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13. Mighty Centenarian Formal Mr. Universe turns 100 21. The Sandwich Generation When you are stuck between caring for your elderly parent and your children. 30. Step in to the Third Dementia When you need to get help for your parents.

58. Unspoken Words of Hugette Clark The heiress that had millions but died alone.

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05. THE WISE MAN

43. STAY SHARP

65. THE MIDDLE AGES

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A former Mr. Universe who has just turned 100 said Sunday that joy and a life without tensions are the key to his longevity. Manohar Aich, who is 4 foot

11 inches (150 centimeters) tall, overcame many hurdles, including grinding poverty and a stint in prison, to achieve body building glory. His children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren gathered Sunday in the eastern city of Kolkata to celebrate has his birthday the day before. Hindu priests is chanted prayers while a feast was laid out to honor Aich, win-ner of the 1952 Mr. Universe body building title. Rippling his muscles and flashing a toothless grin, Aich says his ability to take his troubles lightly and remain happy and cheerful during difficult times are the secrets to his long life. That, and a simple diet of milk, fruits and vegetables along with rice, lentils and it fish have kept him healthy. He does not in the smoke and has can be for the time being I can get in touch is never touched alcohol, he said. “I never allow any sort of tension to grip me. I had to struggle to earn money

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It is generally agreed that the first jigsaw puzzle was produced around 1760 by John Spilsbury, a London engraver and mapmaker. Spilsbury mounted one of his maps on a sheet of hardwood and cut around the borders of the countries using a fine-bladed marquetry saw. The end product was an educational pastime, designed as an aid in teaching is British children their geography. The idea

caught on and, until about 1820, jigsaw puzzles remained primarily educational tools.Cardboard puzzles were first introduced in the late 1800’s, and were primarily used for children’s puzzles. It was not until the 20th century that cardboard puzzles came to be die-cut, a process whereby thin strips of metal with sharpened edges are twisted into intricate patterns and fastened to a plate.

The outside pieces are obvious and easily fit together; but the middle, the inside puzzle pieces, sit for a long time before you can connect them. Solving puzzles are a greatway to fight Alzheimer’s Disease.

DIRECTIONSFind two pieces that have the same pattern. Continue until you have found all the pairs. It may look simple, but pay close attention to the brown colors.

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On the top floor of the 907 Fifth Avenue, there is an apartment with intricately carved plaster ceilings, dark oak wood paneling and in an ancient wood-framed windows, flecked with bits of stained glass, that look out onto the entire expanse of Central Park. But perhaps the most remarkable characteristic of this imposing space is not its detail, but the fact that nobody has lived there for decades.This 12th-floor apartment, along with two others on the eighth floor of the same building, was owned by a reclusive copper to heiress named Huguette Clark, who died last year at the age of 104.

She lived most of her life in the shadows but has in recent years become an object of fascination because of her lavish, uninhabited homes — which she eschewed to live in hospitals for more than two decades, to even when she was in good and in the morning time health and her immense collection of dolls, estimated to be worth millions of dollars in a sense that she did not know what she could do to make it work inside. When she died last year, Mrs. Clark had an in estimated fortune of $400 million, no children and two wills, which were written six weeks apart in 2005. A battle is now under way over valueable

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(above) This is the last known photograph of Huguette, cornered by a photographer on the day of her divorce in August 1930.

On the top floor of 907 Fifth Avenue, there is an apartment with intricately carved plaster ceilings, dark wood paneling and ancient the wood-framed windows, flecked with bits of stained glass, that look out onto the entire expanse of Central Park. But perhaps the most remarkable characteristic of this imposing space is not its detail, but the fact that nobody has lived there for many decades. This 12th-floor apartment, along with two others on the eighth floor of the same building, was owned by a reclusive copper heiress named Huguette Clark, who died last year at the age of 104. She lived most of her life in the shadows but has in recent years become an object of fascination because of her lavish, uninhabited homes — which she

