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SPIRITUAL MENTORING(Bunga Rampai)

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Table of ContentsPENDAHULUAN................................................................................... vii

14 MENTORING SERIES.......................................................................viii

1. APAKAH MENTORING ITU?...........................................................1

1. “MENTOR” is a NOUN................................................................... 2

2. “MENTOR” is a VERB.....................................................................2

MENTORING MENURUT RICK WARREN............................................3

2. CONTOH MENTORING DALAM ALKITAB.......................................5

Dalam Perjanjian Lama..................................................................... 5

Dalam Perjanjian Baru.......................................................................7

3. PERBEDAAN COACHING & MENTORING.....................................10

4. LIMA FASE MODEL MENTORING RELATIONSHIP........................10

4...........................................................................................................11

5. MENGAPA MENTORING DIPERLUKAN?...................................... 11

BELAJAR DARI GEREJA KOREA.........................................................15

Masalah-masalah dalam gereja Korea............................................16

Everyone knows they need a mentor, but very few people haveone. Why?....................................................................................... 18

6. BAGAIMANAKAH MENTOR YANG BAIK ITU?.............................. 20

10 Ways to be a Good Mentor........................................................21

How to be a Good Mentor..............................................................26

7. Characteristics of a good Mentor and a good Mentee...............31

8. CARA-CARA MENTORING................................................................33

9. Spiritual Mentoring.....................................................................34

Stage 1 – Spiritual infancy / “Learning to crawl”............................ 39

Stage 2 – Spiritual adolescence / “Learning to walk”.....................44

What you will be doing?............................................................. 44

What will you using?...................................................................44

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Prayer..........................................................................................45

Serving.........................................................................................48

Community..................................................................................51

Giving...........................................................................................53

Evangelism.................................................................................. 54

Here is a list of some of the greatest Old Testament Bible stories:.....................................................................................................58

Here is a list of some of the greatest New Testament Biblestories:.........................................................................................59

Stage 3 – Spiritual adulthood / “Learning to run”.......................... 62

10. SAAT TEDUH BERSAMA TUHAN..............................................63

"What is a quiet time?"...................................................................63

Akronim G-R-I-P:............................................................................. 64

1. G-o solo................................................................................... 64

3. I-ntrospeksi diri/refleksi..........................................................67

4. P-ray........................................................................................ 67

MENDENGAR SUARA ALLAH........................................................... 68

5 HAL YANG PERLU KITA PERHATIKAN DALAM SAAT TEDUH.........69

1. Remember that spending time with God is not about ritual,but relationship...........................................................................69

2. Establish a specific time every day when you will spend timewith the Lord (jam 5 pagi & 10 malam, misalnya)......................69

3. Minimize your interruptions...................................................69

4. Choose a Bible version and a Bible-reading plan....................70

5. Interact as you read................................................................ 70

11. Metode mempelajari Alkitab:What is SOAP Journaling?...71

S = Scripture (AYAT FIRMAN TUHAN)............................................. 72

O = Observation (PENGAMATAN)...................................................72

A = Application (Penerapan)........................................................... 74

P = Prayer........................................................................................ 75

Peace Prayer of........................................................................... 77

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Francis of Assisi........................................................................... 77

12. What is a Disciple Maker?.......................................................81

I. A disciple maker is first a disciple of Jesus...................................81

II. A disciple maker develops strong relationships with a few........82

III. A disciple maker’s goal is to reproduce the life of Jesus in others..........................................................................................................84

13. MENTORING............................................................................87

1. MODELING.............................................................................. 87

2. TRANSFORMATIONAL POWER (Menggunakan 7 kekuatanuntuk mendukung perubahan maximal)........................................ 87

3. OPTIMUM POTENSIAL-1 (Menemukan potensi maksimaldalam sekolah kehidupan)..............................................................88

4. OPTIMUM POTENSIAL-2............................................................. 89

5. EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING-1.........................................................90

6. EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING-2.........................................................90

7. STEPS & REPRODUCTION........................................................ 91

KONSEP MENTORING: M-E-N-T-O-R = 7P...................................91

RELATE UP:..........................................................................91

RELATE IN:...........................................................................91

RELATE OUT:........................................................................91

Bagaimana kita membaca Alkitab? 4M.......................................... 92

M1-Menerima Firman.................................................................92

M2- Merenungkan Firman (Memeliti Firman)............................92

M3-Melakukan Firman................................................................92

M4-Menceritakan kebaikan & perbuatan Tuhan....................... 93

MENGUJI MIMPI..............................................................................94

GAMBARAN BESAR......................................................................... 94

PEMAGANGAN & SKILL................................................................... 95

Tiga hal yang kita butuhkan untuk membawa seseorang padasasaran/target/goal yang baru:...................................................... 95

MENTOR & SUARA TUHAN............................................................. 96

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Ada 4 hal yang paling menentukan pengaruh seseorang dalammemimpin:......................................................................................97

1. Otoritas............................................................................... 97

2. Kemampuan mengarahkan orang lain................................97

3. Integritas............................................................................. 97

4. Kemampuan untuk membuat keputusan dengan bijak..... 98

EVALUASI.........................................................................................99

H-ADIRAT ALLAH......................................................................... 99

A-AKTIVITAS................................................................................ 99

R-INTANGAN............................................................................. 100

I-NTERUPSI................................................................................ 100

SPIRITUAL MENTORING SERIES.........................................................101

Part 1: How to Find a Spiritual Mentor.........................................101

4 Benefits of Having a Mentor......................................................101

7 Tips for Choosing a Mentor.......................................................102

About Laura.................................................................................. 103

Part 2- How to Become a Mentor.................................................104

3 Benefits of Being a Mentor.................................................... 104

7 Tips for Choosing a Mentee...................................................105

What Exactly is a Mentor?............................................................107

How to be a Mentor...................................................................... 107

Helpful Tools to Mentor/Disciple.................................................108

PENUTUP...........................................................................................112

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PENDAHULUAN

Pemuridan tidak hanya terbatas pada bahanpengajaran. Pemuridan lebih dari sekedarbelajar dari buku atau materi-materipemuridan tertentu.

Hal selanjutnya yang sangat diperlukandalam proses pemuridan adalah mentoring. Mentoring dilakukandalam rangkaian proses dimuridkan dan memuridkan, dan prosesmentoring ini berlaku seumur hidup dalam seluruh dinamikanya.Dalam hal kerohanian disebut “Spiritual Mentoring” (yang dimaksudadalah menanamkan nilai-nilai kerohanian kristiani dalam pribadiseseorang).

Bahan “Spiritual Mentoring” ini disusun sebagai panduan,memperluas wawasan kita, serta memotivasi kita untuk terlibat didalam proses dimuridkan dan memuridkan.

Matius 28:19-20

19 Karena itu pergilah, jadikanlah semua bangsa murid-Kudan baptislah mereka dalam nama Bapa dan Anak dan RohKudus,

20 dan ajarlah mereka melakukan segala sesuatu yang telahKuperintahkan kepadamu. Dan ketahuilah, Aku menyertaikamu senantiasa sampai kepada akhir zaman."

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14 MENTORING SERIES1. Spiritual Mentoring,

Mentoring Eddy Leo,What Is Disciple Maker?

2. Loving God,Abundant Life,Menjalani Hidup Kudus,Manusia Rohani,Rendah Hati,Umat yang layak,7 mountains,Makna Natal,Makna Emas-Kemenyan-Mur

3. Mengelola Keuangan Dengan Bijak,Karakter Kristiani

4. PERNIKAHAN & KELUARGA:A. PRA NIKAHB. PASCA NIKAHC. PERAN SEORANG PRIA KRISTEND. PERAN SEORANG WANITA KRISTEN

5. Healthy Cell Group,Church Growth,Prayer,Conversation Evangelism

6. Bible Survey (English)7. Bible Survey (Indonesia) with NIV Quickview8. Pokok Penting Alkitab (setiap kitab dalam Alkitab)9. READ THE BIBLE,

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Homiletika (Cara berkhotbah)10. Christian Leadership (Nilai-nilai dalam Kepemimpinan Kristen)11. MORE THAN CONQUEROR

(Lebih dari Pemenang, Menang atas kuasa iblis)12. 1. DOCTRINE & DISCIPLESHIP:

A. Garam DuniaB. NerakaC. PemilihanD. PenderitaanE. KejahatanF. Peperangan

rohaniG. Inti KekristenanH. Doa yang dikabulkanI. Doa Pagi2. Kehidupan Kristen:A. Pola Pikir Kerajaan AllahB. Status Kita Di Hadapan TuhanC. Menjadi Saksi YesusD. Menjadi Murid YesusE. Manusia RohaniF. Kekristenan Yang GagalG. Memberi Dampak Bagi Kota

13. HOLY SPIRIT14. GEREJA, WANITA, ANAK-ANAK


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1. APAKAH MENTORING ITU?

Secara bahasa, mentoring berasal daribahasa Inggris mentor yang artinyapenasehat.

Mentoring (verb)

gerund or present participle: mentoring

advise or train (someone, especially a younger colleague).

Mentor adalah seorang yang penuh kebijaksanaan, pandaimengajar,mendidik, membimbing, membina, melatih, dan menanganioranglain, maka istilah“mentor”ini sering digunakan dalamkontekspendidikan, bimbingan, pembinaan, training dan latihan.

Secara umummentoring merupakan kegiatan pendidikanyangmencakup di dalamnya tentang mengajar, mendidik, melatih,dan membina, yang dilakukan dengan pendekatan saling nasehat-menasehati yang ada didalamnya dan terdapat rasa salingmempercayai satu sama lain, antara dua pelakuutama yaitu mentor(penasehat utama dalam kelompok mentoring) dan mentee(pesertamentoring).

Arti saling nasehat-menasehati itu adalah saling memberikanperhatianhati terhadap yang dinasehati yang bertujuan untukkebaikan dan dilakukan sesuai dengan Firman Tuhan

Mentorship is a personal developmental relationship in which a moreexperienced or more knowledgeable person helps to guide a lessexperienced or less knowledgeable person. The mentor may be olderor younger, but have a certain area of expertise. It is a learning anddevelopment partnership between someone with vast experienceand someone who wants to learn. [1]

Mentoring" is a process that always involves communication and isrelationship based, but its precise definition is elusive. One definitionof the many that have been proposed, is


Mentoring is a process for the informal transmission of knowledge,social capital, and the psychosocial support perceived by therecipient as relevant to work, career, or professional development;mentoring entails informal communication, usually face-to-face andduring a sustained period of time, between a person who isperceived to have greater relevant knowledge, wisdom, orexperience (the mentor) and a person who is perceived to have less(the protégé)".[2]

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mentorship

There are many words that could be used to describe the process oftraining and equipping others. Why choose “mentor?”

1. “MENTOR” is a NOUNA mentor is “a wise and trusted counselor or teacher.”2 Thisdefinition highlights three primary attributes of an effective mentor.The godlywisdom you have gained from your ministry experience isa key asset as you train others. As you consider how to help a studentgrow, ask yourself the question, “What do I know now about ministrythat I wish I had known a lot earlier in my ministry life?” Undoubtedly,many of these thingsare wisdom issues that you learned by experience. They are often thethings that are now “second nature” to you but can be quiteintimidating to a student. Some things can only be gained byexperience, but there are many others that you can convey in thecontext of a mentoring process. As a teacher, therefore, you will becommunicating truth in the context of ministry, not merely in theabstract. As a mentor you are also a “trustedcounselor.” These words highlight the importance of the relationshipbetween you and the student. Hopefully, your mentoring meetingswill become more than merely a“check-up” on ministry objectives. Ideally, the student will bringpersonal struggles and challenging questions to the mentoringmeetings.

2. “MENTOR” is a VERBTeach: As a mentor, you will be teaching in the best sense of theword. As indicated above, the mentoring experience is designed toprovide holistic equipping for the student who is preparing forKingdom leadership.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mentorship


Model: As a mentor, you will be modeling not only ministry skills, butattitudes toward His work and His people. In 2 Thessalonians 3:9,Paul described himself as a “model” for the believers to imitate. Theword translated “model” (tu,poj ) originally referred to the “visibleimpression of a stroke or pressure.”3 The student you mentor willcarry much of what is seen in your example into a lifetime of ministry.As such, you are making an “impression” for a lifetime.Train: One of the most important aspects of Mentored Ministry is theactivity involved. The student is not passive in this process butengaged in training for ministry.Below (II.B.1) you will find an overview of the mentoring processdescribing the student’s progress from being a mere observer to anactual participant in ministry. This is training and equipping at its best!Disciple: Ultimately, what you are providing for a student isdiscipleship in the context of a ministry setting. Mentored Ministryshould contribute to the student’s growth in Christ, ministry skills,and confirmation of gifts and calling. All of these are importantelements of what it means for him to follow Christ.

MENTORING MENURUT RICK WARRENYou Mature As You Help Others Mature

BY RICK WARREN

“The things you’ve learned from me in the presence of manywitnesses you are to entrust to other faithful people who will also bequalified to pass it on to others.” (2 Timothy 2:2)

Don't be intimidated by the word "mentoring." Mentoring is as easyas taking someone to breakfast once a month and asking them,"How's it going?"

If you want the special blessing of God on your life, you need to learnfrom other believers who are more mature than you, and you needto mentor believers who are younger than you.

Every Christian needs both a Paul and a Timothy. A Paul is somebodywho’s been a Christian longer than you and is helping to train andencourage you. That person may only be a month older than you, buthe or she knows a little bit more and can mentor you.

To have a Timothy means there is somebody in your life who hasn’tbeen a Christian as long as you, and you are helping build that


person's faith. You are offering your Timothy encouragement anddiscipleship as he or she grows in the Lord.

So you have a Paul and a Timothy in your life. But you are also a Pauland a Timothy to someone else.

In 2 Timothy, Paul says this to Timothy:“The things you’ve learned from me inthe presence of many witnesses youare to entrust to other faithful peoplewho will also be qualified to pass it onto others” (2 Timothy 2:2).

There are four generations in that verse. Paul says to Timothy that hehelped mentor him, and now Timothy must find somebody to mentor,and then that person can find somebody else to mentor.

Don’t be intimidated by the word “mentoring.” Mentoring is as easyas taking someone to breakfast once a month and asking them,“How’s it going?” You just need to be a friend. Listen to, encourage,and pray for that person. You don’t have to be the perfect Christianto do this. You just have to be willing.

When you do that, you will receive the blessing of God in your lifethat you cannot imagine.


2. CONTOH MENTORING DALAM ALKITAB

Dalam Perjanjian Lama1 Samuel 3:1-2 Samuel yang muda itu menjadi pelayan TUHAN dibawah pengawasan Eli. Pada masa itu firman TUHAN jarang;penglihatan-penglihatan pun tidak sering.

Pada suatu hari Eli, yang matanya mulai kabur dan tidak dapatmelihat dengan baik, sedang berbaring di tempat tidurnya.

Keluaran 18:1, 17-27 Kedengaranlah kepada Yitro, imam di Midian,mertua Musa, segala yang dilakukan Allah kepada Musa dan kepadaIsrael, umat-Nya, yakni bahwa TUHAN telah membawa orang Israelkeluar dari Mesir.

Tetapi mertua Musa menjawabnya: "Tidak baik seperti yangkaulakukan itu.

Engkau akan menjadi sangat lelah, baik engkau baik bangsa yangbeserta engkau ini; sebab pekerjaan ini terlalu berat bagimu, takkansanggup engkau melakukannya seorang diri saja.

Jadi sekarang dengarkanlah perkataanku, aku akan memberi nasihatkepadamu dan Allah akan menyertai engkau. Adapun engkau,

wakililah bangsa itu di hadapanAllah dan kauhadapkanlahperkara-perkara mereka kepadaAllah.

Kemudian haruslah engkaumengajarkan kepada mereka

ketetapan-ketetapan dan keputusan-keputusan, danmemberitahukan kepada mereka jalan yang harus dijalani, danpekerjaan yang harus dilakukan.

Di samping itu kaucarilah dari seluruh bangsa itu orang-orang yangcakap dan takut akan Allah, orang-orang yang dapat dipercaya, danyang benci kepada pengejaran suap; tempatkanlah mereka di antarabangsa itu menjadi pemimpin seribu orang, pemimpin seratus orang,pemimpin lima puluh orang dan pemimpin sepuluh orang.


Dan sewaktu-waktu mereka harus mengadili di antara bangsa; makasegala perkara yang besar haruslah dihadapkan mereka kepadamu,tetapi segala perkara yang kecil diadili mereka sendiri; dengandemikian mereka meringankan pekerjaanmu, dan mereka bersama-sama dengan engkau turut menanggungnya.

Jika engkau berbuat demikian dan Allah memerintahkan hal itukepadamu, maka engkau akan sanggup menahannya, dan seluruhbangsa ini akan pulang dengan puas senang ke tempatnya."

Musa mendengarkan perkataan mertuanya itu dan dilakukannyalahsegala yang dikatakannya.

Dari seluruh orang IsraelMusa memilih orang-orangcakap dan mengangkatmereka menjadi kepala atasbangsa itu, menjadipemimpin seribu orang,pemimpin seratus orang,pemimpin lima puluh orang dan pemimpin sepuluh orang.

Mereka ini mengadili di antara bangsa itu sewaktu-waktu; perkara-perkara yang sukar dihadapkan mereka kepada Musa, tetapi perkara-perkara yang kecil diadili mereka sendiri.

Kemudian Musa membiarkan mertuanya itu pergi dan ia pulang kenegerinya.

Contoh lain:Naomi and Ruth (Ruth 1:7–18; 2:17–3:16),Elijah and Elisha (2 Kgs 2:1–6).


