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Transcript of Bullying Facilitated by Lori Zierl Pierce County UW-Extension Family Living Agent.
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ObjectivesParticipants will:
Understand the harmful effects bullying has on the development of large numbers of children
Be able to distinguish between normal conflict & bullying, teasing & taunting, play fighting & real aggression, flirting & sexual harassment
Learn how to respond to bullies, victims and bystanders in helpful ways
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DefinitionsA person is being bullied or victimized when he or she is exposed, repeatedly, and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more persons. (Olweus, 1991)
Bullying is a conscious, willful, and deliberate hostile activity intended to harm, induce fear through the threat of further aggression, and create terror. (Coloroso, 2003)
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Contempt
Bullying is not about anger, it is about contempt
Allows kids to harm others without feeling empathy, compassion, or shame.
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Contempt (continued)
A sense of entitlement
An intolerance toward differences
A liberty to exclude
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Verbal Bullying
Quick and painless for the bully
Extremely harmful to the target
Becomes normalized and the target dehumanized
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Physical Violence
Accounts for less than 1/3 of bullying
Most likely to move on to more serious criminal offenses
Most troubled of all bullies
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Relational Bullying
Most difficult to detect
Most powerful in the middle years
Used to alienate and reject a peer or to purposefully ruin friendships
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Family Risk Factors for Bullying
Lack of warmth and parental involvement
Overly-permissive parenting (lack of limits)
Lack of supervision by parents
Harsh and inconsistent disciplinary practices
A model for bullying behavior
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Normal Conflict is Not Bullying
Characteristics of normal peer conflict vary with age and development levels
Normal conflict includes:TeasingArguingConcerns related to rules and fairness
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Teasing Is Not Taunting
Teasing is a fun thing you do with friends
Taunting is a choice to bully someone for whom you have contempt
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Teasing
Teaser and person teased easily swap roles
Innocent in motive
Not intended to hurt the other person
Is discontinued when person teased becomes upset or objects to the teasing
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Taunting
Imbalance of power
Intended to harm
Sinister in motive
Involves humiliating, cruel, demeaning comments disguised as jokes
Continues especially when targeted kid becomes distressed or objects
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Bullying Versus Play Fighting
Facial expressions
Free to participate versus forced or challenged
Full force
Alternating versus unilateral roles
Stay together vs. separate
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Flirting vs. Sexual Harassment
FlirtingReciprocal; goes both waysFlattering or complimentary; not demeaningBoosts self-esteem; makes you feel good/special
Sexual HarassmentUnwanted and one-sidedDegrading and disrespectfulReceiver feels powerlessReceiver feels humiliated or embarrassed
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Effects of Bullying on Perpetrators Themselves
More court convictions & jail time
Commit more serious crimes
More driving offenses & drunk driving
More alcoholism & mental health problems
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Dealing With BulliesNurture empathy
Teach friendship skills
Use non-violent discipline
Intervene immediately with discipline
Create opportunities to “do good”
Teach socially acceptable behaviors
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The Bullied
The one thing that all kids who are bullied have in common is that they were targeted by a bully
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Warning Signs of Being Bullied
Lack of interest in or refusal to go to school
Drop in grades
Withdraws from family and school activities
Plays alone or prefers to hang out with adults
Makes beeline to bathroom when arriving home
Stops talking about peers and everyday activities
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Four Antidotes to Bullying
Strong sense of self
Being a friend
Having at least one good friend
Being able to successfully get into a group
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Effective Group Entry Strategies
Teach them to:
Observe the group and ask questions
Manage their hurt feelings
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Why Kids Don’t TellAshamed of being bulliedAfraid of retaliationDon’t think anyone can help themDon’t think anyone will help themHave learned that “ratting” on a peer is bad
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Telling Is Not Tattling
Tattling – if it will only get another child in trouble
Telling – if it will get you or another child out of trouble
If it is both, I need to know (Coloroso)
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If Your Child Is BulliedDon’t minimize, rationalize, or explain away the bully’s behavior
Don’t rush to solve the problem for your child
Don’t tell your child to avoid the bully
Don’t tell your child to fight back
Don’t confront the bully or the bully’s parents alone
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If Your Child Is Bullied
Reassure them it is not their fault
There are things you can do:Help them develop new friendshipsTeach them to be confidentTeach them to be assertive
Report the bullying to school personnel
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How To ReportArrange a meeting with school personnel
Bring the facts in writing
Develop a plan
Find out what procedures the bully will be going through
If problem is not addressed adequately, take to school board or police
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Bystanders
Anyone who knows that bullying is happening
“There are no innocent bystanders”Author William Burroughs
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The Bullying Circle by Dan Olweus. PhD
Bullies
Followers/Henchmen
Supporters/Passive Bullies
Passive Supporters/Possible Bullies
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Reasons For Not Intervening
Afraid of getting hurt himselfAfraid of becoming a new targetAfraid of doing something that will only make the situation worseDoes not know what to do
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Changing Bystander Behavior
Promote the development of empathy
Improve recognition of bullying
Teach children strategies they can use to be helpful
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Caring Schools
Gather information
Establish clear rules about bullying
Train all adults
Provide adequate adult supervision
Improve parental awareness
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Criminal Justice System
Statutory lawsConsidered illegal based upon age of offenderDeveloped to protect youth against themselves and society against their immature judgment
No statutory protections for youth that are bullied
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SummaryThere are clear harmful effects from bullying on the development of large numbers of children
Bullying has a devastating impact on children’s ability to focus on academics at school
Bullying is a serious problem for school-age children and one for which they receive limited adult help
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Summary (Continued)
Bullying is a complex, distressing problem for children that requires intervention on multiple levels.
There are strategies to decrease bullying at the individual child, peer group, and school-wide levels
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ResourcesThe Bully, The Bullied and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School-How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence Barbara Coloroso, 2003
Bullying at School: What We Know and What We Can DoDan Olweus, 1993
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Resources (Continued)
Sticks and Stones: Changing the Dynamics of Bullying and Youth ViolenceKatherine Kocs, 1999
Steps to Respect: A Bullying Prevention Program (800-634-4449)
www.cfchildren.org/strres.html
Stop Bullying Now.www.StopBullyingNow.hrsa.gov
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Lori ZierlFamily Living Agent
UW-Extension Pierce CountyPierce County Office Building412 West Kinne Street, P.O. Box 69Ellsworth, WI 54011-0069715-273-3531, ext. 6663
University of Wisconsin-Extension, U.S. Dept. of Agriculture and Wisconsin counties cooperating. UW-Extension provides equal
opportunities in employment and programming, including Title IX and ADA.