Chapter 1
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A F I R S T LO O K AT I N T E R P E R S O N A L
CHAPTER 1
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WHY WE COMMUNICATE
• Psychologist William Schutz: Basic Needs
• Affection-desire to give & receive love & liking• Inclusion-desire to be social & be included• Control-desire to influence people & events
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THE INTERPERSONAL IMPERATIVE
• Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs:• Physical NeedsSurvival-air, food, sex• Safety NeedsShelter, authorities, key master,Medical, pay check• Belonging NeedsInclusion, fun, groups• Self-Esteem NeedIntelligence, abilities• Self-Actualization NeedsFull development of unique talents
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PARTICIPATING EFFECTIVELY IN A DIVERSE SOCIETY
• Depends on: • ability to participate effectively in a diverse society-2012 CA-12%-+65 yrs, Latino-38%, Asian-14% • Understanding & learning from others who different from us
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MODELS
• One-Way model• Exercise
• Feedback models• Interactive• transactional
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ONE-WAY• Linear – one acts on another“Clean the kitchen!”
(encode) (noise)Sender
*Shortcomings:Not passive receiversComplicated messages
(decode)Receiver
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INTERACTIVEGive feedback Create & interpret messages
(encode) (noise) (decode)Sender-message Receiver
Feedback loop-Do you realize that we’re actually having a quiet moment together? So how do we start?”“I was hoping you’d remember?” (parents!)Shortcomings: still perceived as sequentialDoes not capture dynamism
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TRANSACTIONAL
• Emphasizes dynamism & multiple roles• Varies over time, affecting our broadened relationships(encoding/ Noise (decoding/decoding) encoding)
Sender/Receiver message sent Receiver/Sender
-Simultaneous-Ongoing-More realistic
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TRANSACTIONAL • Newish parents:
“Tired?”“I’m exhausted. She was up 4 times last & wouldn’t go back to sleep. I think she has a new tooth coming in, & it’s keeping her up.”“Well, I have tomorrow off. I’ll get up with her, and you can sleep in.”“Thanks.”“You seem a little distant tonight. What is it?”“Oh, there’s a lot happening at work that I’m missing—things I’d like to be involved with, but since I’m part-time now, I can’t really take them on.”“Man, we really need to watch our spending this month. We’re pretty tight here.”
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RESOURCE PACKAGE
• Related to encoding & decoding• Each of us carries this package around making us unique
individuals• It is made of a variety of factors:• Past experiences• Education/Knowledge-formal & informal• Culture• Values• Beliefs• Feelings/emotions• Expectations• Relationship knowledge• Assumptions
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BUBERFIRST DEFINITION OF INTERPERSONAL
COMMUNICATION• “between people”• Not always personal• I/It relationships: treat others almost as objects, not as unique
people, but as their role, i.e.,• Salespeople, servers, gas station attendants, bank tellers, dog
walkers, homeless• I/You relationships: more personal, affirm the existence of
others, beyond the role, no deep conversation, majority of our relationships, i.e.,• Work colleagues, teammates, classmates, perhaps instructors
• I/Thou relationships: rarest, regarded as highest form of human dialogue, affirm other as cherished & unique, accept in totality, open ourselves, trusting, i.e., • Best friends, lovers, etc.
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FEATURES OF INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
• Communication is:• Selective-we choose to communicate• Systemic-takes place in various systems, i.e.,Costa Mesa OCC Comm Studies class-affects how we all communicate with one another (Note how the package of resources enters into this factor)• Interdependent systems & they affect one another• Noise is also part of systems-4 types of noise that can distort the
message as it passes through the “system” or channel• Physiological- how we feel• Physical- environment• Psychological- interpretation of messages• Semantic- language not mutually understood
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FEATURES CONTINUED• Individual• Trust• Self-disclosing-2-way• Unique• Irreplaceable
• Establish rules• Processual• Continuous & ongoing• No discrete beginning or ending• Interwoven past, present,future• Irreversible
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FEATURES CONT.
• Transactional• Communication between two people is continual &
simultaneous• Share responsibility for effectiveness-use of
metacommunication, ie, I did not hear you-please speak up.• Technology & communication
• Personal knowledge• Communication fosters\
communication &• Creates personalknowledge
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FEATURE-FINAL ONE
• Meaning Creating• Shared meaning between people using the resource
package• Develop vocabularies that are for them, ie, my family uses
lines from favorite films• Meanings• Content meaning-literal meaning, ie, “Clean your room now”
means the room is to be cleaned immediately• Relationship meaning-between the communicators, ie, the
parent has the right to order the child due to unequal power relationship
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3 DIMENSIONS OF RELATIONSHIP-LEVEL MEANINGS
• Responsiveness-how aware of others & how involved with them we are, ie, you are chatting & the friend is texting…• Low context culture-Western world, uses little eye contact
when preoccupied• High context culture-Eastern world, uses eye contact,
nodding, feedback demonstrating involvement• Liking or affection-degree of positive or negative
feelings communicated; use tone of voice, facial expressions, how close we sit to them…• Power or control-balance of power, how is it
distributed, ie, parent/child, friend/friend, significant other
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MORE ON POWER
• One-up/One-down=Dominant/Submissive• Parent/child• Husband/wife
• Symmetrical=equality• Roommates• Partners• Friends
• Parallel=choice of one above• Couple will make a choice has to how they can operate
for a time period
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PRINCIPLES OF INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
1. We cannot not communicate2. Irreversible3. Involves ethical choices4. Construct meanings5. Metacommunication affects meanings6. Develops & sustains relationships7. Not a panacea8. Can be learned
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GUIDELINES FOR COMPETENCE
• Develop a range of skills• Adapt• Engage in dual perspective• Monitor your communication• Commit to ethical & effective communication
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YOUTUBE VIDEO
• “I Forgot my Phone”-( 2 min.)• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OINa46HeWg8• Are we addicted?• Have we gone too far?• What can we do about it?