Dalam Perjanjian BaruIn the New Testament, Jesus mentored the Twelve. One of them,Peter, forged some form of mentoring relationship with Barnabas(Gal 2:11–13), who went on to mentor Paul and Mark (Acts 12:25–13:5). Paul in turn mentored Timothy, Titus, and several others (2Tim 2:2).

Kisah Para Rasul 5:34, 38-39 Tetapi seorang Farisi dalam MahkamahAgama itu, yang bernama Gamaliel, seorang ahli Taurat yang sangatdihormati seluruh orang banyak, bangkit dan meminta, supaya orang-orang itu disuruh keluar sebentar.

Karena itu aku berkata kepadamu: Janganlah bertindak terhadaporang-orang ini. Biarkanlah mereka, sebab jika maksud danperbuatan mereka berasal dari manusia, tentu akan lenyap,

tetapi kalau berasal dari Allah, kamu tidak akan dapat melenyapkanorang-orang ini; mungkin ternyata juga nanti, bahwa kamu melawanAllah."Nasihat itu diterima.

Kisah Para Rasul 22:3-4, 10, 12, 16, 21"Aku adalah orang Yahudi,lahir di Tarsus di tanah Kilikia, tetapi dibesarkan di kota ini; dididikdengan teliti di bawah pimpinan Gamaliel dalam hukum nenekmoyang kita, sehingga aku menjadi seorang yang giat bekerja bagiAllah sama seperti kamu semua pada waktu ini.

Dan aku telah menganiaya pengikut-pengikut Jalan Tuhan sampaimereka mati; laki-laki dan perempuan kutangkap dan kuserahkan kedalam penjara.

Maka kataku: Tuhan, apakah yang harus kuperbuat? Kata Tuhankepadaku: Bangkitlah dan pergilah ke Damsyik. Di sana akandiberitahukan kepadamu segala sesuatu yang ditugaskan kepadamu.

Di situ ada seorang bernama Ananias, seorang saleh yang menuruthukum Taurat dan terkenal baik di antara semua orang Yahudi yangada di situ.


Dan sekarang, mengapaengkau masih ragu-ragu?Bangunlah, berilah dirimudibaptis dan dosa-dosamudisucikan sambil berseru

kepada nama Tuhan!

Tetapi kata Tuhan kepadaku: Pergilah, sebab Aku akan mengutusengkau jauh dari sini kepada bangsa-bangsa lain."

Kisah Para Rasul 13:43 Setelah selesai ibadah, banyak orang Yahudidan penganut-penganut agama Yahudi yang takut akan Allah,mengikuti Paulus dan Barnabas; kedua rasul itu mengajar mereka danmenasihati supaya mereka tetap hidup di dalam kasih karunia Allah.

Kisah Para Rasul 20:31 Sebab itu berjaga-jagalah dan ingatlah,bahwa aku tiga tahun lamanya, siang malam, dengan tiada berhenti-hentinya menasihati kamu masing-masing dengan mencucurkan airmata.

Roma 12:8 jika karunia untuk menasihati, baiklah kita menasihati.Siapa yang membagi-bagikan sesuatu, hendaklah ia melakukannyadengan hati yang ikhlas; siapa yang memberi pimpinan, hendaklah iamelakukannya dengan rajin; siapa yang menunjukkan kemurahan,hendaklah ia melakukannya dengan sukacita.

1 Tesalonika 2:11-12 Kamu tahu, betapa kami, seperti bapa terhadapanak-anaknya, telah menasihati kamu dan menguatkan hatimuseorang demi seorang,

dan meminta dengan sangat, supaya kamu hidup sesuai dengankehendak Allah, yang memanggil kamu ke dalam Kerajaan dankemuliaan-Nya.

1 Tesalonika 4:10 Hal itu kamu lakukan juga terhadap semua saudaradi seluruh wilayah Makedonia. Tetapi kami menasihati kamu,saudara-saudara, supaya kamu lebih bersungguh-sungguh lagimelakukannya.

1 Tesalonika 5:14 Kami juga menasihati kamu, saudara-saudara,tegorlah mereka yang hidup dengan tidak tertib, hiburlah mereka


yang tawar hati, belalah mereka yang lemah, sabarlah terhadapsemua orang.

Yudas 1:3 Saudara-saudaraku yang kekasih, sementara akubersungguh-sungguh berusaha menulis kepada kamu tentangkeselamatan kita bersama, aku merasa terdorong untuk menulis inikepada kamu dan menasihati kamu, supaya kamu tetap berjuanguntuk mempertahankan iman yang telah disampaikan kepada orang-orang kudus.


3. PERBEDAAN COACHING & MENTORING

Table taken from Clutterbuck & Sweeney (1997)

COACHING MENTORINGFocus on task Focus on progressUsually short term Usually longer term –

sometimes for lifeExplicit feedback Intuitive feedbackDevelops skills Develops capabilitiesDriven by coach Driven by mentee/learnerShows you where Helps you to work it outyou went wrong yourself

4. LIMA FASEMODELMENTORINGRELATIONSHIP


5. MENGAPA MENTORING DIPERLUKAN?

1. Membentuk kepribadian yang utuh2. Hidup yang terarah3. Guru yang paling berharga adalah pengalaman. Selain

pengalaman pribadi, adalah baik dan lebih cepat bila kitabelajar dari pengalaman orang lain dan tidak perlumelakukan kesalahan-kesalahan yang sudah kita pelajari dariorang lain.

4. Supaya hidup kita maximal.5. Agar kita bertumbuh & menjadi dewasa.6. Untuk menghindari hal-hal sbb:

a. Berhentinya pemuridan secara formal, tetapikerohaniannya tidak bertumbuh & tidak ada bimbinganlanjutan dalam kehidupan sehari-hari.

b. Orang berkata bahwa ia percaya kepada Yesus, tetapitidak sungguh-sungguh lahir baru.

c. Orang mengklaim bahwa ia menerima Kristus di dalamhati, namun tidak benar-benar hidup sebagai seorangKristen.

d. Makna kekristenan yang kerdil, yang terpengaruh olehselera manusia di era hedonisme, pluralisme, liberalisme,& universalisme.

e. Hidup kekristenan yang tak bertujuan, membosankan,kurangnya/tidak adanya sukacita, tidak adanyakepedulian & tidak berani membayar harga.


Mentoring dapat dilakukan dalam perjalanan kerohanianseseorang dari individual (perjumpaan pribadi dengan Tuhan)kemudian hidup bergereja (dengan pengarahangembala/diperlengkapi) dan melayani/menjadiberkat/berperan dalam dunia.


Mentoring dapat dilakukan pada seseorang dari menerimaYesus sebagai Tuhan dan Juru Selamat, peduli akan dunia,mengasihi sesama, menjadikan murid, hingga mencintai danmemuliakan Tuhan.


BELAJAR DARI GEREJA KOREAPersentase Tingkat pertumbuhan gereja di Korea mengalamipenurunan drastis dari tahun 1989-1993 dari tingkatpertumbuhan 9% menjadi -4%.

Secara umum dapat dikatakan penyebab penurunan ini adalah:

1. Tingkat kemakmuran yang tinggi, sehingga orang lebihsuka memilih menghabiskan hari Minggu di pinggirankota atau berolahraga daripada beribadah ke gereja.

2. Adanya kebebasan hidup bernegara. Kekristenanmendapatkan angin segar untuk bergerak tanpa adapenganiayaan atau rintangan.

3. Sistem pendidikan yang kurang menguntungkan bagianak-anak muda di Korea. Para remaja menjadi sangatkompetitif. Mereka berjuang untuk masuk ke universitasyang lebih baik.

Para siswa belajar pagi, siang dan malam dari pukul07.00 hingga pukul 22.00 atau 23.00. Mereka tidak adawaktu untuk memupuk kerohanian mereka.

Jun Ho Jin, professor misi pada ACTS, Seoul memberi alasan-alasan bahwa penurunan tingkat pertumbuhan gereja di Koreasbb: (Ro 1995:350-351)

1. Pertumbuhan gereja yang terlalu cepat dan kurangnyapemuridan terhadap jiwa-jiwa baru.

2. Pertumbuhan pada masa lalu merupakan akibat darikrisis yang terjadi pada bangsa Korea dan pertumbuhanitu adalah penyelesaian krisis yang telah terjadi.

3. Menurunnya keadaan rohani dan kebangunan-kebangunan rohani.

4. Gigihnya kompetisi gereja-gereja besar dan kesulitanuntuk membuka gereja baru.


5. Hilangnya citra gereja dan munculnya problem di dalamgereja.

6. Pelayanan gereja memperlengkapi generasi tua, tetapimeninggalkan generasi muda.

7. Kurangnya penyesuaian gereja dalam perubahan-perubahan sosial yang ada.

8. Cepatnya perubahan sosial dan menurunnyamasyarakat desa dan gereja desa.

9. Perubahan world view dari absolute truth ke relativereligious pluralism.

10. Bangkitnya banyak bidat dan pengaruh ideologi baru11. Bangkitnya gerakan pembebasan wanita dan kurangnya

orientasi pada keluarga kristen.

Masalah-masalah dalam gereja KoreaRo, ahli sejarah gereja dan Misi, mengajukan tiga masalah yangdihadapi oleh gereja-gereja di Korea, yaiut:

1. Schismatic Division.Di Korea, banyak gereja lokal yang kuat di bawahpimpinan seorang pendeta yang cakap. Mereka merasatidak perlu bekerjasama dengan denominasi lain. Terjadiperpecahan antara gereja-gereja ekumenikal dengangereja-gereja evangelikal. Mereka harus belajar tentangkemitraan.

2. Gereja kurang menaruh perhatian pada masalah-masalah sosial. Gereja hanya concern pada masalah-masalah dalam gereja saja dan tidak menyentuhmasalah dalam masyarakat sekitarnya di mana ia hidup.Hal ini menimbulkan antipati dari orang-orang nonKristen.

3. Masalah gereja-gereja besar.Gereja dengan jemaat 700.000 orang, 60.000 orang.Apakah gereja mampu memuridkan mereka? Apakahjemaat gereja ini bisa terpenuhi kebutuhan rohanimereka? Apakah ada persiapan suksesi kepemimpinan?


Selain hal-hal di atas, ada dua hal yang sangat berbahaya bagikelangsungan hidup gereja-gereja di Korea, yaitu:

1. Injil kemakmuran.Beberapa orang beranggapan bahwa menjadi orangKristen akan menjamin hidup sehat dan sukses dalambisnis/pekerjaan. Memang Alkitab mengajarkan hal ini,namun bukan merupakan pengajaran utama. Yesus jugamengajarkan murid-muridNya membayar harga dariiman, dan siap menderita.

Bahaya dari ajaran ini: memanjakan orang Kristensehingga orang kristen tidak siap menghadapipenderitaan, penganiayaan, dan tidak bisa survive.

2. Injil Humanisme.Pengajaran yang menekankan pembahasan tentangkehidupan manusia di dunia. Tidak menyampaikanpengajaran tentang dosa, hukuman, murka Allah,kekudusan Allah, keadilan Allah, penebusan,pengampunan, pembenaran, pengudusan, dankeselamatan hanya dalam Tuhan Yesus Kristus.

Sumber:Sukamto, Amos. Rahasia Keberhasilan Gereja di Korea.Bandung, 2006.


12.

Everyone knows theyneed a mentor, butvery few people haveone. Why?The reasons are many, really–people don’t know how tofind the right person, or fearof rejection keeps them from

asking. Getting a mentor falls into the dangerous “important but noturgent” category, so it never gets done. Others have no idea what ahealthy mentoring relationship would actually look like, so they nevertake the first step.

This year, we’re going to focus on these questions with a monthlymentoring series. We’ll cover topics like how to find the right person,how to begin a mentoring relationship, what questions you should beasking, and how to keep things on track with your mentor.

You don’t need to wait till the series is over to ask for mentoring, butI hope knowing that help is coming will give you the confidence youneed to move forward.

Getting a mentor isn’t easy, but it can be done, and it’s worth it.Today, we’re going to start by examining why:

1. While we all ultimately have to find our own way, mentors canhelp you navigate that road more smoothly. Someone a few yearsdown the road from you has the benefit of wisdom and experiencebehind them. A good mentor will get to know you, and can speak intoyour life with the benefit of their past experience.

2. Mentors bring a fresh perspective. It’s difficult to see your ownstrengths, weaknesses, and challenges clearly. Mentors can help youunderstand yourself better and see things as they really are.


3. Mentors make you ask the hard questions. having a mentor forcesyou to think through difficult questions, to consider what you reallyneed and where you really want to go. If you have no idea what youneed, you haven’t thought about it enough. Mentors make you think(and can nudge you if you’re stuck).

4. Mentors normalize our struggles. It’s enormously reassuring tohear your mentor say something like, “This thing you’re strugglingwith? I struggled with that, too. Everyone does.”

5. Mentors concretely improve our performance in and satisfactionwith our work. Numerous studies have shown that people withmentors make more money at work, are promoted more often, andare more satisfied with their jobs. The benefits of mentoring outsidethe workplace may be harder to measure but they’re just as real.

For now, be on the lookout for potential mentors. (If you findsomeone with mentoring potential, go ahead and ask them. It’sawkward, but it’s worth it.)

- See more at: http://modernmrsdarcy.com/2013/01/lets-talk-about-mentoring-4-reasons-you-need-a-mentor/#sthash.qL6R302m.dpuf


6. BAGAIMANAKAH MENTOR YANG BAIK ITU?I think there should be some common features to any of these typesof individuals, including:

they are at least a half to full generation older than you they have core values that are consistent with your own they have demonstrated themselves to be trustworthy they have shown a pronounced inclination to the

sponsorship of others they have accomplished themselves in ways that you respect,

and are perhaps replicable by you they are approachable you have heard them speak about someone who mentored

them

http://www.jngi.org/education-insights/how-would-i-find-a-mentor/


10 Ways to be a Good Mentor

Good mentoring relationships can be richly rewarding, not only forthe person being mentored, but for the mentor too.Mentors can, among other things, provide exceptional learningexperiences for their mentees and, in doing so, expand theirmentees' awareness, insight and perspective.Here are 10 things you can do to be a good mentor:

1. Be credibleThe best mentors I've encountered have been people that havecredibility in, and have personally achieved success in, the areawhere I'm looking for support. For this reason, most people willseek the guidance of different mentors to help them developspecific skills or qualities, or to help them reach importantdecisions.Being credible doesn't mean that you need to have all the answers.The best answers for your mentee will come from their ownthinking, with the help of your wisdom to support them.

2. Be a positive role modelGood mentors are respected by their mentees. A mentee can learna lot from their mentor simply by watching how their mentorbehaves in any particular situation. Good mentors will also look outfor experiences, or even create situations in which their menteescan become involved to learn new things, for example, providing alook behind the scenes or a glimpse at how other people live or dothings.

3. Be genuinely interested in your mentee as an individualA mentoring relationship is a very personal one, which is often veryimportant to the mentee, so, as a mentor,


you need to get to know your menteepersonally, about their hopes and dreams,so you can help them in a way that meets theirpersonal best interest. For this reason, aparent is often not a good mentor for theirchild, as their parenting relationship and emotional connection willinfluence their guidance. That's not to say that a parent can neverprovide a mentoring moment for their child - they can - however, aparent can't be as objective as a person who's independent of theparenting role. In the same way, a manageris also not the best person to mentor someone on their team, asthey'll often have a conflict of interest to contend with, betweenwhat's in the best interest of each individual and what's in the bestinterest of their team.

4. Share your experiences and insightsIn doing so, choose stories that you feel are appropriate andhelpful, but do so in a neutral way, without any attachment to howyour mentee will use this learning. Be open to sharing yourmistakes and failures too, as these are often where our biggestlessons are learned. It will also help your mentee be aware thatchallenges will arise, and the way you dealt with the situation mightalso help them gain insight about how to build resilience.

5. Ask open questionsAsking your mentee open questions will help you as a mentor toidentify their real needs, values and passions. It's also a great wayto get your mentee to think through situations themselves anddraw out the consequences of the various choices or courses ofaction they can take. During these conversations, you can shareyour wisdom, without making decisions for your mentee. That'stheir job.


6. Act as a sounding boardMentees benefit greatly from the opportunity of having a goodmentor listen to them. Allow them to explore their thoughts andideas openly with you. This will often help them unravel theirthinking and gain insights about a situation as they share theirconcerns with you.

7. Provide a fresh perspectiveOne of the benefits of working with a mentor is that a good mentorwill often provide their mentee with a fresh perspective on an issue.A good mentor will often have the clarity of distance from an issueor problem that's needed to provide objective feedback to theirmentee. They can also hold up a 'mirror' to the mentee to, forexample, let the mentee see what their behaviour looks like toothers.

8. Provide helpful feedbackNot all feedback is helpful. A good mentor knows this and willdeliver feedback in a way that will help their mentee gain insight tofurther develop specific qualities or skills. For example, a goodmentor will always ask for permission to give feedback beforedoing so. Giving unwelcome feedback can be detrimental to anymentoring relationship. Instead, explain what you'd like to talkabout first and highlight the benefits of doing this.

9. Acknowledge achievementsHighlight for your mentee any achievements they might haveforgotten, to help build their confidence.Remember to celebrate their successes on your mentoring journeytoo.


10. Offer your advice, but only if your mentee asks for itIt can be very tempting for a mentor to just jump in and offer advicebefore a mentee has actually asked for it, especially when you'vedealt with a similar situation yourself. Being a sounding board foryour mentee, allowing them to discuss the situation with you, thenhelping them to think through thesituation by asking them questions to draw out the consequencesof various actions, is always moreempowering for a mentee than advising them what to do. It helpsthem work through the issue and come totheir own conclusions. By doing so, you ultimately help them tolearn to think through issues themselves and trust their ownjudgement, both valuable life skills.


