Children and Families

in Crisis

Presented byThe Unforgettables

Foundation

California State University/San BernardinoPalm Desert CampusFriday, April 28, 2017

Trapped by Addiction: Finding the Way OutEscape from the destructive effects of addiction can seem impossible to children and families trapped by alcohol abuse, addiction to prescription medications, and illegal drug use.

4th Annual Conference

About The Unforgettables FoundationIn response to the need of at risk and financially challenged families, The Unforgettables Foundation was

founded in 1999 by Chaplain Tim Evans at Loma Linda University in partnership with Inland Empire clergy, educators, medical professionals, social workers and morticians.

The Foundation’s mission is to assist

low-income families by providing the necessary resources for an appropriate burial for their children. The Foundation conducts a number of programs that empower communities to memorialize children who have died and to educate parents and caregivers about the risks to children’s health, safety and wholeness.

Requests for aid typically come from hospitals, social service agencies, and families themselves. Over the past 17 years, over 5,000 families in 80 cities throughout Southern California have received assistance from The Unforgettables Foundation, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization operated almost entirely by volunteers and supported exclusively by philanthropic gifts.

For all causes of childhood death and from ages 18 years down to 32 weeks gestation, The Unforgettables provides comfort and financial assistance to grieving families throughout the region and works closely with local mortuaries on the family’s behalf. The Foundation serves an average of six famiies in crisis per week.

There is no deeper grief than the tragic loss of a child. It can have a devastating effect on the entire family. Whether caused by illness, accident or murder, a child’s death also brings crushing financial pressures on families with limited resources. All too often, these families cannot afford the cost of a simple funeral and burial or cremation.

Chaplain Tim Evans

Continuing Medical Education at This ConferenceThe presentational method for this activity will be Case Presentation with Learner Participation, Panel Discussion,

and Lecture with Q&A. This live activity is geared towards all physician specialties. This activity will encompass the following desirable physician attributes: Patient Care & Procedural Skills, Medical

Knowledge, Professionalism, and Practice-Based Learning & Improvement.

Desired OutcomesAt the end of the activity, participants should be able to:

1. Address pediatric addiction appropriately2. Recognize how bullying in early life can be a

contributor to addiction and addictive behaviors3. Recognize how exploring addiction through a

child’s eyes identifies childhood characteristics buried by the disease of addiction

This activity has been planned and implemented in accordance with the accreditation requirements and policies of the Institute for Medical Quality/California Medical Association (IMQ/CMA) through the joint providership of CME Consultants and The Unforgettables. CME Consultants is accredited by the IMQ/CMA to provide continuing medical education for physicians.

CME Consultants designated this live activity for a maximum of 2.0 AMA PRA Category 1 CreditsTM. Physicians should claim only the credit commensurate with the extent of their participation in the activity.

In accordance with the Americans with Disability Act (ADA), please contact The Unforgettables at (909) 335-1600 or unforgettables.org should you require special assistance.

...because every child is unforgettable

About the Conference

Mitchell MoralesBoard Chair, 2017

Timothy Evans, CFREFounder/CEO

Welcome! We wish you an “unforgettable” day at our 4th annual Children and Families in Crisis educational summit here in Palm Desert. For the past 18 years, the Foundation has made it possible for over 5,000 financially challenged families to give their child a dignified funeral. We also remain committed to the goal of educating community professionals and students about dangers that can lead to the death of children.

We sincerely thank our Title, Silver, and Bronze level sponsors that are listed on the back cover. Our gratitude extends to the many donors, community partners, and collaborating professionals who have enthusiastically spread the word about this conference. This is truly a helping community coming together! About Today’s Conference: Addiction has often been described by those afflicted as a “personal hell.” Inevitably, the disease of addiction expands its destructiveness to families, and to the many environments where addicted individuals live their lives—the classroom, the church, the neighborhood, the workplace, and beyond. Whether or not the addiction is being addressed professionally, a multitude of healing strategies are available to those who interact with people struggling with addiction. The conference will assist those in the helping professions to better understand the mechanisms that lead to and sustain addiction. Attendees will learn methods to manage the damaging “fallout” that accompanies the disease. Financial, emotional, physical, and a myriad of other consequences combine to destroy otherwise productive, joyful lives when addiction intrudes. Professional help is always appropriate, but skillfully supporting and encouraging recovery on the part of others who interact with addicted individuals and their families can make a profound difference.

