Creating A Safe Space
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Creating A Safe Space
Presenter: Chaplain Bob Coberly
Bereavement Services Manager
VITAS Innovative Hospice CareHouston, Texas
April 26, 2014
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CreatingA Safe Space
Exploring that space where patients and their families
feel safe
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Creating A Safe Space Objectives
* Recognize the importance of feeling safe in the environment of the healthcare visit
* Discuss the potential dangers of an unsafe emotional environment
* Explore redemptive language that defines a Safe Space
* Redefine excellence in spiritual care
* Demonstrate how we may create a safe space
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Recognize the importance of feeling safe in the environment of
the healthcare visit
1. Identify the vulnerability of Hospice
patients and their families
2. Recognize the need for trust
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Identify the vulnerability of hospice patients and their families
• Vulnerability of being ill
• Vulnerability of end-of-life issues
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Feeling safe In the Environment of The Healthcare Visit
“The need for interpersonal trust relates to the vulnerability associated with being ill”
“Trust relations in health care—the new agenda”Rosemary Rowe & Michael CalnanEuropean Journal of Public Health
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Feeling safe In the Environment of The Healthcare Visit
“Does my life have meaning?”
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Recognize the need for trust
• The healthcare visit is a relational experience
• Trust is essential in the patient’s role in the healing process
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Recognize the need for trust
To scan a ghost is faint,
But grappling conquers it.
Emily Dickinson
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The healthcare visitis a relational experience
Relationships are Healing
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Oscar and Lenny
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What are the Dangers?
“There is no reason for them to feel unsafe with me.”
In reality, it may not be about you or me.
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Discuss the potential dangers of an unsafe emotional environment
• End-of-life Fears and the Meaning of Life
• Spiritual Identity
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End-of-life Fears and the Meaning of Life
• Fears will not be taken seriously
• My personal stories
will not be valued
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What are the Dangers?
You won’t take my fears seriously
You will smother me with Answers
You will prescribe pills
You won’t listen to me
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What are the Dangers?
You won’t understand me
You won’t be interested
I will feel minimized
I will feel ashamed
You don’t have time for my story
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What are the Dangers?
“We quantify ‘human behavior’ and develop programs of therapy and treatment, and yet the procrustean trimming of the soul to fit our programs of science doesn’t have much effect. We still encounter the soul briefly, as a set of problems, rather than as a creative and constructive source of life.”
Thomas Moore
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What are the Dangers?
“…the procrustean trimming of the soul to fit our programs…”
Procrustean:“…trying to establish conformity by using any and all means, including violence”
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In Greek mythology, Procrustes was a son of Poseidon with a sadistic streak
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What are the Dangers?
• Religious faith will be seen as superstitious
• Non-religious spirituality will be ignored
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What are the Dangers?
I am Hindu. I fear
you will not value my faith;
You will think I am superstitious.
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What are the Dangers?
I have no traditional faith;You see me as an “Atheist”;
Sometimes I am.You will not recognize my
meaning.I don’t care that you condemn me;
I fear, though, that you will not hear me.
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What are the Dangers?
When you need to save me,
I don’t feel safe.
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Creating A Safe Space
Exploring Redemptive Language
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Exploring Redemptive Language
“Will this be a pointless death,or will we redeem it in some way?”
Rodney Bolejack“Grief: A Spiritual Journey”
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Explore redemptive language that defines a Safe Space
• Ancient Hebrew word root of the term “Salvation” – YASHA
• 3 Contexts of the YASHA
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Ancient Hebrew word root of the term “Salvation” – YASHA
• “To be wide or spacious; to develop without hindrance”
• Movement from narrow danger to spacious safety
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Yasha
Hebrew YESHUWAH is translated
1. “healing”- Ps 42:11, Ps 43:5, Ps 67:22.“overcoming adversary”-Ps 18:50, Ps 44:43. “religious redemption” - Ps 91:16
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“When hard pressed, I cried to
the Lord; he brought me into a spacious place.”
Psalm 118:5 New International Version
In the King James Version the metaphor reads:
“…set me in a broad place”
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Paradox of Ethical Living
• Spiritual healing may be the movement from fear to trust -- in a safe space where they can develop without the hindrance of judgment or false hope.
• They may now reenter the narrow way, the dangerous vulnerability, with confidence.
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Paradox of Ethical Living
Just as the therapist must release their client to leave the safety of the counseling office to the vulnerability of the street,…
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RedefineExcellence in Spiritual Care
• Spiritual care and the safe space
• Spiritual care offers room to grow
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Spiritual Care and the Safe Space
• Where the fearful experience trust
• Where the lonely find companionship
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Spiritual care offers room to grow
• Fear is the restriction of hope
• Courage is the outgrowth of trust
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Creating A Safe Space
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Demonstratehow we may create a safe space
sitting vs standing
“statistical analysis showed significant difference between the amount of time patients perceived the physician as being in the room when he sat versus when he stood…. perceived him being in the room longer when he sat.”
journal: Patient Education and Counseling
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Demonstratehow we may create a safe space
sitting vs standing
“…physicians should ask patients for their preference for sitting or standing during interviews.”
Journal of Pain and Symptom Management
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Demonstratehow we may create a safe space
Mediators of Conflict Resolution
• “…as mediators, we have noticed that, when we are feeling at peace with ourselves and the world around us, we are better able to bring peace into the room.”
Bringing Peace Into the Room
Daniel Bowling and David A. Hoffman
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Demonstratehow we may create a safe space
1. Consciously think about
emotional safety
2. Add it to your care planning
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Consciously think about emotional safety
We consciously prepare for clinical issues;
we assume that we are safe persons…
NOW…
• Make a conscious shift to Think about patient & family vulnerability
• Consider potential emotional issues
• Expect new issues to be expressed
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How We May Create a Safe Space
“…if you have ready-made answers in your head you will not be able even to listen to the question. You will be so full of your answer, you will be incapable of listening. You will not be available.”
Osho Indian mystic, guru, spiritual teacher
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Add it to your care planning
• “Patient/Family will express uncomfortable feelings…. I will remain calm”
• “Patient/Family will tell personal stories…. I will be attentive”
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How we may create a safe space
VALUE THE OUTCOME THAT
THEY WILL FEEL HEARD
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How we may create a safe space
NOTICE EMOTIONAL GESTURES
BODY LANGUAGE
STRAIN IN FACIAL EXPRESSIONS
TEARS
EXUBERANCE
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How we may create a safe space
And, finally,We will let them go….
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