How to be a Good MentorMake the Most of Your CommitmentMentoring can be a challenge that is well worth your time andeffort. Use these tips to get the most outof mentoring sessions – both for you and your mentee.

Tips for Mentors

1. Be fully present. Mentoring requires excellent listening andyour full attention. Set aside your daily challenges andpressures during a mentor session so that you can devote yourfull attention to your mentee. Whether the mentoring session isin person, by telephone, or via email, this means makingyourself unavailable to others during the mentoringconversation. By not allowing interruptions, the quality of yourmentoring will be significantly more effective and productive forboth of you.

2. Take time to make a personal connection at the start ofthe session. One of the pleasures of a mentoring relationshipis the sense of connection between two people. Beforelaunching into the focus area for the day, spend a few minutesmaking a personal connection. “Small talk” often helps bothpeople to relax and get ready for a deeper conversation.


3. Ask open-ended questions. In order to provide relevantperspective, the mentor must understand the mentee’s situationand concerns at a deep level. Rather than asking questions thatcan be answered with a simple “yes” or “no,” practice askingquestions that call for a reflective response.Remember to ask early on why the mentee has sought amentor and what she would like to gain from the experience. Itis better to know some of the right questions than to have all ofthe answers. Highgain questions are open-ended questionsrather than yes/no questions that typically start with “Who,What, When, How, Tell me more about…Give me an exampleof…”

4. Listen with curiosity, not judgment. Be conscious of yourown listening and strive for deep listening coming from yourown curiosity rather than problem solving. You will find that yourmentee faces issues that you have also faced. However, eachperson is unique and comes to their present moment from adifferent path. Listen with the goal to learn more about theperson. Do catch yourself judging the mentee and self-correctby reminding yourself to simply “follow curiosity” to learn more.

5. Try not to interrupt, unless there is a need to managetime or focus the dialogue. Do paraphrase or “feed back”what the mentee says to confirm that your understanding isaccurate.

6. Ask direct questions to focus the session. Mentoringsessions often go all too quickly. To focus the session, asksimple and straightforward questions at the beginning of thesession to ensure that the conversation is focused on the topicsthat are “top of mind” for the mentee today. For example, youcould ask, “What would you like to talk about today?” or “I’d lovea quick update and then let’s choose a topic for today’ssession.” Ask early on in the session: What help do you needfrom me?

7. Notice what has “heart and meaning” for the mentee.A good mentor conversation involves much more than tradinginformation and knowledge. By paying attention to the emotionand energy of the mentee, you will be able to observe whatmatters most to the mentee, as well as where he or she mayfeel discouraged or overwhelmed. Notice your mentee’senthusiasms and areas of confidence and point them out to thementee to help build confidence and connection.

8. Tell your story. People often learn best through storytelling.If you have experiences related to the challenges faced by your


mentee, check with the mentee to see if she or he would likeyou to share the story of your experience. Make sure to focuson the aspects of your experience that are most pertinent.Telling your story should take no more than 10 minutes of amentoring session, though it may lead to a rich discussion thatlinks directly to the mentee’s situation. Try not to preach!

9. Share the conversation rather than doing all the talking.Sometimes, mentors mistakenly believe that their job is mainlyto impart wisdom and expertise. If you find yourself talking atlength, with little interruption or dialogue with your mentee, stopyourself and reorganize the conversation by asking questionsabout the mentee. Watch out for the tendency to “download”when someone asks the question you’ve been waiting all yourlife to answer!

10. Set and honor boundaries. Mentoring relationships workbest when each person knows what to expect – and what not toexpect. During the first session, establish the way in which thementoring relationship will be set up. How frequently will youmeet? Decide on the best form of communication (email, phone,Instant Messenger, etc.). How long will the conversations last?May the mentee contact you by email or telephone in betweenmentoring sessions? Be clear about how you would like it towork. Attention here early on prevents misunderstandings lateron.

11. Follow through on your commitments. Inevitably, you willfind yourself volunteering the title of a book, a referral to one ofyour contacts, to review or pass on a resume or some othersmall service to your mentee. Make note of your promise andmake it a priority to follow through. Dropping the ball canlead to confusion and mistrust in the relationship. Do makecommitments carefully, being realistic about what you can offerand by when you can deliver it. You may want to ask yourmentee to prompt your follow-up with an email to you after thesession.

12. Be encouraging and action-oriented. Recognize that theproblem isn’t figuring out what to do – the problem is doing it!

13. Give helpful feedback. Provide constructive feedback thatis specific, descriptive and nonjudgmental.

14. Honor confidentiality. Conversations between mentor andmentee must be considered private. It is a violation of trust totalk about the mentee’s life and issues outside of the mentoringconversation without the permission of the mentee. Be careful


about honoring the mentee’s trust. Hold mentoringconversations in places where details shared in confidence willnot be overheard by other stakeholders or interested parties.

For Mentors: Language to AvoidHave you ever felt judged by someone whom you thought waslistening with the intention to help you?When mentoring others, you can avoid giving this impression byavoiding the language of judgment.Here are some examples of what NOT to say:• “You should….”• “Yes, but….”• “Either/or”• “There’s only one way to do it….”• “What you need to do is….”• “What I always do is….”• “Your problem is….”• “Actually what needs to be done is….”• “If you don’t….. you aren’t going to….”• “I wouldn’t think about it that way.”

For Mentors: Language that Encourages• “You could…”• “Have you considered….?”• “What would happen if you…?”• “What might be the consequences of not acting on this?”• “Yes/and” rather than “Either/or”• “There are many approaches that might work…”• “One idea is…what do you think?”• “What do you think needs to be done?”• “How else could you think about this?”• “What resources are available to you right now to supportprogress?”• “When has this happened to you before? What did you do?”

Four Basic Beliefs of Good Mentors• The mentee is naturally creative, resourceful, and able.Nothing is wrong or broken – no need to“fix” the mentee. Mentees are capable of finding and acting onthe answers.• Mentoring focuses on professional life but may also includepersonal concerns that affect the mentee’s life and work.• The agenda comes from the mentee not from the mentor.• The relationship is a designed alliance, not a top-downdirected conversation.

Listening: The Hallmark of a Great Mentor


Good mentors are empathetic listeners. They understand thebenefit for the mentee of speaking aloud what is on her mind.The seasoned mentor does not focus on interpreting thementee’s story for problem solving. Instead, the mentor seeksto help the mentee define the real issues. H/she listens forthe word choices, intentions, emotions, and nuances of thestory. The mentor uses active listening and encouragement toconnect with the mentee, while focusing on asking powerful,open-ended questions.

Mentors listen for:• Goals and intentions• The meaning behind the story• Themes and recurrent words• Resistance, fear, anxiety, hesitation, “BS”• Progress• Tone, mood• Commitment and passion


7. Characteristics of a good Mentor and agood Mentee

What is a good Mentor:

A patient and active listener and eagle-eyedInspires trustGives advice without dictating actionsEncourages independence yet offers supportOffers constructive criticism as well as complimentsOpen and honestA good role model through actions and wordsWilling to spend time, reach out, and shareAn effective intermediary

What makes a good Mentee:

Asks questionsWilling to be mentoredStrives to give his/her best at all timesAccepts criticism graciouslyLearns from mistakesHas courage to try new thingsAccepts responsibilitiesOpen and honestRespectful and gratefulListens, watches, learns, grows


8. CARA-CARA MENTORING PRIBADI DAN

BERKELOMPOK TEMU MUKA

ATAU TERTULIS JARAK DEKAT

ATAU JARAKJAUH

JANGKAPANJANG ATAU JANGKA PENDEK

SATU ORANG BISA MEMILIKI BEBERAPA MENTOR SATU MENTOR BISA MEMILIKI BEBERAPA MENTEE

YANG TERPISAH TELADAN KEHIDUPAN (CONTOH NYATA; MODELLING) Pria dengan pria dan wanita dengan wanita.


9. Spiritual MentoringA spiritual journey of personal growth

The Crossing Church2013-2014

Table of Contents

Intro to mentoring

3 stages of spiritual growth

Stage 1 – Spiritual Infancy ‘Learning to crawl’ OverviewNew Believers Bible Reading PlanPersonality ReviewScripture MemorizationCharacter Evaluation

Stage 2 – Spiritual Adolescence ‘Learning to walk’ OverviewPrayerServingCommunityGivingEvangelismBible StoriesBible StudyMy Commitment

Stage 3 – Spiritual adulthood ‘Learning to run’


Everyone’s spiritual growth travels through 3 spiritual stages …

· Spiritual infancy— similar to an infant when we are new to thefaith, we need someone to help us along our way, where we arespiritually fed. In other words, we need to crawl before we walk.· Spiritual adolescence— our growth in this area takes place whenwe learn to feed ourselves—we can’t stay babies forever! We beginto walk before we run. We start to take personal responsibility forour faith and we learn to spiritually feed ourselves.· Spiritual adulthood— at this point, it’s time to run. Imagine stillliving at home at 50—not the best idea! We started by crawling; weknow how to walk; now it’s time to run. In other words, a spiritualadult is someone who takes what they know and what they’velearned and begins to teach it to someone else. They spiritually feedothers, like someone once spiritually fed them.

How do you know if you are ready? I don’t know if anyone ever feelsready, but if you are willing to give Jesus what you have, he willmultiply it like the boy who gave Jesus a few fish and a few loaves.Jesus has a funny way of taking a surrendered heart and transformingit into his image. If you are willing, it means you are willing to be in anaccountable relationship with a spiritual mentor regarding your lifewith Christ, your finances, your purity, your relationships, and yourjob. The mentoring journey always includes 3 questions your mentorasks:1- Where are you spiritually today?

2- Where do you hope to be a year from now?

3- What is one step we can take to move toward this hope?

What are the expectations we have of you as we begin this journey?· Come on time! Be on time, unless you have made otherarrangements with your spiritual mentor.· Come prepared! Do the work. If you are assigned a task, thencomplete it. You will get out of the process what you put into it.· Come prayed up!Much of the work that you are hoping God doesin you begins on your knees. This isn’t counseling and it isn’t a self-help session; this is you positioning your life through accountabilityand discipline to learn and apply where the Lord may be leading you.

What can you expect from your spiritual mentor?

· Perfection! Just kidding. Seriously, remember that the person whois walking with you is on his or her own personal journey. In other


words, these individuals are not perfect. They will make mistakes andwill not have all the answers, but …· They will love you. The people in your life are there because theywant to be in your life. They will let you know how much you matterto God and how much you matter to them.· They will follow up. Your mentor will ask you about theassignments that were given or experiences you had through yourreadings.· They will challenge your growth and pray for you. Your mentorswill challenge decisions you make if they are inconsistent with God’sperspective. Most times it will simply be them giving you feedbackfrom what they have learned on their journey.· Your mentors will also take down prayer requests after each timetogether and throughout the week will designate time to pray foryour needs.

**Also, every Crossing mentor has been trained and is being heldaccountable for their walk with Jesus and living a life of integrity,faithfulness, and purity. In this packet, you will find 3 stages ofspiritual growth and resources to help you along the way.


The first stage is spiritual infancy. You always begin with spiritualinfancy, because we want to make sure you are rooted in thefundamentals. Even if you’ve been attending church for years, wewant to revisit the foundations of our faith.

The 3 things we will do during this stage are:

1- Study the New Believer’s Bible. The questions we cover are,“Who is God and who does God say I am?”

2- Take a personality test and a character evaluation.We willspend time getting to know you and your story. Thequestions we cover are “How did God wire me up and howdo people see me?”

3- Bible memorization.We believe when you have God’s wordin your heart, you grow. We have attached 10 of the mostcommon Bible verses for your growth.

The second stage is spiritual adolescence. We will encourage you tobegin to own your faith. The 3 things you will do during this stage are:

1- Learn spiritual practices/disciplines includingo Quiet Time – What is quiet time?o Prayer – Why pray? How do we recognize the voice of God?And what is the power of prayer?o Serving – Why is serving important? What is my spiritualgift?o Community – What’s the importance of Christianfellowship?o Giving – What is a tithe? Is the tithe the standard ofChristian giving?o Evangelism – What is Christian missions? How do I sharemy Christian testimony?

2- Learn to study the Bible through 3 Bible study methods(character study, chapter study and SOAP)

3- Bible stories.We want you to learn some of the greateststories in the bible. We believe the more you know the bibleand God’s perspective, the more your faith will grow andyour character will mature.


** During this stage, you will be challenged to commit to a covenantwith God concerning your faithfulness and desire to live a fullydevoted life to Jesus.

The third stage is spiritual adulthood. During this stage of yourmaturity, you are intentionally choosing resources that arespecifically designed to help you grow. Depending on what area ofyour life you want to work on, we have suggested resources that willgive you tools to help you in that area of your life. At this point, youare sharing with someone (your mentee) what you have learned instages 1 and 2. It’s important that you identify someone you couldpour into during stages 2 not 3. In other words, you don’t have tohave everything completed before you start walking with someone.Just teach them what you know.

How do I get started?Set up a regular time to meet with your mentor. In the beginning, trymeeting 2 times a month (every 2 weeks). As you progress, you mayconsider meeting every 3 weeks. Give yourself 60-90 minutes whenyou meet.

At the end of every one on one, make sure you carve out about 15minutes before you end your meeting to discuss these questions:

What are you putting into practice from the sermon series? Where are you struggling to trust Him? How can I pray for you?


Stage 1 – Spiritual infancy / “Learning to crawl”There is no timeline for this stage. You and your mentor determinewhen it’s time to move to stage 2. You could be done with thematerial in a month, 3 months, or 9 months; it all depends on howoften you meet and what you are able to cover.

What will you be doing? Learn who God is and the fundamentals of the faith. Identify your personality temperament and how that affects

your relationships. Identify areas in your character that need attention. Learn to memorize scripture

What will you need? New Believer’s Bible (Greg Laurie) Personality test (You can print out the test at

www.thecrossing.com/adultleadership) Journal (Purchase a journal or composition book to write

down notes and responses to the exercise)

Your Story: Getting to know youBegin your time by getting to know one another and discuss:

How did you find the church and what has it meant to you? Where was your life before knowing Jesus, and what has

your life been like since knowing Jesus? What led you to choose to ask Jesus into your life? What excites you about this journey we are going on? What makes you nervous about this journey we are going on?


Building A Foundation: New Believer’s Bible

Important: When you read a point in the New Believer’s Bible, itincludes a verse and the page number the verse is on. Make sure tolook up the verse and highlight it. This will help you become familiarwith the Bible and what it says. Read at your own pace—it’s notabout getting it done but about soaking it in. You and your mentorcan discuss each week’s reading and what’s appropriate for yourseason of life.

During your time with your mentor, you will want to discuss thesequestions:

What does someone need to do to be saved? Who does God say you are? What are 2 characteristics about God? What are 2 characteristics about Jesus? What are 2 characteristics about the Holy Spirit? Discuss the brief descriptions of the devil, angels, demons,

heaven, and hell. What did you learn? Discuss the 10 characteristics described in the Christian life.

What did you learn? Why is it important to study the Bible and pray? What does it mean to give to God? What is God’s perspective on purity? What is God’s perspective on marriage and his perspective

on parenting?


PersonalitiesPurpose: The purpose is to understand how God created differentpersonalities—all wonderful.Book: There is no book, but you will need to go towww.thecrossing.com/adultleadership and print out the test.Your mentor will explain how to take it and then, after you havetaken it, discuss the following questions:

What’s your personality style? What are the strengths? What are the weaknesses? How does your personality affect your relationships

positively and negatively? What is your spouse’s personality type and how does that

affect your marriage? (if married) What is your kid’s personality type and how does that affect

your parenting? (if kids) What is your boss’s personality type and how does that affect

your working relationship?

Remember at the end of every one on one, give 15 minutesat the end to follow up with these questions:


Scripture MemorizationAs a Christian, nothing will have the impact that meditating on andmemorizing scripture does. We have selected 10 key verses formemorization. We encourage you to memorize and then recite theseto your mentor during the next few mentoring sessions. This willchallenge you to sit and soak in God’s word. You will never regret thisspiritual discipline!

Challenge yourself to memorize one verse a week. Write them onindex cards and read them every day, multiple times a day. Choosethe verse(s) you will attempt to memorize before you meet again.Then, when you meet with your mentor, recite the verse.

1. John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His onlybegotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish buthave everlasting life.2. Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Him who gives mestrength.


3. Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not onyour own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him and he willmake your paths straight.

4. Philippians 4:6-7 Don’t be anxious about anything, but ineverything, by prayer and petition and with thanksgiving, presentyour requests to God—and the peace of God, which transcends allunderstanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

5. Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of thisworld, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then youwill be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good,pleasing, and perfect will.

6.Matthew 28:19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations,baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of theHoly Spirit.

7. 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and willforgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

8. Isaiah 40:31 But those who hope in the Lord will renew theirstrength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not beweary, they will walk and not faint.

9. 2 Timothy 3:16 All scripture is God-breathed and is useful forteaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness.

10. Ephesians 2:10 For we are God’s workmanship, created in ChristJesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.


Character EvaluationsThese questions below should be sent to 10 people who know you. Ifyou are married, your spouse should be included. In order to get abetter idea about potential areas of growth, it will be helpful to getinput from a variety of “people groups.” For instance, you may wantto send the question to co-workers, family members, friends,ministry leaders, and long-time associates. This takes time, so emailthese questions to people right away. Share with them that you areon a spiritual journey to learn about God, yourself, and your purposein life.Tell them they need to send you back the responses within a week. Ifyou give them a deadline of 1 week, people will take about 1 monthto send you a response. That’s just been my experience. After a week,send them a reminder email. After 2 weeks, call them. If they don’trespond after 2 emails and a phone call, then let it go.The intention is for God to show you common threads of charactergrowth and areas that need improvement. They do not need to sendtheir responses to me but rather to you.