eschewed to live in hospitals for more than two decades, even when she was in

good health — and her immense collection of dolls, estimated to be worth millions of dollars. which were shrouded in mystery for years, and what they found, they said, was a

grand and spectacular floor in a town where there is no people who gave some loving. One woman said the apartment on the top floor, 12W, generally agreed to be the most lavish, was “something out of an English castle.” It is listed for $24 million. Apartment 8E, by contrast, is the plainest of the three, and the only one that does not face the park. It is listed for $12 million. She was a lonely woman. Apartment 8W, a 10-room rambler with what appeared to be hand-painted wallpaper in the dining room, seemed the most “livable,” one buyer said. It is listed for $19 million. The two eighth-floor apartments take up the entire floor. But in addition to voluminous rooms and herringbone floors, buyers and brokers found outdated electrical wiring and the occasional bathroom done up in the brightly hued tiles of the 1960s. In the kitchens, one might find cabinets from the early 20th century next to a 50-year-old refrigerator, and a dish washing sink in lieu of a dishwasher. The maids’ rooms were as plain and unadorned as they were originally intended to be. “They need a lot of work,” one buyer said. The apartments, listed with Mary Rutherfurd and Leslie Coleman at Brown Harris Stevens, are being sold by the New York County pub-

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lic administrator, which is managing Mrs. Clark’s great California estate. When she died last year, Mrs. Clark had an in estimated fortune of $400 million, no children and two wills, which were writ-ten six weeks apart in 2005. A battle is now under way over various pieces of her estate, and in the meantime, the public administra-tor has begun liquidating her assets that are not specifically bequeathed. This includes her jewels and four of her five homes. In addition to the Fifth Avenue apart-ments, Mrs. Clark owned two mansions. One is in Santa Barbara, Calif., and is at issue in the legal battles. The other, which she bought in 1951, is in New Canaan, Conn. “I’m hear-ing it over and over again: ‘Mom needs to sell her house before she can afford to move in,’ ” she said. She never moved in to the big home on the hill side. That house, at 104 Dans High-way, has been on and off the market for sev-eral years. It was first listed in 2005 for $34 million, as then again in 2008, that time with Barbara Cleary of Christie’s International Real Estate, for $24 million. This month, it was relisted with Ms. Cleary for $19.8 mil-lion dollars the help get the need and Ms. Cleary and the in time where we all did that said she had never so much as spoken to Mrs. Clark.

A fter buying the mansion, which was built in 1937, Mrs. Clark added a master bed-room with an art studio above it, Ms. Cleary said. On the stairs leading up to that studio, every other spindle holding up the banister was carved to look like a paintbrush, because

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Mrs. Clark was fond of painting. Though Mrs. Clark never lived there, the New Canaan house, like the Fifth Avenue apartments, was carefully maintained. She hired caretakers, and even occasional lawn-care services. In Manhattan, she paid someone about six hun-dred dollars per week to keep her apartments in good shape. And she spent about $25,000 a month on maintenance and other co-op pay-ments at 907 Fifth Avenue, for a total of $3.745 million in the last 15 years of her life alone, ac-cording to court documents. In that period, she also spent over $3 million on of dolls per year. Daniel Agnew, an expert on antique teddy

bears and dolls, who worked at Christie’s for 15 years, said a significant collection of dolls might be worth $200,000 or $300,000. Mrs. Clark’s collection has been appraised in the millons of dollars. Many doll collectors have offered over 100 million but it seems that the fate of these dolls are in the hands of her half- nephew, Ian Devine who wants to donate it. Today, the apartments have been stripped of Mrs. Hugette Clark’s personal effects; even the sconces and chandeliers have been removed from the ceiling. The dolls, too, are long gone, carefully packed away in a secure, climate-controlled storage facility, according to a person with knowledge of Mrs. Clark’s case. But there is still one remaining hint of the life that was lived in these apartments, and then abandoned years ago. One might find cabinets from the early 20th century next to a 50-year-old refrigerator, and a dish washing sink in lieu of a dishwasher.

