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The Golden RuleThe Golden Rule

“ “Treat others the way you Treat others the way you

want to be treated” want to be treated”

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Bullying DefinitionBullying Definition

Behavior that is intentional, hurtful Behavior that is intentional, hurtful and repeated by one or more and repeated by one or more persons. persons.

Bullied students are teased, Bullied students are teased, harassed, and assaulted verbally or harassed, and assaulted verbally or physically. physically.

Did you know?Did you know?The word “The word “BullyBully” used to mean ” used to mean

the total opposite of what it the total opposite of what it means now. means now.

Five hundred years ago, it Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family member meant friend, family member or sweetheart. or sweetheart.

Two Types of BullyingTwo Types of Bullying

DirectDirect

IndirectIndirect

DirectDirectPhysicalPhysical – – hitting, kicking, hitting, kicking,

pushing, stealing, hiding or pushing, stealing, hiding or ruining someone’s things.ruining someone’s things.

Making someone do Making someone do something they don’t want something they don’t want to do.to do.

VerbalVerbal – – name calling, name calling, teasing, insulting, threats.teasing, insulting, threats.

IndirectIndirectRelationship BullyingRelationship Bullying – –

gossiping, spreading gossiping, spreading rumors and lies about rumors and lies about someone. someone.

Making someone feel left Making someone feel left out or rejected.out or rejected.

Bullying can be...Bullying can be...

One person making fun of One person making fun of another.another.

One person trying to beat One person trying to beat up another.up another.

A group of people ganging A group of people ganging up against others.up against others.

Bullying – You Decide?Bullying – You Decide?

Jennifer recently broke up Jennifer recently broke up with her boyfriend Andrew. with her boyfriend Andrew. Andrew is now dating Andrew is now dating Melissa. Jennifer Melissa. Jennifer convinces all of her friends convinces all of her friends not to speak or hang out not to speak or hang out with Melissa anymore. Is with Melissa anymore. Is this bullying?this bullying?

Bullying – You Bullying – You DecideDecideWhen John walks in the When John walks in the

hallway to his class, hallway to his class, Chris repeatedly knocks Chris repeatedly knocks his books out of his hand his books out of his hand everyday. Is this everyday. Is this bullying?bullying?

How does it make you How does it make you feel?feel?

Does it have to be a Does it have to be a part of growing up?part of growing up?

NoNo Each and every person has the right Each and every person has the right

to feel safe in school and in life.to feel safe in school and in life.

Characteristics of a Characteristics of a BullyBully Excited by their bullying behaviorExcited by their bullying behavior Enjoy feelings of power and controlEnjoy feelings of power and control Enjoy causing painEnjoy causing pain Can be a below average, average or Can be a below average, average or

above average studentabove average student Lack compassion and empathy for Lack compassion and empathy for

their targetstheir targets Can be all shapes and sizesCan be all shapes and sizes

Who is a Who is a Target?Target?

ReasonsReasons Doesn’t fit inDoesn’t fit in Physically weakPhysically weak MinorityMinority Facial appearanceFacial appearance ClothingClothing EmotionalEmotional OverweightOverweight Good gradesGood grades

ReasonsReasons If you usually are alone and If you usually are alone and

don't have many friends.don't have many friends.

If you don't have a lot of If you don't have a lot of confidence and don't stand up confidence and don't stand up for yourself.for yourself.

Ways to avoid future Ways to avoid future bullyingbullying

Don’t bring expensive things or money to schoolDon’t bring expensive things or money to school

Hang out with friendsHang out with friends

Avoid unsupervised areasAvoid unsupervised areas

Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with a teacher Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with a teacher to classto class

Don’t walk alone and avoid places where bullying occursDon’t walk alone and avoid places where bullying occurs

Don’t act scared or intimated Don’t act scared or intimated

““No one can make you feel inferior without No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. – Eleanor Rooseveltyour consent”. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Report, Report, Report, Report, ReportReport

Report it to a trusted Report it to a trusted adult immediatelyadult immediately

BE A HEROBE A HERO

BystandersBystanders

Part of the problem not the solution

Be a HeroBe a Hero Encourage other bystanders to help

stop the bullying incident by being assertive.

Make friends with someone who continually gets picked on.

Report it or send someone to a trusted adult.

You are a key player in stopping bullying.

Report vs TattlingReport vs Tattling

Tattling – – Is trying to get Is trying to get someone in trouble.someone in trouble.

Reporting – – When you report When you report bullying you are helping someone bullying you are helping someone else. else.

ReasonsReasonsThe bully is someone others look The bully is someone others look

up to and want to hang out with.up to and want to hang out with.They want to “side” with the They want to “side” with the

bully because it makes them feel bully because it makes them feel strong.strong.

They’re entertained by the They’re entertained by the bullyingbullying..

ReasonsReasonsThey don’t think They don’t think

speaking up will help.speaking up will help.They’re afraid that if They’re afraid that if

they say something, the they say something, the bully will turn on thembully will turn on them..

Some things you can say if Some things you can say if someone is getting bullied.someone is getting bullied.

Ask Yourself These Ask Yourself These QuestionsQuestions

Does it make you feel better to hurt Does it make you feel better to hurt other people or take their things?other people or take their things?

Are you bigger and stronger than Are you bigger and stronger than other people your age? other people your age?

Do you sometimes use your size Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way?and strength to get your way?

Have you been bullied by Have you been bullied by someone in the past and feel like someone in the past and feel like you have to make up for doing you have to make up for doing the same thing to others?the same thing to others?

Do you avoid thinking about how Do you avoid thinking about how other people might feel if you say other people might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them?or do hurtful things to them?

Ask Yourself These QuestionsAsk Yourself These Questions

If you are a bully, here If you are a bully, here are some ways to stopare some ways to stop

Apologize to people that you have Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being bullied, and follow it up by being friendly. friendly.

They might not trust you right They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.that you have changed.

More ways toMore ways to

If you are having a hard time feeling If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem. (Sports)boost your self-esteem. (Sports)

If you feel like you’re having trouble If you feel like you’re having trouble

controlling your feelings, especially controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school counselor about it.anger, talk to a school counselor about it.

What are the Florida state laws that cover bullying?

The 2013 Florida Statute:

1006.147 Bullying and harassment prohibited.

This section may be cited as the “Jeffrey Johnston Stand Up for All Students Act.”

The Golden RuleThe Golden Rule

“ “Treat others the way Treat others the way you want to be you want to be

treated” treated”

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