Here are the character questions:*What do you believe is my strength?* What do you believe is my weakness?* Where have you seen me grow the most over the years?* What have you appreciated about my character?* What do you believe my purpose is?* If I could work on one area in my character, what would youencourage me to spend time on this year?

Discuss what people said with your mentor.At the end of you time together make sure you carve out about 15minutes before you end your meeting to discuss these questions:



Stage 2 – Spiritual adolescence / “Learning to walk”

There is no timeline for this stage. You and your mentor determinewhen it’s time to move to stage 3. You could be done with thematerial in a month, 3 months, or 9 months; it all depends on howoften you meet and what you are able to cover.

What you will be doing? Learning about spiritual disciplines and learning to put them

into practice Learning about Bible study methods and putting them into

practice Learning about key stories in the Bible Discussing the Commitment Covenant Identifying someone you could pay it forward to the next

season.

What will you using?

Chapter 3 by John Ortberg from The Life You’ve Always Wanted.You don’t need to buy the book; your mentee will print out thechapter. However, it’s definitely a book you want for your library!

Article on spiritual practices concerning:Quiet Time – What is quiet time?Prayer – Why pray? How do we recognize the voice of God? Andwhat is the power of prayer?Serving – Why is serving important? What is my spiritual gift?Community – What’s the importance of Christian fellowship?Giving – What is a tithe? Is the tithe the standard of Christiangiving?Evangelism – What is Christian missions? How do I share myChristian testimony?

Rick Warren’s Bible Study MethodsBible stories where you will be choosing 5 from the Old Testamentand 5 from New Testament


Overview on Spiritual PracticesAfter reading Chapter 3 from The Life You’ve Always Wanted,“Trying vs. Training,” discuss the following questions:

What struck you about the chapter? Do you try or do you train when it comes to spiritual

practices? What kind of spiritual practice have you tried and what has

your experience been with them?

Prayer

Question: "Why pray? What is the point of prayer when God knowsthe future and is already in control of everything? If we cannotchange God's mind, why should we pray?"

Answer: For the Christian, praying is like breathing. It is easier to do itthan not to do it. We pray for a variety of reasons. For one thing,prayer is a form of serving God (Luke 2:36-38) and obeying Him. Wepray because God commands us to pray (Philippians 4:6-7). Prayer isexemplified for us by Christ and the early church (Mark 1:35; Acts1:14; 2:42; 3:1; 4:23-31; 6:4; 13:1-3). If Jesus thought it wasworthwhile to pray, we should also. If He needed to pray to remain inthe Father’s will, how much more do we need to pray? Anotherreason to pray is that God intends prayer to be the means ofobtaining His solutions in a number of situations. We pray inpreparation for major decisions (Luke 6:12-13); to overcome demonicbarriers (Matthew 17:14-21); to gather workers for the spiritualharvest (Luke 10:2); to gain strength to overcome temptation(Matthew 26:41); and to obtain the means of strengthening othersspiritually (Ephesians 6:18-19). We come to God with our specificrequests, and we have God's promise that our prayers are not in vain,even if we do not receive specifically what we asked for (Matthew6:6; Romans 8:26-27). He has promised that when we ask for thingsthat are in accordance with His will, He will give us what we ask for (1John 5:14-15). Sometimes He delays His answers according to Hiswisdom and for our benefit. In these situations, we are to be diligentand persistent in prayer (Matthew 7:7; Luke 18:1-8).Prayer should not be seen as our means of getting God to do our willon earth, but rather as a means of getting God's will done on earth.God’s wisdom far exceeds our own. For situations in which we do notknow God's will specifically, prayer is a means of discerning His will.


If the Syrian woman with the demon-influenced daughter had notprayed to Christ, her daughter would not have been made whole(Mark 7:26-30). If the blind man outside Jericho had not called out toChrist, he would have remained blind (Luke 18:35-43). God has saidthat we often go without because we do not ask (James 4:2). In onesense, prayer is like sharing the gospel with people. We do not knowwho will respond to the message of the gospel until we share it. Inthe same way, we will never see the results of answered prayerunless we pray. A lack of prayer demonstrates a lack of faith and alack of trust in God’s Word. We pray to demonstrate our faith in God,that He will do as He has promised in His Word and bless our livesabundantly more than we could ask or hope for (Ephesians 3:20).Prayer is our primary means of seeing God work in others' lives.Because it is our means of “plugging into” God's power, it is ourmeans of defeating Satan and his army that we are powerless toovercome by ourselves. Therefore, may God find us often before Histhrone, for we have a high priest in heaven who can identify with allthat we go through (Hebrews 4:15-16). We have His promise that thefervent prayer of a righteous man accomplishes much (James 5:16-18). May God glorify His name in our lives as we believe in Himenough to come to Him often in prayer.

Question: "How can we recognize the voice of God?"

Answer: This question has been asked by countless peoplethroughout the ages. Samuel heard the voice of God but did notrecognize it until he was instructed by Eli (1 Samuel 3:1-10). Gideonhad a physical revelation from God, and he still doubted what he hadheard to the point of asking for a sign, not once, but three times(Judges 6:17-22, 36-40). When we are listening for God's voice, howcan we know that He is the one speaking? First of all, we havesomething that Gideon and Samuel did not. We have the completeBible, the inspired Word of God, to read, study, and meditate on. “AllScripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking,correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God maybe thoroughly equipped for every good work” (2 Timothy 3:16-17).When we have a question about a certain topic or decision in ourlives, we should see what the Bible has to say about it. God will neverlead us or direct us contrary to what He has taught or promised in HisWord (Titus 1:2). Second, to hear God's voice we must recognize it.Jesus said, “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and theyfollow me” (John 10:27). Those who hear God’s voice are those whobelong to Him—those who have been saved by His grace throughfaith in the Lord Jesus. These are the sheep who hear and recognizeHis voice, because they know Him as their Shepherd and they know


His voice. If we are to recognize God's voice, we must belong to Him.Third, we hear His voice when we spend time in prayer, Bible study,and quiet contemplation of His Word. The more time we spendintimately with God and His Word, the easier it is to recognize Hisvoice and His leading in our lives. Employees at a bank are trained torecognize counterfeits by studying genuine money so closely that it iseasy to spot a fake. We should be so familiar with God’s Word thatwhen God does speak to us or lead us, it is clear that it is God. WhileGod can speak audibly to people, He speaks primarily through HisWord. By applying what we hear to the truth of Scripture, we canlearn to recognize His voice.

Question: "What is the power of prayer?"

Answer: The idea that power is inherent in prayer is a very popularone. According to the Bible, the power of prayer is, quite simply, thepower of God, who hears and answers prayer. Consider the following:1) The Lord God Almighty can do all things; there is nothingimpossible for Him (Luke 1:37). 2) The Lord God Almighty invites Hispeople to pray to Him. Prayer to God should be made persistently(Luke 18:1), with thanksgiving (Philippians 4:6), in faith (James 1:5),within the will of God (Matthew 6:10), for the glory of God (John14:13-14), and from a heart right with God (James 5:16). 3) The LordGod Almighty hears the prayers of His children. He commands us topray, and He promises to listen when we do. “In my distress I calledto the LORD; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard myvoice; my cry came before him, into his ears” (Psalm 18:6). 4) TheLord God Almighty answers prayer. “I call on you, O God, for you willanswer me” (Psalm 17:6). “The righteous cry out, and the LORD hearsthem; he delivers them from all their troubles” (Psalm 34:17).Another popular idea is that the amount of faith we have determineswhether or not God will answer our prayers. However, sometimesthe Lord answers our prayers in spite of our own lack of faith. In Acts12, the church prays for Peter’s release from prison (v. 5), and Godanswers their prayer (vv. 7-11). Peter goes to the door of the prayermeeting and knocks, but those who are praying refuse at first tobelieve that it is really Peter. They prayed he would be released, butthey failed to expect an answer to their prayers. The power of prayerdoes not flow from us; it is not special words we say or the specialway we say them or even how often we say them. The power ofprayer does not come from the use of artifacts or icons or candles orbeads. The power of prayer comes from the omnipotent One whohears our prayers and answers them. Prayer places us in contact withAlmighty God, and whether or not He chooses to grant our petitionsor deny our requests. Whatever the answer to our prayers, the God


to whom we pray is the source of the power of prayer, and He canand will answer us, according to His perfect will and timing.

Questions: What have you done in the past during your quiet time? Where do you go and what has your experience been during

your quiet time? What stuck you about the articles? Why do you pray? Do you believe your prayers are powerful? Why or why not?

Practice:Determine a time during the day that you will pray. Do it every dayfor 40 days. Start small, maybe 5-10 minutes. It’s more important tobe consistent than make a grandiose goal and miss the mark. Duringyour prayer time, share with God 4 things (A.C.T.S.):

A. Adoration – Tell Him what you adore about who He is.

C. Confession – Tell Him what you need to confess where your heart,mind, or actions haven’t been right with Him.

T. Thanks – Tell Him what you are thankful for that He has providedfor you.

S. Specific – Tell Him specifically where you need Him in your life rightnow.

At the end of you time together make sure you carve out about 15minutes before you end your meeting to discuss these questions:


Serving

Question: "Why is serving God important?"

Answer: Is it really necessary to serve God? What is the purpose ofchanging our priorities to accomplish tasks that God could honestlydo better and more quickly without us? Peter addresses theimportance of serving God in 1 Peter 4:10-11: “Each one should use


whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administeringGod's grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it asone speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do itwith the strength God provides, so that in all things God may bepraised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power forever and ever. Amen.” Peter makes it clear that we have received ourgifts from God for two purposes—to serve others and to bring praiseto God. Serving isn’t about us receiving attention or glory; it is forHim to receive glory. How does God receive glory when we serve?The transforming power of Jesus Christ is on display in the lives ofthose who have traded selfishness for selflessness. Peter saysbelievers should recognize that we are speaking and serving directlyon behalf of God to others, while He gives the ability and strength forus to do so. And when we direct glory towards Him instead ofaccepting it for ourselves, we stand out from the crowd of those whoglorify only themselves. And that difference in our lives causespeople to examine the life-changing nature of a relationship withJesus Christ. It validates our faith in front of others. Romans 12:1-2says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, tooffer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this isyour spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to thepattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of yourmind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Paul’s point is that for those whohave been saved by the blood of Jesus, it only makes sense to honorHim. Giving ourselves to God is our spiritual act of worship (the Greekword for “spiritual” can also be translated "reasonable"). It’s onlyreasonable that we would serve the God who has provided thegreatest service of all: salvation from sin and self and eternal life withHim in heaven.


What is my spiritual gift?

Of spiritual gifts, Paul says, “But to each one is given themanifestation of the Spirit for the common good” (1 Corinthians12:7). Spiritual gifts are talents and abilities given to Christians by theHoly Spirit to serve the church. In a body made of individual believers,it doesn’t make sense for each person to have the same gift—achurch made of all teachers, and no servants, would be ineffective.So the Holy Spirit distributes the different gifts so that all the needsof the church can be filled and all the people of the church can becared for (1 Corinthians 12:11). Identifying our spiritual gifts is crucialif the church is to function effectively and efficiently. Often ourpassions in life will line up with our spiritual gifts, but sometimes theyare completely different. Natural inborn talents are not to beconfused with gifts of the Spirit. Input from others is also helpful, aswe may not realize when and in what areas we are having an effectfor Christ. Asking God in prayer is critical, since He distributes thegifts. And there are several books and tests available that can be usedfor input. One thing to keep in mind is that spiritual gifts are not rigid.Gifts can be used in different ways. Someone with the gift of servicemay teach or join the worship team because there is a need to befilled. Someone with the gift of mercy may find themselvesbabysitting to relieve a burdened family. And someone with the giftof encouragement may feel led to start an online Bible ministry,trusting God to fill in other needs as they arise. Recognizing God’sflexibility and creativity will prevent the common problem withidentifying spiritual gifts—pigeonholing ourselves. We can get sowrapped up with what a test says that we insist on serving where wewant and not where we’re needed.


That is not the purpose of spiritual gifts. The purpose is to serve thebody of Christ, not make an excuse for avoiding what we don’t wantto do. It’s very telling that Paul ends 1 Corinthians 12, a long chapterabout spiritual gifts, with the segue, “and I show you a still moreexcellent way” (verse 31b), and then he immediately explains howany gift or talent or sacrifice without love is useless (1 Corinthians13:1-3).

Questions: What skills/talents do you have? What spiritual gift do you believe you have? Have you used those gifts at the church? Why or why not?

Practice:If you aren’t serving somewhere at the church, consider taking yourgift and using it once a month in a ministry. Begin small—don’t makeany major commitments. Call the pastor of that ministry to see wherethere is a need and how you can support it with your gifts. Commit toonce a month and then consider investing more time as you moveforward.

At the end of you time together, make sure you carve out about 15minutes before you end your meeting to discuss these questions:


Community

Question: "What is the importance of Christian fellowship?"

Answer: In order to understand the importance of Christianfellowship, we must first understand what Christian fellowship is andwhat it isn’t. The Greek words translated “fellowship” in the NewTestament mean essentially a partnership to the mutual benefit ofthose involved. Christian fellowship, then, is the mutually beneficialrelationship between Christians, who can’t have the identicalrelationship with those outside the faith. The mystery and privilegethat is Christian fellowship is that it exists because God has enabled itby His grace. Those who believe the gospel are united in the Spiritthrough Christ to the Father, and that unity is the basis of fellowship.This relationship is described by Jesus in His high-priestly prayer for


His followers: “I have given them the glory that you gave me, thatthey may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they bebrought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent meand have loved them even as you have loved me” (John 17:23). The“complete unity” He refers to is the oneness that Christiansexperience in true fellowship, oneness with one another, with Christ,and with the Father. Just as the Father is in Jesus, so is Jesus in us,and we have unity with one another because of the uniqueness ofthat relationship (1 John 1:3). This relationship must be the basis ofChristian fellowship. We can have friendships and relationships withunbelievers, but true Christian fellowship can only occur within thebody of Christ. We are united to one another by common beliefs,purposes, and goals. Our hearts and minds are “other-worldly”because we follow Jesus Christ, who said that His kingdom is not ofthis world (John 18:36). We know that we are strangers in this worldand we long for the time when we will be in our true home, heaven.The importance of true Christian fellowship is that it reinforces thesethings in our mind and helps us to focus on Christ and His desires andgoals for us. As iron sharpens iron, in true Christian fellowshipChristians sharpen one another's faith and stir one another toexercise that faith in love and good works, all to God’s glory.

Questions:What did you learn from the article?Is it easy or hard for you to develop friends? Why or why not?Are you in a community group? Why or why not?Do you have anyone holding you accountable? And what areas arethey holding you accountable in?

Practice:What are 3 things that I can hold you accountable to and ask you on aregular basis?If you aren’t in a community group, consider a group to try for thenext 2 months in order to connect with other believers.

At the end of you time together, make sure you carve out about 15minutes before you end your meeting to discuss these questions:



Giving

What is the tithe? The word “tithe” comes from an Old English rootmeaning “one tenth.” It is the common English translation for the OldTestament Hebrew asar word group. The tithe was an offering ofone’s agricultural income to the Lord as an expression of thanks anddedication. In the Old Testament agricultural economy, tithes werepaid not in cash, gold, or goods, but in crops or livestock, for only theagricultural fruit of the promised land was to be tithed—not otherforms of income. Although today we commonly think of the tithe as“10 percent” as a result, apparently there are three tithes in the OldTestament, two every year and a third every third year, or an averageof 23.3 percent of one’s annual produce from the land. There wasalso provision for freewill offerings and personal giving above andbeyond the tithe, so that the tithe never stood alone. Tithes weregiven by the patriarchs Abraham (Genesis 14:17-20) and Jacob(Genesis 28:22); a system of tithes was instituted in the law of Godgiven through Moses (Deuteronomy 12; 14; 26); and the prophetsrebuked the children of Israel for failing to give the tithe to God(Malachi 3:8). The idea of the tithe is still present in the NewTestament (Matthew 23:23), but it is never explicitly applied tobelievers. Instead, almost all Christians are called to moreextravagant freewill giving in response to the gospel of the Lord Jesus,based on faith in God as provider (2 Corinthians 9:6-10).

Is the tithe the standard of Christian giving for us today, or was itjust the standard for Old Testament Israel? Neither. The tithe wasnever the standard of Old Testament generosity, nor is it thestandard of Christian generosity today. Tithing may be a helpfulguideline as we strive to develop a lifestyle of even greater giving, butit was and is possible to tithe faithfully while neglecting true, biblicalgenerosity (as Jesus pointed out to the Pharisees; see note onMatthew 23:23). First, a close look at the Old Testament and otherancient Jewish evidence shows that the tithe (as a mandatory giftequaling a tenth of one’s income) only applied to crops and animalsfrom the promised land, not to all income in any time and place.Moreover, 10 percent was never “the standard,” for there were threetithes (two every year, one every three years) and many otherofferings and gifts that were also part of Jewish life. In the OldTestament and today, God usually requires far more from his peoplethan the 10 percent we typically assume.


Questions: What did you learn about tithing? Is giving easy or hard for you? Why? If you look at last year’s W-2 and your giving statement, did

you give 10%? Why or why not?