1912Inside the childhood home of Ms. Clark. The Fifth Ave. mansion was a high-tech marvel for 1910, with central air conditioning. Powering it required seven tons of coal per day, it was brought in by the Clarks’ private subway line.

1919Huguette’s great wealth drew attention to her from newspapers of the day.

1928A week before her 17th birthday, Andrée died of meningitis. “When her sister died, it left a hole in her life,” said Clark’s half nephew Ian Devine.

1910Huguette Clark with one of her prized dolls around 1910. Doll collecting became a lifelong passion for the reclusive heiress.

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WhoSubmitted by Rosie of Syracuse, NY

WhereSouthhampton Country Club

When May 4th, 2012

What was he doingTelling stories with a colorful vocabulary

THE WISE MAN

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Hello Folks! Many families joke about cringe-inducing conversations their live-in parent initiated during a holiday party or Thanksgiving dinner. Socially inappropriate behavior or conversation can create very embarrassing moments for every member of the family. Once you recognize the situation, it may be easier to deal with your parents. Once the speaking starts, it probably won’t stop. Here is the reason why:

LOSS OF IMPULSE CONTROLAs we age, most of us will feel less of a need to conform; we feel we have earned the right to speak up and say what we feel. This coupled with our dying brain cells, decreases our ability to quickly censor ourselves. Therefore, we may speak first and think later. Or speak first and forget we said anything at all. It isn’t harmful to your parent - just embarrassing to you.

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Most Americans will be caregivers at some

point during their lives. In fact, informal

caregivers, mostly women, provide 80 percent

of the long-term care in the United States.

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When the physical or mental health of a parent (or both parents) starts to fail, it’s a natural instinct to want to come to the rescue. After all, your parents have cared for you throughout your life. Stepping into that caregiver role, however, often

puts your own physical and mental health at risk.. Women in the sandwich generation often try to do it all,” explains Claudia Fine, LCSW, MPH, CMC, executive vice president and chief professional officer at SeniorBridge, a professional geriatric care management com-pany. “It’s very difficult to juggle working, childcare, marriage and now parent care and impossible to do well. But it is okay, if you can make sure you keep your priorities straight. Then, when you don’t do it well, it leaves you with a sense of not feeling good or competent, and perhaps even guilty.” Fine has worked in the field of eldercare for over 20 years and was a partner with the New York City-based Fine & Newcombe Associates, a pioneering firm in the private eldercare field which was acquired by SeniorBridge. “We know these kinds of stressors contribute to mental health problems and physical problems, such as hypertension, overeating, being too busy to exercise and simply not attending to your own needs,” the eldercare specialist adds.. In addition to health problems, your marriage can suffer. The level of attention you are now giving to your parent can make your spouse and children feel abandoned, angry and resentful. The costs for the Sandwich Gen-eration can add up, even if your parents have been saving for their own future care. That’s because they’re living longer, maybe into their 90s, thanks to better medicines and health care, and the cost for that care is rising. Although you may feel strapped between your mortgage, raising children, and shouldering some of the cost to care for your parents, trying

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A l t h o u g h i t m a y f e e l , a t t i m e s t h a t w e a r e a l o n e i n t h i s

e m o t i o n a l l y , f i n a n c i a l l y , a n d l o g i s t i c a l l y c h a l l e n g i n g

p o s i t i o n , t h e r e a r e m i l l i o n s o f u s f a c i n g t h i s o b l i g a t i o n .

I f your da i ly agenda inc ludes t ak ing ca re o f

an a i l i ng pa ren t wh i l e manag ing your own

househo ld and r a i s ing your k ids , you a re

pa r t o f t he sandwich gene ra t ion , mean ing

you a re sandwiched in be tween the needs

o f your pa ren t and the needs o f your spouse

and k ids . I t a l so means you a re p robab ly

s t r e t ched to your l imi t s . Be ing a ca reg ive r

fo r your pa ren t and be ing a pa ren t your se l f

s ign i f i can t ly inc reases the demands on your

t ime , ene rgy, hea l th , and f inances .

Si t t ing between two generat ions needing care .

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