New Foundation Developments in the Coachella Valley: Kimberly Krause, coordinating today’s conference with Tim Evans, is also leading the formation of The Unforgettables Foundation of the Coachella Valley. She first learned of The Unforgettables as a Memorial Counselor at Forest Lawn and witnessed what a blessing it was to financially challenged families when The Unforgettables helped pay for children’s funerals. The desert now has a group that meets monthly and has recently coordinated the first Unforgettable “Biggest Hearts” Breakfast honoring over 30 regional charity leaders. We welcome the Coachella Valley volunteers who join us to fulfill the Foundation’s critical mission here in the Valley.

The Unforgettables Foundation Coachella Valley Chapter Volunteers

Back row (l to r)Lisa ReynoldsHayli AlexanderKimberly KrauseScott SchroederDebbie HollihanTim EvansFront row (l to r)Monica SosaBen SperberSonja MartinMickey JumapaoNatalie Angrisani

Not PicturedAndrea DurrettAlaina MajirosMartika Cabezas

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Conference Program7:30 Registration and Networking

8:00 Welcome, Invocation, Pledge of Allegiance, and Opening Remarks• Tim Evans, Stan Morrison, Mitchell Morales, and Kimberly Krause, The Unforgettables

Foundation• Invocation• Pledge of Allegiance• Dr. Sharon Brown-Welty, Dean, California State University San Bernardino,

Palm Desert Campus

8:15 Summer Austin Award PresentationHonoree: Riverside County 5th District Supervisor Marion Ashley

8:30 Dealing with Pediatric AddictionDeborah Deas, MD, MPH, Dean School of Medicine, University of California, Riverside

9:15 Addiction After Abuse Clare Sheridan-Matney, MD, and Glenn P. Matney, MDFirst Step Recovery Center, Victorville

10:30 Brunch

11:00 Changing the Family LegacyPanelists/Presenters: Helene Photias, MHA, Neil Gussardo, MA, Mark Baumgartner, MEd, OPC, LCDC, the Betty Ford Center, part of the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

12:20 Special Guest PresenterThe Honorable Mary Bono

1:00 “Lights for Little Lives” Memorial CeremonyTim Evans and Linda Stratton, The Unforgettables Foundation

Stan Morrison, Senior Vice President for Business Growth at Pacific Premier Bank, serves on the board of directors of The Unforgettables Foundation and is a key volunteer for our Foundation.

In addition to The Unforgettables, Stan is very involved in many Riverside non-profit organization boards including Olive Crest, American Diabetes Association, ARC Riverside County, Mission Inn Foundation, High Five America, Boy Scouts of America, Riverside Downtown Partnership, Seizing Our Destiny, Give Cancer the Boot, Riverside

Downtown Business Council, Athletics Advisory Board at La Sierra University, American Heart Association Heart Walk and March of Dimes.

Stan achieved national recognition as a basketball coach and athletics administrator at five universities: San Jose State, University of Southern California, University of the Pacific, University of California Santa Barbara, and University of California Riverside. In the latter capacity, Morrison was Director of Intercollegiate Athletics for 12 years and led UCR into the world of NCAA Division-I competition. In January 2017 Stan received the Pete Newell Career Achievement Award. In 2016, Morrison received the Riverside “Citizen of the Year” award.

Leading Today’s Conference

The Conference PlannersThe Unforgettables Foundation appreciates the many hours of staff and volunteer work that resulted in the excellent mission-based conference that is presented today. “Thank you” to Conference Coordinator Kimberly Krause, Unforgettables CEO Timothy Evans, and volunteers Stan Morrison, Scott Schroeder, and Linda Stratton.

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Presenters and Panelists“Dealing with Pediatric Addiction”Deborah Deas, MD, MPH

Dr. Deas joined the University of California, Riverside, as the Mark and Pam Rubin Dean of the School of Medicine and Chief Executive Officer for Clinical Affairs in May, 2016.

Previously, Dr. Deas was interim dean of the College of Medicine and professor of psychiatry at the Medical University of South Carolina. She earned her BS in biology from the College of Charleston in 1978, MPH from the University of South Carolina in 1979 and MD from the Medical University of South Carolina. She completed a residency in psychiatry in 1992 and a child and adolescent psychiatry fellowship in 1994 from the Medical University of South Carolina. Dr. Deas is board certified in adult psychiatry, child/adolescent psychiatry and addiction psychiatry.

