/Girl at ***** School".

Social Networking Sites

Used to help people stay connected or reconnect with friends

People create a profile and can post pictures

Messages and posts can be sent/made

Comment on others pages

Post embarrassing pictures of others

Threaten people Spread rumours or gossip

100% of the surveys I got back, the students had at least one type of social networking account.

Sites

www.bebo.com www.myspace.com www.nexopia.com www.xanga.com www.friendster.com www.facebook.com www.gossipreport.com

Did I miss any??

SHOW AND TELL!

So parents and students- do YOU have an account?

Take a few minutes to talk about it

WARNING: Parents if your child does not want to share his/her site today that is

okay– but check it tomorrow!

"The most effective, reliable, Internet Safety Filter is an Involved, Informed, and Aware Parent and an Educated and Ethical Kid.“ - Gwyneth A. Jones

Involved

Check your teens web pages, spaces, blogs See what they are writing about, who they are chatting with, what

pictures they are posting Watch what they are doing

Put your home computer in a public place- especially if you have a webcam or digital camera

Check out their history Talk to your teens about safety in the world of technology

http://www.cybertip.ca/en/cybertip/inet_safety_tips

Warning: Be careful not to snoop!

Informed

Ask your teens about the sites they are visiting- check them out yourself

If you don’t know- ask Be aware of new threats (do your own

investigating) Check websites for parents on

cyberbullying- keep up to date!

Awareness

Realize that your teen will be curious and likely will make mistakes

Realize that your teen may be on “the other side”

Be aware of any changes in your teens behaviour

The most effective, reliable, Internet Safety Filter is an Involved, Informed, and Aware Parent and an Educated and Ethical Kid.“ - Gwyneth A. Jones

Educated

Presentations like this Talk your parents Ask questions – Computer teachers are

good place to start Do your own research

There is tons of stories out there that might interest you

Ethical Definition: In accordance with principles of right

or good conduct: moral, principled, proper, right, righteous, rightful, right-minded, virtuous.

It’s easy to be mean when you don’t have to take credit for it.

If you wouldn’t do it/say it in person, why online?

“If someone has something mean to say about someone I have

found it is usually done on the internet”

Signs your child might at risk online

Your child spends large amounts of time online, especially at night Your child accesses pornography on the computer Your child receives phone calls from unknown individuals Your child is making long distance calls to numbers you do not

recognize Your child receives mail/gifts/packages from someone you don’t

know Your child turns computer monitor off or quickly changes the screen

when you enter the room Your child becomes withdrawn from the family Your child is using an on-line account belonging to someone else.

RCMP http://www.rcmp-grc.gc.ca

http://www.wiredsafety.org/flashandvideo/YNK-Meangirls(G).swf

Types of Cyber BulliesJigsaw

“The Vengeful Angel”

The “Power-Hungry” and “Revenge of the Nerds”

“Mean Girls”

The Inadvertent Cyberbully

http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/parents/howdoyouhandleacyberbully.html

TASK 3

What Can Be Done? Prevention

Place / keep computer(s) with Internet access in an open, commonly used space

Never give out personal information or passwords, P.I.N. numbers etc.

Don't believe everything you see or read

Use Netiquette

Don't send a message to someone else when you are angry

Don't open a message from someone you don't know

If it doesn't look or feel right, it probably isn't

You don't have to be "Always On" turn off, disconnect, unplug, try actual reality instead of virtual reality!

QUESTIONS? COMMENTS?

If You Are The Victim of a Cyberbully

What Can Be Done Now?

Don't reply to messages from cyberbullies Do not keep this to yourself! You are NOT alone and you

did NOT do anything to deserve this! Tell an adult you know and trust!

Inform your Internet Service Provider (ISP) or cell phone/pager service provider

Inform your local police Do not erase or delete messages from cyberbullies Protect yourself

Main Points

Do unto to others…

Kids are BRAVE on the internet when it comes to their interactions with others

You know your child/yourself best, stay connected with each other

Keep educating yourselves

Staying Safe Online:A Young Person's Contract

1. I will ALWAYS tell a parent or another adult immediately, if something is confusing or seems scary or threatening.

2. I will NEVER give out my full name, real address, telephone number, school name or location, schedule, password, or other identifying information when I'm online. I will check with an adult for any exceptions.

3. I will NEVER have a face-to-face meeting with someone I've met online. In rare cases, my parents may decide it's OK, but if I do decide to meet a cyberpal, I will make sure we meet in a public place and that a parent or guardian is with me.

4. I will NEVER respond online to any messages that use bad words or words that are scary, threatening, or just feel weird. If I get that kind of message, I'll print it out and tell an adult immediately. The adult can then contact the online service or appropriate agency. If I'm uncomfortable in a live chat room, I will use the "ignore" button.

5. I will NEVER go into a new online area that is going to cost additional money without first asking permission from my parent or teacher.

6. I will NEVER send a picture over the Internet or via regular mail to anyone without my parent's permission.

7. I will NOT give out a credit card number online without a parent present.Young Person_________________ Date______Parent/Guardian_______________ Date______

Check These Out http://www.isafe.org/ http://www.wiredsafety.org/ http://www.learnthenet.com/english/html/09netiqt.htm http://www.cyberbullying.info/ http://www.netsmartz.org/resources/reallife.htm

Software Ideas and Tracking http://kids.getnetwise.org/ (look under tools) http://www.microsoft.com/protect/family/guidelines/basics.mspx http://www.tucows.com/

Sources

1. www.cyberbullying.ca

2. http://www.webopedia.com

3. http://www.wiredsafety.org

4. http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/parents/howdoyouhandleacyberbully.html

5. http://www.netsmartz.org/resources/reallife.htm6. Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying

(Paperback)by Cheryl Dellasega, Charisse Nixon

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