Coach Michele’s Group Coaching July 5, 2011. 2Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Today’s Topic...

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July 5, 2011July 5, 2011

22Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011

Today’s TopicToday’s Topic

Success and Productivity – The Power of NoSuccess and Productivity – The Power of No


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Opening Q’sOpening Q’s

Before we start, I’d like to open the call to Before we start, I’d like to open the call to questions…It can be a success or questions…It can be a success or personal development question, a personal development question, a question about your own life, a question question about your own life, a question about coaching, or anything at all! about coaching, or anything at all!


IntroductionIntroduction

Last week we talked about beyond time Last week we talked about beyond time management, and one of the points that management, and one of the points that Mark Forster, makes in his book: Mark Forster, makes in his book: Get Get Everything Done and Still Have Time to Everything Done and Still Have Time to Play, Play, is that saying NO can be one of your is that saying NO can be one of your most important time management most important time management techniquestechniques

Yet, most people have a lot of trouble with Yet, most people have a lot of trouble with this little two letter word. Why?this little two letter word. Why?

Today we’ll talk about how to master NO in Today we’ll talk about how to master NO in our lives!our lives!


Opening DiscussionOpening Discussion

When is the last time you said no to When is the last time you said no to someone?someone?

How comfortable were you doing it?How comfortable were you doing it?

Why is it so challenging for us to say no?Why is it so challenging for us to say no?


Reasons No is HardReasons No is Hard

We want to be seen as “nice”We want to be seen as “nice”

We don’t want to “hurt someone’s feelings”We don’t want to “hurt someone’s feelings”

We genuinely want to be helpfulWe genuinely want to be helpful

We are taught to be accommodatingWe are taught to be accommodating

It may be challenging to say no, we may It may be challenging to say no, we may not know how to do itnot know how to do it

Are there other reasons we haven’t Are there other reasons we haven’t covered yet?covered yet?


Why No is ImportantWhy No is Important

We are all surrounded by people that have We are all surrounded by people that have requests of usrequests of us

There is no way to satisfy all the people There is no way to satisfy all the people and take care of ourselves as well (bit of a and take care of ourselves as well (bit of a trick statement)trick statement)

No is as important as yes in honoring No is as important as yes in honoring ourselvesourselves


DiscussionDiscussion

Why does “no” get such a bad rap?Why does “no” get such a bad rap?

What can we say is great about “No”?What can we say is great about “No”?


Saying No Like a ProSaying No Like a Pro

State no simply and unemotionallyState no simply and unemotionallyBe ready to repeat your noBe ready to repeat your noDon’t give an excuseDon’t give an excuseGive a general reason, such as it doesn’t fit into Give a general reason, such as it doesn’t fit into my prioritiesmy prioritiesNever say yes to anything on the spot, always Never say yes to anything on the spot, always say I’ll check and get back to you, or please say I’ll check and get back to you, or please email me your request, etc. That gives you time email me your request, etc. That gives you time to consider and give the answer you really feel to consider and give the answer you really feel great aboutgreat about


DiscussionDiscussion

What techniques have you used to say no What techniques have you used to say no like a pro?like a pro?


The problem of “helping”The problem of “helping”

If someone asks for “help”, only give help If someone asks for “help”, only give help if it actually helps them!if it actually helps them!Usually, your insides tell you clearly if you Usually, your insides tell you clearly if you feel right about “helping” or notfeel right about “helping” or notRemember, “help” that keeps people stuck Remember, “help” that keeps people stuck is not really helpis not really helpFeel great about having great boundaries, Feel great about having great boundaries, it keeps you and other’s around you it keeps you and other’s around you healthier!healthier!


Final DiscussionFinal Discussion

Why else is it important to say “no” to Why else is it important to say “no” to inappropriate “helping”?inappropriate “helping”?

How can you say “no” in such situations?How can you say “no” in such situations?

Is there a place in your life you could be Is there a place in your life you could be saying “no”?saying “no”?

How are you going to feel great about How are you going to feel great about “no”?“no”?


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Next session: Tuesday, July 12thNext session: Tuesday, July 12th

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