“Addiction After Abuse”Clare Sheridan-Matney, MDGlenn P. Matney, MDFirst Step Recovery Center

Dr. Sheridan-Matney is a pediatric forensic specialist who has served as chief of forensic pediatrics at Loma Linda University Children’s Hospital and as Director of the San Bernardino

County Children’s Assessment Center. She is known internationally for her groundbreaking work in child abuse assessment. Husband Glenn Matney is a pediatrician and medical director of First Step Recovery Center in Victorville, California, where the Matneys practice addiction medicine together. They will present case studies demonstrating the role of bullying in early life as a contributor to addiction and addictive behaviors.

“Changing the Family Legacy ”Helene Photias, MHA Neil Gussardo, MAMark Baumgartner, MEd, LPC, LCDC The Betty Ford Center, part of the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

The Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation recognizes addiction as a disease affecting the entire family. The presenters will draw from their experience with children, family members, and patients and relate how exploring addiction from all views can bring about hope and healing for individuals.

Helene Photias, MHA, is the National Director, Children’s Program. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Psychology from CSU of San Bernardino and a Masters in Health Administration from Regis University, CO. She has been part of the team at the Betty Ford Center for 10 years, serving as the director, a member of the Child Abuse Reporting Team and as the National Patient Experience Coordinator for Residential and Outpatient programs.

Neil Gussardo, MA, is a Family Program Counselor treating patients with addiction disorders. He received his undergraduate degree at Ithaca College, and his graduate degree in addiction counseling at New College of California.

Mark Baumgartner, is the Senior Director of Clinical Services. He holds a Master of Education degree in Counseling from Stephen F. Austin TX. He has been a Licensed Professional Counselor since 1996 and a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor since 1991.

Special Guest PresenterThe Honorable Mary Bono

Ms. Bono will share her personal experience with family prescription drug abuse. She will provide insight into how this challenging time for her and her family led to a positive opportunity to educate and advocate for other families.

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20/20 Vision CampaignThe Unforgettables Foundation, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization based in Redlands, CA, will be 20 years old in 2020. In response to the desire of other communities in the United States and Canada to replicate the Unforgettables’ mission and programs, our Foundation has embarked on a bold vision of outreach and service to families who have lost a child. Currently the Coachella Valley, Michigan, and Ohio are areas actively working on exploring chapter membership. The Unforgettables Foundation of Southern Nevada was created in 2015.

Please join in support of the 20/20 VISION CAMPAIGN by pledging your financial support or inquiring

about starting an affiliate chapter in your community. Among our leadership donors are John and Judy Austin of La Quinta CA, long-time supporters and former board members of The Unforgettables Foundation, who generously pledged $100,000 in honor of their beloved daughter, Summer Rae Austin, who died in an auto accident.

Gifts of cash, stock, real estate, charitable trusts, and other planned legacy vehicles will be greatly appreciated. To make a donation or inquire about gift opportunities, contact Foundation CEO Chaplain Timothy Evans at 909-335-1600 or tevans@theunforgettables.com.

• Establish 20 Unforgettables chapter affiliates • Grow the number of families helped annually to 2,020• Build combined annual operating income for all Unforgettables chapter affiliates to $2,000,000 by 2020

Goals of the 20/20 Vision Campaign

On February 10, 2017, The Unforgettables Foundation presented awards to Riverside District Attorney Michael Hestrin and San Bernardino District Attorney Michael Ramos.

Pictured are (l to r) Redlands Mayor Paul Foster, Hestrin, Ramos, Supervisor Josie Gonzales, and Assemblyman Marc Steinorth.

At the February 24, 2017, Coachella Valley “Biggest Hearts” Breakfast, Senator Jeff Stone, Assemblyman Eduardo Garcia, Indio Mayor Elaine Holmes, Councilmember Glenn Miller, and LaQuinta Mayor Linda Evans, joined a group of volunteers (in red) who are assisting in the formation of the The Unforgettables Foundation Coachella Valley Chapter.

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The Summer Austin AwardTwenty years ago, John and Judy Austin lost their beloved 20-year-old daughter to an automobile accident. Summer Rae Austin was a sophomore at Baylor University and active in her church and local charities, including National Charity League. Out of this terrible tragedy, her parents have sought to bring, as the Bible says, “beauty out of ashes.” Over a decade, the Austins have quietly helped countless other grieving families through their exceedingly generous support of The Unforgettables Foundation, as well as other charities that their daughter supported. They do so, as Judy explains, “to honor her memory and the large heart she had. It is a parent’s wish that their children not be forgotten.”