Practice:Consider “testing” God in this area of your life. Commit to beingfaithful for 30 days by giving the full tithe. Don’t compromise; trustGod and see what happens as you trust Him with your stuff.At the end of you time together, make sure you carve out about 15minutes before you end your meeting to discuss these questions:


Evangelism

Question: "What is Christian Missions?"

Answer: Christian missions is following Christ’s call: sharing theGospel with the lost world through God’s wisdom and strength.Christian missions is obeying Christ After Christ’s death andresurrection, He commanded the disciples to share the Gospel, themessage of His redemption. "Go therefore and make disciples of allthe nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Sonand the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commandedyou; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age"(Matthew 28:19-20). This Great Commission applies to Christianstoday. Rather than a burden, obeying His call brings joy and reward inheaven. We should fulfill our mission not out of duty but love: “Forthe love of Christ controls us, having concluded this, that one died forall, therefore all died; and He died for all, that they who live shouldno longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again ontheir behalf. . . . Now all these things are from God, who reconciledus to Himself through Christ, and gave us the ministry ofreconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world toHimself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He hascommitted to us the word of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:14-21).God could convert everyone using a blinding light and the voice ofChrist as He did with the apostle Paul. Instead, He gives Christians themission of reconciliation (Acts 1:8-9). He works through us, callingsinners to turn to Christ in repentance and faith. Christian missions is


sharing Christ Our mission is proclaiming Christ as the only way toabundant, eternal life. Whom do we tell? Jesus made it clear thatChristians are to reach out to “all the nations” (Matthew 28:19).Instead of countries, he was referring to people groups, those ethniccultures without a Gospel witness. Christian missions, however, is notlimited to overseas ministry. While believers should faithfully supportthose who go to the unreached, all Christians have the mission toshare Christ on the home field with family, friends, coworkers, andthe community. The Christian mission of sharing Christ does not endwith a sinner’s salvation. The commission was to make disciples – notimmature believers. Thus, Christian missions involves not onlyevangelism but also discipleship. Christian missions is relying onChrist Sharing the Gospel humbly, boldly, and passionately is ourChristian mission. But we cannot do it alone. While our mission issharing Christ, the power and results come from the Lord. He gives usthe wisdom, strength, and desire to witness! Through our witness, Heworks repentance and faith in the sinner’s heart (2 Corinthians 5:20-21). Although it is God's work, Christians are responsible tounderstand the Gospel and have a strong relationship with Christ.Such a relationship guards them from hypocrisy. “But sanctify Christas Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense toeveryone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you,yet with gentleness and reverence; and keep a good conscience sothat in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile yourgood behavior in Christ may be put to shame.” (1 Peter 3:15-16).Jesus assured that suffering would accompany missions, but Goduses it for good. In sum, Christian missions is obeying Christ, sharingChrist, and relying on Christ. Specifically, God sends missionariesthrough the support of the church to the unreached. All Christians,however, have the mission of reconciliation. The Lord works throughthem to rescue the lost. What greater mission can one answer?

Question: "How do I share my Christian testimony?"

Answer: An effective testimony is one that conveys both your ownexperience and the Gospel of Christ so that someone else has theinformation about the process of salvation.

(1) Start by writing down the details of how you came to trust inChrist to save you. Answering the following questions to help you:

a) Who told me about Christ?b) What events led up to me trusting or believing in Christ?c) When did I trust in Christ?d) Where was I when I first believed?


e) How has faith in Christ been a blessing to me?

(2) Next write this out so that it flows well as a story. Try to be asconcise as possible. As a goal, try to make the length of yourtestimony so that it can be effectively shared in three minutes or less.

(3) Make sure you have included the appropriate Scriptures in yourtestimony. Remember that it is Scripture that is authoritativebecause it is God’s Word. As an example, your testimony shouldconsist of your becoming aware that you were separated from Godby your sin (Romans 3:23), the realization that you would spendeternity away from God if you did not receive forgiveness (Romans6:23), the understanding that God sent His only perfect Son Jesus todie and pay for your sin (Romans 5:8), and finally your receivingforgiveness by trusting alone in Christ’s payment for sin (Acts 16:31).

Questions: Have you ever gone on a mission? If yes, what was your

experience like, and if no, why? Have you ever shared your “Jesus story” with anyone? Share

that experience. Have you ever shared the gospel with someone? Share your

experience.

Practice: Write out your story and then read it to your mentor. Consider a country you could begin praying about from our 5

global partners we have at the Crossing (Uganda, El Salvador,Mexico, Vietnam, and India). Find out about what we areparticipating in regarding each country and invite God togrow your heart for one of those countries. Pray every dayfor the next 30 days about which country you could investinto.

Write down 5 people in your life who do not know Jesus.Begin praying for them on a regular basis. Make anintentional effort to spend time with them on a monthlybasis and ask God to open up an opportunity to share your“Jesus story.”

At the end of you time together, make sure you carve outabout 15 minutes before you end your meeting to discussthese questions:


What are you putting into practice from the sermonseries?

Where are you struggling to trust Him? How can I pray for you?


Bible Stories Discussion

Consider 10 Bible stories you would learn. Choose any 5 stories fromthe Old Testament and 5 stories from the New Testament.If you aren’t sure of some great stories, we have listed some ideasbelow. Discuss with your mentor the 10 stories you have chosen. Thegoal isn’t to memorize the verses but rather to know the story. Whenyou get together with your mentor, share what story you picked,where it is in the Bible, and what the story is about. This willchallenge you to know it. Two weeks before you meet with yourmentor, read the story you have chosen every day. When you sit andsoak in God’s word, it becomes a part of you. The goal is to know thestories so well that you will be able to share them with others alongyour journey.

Here is a list of some of the greatest Old Testament Biblestories:

Creation of the universe – Genesis 1:1-25 Creation ofmankind – Genesis 1:26-31

Adam formed – Genesis 2:7-8 Eve created – Genesis 2:20-25 Garden of Eden – Genesis 3 Cain & Abel – Genesis 4 Noah’s flood – Genesis 6 to 8 Abraham’s call – Genesis 12:1-3 God’s blessings & covenant with Noah - Genesis 9:1-17

Isaac's birth – Genesis 21:1-8 Tower of Babel – Genesis 11:1-9 Burning bush - God speaks

to Moses – Exodus 3:1 to 4:17 God’s covenant with Abraham – Genesis 15 Egypt's nine

plagues – Exodus 7:14 to 10:29 Sodom Gomorrah – Genesis 18:16 to 19:29 Shadrach,

Meshach, and Abed-nego– Daniel 3 Sacrifice of Isaac – Genesis 22:1-19 Jonah in the belly of the

fish – Jonah 1:1 to 2:10 Birth of Jacob and Esau – Genesis 25:19-26 Daniel put in the

lions’ den – Daniel 6 Esau sells his birthright to Jacob– Genesis 25:27-34 Ezekiel's

vision of dry bones – Job 42:10-13 Jacob's vision of the ladder – Genesis 28:10-22 Golden calf

made by Aaron – Exodus 32 Jacob's wrestle with the angel and has his named changed to

Israel – Genesis 32:24-32 Israel's (Jacob) trouble in the land – Genesis 34, 35, and 37 Joseph's coat, dreams – and sold by his brothers for twenty

pieces of silver–Genesis 37


Israel (Jacob) blesses his twelve sons and then dies – Genesis49

Birth of Moses and found by Pharaoh's daughter – Exodus2:1-10

Moses kills an Egyptian, goes to Midian, and gets a wife –Exodus 2:11-25

Tenth plague against Egypt threatened – Exodus 11 Elijah andthe prophets of Baal–Job 42:10-13

The Passover instituted – Exodus 12:1-20 God blesses Job –Job 42:10-13

The Passover communicated – Exodus 12:21-28 Job afflictedby Satan – Job 1:1 to 2:13

Tenth plague against Egypt inflicted – Exodus 12:29-30 God isdispleased with David – II Samuel 12:1-14

The Exodus - God's deliverance– Exodus 12:31-51 David andGoliath – I Samuel 17

Crossing the Red Sea – Exodus 14 God's first appearance toSolomon – I Kings 3:2-15

The Ten Commandments – Exodus 20:1-17 Samuel's birth – ISamuel 1

Spies sent to Canaan – Numbers 13:1 to 14:45 City ofJericho – Numbers 13:1 to 14:45

Deborah and Barak – Judges 4 Gideon – Judges 6:1 to 8:35 Samson – Judges 6:1 to 8:35 Samson and Delilah – Judges

16:4-20 Ruth – Ruth 1:1 to 4:22 Hannah's (Samuel's mom) I Samuel 2:1-10 David chosen by God – I Samuel 16:1-13 David and Bathsheba – II Samuel 11 Solomon anointed king – I Kings 1:28-40 God's second appearance to Solomon – I Kings 9:1-9 God is angry with Solomon – I Kings 11 Elijah taken to heaven – II Kings 2:1-11 God speaks to Job – Job 38:1 to 42:9

Here is a list of some of the greatest New Testament Biblestories:

Birth of John the Baptist – Luke 1 Birth of Jesus Christ – Matthew 1:1 to 2:23 Luke 1:26-56 and

2:1-52 Temptation of Jesus Christ in the wilderness – Matthew 4:1-

11 and Luke 4:1-13


Sermon on the mount – Matthew 5:1 to 7:29 Jesus Christ calming the storm – Matthew 8:23-27, Mark

4:35-41, and Luke 8:22-25 Jesus Christ feeding five thousand – Matthew 14:15-21 and

Luke 9:12-17 Transfiguration of Jesus Christ – Mark 9:2-10 and Luke 9:28-

36 Jesus Christ's entry into Jerusalem – Matthew 21:1-11, Mark

11:1-11, and Luke 19:29-44 Cleansing the temple of money changers – Matthew 21:12-

16 and Luke 19:45-46 Last supper – Matthew 26:14-29, Mark 14:12-25, and Luke

22:8-38 Lord before Pilate and crucifixion – Matthew 27:11-54, Mark

15:1-39, Luke 23:1-47, and John 18:28 to 19:30 Empty tomb and appearances – Matthew 28, Mark 16, Luke

24, and John 20:1 Ascension – Luke 24:51-53 and Acts 1:1-11 Paul's conversion – Acts 9:1-30

At the end of you time together, make sure you carve outabout 15 minutes before you end your meeting to discussthese questions:



As you continue your walk as a mentee, we believe you are ready tobegin to mentor others. Before you begin your mentoring journey, itis important to talk about personal expectations. Below is acommitment you must be willing to make if you are going to bementoring someone.

My CommitmentAs I begin this journey, I make these commitments and thiscovenant to God and to my church to pursue holiness as He is holy.These commitments include:

Keep my life pure from any sexual immorality. Pursue financial integrity by giving the full tithe. Honor the commitment to my group, mentor, and/or

mentee by being prepared and giving my best. Live a holy life according to the Word of God, reading His

Word weekly if not daily. Confess my sins to Jesus and an accountable leader of the

same sex if I were to fall.

I acknowledge that I have made a commitment to Jesus Christ asmy savior and have chosen to follow Him. The above expectationsare his directives for any believer. I also understand as aleader/leader in training I need to live a life “above reproach”—not perfection but never settling for anything less than God’s best.I am asking people to follow me as I follow Christ. These are mypromises I am making and with the power of the Holy Spirit I amcommitted to keeping them.Go online at www.thecrossing.com/leadership and print out thecommitment and sign it and give it to your mentor.


Stage 3 – Spiritual adulthood / “Learning to run”

This stage is about taking everything you have learned and paying itforward to someone else. At this point, you have a mentee and arehelping them crawl and walk in their spiritual journey. As an adult,you need to continue to challenge yourself to grow. Below is a list ofresources we recommend depending on the area you sense Godwanting you to focus on. When you meet with your mentor,determine which area he/she believes would be a benefit to you.

There are 2 books in each area we would highly recommend.Marriage

5 Love Languages by Chapman Sacred Marriage by Thomas

Single Boundaries in Dating by Cloud Choosing God’s Best by Raunikar

Purpose Chazown by Groeschel Purpose Driven Life by Warren

Spiritual Practices The Life You’ve Always Wanted by Ortberg Celebration of Discipline by Foster

Discipleship Soul Talk by Crabb The Circle Maker by Batterson

Leadership Visioneering by Stanley 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by Maxwell


10. SAAT TEDUH BERSAMA TUHANQuiet Time with God.

Intimacy with God.

Doa & Firman (+Praise & worship).

"What is a quiet time?"

A quiet time is an important part of aChristian’s everyday life, for this is when hegoes to a comfortable and rather secludedplace in (usually) his own home, where hecan draw close to God with no distractions.It should be a place where there are nointerruptions from TV, telephone, familymember interactions, or traffic noises—inother words, silence. A quiet time is a set-aside part of each day for a meetingbetween a believer and God. It consists ofreading a part of the Bible of the believer’s

own choosing, and praying. Every believer needs a quiet time withthe Lord. If Jesus Himself needed it, how much more do we? Jesusfrequently moved away from the others in order to commune withHis Father regularly, as the following Scriptures tell us: "Then Jesuswent with his disciples to a place called Gethsemane, and he said tothem, 'Sit here while I go over there and pray'" (Matthew 26:36)."Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, leftthe house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed (Mark1:35).""But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed" (Luke5:16). The length of the quiet time does not matter, but it should beenough time to meditate on what was read and then pray about it oranything else that comes to mind. Drawing near to God is arewarding experience, and once a regular habit is created, a specifictime for study and prayer is eagerly looked forward to. If ourschedules are so full and pressing that we feel we cannot carve outsome time daily to meet with our heavenly Father, then a revision ofour schedules to weed out the ‘busyness’ is in order. A note ofcaution: Some eastern religions that teach the principles ofmeditation include instructions on “emptying the mind” byconcentrating on repeating a sound or a particular word said overand over. Doing so leaves room for Satan to enter and to wreak


havoc in our minds. Instead, Christians should follow the advice ofthe Apostle Paul in Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brothers, whatever istrue, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whateveris lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent orpraiseworthy – think about such things.” Filling one’s mind with thesebeautiful thoughts cannot help but bring peace and please God, whowants us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds (Romans12:2), not by emptying them.

Akronim G-R-I-P:1. G-o solo. Set aside consistently to be alone with God. Sengajamenyendiri. Keluar dari kesibukan harian.

Menyediakan diri hati dan waktu khusus untukTuhan.

Tuhan tahu persembahan yg harum ini. Kerinduanbertemu dg Tuhan.

1 menit sungguh-sungguh berdoa.





Beberapa orang bisa lebih dari 60 menit.

Di tempat yg sunyi.

Jauh dari gangguan. Jauh dari kebisingan. Supaya bisa fokus. Lukas5:16 Akan tetapi Ia mengundurkan diri ke tempat-tempat yang sunyidan berdoa.


Sendirian:

Mengapa menyediakan waktu sendiri bersama Tuhan? Anda dapatberdoa dengan suara keras, bebas mengexpresikan diri, showemotion, & mewujudkan kedekatan pribadi dg Tuhan.

Tanyakan pada diri sendiri: Jam berapa dan di mana anda bisa/biasamelakukan saat teduh? (when & where)

Keluaran 33:7 Sesudah itu Musa mengambil kemah danmembentangkannya di luar perkemahan, jauh dari perkemahan, danmenamainya Kemah Pertemuan. Setiap orang yang mencari TUHAN,keluarlah ia pergi ke Kemah Pertemuan yang di luar perkemahan.

Quiet time bisa kapan saja dan di mana saja (dibus, di ruang tunggu, di dalam travel, di ruangdoa, di balkon, di teras rumah, di kamar, dll).Tentu saja tingkat intensivenya berbeda-beda.

Sediakan waktu misalnya sebulan sekali pergi ketempat yang tenang & jauh darikesibukan/kebisingan kota, seperti villa/rumahretret di Bogor, Puncak, Batu/Malang, Ungaran,

dll.

Persembahkanlah persembahan yg harum bg Tuhan, yaitu hati ygmengasihi Tuhan sepenuhnya.

Mintalah Tuhan berbicara.

Bertanyalah pd Tuhan tentang apa yang Tuhan mau/kehendaki.


Mintalah pd Tuhan suatu permintaan dengan rendah hati.

KAPAN TUHAN YESUS BERDOA?

Pagi hari.

Markus 1:35 Pagi-pagi benar, waktu hari masih gelap, Ia bangun danpergi ke luar. Ia pergi ke tempat yang sunyi dan berdoa di sana.

Tengah hari.

Di saat perlu hikmat dan kekuatan Tuhan.

Lukas 4:42 Ketika hari siang, Yesus berangkat dan pergi ke suatutempat yang sunyi. Tetapi orang banyak mencari Dia, lalumenemukan-Nya dan berusaha menahan Dia supaya janganmeninggalkan mereka.

Malam hari.

Matius 14:23 Dan setelah orang banyak itu disuruh-Nya pulang,Yesus naik ke atas bukit untuk berdoa seorang diri. Ketika hari sudahmalam, Ia sendirian di situ.

2. R-ead the Bible. His love letter tous. The Bible is the standard we areto live our lives by.

It is the ultimate way to get yo knowGod: His character, His love, His truth.


SOAP:

S-criptureO-bservationA-pplicationP-ray

Bacalah 1 ayat atau 1 perikop atau 1 pasal dari Alkitab.

Miliki rencana baca Alkitab. Tdk harus berurutan.

Tanyakan pada diri sendiri:

Apa yg dikatakan oleh penulis Alkitab? Apakah artinya bagi hidup saya masa kini?

3. I-ntrospeksi diri/refleksi.Meditate on God.

Listen to worship music.

4. P-raySpend time talking to God and listening for Him to speak to you.

Komunikasi dua arah. A relation with God is two-sided.

