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Running head: COUNSELING REFLECTION
Counseling Reflection Paper
Clinical Mental Health Counseling
Jay Hayden
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COUNSELING REFLECTION 2
Counseling Reflection
Before this experience, the longest counseling session I had taped was only 10 minutes
long. Therefore, after discovering that we would be taping a 30 minute session, I became
extremely anxious. A torrent of worries swept through my mind, “What if I say something
wrong? What if the client says nothing? What if the tape doesn’t work? And what can we talk
about for 30 minutes?” But, as those worries sprang to life, I remembered some wise advice that
helped alleviate my anxiety.
Within the assigned readings for my techniques class, I have learned that in order to
succeed you have to fail. As blunt as that sounds, it is an accurate statement in regards to
budding counselors. I will not instantly become a great counselor and I will inevitably fail and
make many mistakes during my training. But, these mistakes will help pave my way towards
becoming a successful counselor. Prior to beginning my 30 minute counseling session, I
repeated this phrase over and over again while practicing some deep breathing to calm myself
down. This mind set and relaxation process helped me appear calm and collected, even though
on the inside I was a nervous mess.
After pulling myself together, I began the counseling session by asking my client what
she would like to discuss. She had concerns regarding her current finances and her future
financial stability. Furthermore, she believed that her counseling profession was grossly
underappreciated and did not receive adequate compensation. I practiced the “L.U.V” technique
of listening, understanding, and validating so she would realize she was truly being heard.
Additionally, I maintained an attentive posture by leaning slightly forward in my seat and used a
slow, softly toned voice to encourage her to tell me more.
I think my voice is one of my greatest strengths as a counselor. I always try to speak in a
slow, clear, soft, and tentative manner so that the client does not feel intimidated or pressured by
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my comments. Similarly, this gentle demeanor helps my clients feel as if they are in safe
environment in which they can freely speak their mind. Dr. McKee also commented on my
voice and said that it will be helpful to me later on and will allow me to perturb the client while
still maintaining a non-threatening position.
In addition to using the L.U.V technique, having an attentive body language, and a soft
voice, I believe I also did well with my use of paralinguistic utterances. To encourage my client
to continue telling her story, I made a subtle “mmmmmm” noise when she finished a thought or
during an important segment in her narrative. Furthermore, I occasionally used paralinguistic
utterances as a response and “skipped a turn” instead of providing a direct feedback. This
practice of “skipping turns” has been hard for me to employee but I’m starting to understand its
importance and how to use it.
Specifically, social conversation dictates a 50/50 relationship in which one person speaks
and one person listens with the roles continuously switching. However, in counseling, this social
norm is severely skewed in that the counselor listens more and speaks significantly less. Hence
the expression of “skipping turns,” because the counselor is skipping his or her turn in which
they were supposed to speak. Instead of speaking, the counselor inserts a paralinguistic utterance
or some anticipatory body language to encourage the client to keep speaking.
Aside for “skipping turns”, it is imperative for a counselor to know how to appropriately
ask questions to his or her client. I also thought I also did well in this area, and asked open
questions that would probe her to more thoughtfully reflect upon her situation. For example, my
client spoke about the importance of getting validation for her profession. Thus, I asked what it
would mean to her if her area of study had that validation. This question lead to her
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experiencing her emotion behind this issue and realizing how validation would provide her with
the respect she deserved and alleviate the stigmatization she faced.
Furthermore, I thought I did well in terms of keeping my client in her optimum zone of
emotion versus cognition. In particular, I wanted her to not just cognitively talk about her
situation, I wanted her to explore her emotions and she how this situation related to her.
Subsequently, I made comments that encouraged her to reflect on how this situation affects her
personally. For instance, my client had been very cognitive while discussing the mental health
profession and how it did not receive appropriate reward or credibility. I commented about how
she too was a part of this larger profession and what that meant for her in regard to credibility.
Through my feedback, I was trying to help her draw her own connection to possibly feeling
discredited in relation to this larger organization.
