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Managing Conflict in Relationships
Conflict is..
Differences between and among people
When incompatible activities occur
A situation that includes differences, expressed struggle, frustration, interference, perception, and interdependence
List nouns, verbs, adjectives that describe
conflict
Are these negative or positive?
Why do we avoid conflict?
Fear
Emotional upheaval
Imbalance of power
Recognition of incompatibilities
Negative feelings
It takes time
Conflict and Power
We face competition for scarce resources in:MoneyTimeAttention
Factors affecting conflict and powerIn any relationship, one person has power over
another if he or she controls something the other person wants or needs
Balancing the RelationshipFinding Common Interests
What is our common goal?What can I do to improve
this relationship?What do I need?
Five-Step Model for Conflict Management
1. Assessment – examine the context of the communication environment. Consider participants and their relationships. Identify the area of contention.
2. Acknowledgement – understand and articulate both sides’ of view. Reality check of perceptions.
3. Attitude – develop and display an attitude conducive to productive interaction. Involves trust and nonverbal behavior – at least for the communication event.
Five-Step Model for Conflict Management
4. Action – keeping the channels of communication open to find mutually agreeable solutions.
5. Analysis – consider the feasibility and effectiveness of decisions.
“Conflict Management: A Communication Skills Approach” by Deborah Borisoff and David Victor
Emotion comes first
Handle the emotion of the situation first
Then, deal with the issue or difference of power
Conflict and Language Differences based on Gender
Men (Typically)
More Direct
One Topic at a Time
Problem Solving
Closed Do not discuss personal
details
Women (Typically)
“Hint” language Imply a message
Can transition quickly to new topics, re-start old ones Pick up where they left
off
“Open” Discuss personal issues
Conflict and Language Differences based on Gender
“One Drawer at a Time” Work Drawer Family Drawer Social Drawer Alone time Drawer
“All Drawers Open at Once!”
Benefits of Conflict
Better decision making. Debate improves quality of solution
Increased learning through exchange of ideas
Relational growth. Fostering trust and respect
Overall saves time by finding the best – not the easiest - solution