Isi doa: (secara pribadi)

Pengagungan Tuhan. Ucapan syukur. Permohonan pribadi. Syafaat.


Pengakuan dosa. Re-komitmen.

MENDENGAR SUARA ALLAH.Anda mungkin tidak mendengar secara audible Allah berkata2,namun anda dpt mendengar suara Allah melalui:

Ayat2 Alkitab yg anda baca.

Melalui teman2 yg dapat dipercaya dan dewasa secararohani.

Melalui Roh Kudus yg berbicara dlm hati dan pikiran anda. Melalui facebook atau website, majalah rohani, renungan

harian, bbm teman, dll yang berisi Firman Tuhan / kebenaran. Melalui lingkungan/keadaan yg terjadi di sekitar kita.

Hal2 yg harus diperhatikan dlm mendengar suara Allah:

Bersihkan hati nurani anda. Suara Tuhan / pesan Roh Kudus tidak pernah bertentangan

dg Alkitab. Sediakan hati untuk taat. Hidup dalam kekudusan.


5 HAL YANG PERLU KITA PERHATIKAN DALAMSAAT TEDUH

1. Remember that spending time with God is not about ritual,but relationship.

When you and I were born again, weentered into a relationship withAlmighty God. He is not only our God,he is our Heavenly Father. We havefreedom before Him, and access toHis throne. We don’t have to beafraid of Him. Rituals might beburdensome, but relationships withloved ones rarely are. Spending timewith one that you love is exciting andlife-changing — and that’s how yourdaily time with your Father Godshould be.

2. Establish a specific time every day when you will spendtime with the Lord (jam 5 pagi & 10 malam, misalnya)Don’t you find that what gets scheduled usually gets done? I do. Finda time that works with your lifestyle and your family demands, thenstick to it! Make it a top priority. That’s how habits are developed.Persevere even when you are tired, and don’t feel like it. Remember,we’d never get anything accomplished if we lived by our feelingsalone!

Sesuatu akan menjadi kebiasaan jika dilakukan berulang-ulang padawaktu yang sama selama minimal 21 hari.


3. Minimize your interruptions.When you’re spending time with God, give Him all of your attention.Turn off the telephone and the television. Find a nice, quiet, cozyspot where you are comfortable. If you have children, teach them torespect your privacy during this time, and explain to them that this isyour time with God. Then they will learn the importance of a dailyquiet time, and you’ll reinforce its importance in their eyes, too. Praythat they will follow your example, and encourage them to do so.

4. Choose a Bible version and a Bible-reading plan.This is so important — especially for newChristians. Ask a pastor or friend to helpyou select a good translation. I like the NewInternational Version or the New LivingTranslation. Doing a little research to findthe right translation for you will help you inthe long run. Then get a reading plan. Don’t

just open the Bible and randomly skip around. Again, ask a pastor ora friend to help you select a reading plan if you’re not sure. Balanceyour reading between the Old and New Testaments. The OldTestament is rich in history and knowledge — and the NewTestament presents the story of Christ and the birth of the church.Both are so valuable — and reading one will help you understand theother.

5. Interact as you read.The Bible is a living book, written by a living God. As the Holy Spirit togive you understanding, wisdom and revelation as you read. Read theBible as if it were a love letter, because it is — it is God’s love letter toyou! Pray as you go. Take notes, and don’t be afraid to markscriptures in your Bible itself. Interact with your Bible, and ask God touse it to change your heart and life.

All of these things are important, but the most important thing youcan do is to begin — and that you can do today!


11. Metode mempelajari Alkitab:Whatis SOAP Journaling?

As we read God's words, we begin to see how God responds to things.Doing daily devotions re-patterns the way we think and transformsthe spirit of the mind. Then when we face similar situations as Jesusdid, we begin to respond in the same way. Journaling is an excellentway to both record and process what God has spoken to us. It's also auseful tool to use at a later time, to reflect on and review some of the'gems' that you have received. Without writing them down, you mayforget those blessings and some very important lessons! And whilejournaling is a very personal time with the Lord, you may want toshare some of your daily journaling with your small group or mentors.Through discussion, you may be able to look deeper into what God isspeaking to you, gain new insight and even encourage others.

S for Scripture Open your Bible to the reading found under today'sdate of your Bible bookmark. Take time reading and allow God tospeak to you. When you are done, look for a verse that particularlyspoke to you that day, and write it in your journal.

O for Observation What do you think God is saying to you in thisscripture? Ask the Holy Spirit to teach you and reveal Jesus to you.Paraphrase and write this scripture down in your own words, in yourjournal.

A for Application Personalize what you have read, by askingyourself how it applies to your life right now. Perhaps it is instruction,encouragement, revelation of a new promise, or corrections for aparticular area of your life. Write how this scripture can apply to youtoday.

P for Prayer This can be as simple as asking God to help you usethis scripture, or it may be a greater insight on what He may berevealing to you. Remember, prayer is a two way conversation, so besure to listen to what God has to say! Now, write it out. If this seemsa little overwhelming, take it slow and keep it simple. No matter howyou decide to do your devotions, the important thing is to show up foryour daily appointment, because God is always waiting for you!


Akronim ini (S-O-A-P) membantu kita mengingat elemen-elemenmempelajari Alkitab dalam saat teduh kita. Kita bisa melakukanmetode ini sendirian maupun berkelompok.

S = Scripture (AYAT FIRMAN TUHAN).Membaca ayat/perikop/pasal dalam Alkitab.

Tulislah pada jurnal/agenda/buku harian Anda.

Miliki daftar bacaan Alkitab setahun, sbb:

a) berurutan dari Kejadian-Wahyu (1 hari = 3 pasal), atau

b) 1 pasal PL, 1 pasal Mazmur/Amsal, 1 pasal PB, dll.

Contoh: Lukas 15:8-10

8 "Atau perempuan manakah yang mempunyai sepuluh dirham,dan jika ia kehilangan satu di antaranya, tidak menyalakanpelita dan menyapu rumah serta mencarinya dengan cermatsampai ia menemukannya?

9 Dan kalau ia telah menemukannya, ia memanggil sahabat-sahabat dan tetangga-tetangganya serta berkata:Bersukacitalah bersama-sama dengan aku, sebab dirhamkuyang hilang itu telah kutemukan.

10 Aku berkata kepadamu: Demikian juga akan ada sukacitapada malaikat-malaikat Allah karena satu orang berdosayang bertobat."


O = Observation (PENGAMATAN).Apa yang kita dapatkan dalam ayat-ayat Firman Tuhan yang kitabaca.

Terapkan: 5W+1H (What-Who-Where-When-Why-How-Howmany). Apa? Siapa? Di mana? Kapan? Mengapa? Bagaimana?Berapa banyak?

Tulislah dalam bahasa Anda sendiri. Bisa juga dibantu dengankamus Alkitab & komentari Alkitab:

Contoh:

Apa? Dirham yang hilang. Apakah dirham itu? Mata uangemas seberat 8 gram.

Siapa yang kehilangan dirham tersebut? Seorangperempuan yang tidak disebutkan namanya.

Di manakah hilangnya? Di rumahnya.

Berapa banyak? 1 yang hilang dari 10 keping.

Apakah itu bernilai? Ya. Sangat bernilai.

Kapan? Di malam hari.

Apa yang dilakukan? Dicari dengan cara: menyalakanpelita, menyapu rumahnya, mencari dengan cermat.

Apakah ditemukan?Ya.

Apa yang dilakukan selanjutnya? Memanggil sahabat-sahabat dan tetangga-tetangganya. Menunjukkan pakahini? Ia sangat bersukacita & bersyukur.

Apakah artinya? Ada sukacita di sorga karena satu orangberdosa yang bertobat.


Lihat kaitannya dengan perikop sebelumnya (Domba yang hilang)dan perikop sesudahnya (Anak yang hilang).

A = Application (Penerapan)Apakah artinya bagi saya? Renungkanlah kebenaran Firman Tuhan.Apakah yang anda pahami dari observasi di atas? Bagaimana andamenerapkannya dalam kehidupan sehari-hari.

Contoh:

Sesuatu yang dicari adalah sesuatu yang berharga/bernilai.Apakah hal yang berharga/bernilai bagiku?

Apakah yang berharga/bernilai bagi Allah? Jiwa.

Berapa banyak jiwa yang dianggap bernilai/berharga? Bahkan 1jiwa saja sangat berharga. Sebenarnya banyak jiwa yangterhilang/membutuhkan kasih Tuhan di sekitar kita. Kita haruslebih peka & “care” (peduli).

Introspeksi: Apakah saya punya kerinduan menjangkau merekayang terhilang?

Apakah saya mencari dengan sungguh-sungguh? Bagaimanacaranya?

Apakah jiwa yang terhilang itu berarti / bernilai / berharga bagisaya? (Motivasi internal).

Bila saya sungguh-sungguh, maka saya akan menemukan caramenjangkau jiwa dengan tuntunan & hikmat Tuhan.


P = PrayerBerdoalah supaya Tuhan memberi pemahaman bagi kita danmengubahkan hati/pikiran kita. Berdoa supaya Tuhan memberihikmat dan kekuatan untuk melakukan Firman-Nya dalamkehidupan kita sehari-hari.

Mintalah supaya Tuhan menolong kita agar kita mampumemahami Firman Tuhan, peka mendengar suara Roh Kudus,mengerti kehendak Tuhan bagi hidup kita.

Berhentilah/hening sejenak dan dengarkan Tuhan. MintalahTuhan mengarahkan anda hari ini, minggu ini, tahun ini.“Berbicaralah Tuhan, sebab hamba siap mendengar & melakukan”.

“Tuhan, beriku hati seperti hati-Mu yang penuh belaskasihan akan jiwa-jiwa yang terhilang.

Beri aku kepekaan dan kepedulian akan kebutuhanorang-orang di sekeliling saya dan menolong mereka,

serta membantu mereka menemukan hidup yangbermakna di dalam Tuhan.

Pakailah saya sebagai alat-Mu.

Membawa damai. Membawa sukacita.

Membawa terang. Menjadi garam bagi duniaku.

Dalam nama Tuhan Yesus, Amin”.


Peace Prayer of Francis of Assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,

Where there is hatred, let me sow love;where there is injury, pardon;where there is doubt, faith;where there is despair, hope;where there is darkness, light;where there is sadness, joy;

O Divine Master,

grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as toconsole;to be understood as to understand;to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.


DOA FRANSISKUS ASSISI

TUHAN, jadikanlah aku pembawa damai.Bila terjadi kebencian, jadikanlah aku pembawa cinta kasih.Bila terjadi penghinaan, jadikanlah aku pembawapengampunan.Bila terjadi perselisihan, jadikanlah aku pembawa kerukunan.Bila terjadi kesesatan, jadikanlah aku pembawa kebenaran.Bila terjadi kebimbangan, jadikanlah aku pembawa kepastian.Bila terjadi keputus-asaan, jadikanlah aku pembawa harapan.Bila terjadi kegelapan, jadikanlah aku pembawa terang.Bila terjadi kesedihan, jadikanlah aku pembawa sukacita.

Ya Tuhan Allah,ajarlah aku untuk lebih suka menghibur daripada dihibur;mengerti daripada dimengerti;mengasihi daripada dikasihi;sebab dengan memberi kita menerima;dengan mengampuni kita diampuni,dan dengan mati (mematikan manusia lama), kita dilahirkanke dalam Hidup Kekal.Amin.


CONTOH-2:

S-cripture: AYAT FIRMAN TUHAN.

Markus 2:17 Yesus mendengarnya dan berkata kepadamereka: "Bukan orang sehat yang memerlukan tabib,tetapi orang sakit; Aku datang bukan untuk memanggilorang benar, melainkan orang berdosa."

O-bservation: PENGAMATAN. Dalam perikop ini,

Tuhan Yesus diundang oleh ke rumahLewi untuk makan malam bersama“orang berdosa dan pemungut cukai”.Sementara Yesus melayani mereka,orang-orang Farisi dan ahli-ahliTaurat melihat hal tersebut denganmuak. Hal yang tidak umum bilaorang “baik” ngobrol bersama orang“berdosa” dan pemungut cukai.

A-pplication: PENERAPAN. Bukankah kita semua

sebelumnya adalah orang-orang yangsakit secara rohani, hanya kita tidakmerasakannya. Jangan menghakimiorang lain. Marilah kita introspeksidiri.

Salah satu penerapan perikop iniadalah kita tidak boleh lupa danmulai berpikir “Saya baik-baik” didalam Yesus yang memulihkan hidup


saya. Yesus adalah “dokter” bagiorang berdosa.

P-rayer: DOA.

Tuhan tolong kami untuk selaluingat bahwa kami sebelumnyajuga sakit secara rohani. Yesusmenyembuhkan saya.Memulihkan hubungan sayadengan Allah Bapa. Tuhan Yesusadalah dokter yang hebat.

Terimakasih telah mengirim Yesus kedunia sehingga kami

disembuhkan dan hubungan kamidipulihkan dengan Engkau.


12. What isa DiscipleMaker?

I. A disciple maker isfirst a disciple of Jesus.

1Cor 11:1 (NASU) Be imitators of me, just as I also am ofChrist.1Cor 4:16 (NASU) Therefore I exhort you, be imitators of me.17 For this reason I havesent to you Timothy, who is my beloved and faithful child inthe Lord, and he willremind you of my ways which are in Christ, just as I teacheverywhere in every church.2Tim 2:2 (NASU) The things which you have heard from me inthe presence of manywitnesses, entrust these to faithful men who will be able toteach others also.Matt 4:19 (NASU) And He said to them, "Follow Me, and I willmake you fishers ofmen."Titu 2:3 (NASU) Older women likewise are to be reverent intheir behavior, notmalicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching whatis good, 4 so that they mayencourage the young women to love their husbands, to lovetheir children, 5 [to be]sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to theirown husbands, so that the word of God will not bedishonored.

II. A disciple maker develops strong relationshipswith a few.

Mark 3:13 (NASU) And He went up on the mountain andsummoned those whom HeHimself wanted, and they came to Him. 14 And He appointedtwelve, so that they would


be with Him and that He [could] send them out to preach,

Question: How can I develop discipling relationships with afew?1. Take the initiative to build the relationship.1The 2:8 (NASU) Having so fond an affection for you, wewere well-pleased to impart toyou not only the gospel of God but also our own lives,because you had become very dearto us. 9 For you recall, brethren, our labor and hardship,[how] working night and day soas not to be a burden to any of you, we proclaimed to youthe gospel of God.Roma 1:11 (NASU) For I long to see you so that I may impartsome spiritual gift to you,that you may be established; 12 that is, that I may beencouraged together with you[while] among you, each of us by the other's faith, both yoursand mine. 13 I do not wantyou to be unaware, brethren, that often I have planned tocome to you (and have beenprevented so far) so that I may obtain some fruit among youalso, even as among the restof the Gentiles.**Prayer is vital to choosing who to reach out to.


2. Seek out ways to demonstrate love.Phil 1:8 (NASU) For God is my witness, how I long for you allwith the affection ofChrist Jesus.Prov 17:17 (NASU) A friend loves at all times, And a brother isborn for adversity.**Be interested in his/her life**Pray for specific details**Remember what is going on is his/her life**Understand that God chooses these friendships for you.**Accept the person without conditions and communicatethis.**Encourage them in the progress of their faith.

3. Place Jesus at the center of your relationship.1Joh 1:3 (NASU) what we have seen and heard we proclaimto you also, so that you toomay have fellowship with us; and indeed our fellowship iswith the Father, and with HisSon Jesus Christ.**Spend most of your time in spiritually directedconversation.**Relate all the details of life to Jesus.**Direct the person to the Word for answers to problemsand questions.**Do not be afraid to exhort and rebuke.

4. Be patient and persevere.1Cor 15:58 (NASU) Therefore,my beloved brethren, besteadfast, immovable, alwaysabounding in the work of theLord, knowing that your toil isnot [in] vain in the Lord.**They will stumble.**They will not always respondwith joy.**They may withdraw.

5. Spend time with themoutside of formal “discipling”.**They are not a “project”, buta person.

6. Introduce them to other healthy Christian relationships.


**Do not let jealousy hinder their spiritual growth.**Pray for other friendships to be formed.**Be careful that they depend upon God, not you.

III. A disciple maker’s goal is to reproduce the life ofJesus in others.

Question: How can I reach this goal?

1. Teaching and instructingMatt 5:1 (NASU) When Jesus saw the crowds, He went up onthe mountain; and after He sat down, His disciples came toHim. 2 He opened His mouth and [began] to teach them,saying,

2. Modeling and commissioningJohn 13:15 (NASU) "For I gave you an example that you alsoshould do as I did to you.

3. Motivating and comfortingJohn 14:1 (NASU) "Do not let yourheart be troubled; believe in God,believe also in Me.

4. Warning and confrontingMark 8:33 (NASU) But turning around and seeing His disciples,He rebuked Peter and said, "Get behind Me, Satan; for youare not setting your mind on God's interests, but man's."

5. Forgiving and restoringJohn 21:17 (NASU) He said to him the third time, "Simon,[son] of John, do you love Me?" Peter was grieved becauseHe said to him the third time, "Do you love Me?" And he saidto Him, "Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You."Jesus said to him, "Tend My sheep.

6. Entrusting and sendingLuke 10:3 (NASU) "Go; behold, I send you out as lambs in themidst of wolves.


13. MENTORING

Panduan untuk menuntun hidup orang lain menjadi maksimal

1. MODELING (Peneladan hidup seorang mentor)Edwin Louis Cole “Kita tidak melakukan apa yang kitakotbahkan, tetapi kita mengkotbahkan apa yang kitalakukan”.