5th District Supervisor Marion AshleyToday, in honor of the Austins, and in memory of their daughter Summer, The Unforgettables Foundation proudly bestows its highest honor on 5th District Supervisor Marion Ashley. Ashley, a native of Riverside County and member of a pioneer Perris Valley family, has long shown his deep commitment to the people of Riverside County. He has worked for decades to improve the lives of his fellow citizens. Since his election to the Riverside County Board of Supervisors in 2002, he has become a respected leader on regional issues. As a County Supervisor he oversees a budget of $5.3 billion and sets public policy for over 2.4 million people.

With Deep Appreciation To Our Patrons And VolunteersThe wonderful work and accomplishments of The Unforgettables Foundation would not be possible without the extraordinary talents and commitment of hundreds of volunteers and the generosity of our donors and event sponsors. This year’s conference sponsors appear on the program back cover.

Summer Austin

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Community SupportSpotlight AwardThe Unforgettables Foundation was honored with the Coachella Valley Spotlight Award and a grant of $25,000 from the H.N. and Frances C. Berger Foundation and also featured on CBS Local 2’s “Eye on the Desert,” in public service announcements and on the TV station’s website.

Femmewalla Track Day Each December in Desert Center, nearly 100 ladies converge

on the Chuckwalla Valley Raceway for Femmewalla Track Day. The all-women event organized by track owners Aimee

and Micky Grana raises funds for charity. The Foundation helped them when they lost a child, and the Granas wanted

to “pay it forward.” Since 2011, Femmewalla Track Day has raised over $50,000 for The Unforgettables Foundation.

Temecula Wine ConcertsFor over 10 years Gregg Hassler (r), CEO of Golden Crown Productions in Temecula, has presented fundraising summer rock and roll concerts at wineries across the Temecula Valley. The winery concerts have raised over $100,000 for The Unforgettables Foundation. Hassler is also owner of @Work Personnel Services.

Tom Pernice, Jr. Charity Golf ClassicThe Tom Pernice, Jr. Charity Golf Classic is a premier charity golf event held each year at the Bear Creek Golf Club in Murietta. This tournament has raised over $100,000 for the Foundation.

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The Foundation’s 2017-18 EventsMay 2017• May 27-28, National Police Rodeo Association Rodeo,

Yucca Valley

June 2017• June 2, Wine Fundraiser, “Evening Under the Stars,”

East Valley Water District, Highland• June 25, Annual “Dr. Sid’s Kids” Golf Event at Goose

Creek, Jurupa Valley

July 2017• July 21, Golf Tournament, Sierra Lakes Golf Club,

Fontana

August 2017• August 5, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy wine concert at

Monte De Oro Wintery and Vinyards, Temecula• August 11, The Alarm wine concert at Wiens Family

Cellars, Temecula

September 2017 • “Unforgettables Vegas Chapter Golf Tournament,”

Spanish Trails, Las Vegas

October 2017• Tom Pernice, Jr. Charity Golf Classic, Bear Creek Club,

Murrieta• October 21-22, National Police Rodeo Association

Rodeo, Adelanto

November 2017• “Unforgettable Bachelor Auction,” Redlands• Business Development Assn. IE Golf Tournament

December 2017• Femmewalla Track Day at Chuckwalla Valley

Raceway, Desert Center• Teddy Bear Tea, Southern Nevada Unforgettables

Chapter, Las Vegas

For Event Information or to Register www.unforgettables.org

(909) 335-1600

Classy outfits and a card of eligible “hunks” of all ages is what makes the November Unforgettables Bachelor Auction one of the Foundation’s most popular fundraising events.

Annual Lights for Little Lives

Service at Campus Hill

Church on New Year’s Eve that

memorializes the children whose lives

were lost over the past year.

December, 2017—Continued• December 31, 18th annual “Lights for Little Lives”

memorial walk and candle lighting ceremony, Loma Linda

February 2018• Super Bowl Sunday Golf Tournament, General Old

Golf Club, Riverside• Coachella Valley Hearts Awards, Indio• High Desert Hearts Awards, Apple Valley • Inland Empire Unforgettable Hearts Awards,

Redlands

April 2018• 5th Annual “Children and Families in Crisis”

conference, CSUSB, Palm Desert

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Recognition and Awards

Black Rose AwardSan Bernardino Black Culture Foundation’s 2014 Humanitarian of the Year honoree was Tim Evans, founder of The Unforgettables Foundation.

Pictured with Evans are (l to r) Gloria Harrison, Margie Miller and Paulette Brown-Hinds.

December to RememberThe Riverside County Board of Supervisors presents The Unforgettables Foundation (TUF) with a Proclamation – “December to Remember” recognizing the nearly 5,000 families TUF has assisted.