Thankfully, my comment appeared to help her explore her feelings connected to her
profession. Specifically, she remarked that she felt as if she lost credibility in the eyes of her
friends and family for choosing a “simple minded” profession. I followed her comment with the
L.U.V technique to help her reflect upon her emotion and sit with her anger surrounding this new
realization. This moment of clarity the client reached could not have been attained had I not
used an open ended question paired with empathetic listening.
While I am pleased with my overall counseling session, there are areas in which I know I
could have done better and need to work on. One area of my counseling that needs drastic
improvement is my use and understanding of metaphors. Within this counseling session, I feel
as if I may have dipped too far into the metaphor world and would love to be able to take back
my metaphor about her trying to catch up with her friends. You could clearly see that she did not
agree with the metaphor. But, at least when a metaphor blows up in your face, the client usually
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helps you realize what was wrong with it and clarifies their situation. Thankfully, my client did
exactly that and helped clarify what was inaccurate about the metaphor. She went on to explain
that she didn’t feel as if she was competing with her friends and was not trying to compare
herself to them. Instead, she just was really upset by how people continue to belittle and insult
her profession.
Also, I believe I shirked some basic stage one counseling skills by not asking her to
define key words she repeated. For example, words like “rewarded, resentment, and unfairness”
were frequently repeated in our counseling session. I have my own definition for these words,
but she may have a completely different meaning or understanding of these same words. In
order for me to truly understand my client, it is important for me to comprehend how she
interprets these key words and what they mean to hear. Otherwise, I can only view her situation
within my own subjective experience.
Similarly, I would like to improve my use of immediacy. I believe I correctly used
immediacy earlier in the counseling session when I brought attention to the sadness of my
client’s voice. But, I also tried to use it while we were discussing her anger surrounding the lack
of validation she got for her profession and believe I could have done a better job in this area. I
commented on how she appeared fidgety by playing with her bracelet and asked if she was
uncomfortable with what we were discussing. She responded by saying that she was really upset
and was becoming heated by issue and just wanted to be respected for her line of work.
Looking back on my immediacy comment, I wish I could reworded my phrase and made
it sound more tentative. Instead, I would have said something along the lines of “While we were
talking about how you feel discredit, your voice sounded very angry and were twirling your
bracelet. What is that about?” I think that may have illicitied a better response from her rather
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than her saying that she was just angry. Also, during my immediacy comment I said “little
bracelet” instead of just “bracelet,” and I wish I could take the “little” portion out. This may be a
minute detail but it made me sound like I was belittling her emotion and was talking to a child
instead of a young adult.
Through this counseling session, I have recognized some of my counseling strengths and
areas that need improvement. I plan on enhancing my counseling strengths by incorporating
foundational techniques and mannerisms into my everyday life. Using the L.U.V. technique can
be helpful while negotiation roommate quarrels and discrepancies within the office. And it never
hurts to practice attentive body language and paralinguistic utterances while talking with friends
and family. I hope that as I integrate these behaviors into my everyday life, the more successful
and genuine they will be within my future counseling session.
I plan on attending to my areas of improvement by increased practice and self-reflection.
I find that the more I tape, the more I can critically analyze my techniques. And once I have
discussed and reflected upon the issue I am facing, such how to be more immediate, I try to
tackle this challenge in my next tape. Before taping this session, I felt as if I did not understand
how to make an affective metaphor. Consequently, I made a 10 minute tape for my techniques
class where I tried to create as many metaphors as possible. Granted, this was not a proper
counseling technique, but by using a ridiculous amount of metaphors and challenging my brain
to create lots of verbal imagery for the client, I was no longer afraid of using them.
This process of self-reflection and goal setting has been my main practice for overcoming
my counseling challenges. Before I go into a taping session, I tell myself to focus on one area to
improve on while counseling. And that as long as I strive to do better in that area and make a
valiant effort to do better, I cannot be upset with my performance. Even if I end up making more
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mistakes or not entirely improving, I remind myself that I need to “fail to succeed” in order to
become a successful counselor. This positive attitude helps me realize that these are not just
areas that I need to improve on, but are instead opportunities for self-growth that will help me
become a better counselor.