Filipi 3:17 Saudara-saudara, ikutilah teladanku dan perhatikanlahmereka, yang hidup sama seperti kami yang menjadi teladanmu.

Filipi 4:9 Dan apa yang telah kamu pelajari dan apa yang telahkamu terima, dan apa yang telah kamu dengar dan apa yang telahkamu lihat padaku, lakukanlah itu. Maka Allah sumber damaisejahtera akan menyertai kamu.

2. TRANSFORMATIONAL POWER (Menggunakan7 kekuatan untuk mendukung perubahanmaximal)

Ada 7 kekuatan yang dapat mendukung perubahan-perubahan.Tujuh kekuatan ini dikelompokkan dalam 2 pembagian:

A. THE POWER OF SELF DISCOVERY(Kekuatan penemuan diri)


1) Keterbukaan2) Mendengar3) Bertanya4) Peneguhan (afirmasi)

B. THE POWER OF VALUES PENETRATION(Kekuatan penetrasi nilai-nilai)

5) Memilih (the power of choice):Memilih bersikap baik, positive thinking, memilikiharga diri dalam Kristus, tidak mudah marah /tersinggung, menghargai nilai-nilai kekal, integritas,kekudusan, dll.

6) Bertanggung jawab (the power of responsibility)Bertanggungjawab meningkatkan diri, merubah yangperlu diubah, membetulkan nilai-nilai yang salahselama ini.

7) Pengulangan (the power of repetisi)Sesuatu yang diulang-ulang akan menjadi kebiasaan.Kebiasaan akan menjadi karakter. Karaktermenentukan sikap. Sikap akan menentukankehidupan.Sesuatu yang diulang-ulang akan menjadikan kitaterlatih dan kuat.

3. OPTIMUM POTENSIAL-1 (Menemukanpotensi maksimal dalam sekolah kehidupan)Mentoring adalah pekerjaan yang tidak pernah berhenti,yaitu memberdayakan orang lain.


Kolose1:28 Dialahyang kamiberitakan,apabila tiap-tiaporang kaminasihati dantiap-tiap orangkami ajaridalam segala

hikmat, untuk memimpin tiap-tiap orang kepada kesempurnaandalam Kristus.1:29 Itulah yang kuusahakan dan kupergumulkan dengan segalatenaga sesuai dengan kuasa-Nya, yang bekerja dengan kuat didalam aku.

4. OPTIMUM POTENSIAL-2 (Membuat rencanapencapaian potensi maximal)Di manakah Anda merasa paling sering memiliki peluangterbesar untuk mengadakan perubahan/perbedaan?Di manakah Anda merasa paling berhasrat, terbeban,tergerak, dan memiliki passion di sana?Sesuatu yang menggairahkan untuk anda kerjakan.

Kunjungan Pemuridan Memberitakan Injil Menggembalakan Mengajar Menyanyi: singer, worship leader Memberi Persiapan teknis di belakang layar Multi media, creative ministry Memimpin anak muda Mengajar anak-anak Berkhotbah Bisnis Pemerintahan Pendidikan Menulis renungan Meningkatkan peran kaum wanita Membangkitkan kaum pria


Dan lain-lain

Tempat di mana Allah memanggilmu adalah tempat di manakesukaan terbesar anda bertemu dengan kebutuhan terbesardunia – Frederick Buechen (teolog Amerika).

5. EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING-1 (Needs & opportunities.Menemukan gambar besar /big picture dalam sekolah kehidupan).

Allah memiliki rencana.Allah turut bekerja.Allah melengkapi kita untuk pekerjaan baik sesuaturencanaNya.

Yesaya 55:8 Sebab rancangan-Ku bukanlah rancanganmu, danjalanmu bukanlah jalan-Ku, demikianlah firman TUHAN.55:9 Seperti tingginya langit dari bumi, demikianlah tingginyajalan-Ku dari jalanmu dan rancangan-Ku dari rancanganmu.

Yeremia 29:11 Sebab Aku ini mengetahui rancangan-rancanganapa yang ada pada-Ku mengenai kamu, demikianlah firmanTUHAN, yaitu rancangan damai sejahtera dan bukan rancangankecelakaan, untuk memberikan kepadamu hari depan yang penuhharapan.

Roma 8:28 Kita tahu sekarang, bahwa Allah turut bekerja dalamsegala sesuatu untuk mendatangkan kebaikan bagi mereka yangmengasihi Dia, yaitu bagi mereka yang terpanggil sesuai denganrencana Allah.

Efesus 2:10 Karena kita ini buatan Allah, diciptakan dalam KristusYesus untuk melakukan pekerjaan baik, yang dipersiapkan Allahsebelumnya. Ia mau, supaya kita hidup di dalamnya.

6. EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING-2 (Needs & opportunities.Menemukan gambar besar dan Pekerjaan Allah dalam sekolahkehidupan)

Menurut penelitian, kurang dari 1/3 pemimpin yangmengakhiri hidup dan pelayanannya dengan baik (finishingwell).Pemimpin yang bisa mengakhiri dengan baik memiliki 5 halsbb:


a) Memiliki perspektif hidup yang menyeluruh (lifetimeperspective)

b) Memiliki pembaharuan terus-menerus (on going renewal)c) Memiliki disiplin rohani (spiritual discipline)d) Memiliki gaya belajar jangka panjang (lifelong learning)e) Memiliki hubungan mentoring (mentoring relationship)

7. STEPS & REPRODUCTIONLangkah-langkah mentoring & reproduksi

KONSEP MENTORING: M-E-N-T-O-R = 7PM-odeling PeneladananE-xperiential learning Pembelajaran melalui pengalamanN-eeds & Opportunities Pemenuhan kebutuhan & kesempatan(Menjawab kebutuhan dalam waktu yang tepat)T-ransformational Power Kekuatan untuk PerubahanO-ptimum Potential Potensi MaksimalR-eproduction Pelipatgandaan

Materi ini akan berpengaruh secara maximal apabila dipelajari dandipraktekkan berulang-ulang. Materi ini merupakan materi untukmembangun gaya hidup Kristus yang disebut:RELATE UP -- RELATE IN -- RELATE OUT.

RELATE UP: keintiman dengan Allah (mengasihi Tuhan) RELATE IN: hubungan dengan sesama jemaat (mengasihi

sesama saudara seiman/komunitas orang percaya) RELATE OUT: penjangkauan ke luar (mengasihi sesama

manusia/orang-orang terhilang/suku terabaikan)

Sistem mentoring adalah sistem pembelajaran melalui apa yangterjadi sepanjang perjalanan kehidupan.


Bagaimana kita membaca Alkitab? 4M

M1-Menerima FirmanYakobus 1:21 Sebab itu buanglah segalasesuatu yang kotor dan kejahatan yangbegitu banyak itu dan terimalah dengan

lemah lembut firman yang tertanam di dalam hatimu, yangberkuasa menyelamatkan jiwamu.

Firman Allah tertanam di hati yang subur. Hati yang subur adalah hatiyang lembut, terbuka, siap menerima, tidak memberontak, tidakmelawan, hati yang berserah, mudah/rela dibentuk, hati yang rela,terbuka untuk ditegur, dikoreksi, dan dinasihati oleh Tuhan.

Matius13:23 Yang ditaburkan di tanah yang baik ialah orang yangmendengar firman itu dan mengerti, dan karena itu ia berbuah, adayang seratus kali lipat, ada yang enam puluh kali lipat, ada yangtiga puluh kali lipat."

M2- Merenungkan Firman (Memeliti Firman)

Mazmur 1:2 tetapi yang kesukaannya ialah Taurat TUHAN, danyang merenungkan Taurat itu siang dan malam.

Yakobus 1:25 Tetapi barangsiapameneliti hukum yang sempurna,yaitu hukum yang memerdekakan orang, dan ia bertekun didalamnya, jadi bukan hanya mendengar untuk melupakannya,tetapi sungguh-sungguh melakukannya, ia akan berbahagia olehperbuatannya.

M3-Melakukan Firman

Matius 5:19 Karena itu siapa yang meniadakan salah satu perintahhukum Taurat sekalipun yang paling kecil, dan mengajarkannyademikian kepada orang lain, ia akan menduduki tempat yang palingrendah di dalam Kerajaan Sorga; tetapi siapa yang melakukan danmengajarkan segala perintah-perintah hukum Taurat, ia akanmenduduki tempat yang tinggi di dalam Kerajaan Sorga.


Matius 7:21 Bukan setiap orang yang berseru kepada-Ku: Tuhan,Tuhan! akan masuk ke dalam Kerajaan Sorga, melainkan dia yangmelakukan kehendak Bapa-Ku yang di sorga.Yakobus 2:17 Demikian juga halnya dengan iman: Jika iman itutidak disertai perbuatan, maka iman itu pada hakekatnya adalahmati.

M4-Menceritakan kebaikan &perbuatan Tuhan

Mazmur 9:15 supaya akumenceritakan segala perbuatan-Muyang terpuji dan bersorak-sorak dipintu gerbang puteri Sion karenakeselamatan yang dari pada-Mu.

Mazmur 73:28 Tetapi aku, akusuka dekat pada Allah; aku menaruh tempat perlindunganku padaTuhan ALLAH, supaya dapat menceritakan segala pekerjaan-Nya.


MENGUJI MIMPI

Mimpi-mimpi kita haruslah dituliskan dengan jelas, dapatdilaksanakan, dapat diukur.Tuliskan mimpi-mimpi anda, tidak peduli seberapa besar ancaman,gangguan, halangan, hambatan, tantangan, rintangan & kesulitanyang akan anda hadapi.Tuliskan semua mimpi anda, besar dan kecil, jangka pendek maupunjangka panjang.

Korelasikan mimpi anda dengan gaya hidup relate up, relate in, relateout.

1. Mimpi kita dengan Tuhan: untuk diri sendiri (pribadi)a) Rohani (doa, baca alkitab, keintiman dengan Tuhan)b) Jiwa (pikiran, perasaan/emosi, kehendak/keinginan/

kemauan/harapan/cita-cita/hasrat kita; pendidikan yangingin kita tempuh)

c) Jasmani: sandang, pangan, papan, kesehatan, dlld) Materi: harta, keuangan, tabungan, aset, dll.

2. Mimpi kita dengan Tuhan untuk komunitas orangpercaya/gereja lokal:a) Keluarga (pasangan, anak-anak)b) Pelayanan (komunitas sel, pelayanan bidang khusus, dll)

3. Mimpi kita dengan Tuhan, untuk orang-orang yangbelum/tidak percaya Yesus (oikos, kota, bangsa):a) Pekerjaan, bisnis, sekolah/kuliahb) Penjangkauan jiwa-jiwac) Amal

GAMBARAN BESARAllah melihat gambaran kehidupan kita dari awal sampai akhir. Allahingin hidup kita maksimal, sesai dengan rancanganNya yang terbaik.Potensi kita digunakan secara maksimal dan hidup serupa denganKristus.

Segala sesuatu yang Tuhan lakukan, dilakukan dengan mengikutisebuah pola dan didasari atas sebuah prinsip – Edwin Louise Cole.

Ibrani 13:7-8


7 Ingatlah akan pemimpin-pemimpin kamu, yang telahmenyampaikan firman Allah kepadamu. Perhatikanlah akhirhidup mereka dan contohlah iman mereka.

8 Yesus Kristus tetap sama, baik kemarin maupun hari ini dansampai selama-lamanya.

PEMAGANGAN & SKILLKristus disebut sebagai rabbi. Rabbi adalah panggilan untukseseorang yang dianggap sebagai guru kehidupan. Pada zamandahulu, tidak ada sekolah formal seperti sekarang. Jadi, seorangmurid biasanya belajar tentang apa saja mengenai kehidupan dariayahnya atau rabbinya. Rabbi adalah guru sekolah kehidupan.Kristus adalah guru kehidupan untuk kita semua.

Bagaimana Yesus melatih murid-muridNya? Ia melakukan apa yangdisebut pemagangan (apprenticeship). Kristus adalah mentor yangterbaik. Karena itu, bila kita ingin melatih seseorang khususnya dibidang-bidang pelayanan praktis, tirulah cara Kristus.

Pelatihan skill membutuhkan percontohan langsung di lapangan.Pelatihan sangat memerlukan modeling (percontohan langsung dilapangan). Tahap-tahapnya:

I do, you watch. Saya lakukan, Anda memperhatikan. I do, you help. Saya lakukan, Anda membantu. You do, I watch. Anda lakukan, saya memperhatikan. You do, help. Anda lakukan, saya membantu.

Tiga hal yang kita butuhkan untuk membawaseseorang pada sasaran/target/goal yang baru:

1. Kondisi/skill orang tersebut saat ini.2. Sasaran yang ingin dicapai di kemudian hari


3. CARA mencapai target tersebut:a. Pendidikan yang diperlukanb. Training yang dibutuhkanc. Jalur dan alurnya, dll

MENTOR & SUARA TUHAN

J. Robert Clinton mengatakan, “Seorang pemimpin harus membuatkeputusan-keputusan utama dengan konfirmasi suara Tuhan”.

a) Suara Tuhan di hatib) Suara Tuhan dalam situasic) Suara Tuhan di jemaat (yang dewasa)d) Suara Tuhan dalam Alkitab

Seorang mentor melatih calon pemimpin untuk mendengar suaraTuhan dalam mengambil keputusan.

John Maxwell menyatakan bahwa kepemimpinan adalah pengaruh.Pemimpin adalah orang yang mempengaruhi/menggerakkan oranglain untuk mengikutinya. Oleh karena itu, seorang pemimpin harusmemperbesar kapasitas kepemimpinannya dengan caramemperbesar kapasitas pengaruhnya.Dan ia harus melatih calon pemimpin-pemimpin baru untukbertumbuh di dalam kapasitas pengaruhnya.


Ada 4 hal yang paling menentukan pengaruhseseorang dalam memimpin:

1. OtoritasOtoritas diperoleh dari pelayanan dan kehambaan yangditunjukkannya. Matius 20:25-28

25 Tetapi Yesus memanggil mereka lalu berkata: "Kamutahu, bahwa pemerintah-pemerintah bangsa-bangsamemerintah rakyatnya dengan tangan besi danpembesar-pembesar menjalankan kuasanya dengankeras atas mereka.

26 Tidaklah demikian di antara kamu. Barangsiapa inginmenjadi besar di antara kamu, hendaklah ia menjadipelayanmu,

27 dan barangsiapa ingin menjadi terkemuka di antarakamu, hendaklah ia menjadi hambamu;

28 sama seperti Anak Manusia datang bukan untukdilayani, melainkan untuk melayani dan untukmemberikan nyawa-Nya menjadi tebusan bagi banyakorang."

2. Kemampuan mengarahkan orang lainCiri seorang pemimpin adalah dapat memberi arah yang jelasdan mampu mempengaruhi orang lainuntuk mengikuti arahyang sama.

Karena itu, seorang pemimpin harus mempunyai arah yangbenar dan dari Tuhan.

3. IntegritasSeorang pemimpin yang memiliki otoritas dan arah yang jelas,tanpa integritas ia akan kehilangan pengikutnya.

Seorang pemimpin harus melakukan apa yang ia katakan, melakukanprinsip-prinsip kebenaran dan pemberdayaan.


Calon pemimpin harus terus-menerus dididik dalam integritas. Jujurdalam segala hal, khususnya pengendalian diri dalam area:kesombongan, sex, dan keuangan (takhta, wanita, harta).

1 Yoh 2:15-17

15 Janganlah kamu mengasihi dunia dan apa yang ada didalamnya. Jikalau orang mengasihi dunia, maka kasih akanBapa tidak ada di dalam orang itu.

16 Sebab semua yang ada di dalam dunia, yaitu keinginandaging dan keinginan mata serta keangkuhan hidup,bukanlah berasal dari Bapa, melainkan dari dunia.

17 Dan dunia ini sedang lenyap dengan keinginannya, tetapiorang yang melakukan kehendak Allah tetap hidup selama-lamanya.

4. Kemampuan untuk membuat keputusan dengan bijak.Membawa orang lain bersama-sama dirinya adalah sebuahperjalanan yang sangat ditentukan oleh keputusan-keputusanyang ia lakukan sebagai pemimpin. Sebuah keputusan tidak harusmenyenangkan semua orang.

Larry Burket:Orang yang sukses dalam bidang apapun adalah pembuat goalsetting. Mereka mempunyai sebuah kerinduan untuk mencapaigoalnya dengan disiplin.

Roh Kudus akan memimpin mentor dan mentee untukmembahaspersoalan-persoalan yang dihadapi sehari-hari. Dalammenghadapi persoalan sehari-hari gunakanlah pertanyaan-pertanyaan dengan prinsip S-K-O-R sebagai berikut:

S-asaran: Apakah sasaran/goal/target yang hendak dicapai?K-eadaan: Bagaimana situasi/kondisi/keadaan yang ada saat ini?

O-ption/opsi/pilihan: Pilihan-pilihan/kemungkinan-kemungkinanapa saja yang dapat membawa kita mencapai goal tersebut?

R-encana. Apakah rencana untuk mewujudkan goal tersebut. Danrencana harus diikuti dengan eksekusi/pelaksanaan.


EVALUASIMentee harus membiasakan diri membuat rencana setiap H.A.R.I.Rencana esok hari dibuat paling lambat malam hari ini.

Prinsip H.A.R.I:H-adirat AllahA-ktivitasR-intanganI-nterupsi

H-ADIRAT ALLAH. Apakah saya melakukan segala aktivitas sayadi hadapan Allah? (CORAM DEO). Saya mau menyadari hadiratAllah secara aktif selama 8 jam saya bekerja di kantor.

