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Counseling GriefWhy students need it and counselors must use it!By Charlie Piper

PreviewWhy grief counseling?

What are the stages of grief?

Grief does NOT affect everyone!

What type of atmosphere should be maintained?

Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?

Why grief counseling?As Baker and Gerler (2004) state:

because they lack experience and their cognitive development is incomplete, children and adolescents often respond to the death of loved ones and contemporaries maladaptively and may manifest inappropriate responses in school (p. 119). Why grief counseling?So the other question iswill a student really be affected by a death?

StatisticallySample Child Deaths By State, Age 1-14, 2005Deaths per 100,000From New York State Health Statistics, 2005 http://www.health.state.ny.us/nysdoh/vital_statistics/index.htm10 Leading Causes of Death in New York, 2005Deaths in 1,000sFrom New York State Health Statistics, 2005 http://www.health.state.ny.us/nysdoh/vital_statistics/index.htmWhat are the stages of Grief?According to Dr. Kubler-Ross (five/six stages):

Denial (and isolation) Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance Hope

What are the stages of Grief?Denial (Isolation)

Anger

What are the stages of Grief?

BargainingDepression Pleas Mood Swings FrustrationWhat are the stages of Grief?"It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on Earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had." ---Elisabeth Kubler-Ross "Optimism is a cheerful frame of mind that enables a tea kettle to sing though it's in hot water up to its nose." ---Unknown AcceptanceHope

Grief does NOT affect everyone!What about the students who have NOT lost loved onesyet? Prepare lesson plans for all students

Initiate preventive classroom opportunities Read stories about dealing with grief

Let each student share how they feel Listen to songs Grief does NOT affect everyone!Yes, but what about the ones affected? Utilize intervention counseling

Group counseling

Create memory books

Discuss the stages of grief

Be a role model!What type of atmosphere should be maintained? Safe and open

Truthful One that allows laughter

One that allow rituals

An understanding climate What type of atmosphere should be maintained?Stay engaged in activities:

Write letters to the deceased

Discuss ways to help others

Share information about funerals

Draw pictures of happy times

Remember a funny situation with a loved one Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?The simple answer is

UHH, YEAH!!Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?Technology encompasses many thingsComputer use

Sites about other students dealing with grief

http://kidscopewithgrief.comhttp://kidsaid.comhttp://amandathepanda.org

Are these kids tech literate?

Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?Lastly, remember to use technology with personality Which reminds me of a storyFeelingsWrite down how you felt after hearing my storySo what can you do about those feelings?The Everyday Visuals - Dance and Holler on Vimeo.mhthttp://www.vimeo.com/2024437What in that video replicates what was presented today?ReferencesBaker, S., & Gerler, E. (2004). School counseling for the twenty-first century. (2nd ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc

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