Pictured in December 2015 are Marion Ashley, Kevin Jeffries, the late John Benoit, Chuck Washington, John Tavaglione, with Linda Stratton and Tim Evans.

Tim Evans, AFP Professional of the Year In 2015, The Inland Empire Chapter of the Association of

Fundraising Professionals selected Unforgettables CEO Tim Evans as their Professional of the Year.

Pictured are Andrew Watt, President and CEO of the Association of Fundraising Professionals, Washington,

D.C. , and Tim Evans.

Community-Based Provider of the YearIn 2015, the Children’s Network, in

partnership with Children’s Fund and the Child Abuse Prevention Council, presented

The Unforgettables Foundation with the Community-Based Provider Award at their

“Shine a Light on Child Abuse” event.

Pictured are (l to r) Christine Beamer, Linda Stratton, Devonne Rowlen, Mitchell Morales,

Margie Miller, Suzie Aceves, and Tim Evans (TUF Executive Committee).

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Since the first memorial walk in 2000, thousands of parents,

siblings, grandparents, and community members, businesses and organizations throughout the region have joined with The Unforgettables to remember and reflect on the lives and journeys of children and the place they have in our hearts forever—in life and in death. Together, we share the sorrow of families who have experienced the painful loss of a child, and we recognize those who work to heal, rescue and save children at risk.

Please join us at the conclusion of the conference today, as the names of 85 Riverside County children lost this past year are read from the podium. After brief comments inside the Indian Wells Theater, family members and conference attendees will adjourn outdoors with candles for a final blessing and release of doves symbolic of each child’s heavenly journey.

Memorial flags for today’s ceremony were created by Albert Angelo, MSEd, the college’s health educator, and students from California State University San Bernardino, Palm Desert campus.

One of Mr. Angelo’s initiatives is raising awareness of the problem of suicide on college campuses, and developing programs to aid students affected by the suicide of peers.

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“Lights for Little Lives” is The Unforgettables Foundation’s annual memorial walk, candle-lighting, child naming ceremony held each New Year’s Eve in Loma Linda to pay tribute to the children whose lives were lost, too soon, during the past year.

345 W. Pearl Avenue, Suite 230, Redlands, CA 92374 • (909) 335-160068830 Lozano Court, Cathedral City, CA 92234 • (760) 898-8604

78206 Varner Road, Suite D-275, Palm Desert, CA 92211 • (760) 837-7373 The Unforgettables Foundation is a nonprofit 501(c)(3) organization: EIN 33-0885478

www.unforgettables.org

FOUNDATION

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Title Sponsors

Silver Sponsors

Community PartnersBarbara Sinatra Children’s Center • College of the Desert • The Community Foundation • Dignity Memorial

First Step Recovery Center • Hazelden/Betty Ford Center • Inland Empire and Coachella Valley Rotary, Optimist, and Kiwanis Clubs • Riverside County Department of Public Social Services • Riverside County Medical Association

San Bernardino County Medical Society • University of California Riverside School of Medicine

BBVA Compass • Donna MacMillan • Guy & Malia Evans • Timothy Evans • Forest Lawn Mike & Donna Goldware • Harold Matzner • Inland Empire Health Plan • Modern Woodmen of America

Next Level Door and Millwork, Inc. • Second City Radio • Paula & Joe Simonds • Tom Pernice, Jr. Charities Pacific Premier Bank • PIP Printing • Tilden-Coil Constructors, Inc. • Tim Rochford • Versacare Foundation

Wescom Credit Union • White Doves For You PS

Bronze Sponsors and Donors

The Unforgettables Foundation of the Inland Empire and Corporate Board Top Row: left to right: John Cummings, Mitchell Morales, Thomas Slaughter, Pat Casady, Tim Evans.Middle Row: left to right: Paula Hernandez, Benjamin Hartnell, Stan Morrison, Todd Underwood, Tim Davis, Ed Lasak.Front Row: left to right: Shelley Burnach, Adriana Cummings, Eileen Hards, Suzie Aceves, Linda Stratton, Christina Carrillo Beamer, Maryellen Shaw, Cherie Russell Crutcher. Board Members Not pictured: Kathie Chism, Bill Collazo, Kimberly Hemmer, Joe Horzen, Jack Long, Margie Miller, Kelly Preuss, Devonne Rowlen.

Alexander & Sydney • John & Judy Austin • Riverside County Supervisor Marion Ashley Riverside County Supervisor John J. Benoit (in memory of) • Teserra Outdoors