A-AKTIVITAS.Apakah aktivitas saya menyadari berkaitan denganpencapaian goal saya?

1. Sudahkah saya membaca perikop ALKITAB HARI INI?Sudah Belum

2. Sudahkah saya bersaat teduh?Sudah Belum

Tindakan penting untuk pencapaian goal hari ini:a) Planningb) Action-1c) Action-2d) Action-3, dste) Evaluasi: Berapa persen yang sudah saya capai? Adakah

masalah yang harus segera diselesaikan?f) Improvement & solusig) Action berikutnyah) Mengikuti training/pelatihan yang saya butuhkan


R-INTANGANApakah saya menyadari bahwa rintangan-rintangan adalah saranauntuk membuat saya lebih dekat dengan Tuhan dan mencapaipotensi maximal saya?

I-NTERUPSI.Apakah saya sadar bahwa Allah menggunakan interupsi –interupsiuntuk mengarahkan saya kepada rencana-Nya?Contoh:Aku bersyukur karena mobilku pecah ban, sehingga aku dapatbersaksi kepada tukang tambal ban hari ini.


SPIRITUAL MENTORING SERIES

Part 1- How to Find aSpiritual MentorPart 2- How to Become aSpiritual MentorPart 3- What is Mentoring &How to be a Mentor

Part 1: How toFind a Spiritual MentorProbably just like you, I want to grow in wisdom. I want to be agodly old lady who is full of wisdom. But the lawof entropy says things go from order to disorder. So naturally,you and I will not automatically become wise, godly old ladies.Naturally, we will become less patient, less kind, less wiseunless... Unless we continually walk with and desperatelydepend on Jesus who renews our Spirit inwardly day by day.And unless we feed our souls with good things. Not the junkfood of society, being discipled by Hollywood and it's sitcoms.But by the pure milk of the Word of God and by wisdom ofstrong believers.

The Lord is very clear in scripture that wisdom is something thatcomes through intentionally searching for it. It's not somethingwe are born with or that happens to fall in our lap. We have tobe diligent to seek it out. Finding a mentor is a good way togrow in wisdom and fill our souls with truth.

"Counsel is like deep water and a man of understandingdraws it out."

4 Benefits of Having a Mentor1. They see differently than you. The Lord gives each persondifferent experiences in life which enables each to experiencethe Lord and His character in different ways. Because ofeveryone's different filter of how the Lord has revealed Himself,often times others can see your circumstances through a

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different lens. They are able to see outside of your desires,perspective and emotions. Therefore they are able to offer younon-bias counsel.

2. They can encourage and affirm you, seeing more in youthan you see yourself. At times it can be hard to see our ownstrengths. A good mentor is able to see the strengths and giftsthe Lord has put in you and is able to encourage, affirm anddraw those out.

3. They can push you more than you would pushyourself. Because a mentor can see your strengths and hasaffirmed those in you, they also have vision of what you'recapable of that perhaps you don't think you are. They can callyou to greatness and hold you accountable in your areas ofweakness.

4. He who walks with the wise grows wise. You become likewho you spend time with. Enough said.

So, it's a good thing to have a mentor, but how do we go aboutgetting or finding one?

7 Tips for Choosing a Mentor1. Pray for the Lord to lead you. Pretty obvious, but wehonestly can do nothing eternally significant apart from the Lord.

2. Don't choose right away. Something you don't want is to bestuck meeting with someone on a regular basis that you laterfind out doesn't even spend time with God or value somethingyou really value. Then you're stuck in a hard place of telling heryou don't want to meet with her anymore.

3. Write down characteristics you'd like to be true of you inthe future. Look for a lady who evidences the qualities you'dlike to grow in.

4. Look for someone who loves and lives for Jesus. How willyou know? She will spend time with the Lord. When you lovesomeone, you make an effort to be with them. She will manifestthe fruit of the Spirit and will discipline herself for the purposeof godliness and will make sacrifices to live out His mission.


5. Ask her to lunch or coffee and ask questions. If she issomeone you'd like to spend time with regularly, sharespecifically what you want from her. Proverbs says a wiseperson draws counsel out of people. When you get together withher, don't expect her to do all the work. Come with questions forher. Questions about her relationship with God, questions aboutScripture, questions about life experiences. Ask her thingslike, "When you were my age, what do you wish you would haveknown?" What are the biggest ways the Lord has revealedHimself to you and how?" "What are the biggest things the Lordhas taught you?" Draw wisdom out of her instead of expectingher to read your mind.

6. Don't settle for just one mentor. I strongly believe The Lordwants us to be influenced by many different women. What onelady can teach you, another can't. So depending on how muchtime you have, pursue more than one. There is wisdom in themultitude of counselors.

7. Don't be limited by time or space. The Lord has allowed usto live in a time where we can communicate with each otherwhether we live in the same city or state or not, or even thesame time period. (Don't forget you can learn from womenthrough books they've written). If you can not get your schedulesto line up, try using email or facebook messaging. If you can'tget together in person, try using skype. Be willing to thinkoutside the box.

I hope this has encouraged you in finding a mentor. Feel freeto share this, perhaps it will be a blessing to others as well.Next week Part 2 will be posted.

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Part 2- How to Become a MentorImagine standing in heaven with the people whose lives yourdirectly and indirectly influenced for Christ.Mentoring/discipling/helping someone grow in their faith hasrewards that far exceed this lifetime. The reward ofmentoring/discipling people for Christ was a great hope that keptPaul pushing forward even in the face of adversity.

And just like Paul often felt un-qualified, so can we. But Godreminds us that our adequacy doesn't come from ourselves, itcomes from Him (2 Cor. 3:5) and He gives us all we need forevery good work. After all, we do have the Holy Spirit, who helpedcreate the world and raise Christ from the dead, living inside of us.And where He calls, He equips. So has He called you? Yes! Heeven wrote it down for you just so you wouldn't doubt it. Howawesome of Him! He didn't call you and assign you to be part ofHis working in peoples lives because you're so great or becauseyou know it all. He assigned you because you don't know it alland that gives Him opportunity to show how Great He is, Able touse broken vessels. So the lie you might believe of not measuringup, of never being able to mentor/disciple someone, well, throwthat out the window. Rather than trying to gather confidence inyour flesh, know that all your confidence can be in the Lord, theOne Able to use you.

3 Benefits of Being a Mentor1. Being a mentor allows you to store up treasure inheaven. There are 5 crowns mentioned in Scripture that will begiven to believers. One of which is the Crown of Shepherding (1Pet. 5:4, 1 Thes. 2:9) When we come along side other believersand help them walk by faith, communicate their faith andmultiply their faith, we are taking on the role of a shepherd intheir life. And the great thing about being given a beautiful crownin heaven is that we will have something to lay at Jesus' feet

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during the ultimate worship service (Rev. 4). What a joy that willbe to be able to give our King a tiny gift of love and thanks.

2. Being a mentor w ill be challenge you. It is so easy toremain comfortable, which leads to stagnation. Yet when we investour lives in other people it causes us to think of them and getoutside ourselves. It also helps us cling to the Lord, since Heultimately is the only One who knows what they need.

3. Being a mentor w ill bless you. Sometimes when I meet withwomen I have absolutely no idea what to say or do which forcesme to turn to the Lord and ask for His direction. Then as the Lordputs ideas and thoughts in my mind of what to share, I amso encouraged that God can actually use flawed me to influenceanother for His glory. In Philemon 7, Paul prays that we would beactive in sharing our faith so we would know God more. The samegoes with any type of ministry, as we step out and depend on Godwe get to see God come through and we are blessed by getting toknow (experientially) Him more.

7 Tips for Choosing a MenteeMentor/disciple someone who is:1. Faithful. Your time is valuable. You have plenty of things inyour life the Lord has called you to, therefore you need to meetwith someone who is actually going to be able to have enoughdiscipline to be faithful to meet with you. It's frustrating andhonestly a waste of your time if you set aside time to meet withsomeone week after week who doesn't show up. After all, he whois faithful with much will be given more, but he who is unfaithfulwith little, even what he has will be taken from him. (Lk 16:10)

2. Available. When you are looking for someone to pour your lifeinto, you want them to have a heart that is available to the Lord aswell as to you. If someone's schedule is so packedwill activities and interests of their own and the Lord led them todo something else, they would be unable to say yes. The Lord'sdesire for your intentional time with another lady is that she wouldbecome a multiplying disciple herself. And if she is not available tolet the Lord use her in that way it can be compared to your lineagestopping.

3. Init iat ive taker. When I was growing up, I probably was the


most shy kid you knew. I would NEVER actually talk to someone,let alone initiate a conversation with someone because I wasterrified. If someone is not able to take initiative to talk to peopleand start spiritual conversations, they are not going to be able tomultiply their faith. It's not that they are a bad person or don'tlove the Lord, it just may be they have some personal areas togrow in before it would be good for you to help them walk by faith,communicate their faith and mutliply their faith. You can pray theLord would grow them in taking initiative and till then, you canmeet with someone who will take initiative to multiply their faith.

4. Teachable. The Pharisee's were the most hard-hearted,unteachable people there were in Jesus' day and therefore Jesusspoke to them very differently than He did anyone else. Noticethat none of them were included in his discipleship group. Untilsomeone is receptive to truth, it's not a wise use of your time toinvest significant time in them.

5. Heart for God. Do they really have a heart for the Lord andwant to live for Him? Or do they just want someone to meet withto talk about their problems? Sometimes ladies will want to meetwith you for the purpose of having a weekly counselingappointment rather than to grow in their relationship with God.Unless you are a trained counselor, be careful of taking on thatrole for people. You can turn them back to the Word of God andhelp them get Christian counseling if that is what is needed.

Did you notice the handy little acronym Master Plan Staff, Natewho blogs at Eternity Impact came up

with? FAITH. When your looking for someone tomentor, look for a FAITH filled lady.

6. Initiate w ith her. Ask her to coffee, ask questions; (In partthree of this series I have have a printable of good questions youcan ask) how she would like to grow, find out what she ispassionate about, what makes her tick, what she wants to see Goddo in her life, her hopes, dreams etc.

7. Cast vision and be clear w ith your hopes andexpectations of your time together. If you decide after gettingtogether with her (and find out she is full of FAITH) that you want

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to invest in her, ask her to get together again. When you gettogether again, affirm what you see in her and share with her thatif she would be up for it, you'd like to get together with herregularly and share some affirming reasons of why. Ask if shewould like to meet (however often your thinking) for (howeverlong you are thinking) to (what you are thinking) for(amount oftime you are thinking- ex. till the summer). Also ask her what shewould want from you and encourage her to ask you questionsduring your time together.

Next week, the final article in the Spiritual MentoringSeries, I w ill talk about what specifically what your timew ith your mentee can look like.

I hope you've benefited from the Spiritual Mentoring Series so far.If you think others would benefit would you consider sharing?Thanks!

What Exactly is a Mentor?A disciple, or a mentee is a learner. It can be compared to amedical apprentice. A student who follows a doctor around tolearn how to become a doctor. A disciple is someone who notjust acquires knowledge but learns skills on how to be about themission the Lord has given. Therefore a mentor, or discipler issomeone who takes someone under their wing who wants to livefor Jesus and helps them walk by faith, communicate their faithand multiply their faith.

How to be a MentorIn Part Two I gave some practical steps on how to find someoneto disciple and how to go about initiating that relationship withthem. In Part Three, How to be a Mentor, I will give you sometracks to run on, some things to do with your disciple.

Helpful Tools to Mentor/DiscipleLets start with the big picture, the end goal, with your disciple.Like I said above, the goal is not to just transfer information buthelp them walk by faith, communicate their faith and multiply

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their faith. I love how Walter Henrichsen in his book, DisciplesAre Made Not Born, explains it.

"Healthy disciples, like healthy cells, reproduce themselves.Reproduction and multiplication is something that God hasordained as a natural part of the life cycle. God's plan in theGreat Commission is for believers to reproduce in a mannerthat is significantly similar to human reproduction. The world'spopulation is exploding. God's plan, as set forth in the GreatCommission is for explosive reproduction of believers bydiscipling each new believer to reproductive maturity.

Let’s say for example that a gifted evangelist is able to lead1,000 people to Christ every day. Each year he will havereached 365,000 people, a phenomenal ministry indeed. Let’scompare him with a disciple who leads not 1,000 people a dayto Christ, but only one person a year. At the end of the year, thedisciple has one convert; the evangelist, 365,000. But supposethe disciple has not only led this man to Christ, but has alsodiscipled him. He has prayed with him, taught him how to feedhimself from the Word of God, gotten him into fellowship withlike-minded believers, taken him out on evangelism and showedhim how to present the Gospel to other people. At the end of thatfirst year, this new convert is able to lead another man to Christand follow him up as he himself has been followed up.

At the start of the second year, the disciple has doubled hisministry—the one has become two. During the second year,each man goes out and leads not 1,000 people per day to Christ,but one person per year. At the end of the second year, we havefour people. You can see how slow our process is. But note, too,that we do not have only converts, but disciples who are able toreproduce themselves. At this rate of doubling every year, thedisciple leading one man per year to Christ, will overtake theevangelist numerically somewhere in the 19th year. From thenon, the disciple and his multiplying ministry will be propagatingfaster than the combined ministry of dozens of giftedevangelists."

The goal is reproduction. How do you go about achieving thatend? Here's a free printable outline of what your time togetherwith your mentee/disciple can look like with the end goal inmind.


There are many good Bible studies to use with your disciple (Iobviously like the one I wrote), but I had an experience oncethat impacted what I do with every girl I meet with. I haddiscipled a girl for over a year. We did a lot of what was in theDISCIPLE acronym (though I hadn't written that yet) but Iassumed she understood the basics/foundations of the faith.Things like the importance of the Word of God and how to havea quiet time, what fellowship was, what evangelism was, how towalk in the Spirit, eternal security and so on so. Years later inconversation she said, "Somehow I just totally missed thebasics" and that one comment cut to the gut. I believe manybelievers today go to church and really want to grow and seeGod use them but are completely missing the foundational stuff.The truths that are going to sustain their relationship with Godfor the long haul.

So as far as the D in the acronym, Dive into God's Word, here isa helpful tool that will help make sure your disciple doesn't missthe foundational, super important stuff, the things that will makefor a strong, lasting relationship with the Lord.And I want to leave you with one other helpful tool (thoughthere are so many). Good questions will help surface issues thatneed to be addressed, but sometimes it's hard to think of them.So here's a list you can choose from. Enjoy!

50 Good Questions to Ask yourDisciple/Mentee1. What are you looking forward to?2. What is the biggest thing you are asking God to build intoyour life right now?3. What do you see as some of your strengths? How do you getto use them?4. What are some of your needs or areas you would like to seeGod change or continue to

develop?5. What areas in your personal character have you seen Godwork the most in the past year?6. How do you feel about your walk with the Lord right now?7. How do you feel about your ability and desire to study theBible?8. How is your prayer life?9. What are your times with the Lord like? What does yourtime with Him consist of?

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10. How do you honestly feel about evangelism?11. What is your understanding of spiritual multiplication?12. What encourages you?13. What motivates you?14. Is there anything in your personal life I can help youwith? Walk with the Lord?

Ministry skills? Development?15. How would you describe your relationship with God?16. What makes you feel the most satisfied?17. What causes the most stress in your life?18. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would itbe?19. Describe your relationship with your family20. Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?21. What has been the most significant spiritual experience inyour life since you became a

Christian?22. What has God been teaching you lately?23. Where are you feeling the greatest spiritual challenge?24. What are your expectations for discipleship?25. Do you feel valuable?26. Do you consider yourself a leader in general? Why or whynot?27. What do you think success looks like?28. What make you feel loved and accepted?29. What do you enjoy doing?30. Do you put more pressure on yourself or others?31. Are you the type of person who is willing to step out in faithand do what you know you

ought to do even when you don’t feel like it?32. How are you best motivated?33. How are you emotionally?34. How has your self talk/thought been?35.How do you respond to new people?36. How have you evidenced good boundaries? Bad boundaries?37. How are you doing with the good/bad split? How have youshown grace to yourself?

About Their Disciples:38. What do you want God to do through you this year?39. What are you praying for your disciples?40. How do your disciples respond to new people?41.What is your disciple’s next step of faith? Do they know


what their next step of faith is?42. How can you motivate your disciples?43. How can you impart vision?44. How is your disciple’s heart for the lost?45. How is your disciple’s involvement in outreach?46. Can your disciple explain to you the principle ofmultiplication?47. How does your disciple feel about discipling someoneelse? What are their fears?48. How well is your disciple doing at living out the essentialsof the Christian life?49. What does your disciple need to become a multiplier?50. What does your disciple need from you?

There are a ton more resources under the Tools and then GrowthResources Tab that will hopefully be a blessing to you. Thereare also a ton of great websites with truckloads of resources. Myfavorite is CruPressGreen.com

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PENUTUP

Demikianlah bahan mentoring inidisusun dan diperkaya denganbahan-bahan pelengkap lainnya.

Bahan-bahan bagus tidak akanpernah habis. Selalu ada hal-hal

baru setiap tahun. Kita harus senantiasa belajar, terusmengingat, terus menggali kebenaran Firman Tuhan, danmelakukannya dalam kehidupan sehari-hari.

Hidup kita akan bertumbuh dengan mentor yang baik dansebaliknya kehidupan mentor juga bertumbuh melaluiinteraksinya dengan para mentee.

Mentoring adalah kehidupan sehari-hari. Sama halnya denganpenginjilan, mentoring juga merupakan percakapan sehari-hari.Mentoring adalah relationship (relasi) dan keteladanan.

Be one & make one.Be disciple and Make Disciples for Christ.


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