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4 JUNE 2017 Dear Brothers and Sisters of Our Lady of Lourdes, This Saturday (June 3), couples from around NJ and the region gathered for a Pre-Cana retreat in Connor Hall. Each of them is preparing for the Sacrament of Matrimony. The prayer, hospitality, and meditations of the retreat are made possible by our dedicated Pre-Cana team of retreat facilitator-couples and volunteers from the parishes of St. Joseph’s, Our Lady of the Lake, and Our Lady of Lourdes. We are very grateful to all of them. The event – which takes place here at Lourdes – involves the commitment of couples and the sponsorship of both St. Joseph’s and Lourdes parishes. I share with you an article below from the Paulist Fathers’ website -- www.BUSTEDHALO.com – an article about life pre-Cana and post-Cana. Our own Pre-Cana team of couples shares their own lives with these engaged couples. Regarding sacrifice for one’s spouse, they recognize that their commitment involves compromise but always for the greater goal of communion on the wedding day and every day. Or, as Jesus reminded us about sacrifices made in love for God and for neighbor: “he that shall lose his life for my sake will find it.” (Matthew 16:25) EXCERPT FROM: “6 Tips for Being Better Prepared for Marriage” Source: Paulist Fathers’ website: www.BUSTEDHALO.com BY LYNN FREEHILL-MAYE JUNE 13, 2016 For our own wedding, we agonized about the ceremony, guest list, music, food, flowers, and every other logistic you could imagine. So three months before the big day, I decided to step back from getting ready for the wedding to get ready for the marriage. That meant taking a marriage prep course, gathering advice from married friends, and reading Timothy Keller’s excellent new book The Meaning of Marriage. Here are some of the tips we took to heart. 1. Name numbers. Rather than just the stock “discuss your expectations for money,” consider writing down and comparing some specific numbers. What do you expect your combined income to be five years from now? Will you have separate or joint bank accounts? How much do you each think should be saved for retirement? What percentage of your income should be spent on vacations or travel? How much can you each spend per month without consulting the other? 2. Frugality? Define it. Some pre-marital exercises have people describe whether their partner is “frugal” or “lavish.” But as one married friend pointed out, her husband’s idea of an extremely frugal lifestyle was her idea of a reasona- ble, average one. It’s more useful, she says, for couples to compare their definitions of frugality and lavishness with specific income numbers and ideas of items to save or spend on. For Your Stewardship of Time, Talent and Treasure FISCAL YEAR STARTING JULY 2016 WEEKLY GOAL: $ 6800 Collection May 20-21* $ 5556 Deficit: $ 1244 * Includes Online Giving Weekly Average Deposit WE ARE A STEWARDSHIP PARISH SHARING TIME, TALENT AND TREASURE Welcome! Every member needs to be registered in the Parish and become active in the life of Our Lady of Lourdes. When moving, please notify the Parish at 973.325.0110 or [email protected] Electronic giving has arrived. If you wish to enroll, a link to Parish Pay is available on our website: www.lourdeswestorange.org 3. Plan ahead for holiday traditions. The first few years may be easy, splitting or alternating holidays between your family and your spouse’s. When kids enter the picture, though, your presence will become more sought -after by the grandparents. Will you want huge extended -family gatherings that may require travel? Or would you rather establish quiet holidays at your own home? Do you need snow underfoot, or does a bright Hawaiian Christmas Day sound just as nice? Now’s the time to think ahead about what traditions you’d like to maintain or establish. 4. Trade off chores. Running a household is almost like running a business, with a surprisingly wide variety of tasks to be performed. There’s vacuuming, cooking, laundry, bill paying, grocery shopping, doing dishes, car maintenance, home repair, yard work, cleaning bathrooms, taking out garbage, filing taxes and manag- ing gadgets, for starters. Make a list of those chores, plus any others that come to mind. Circle the ones you like to do, and “X” the ones you prefer not to. Have your partner do the same. Compare lists. Negotiate. 5. Establish better conflict habits. Talk about how arguments were resolved in each of your families — and what you might like to do differently. Agree on some ground rules. Some basics: talk it out, lower your voice, and don’t use the silent treatment … And although you’ll hear other couples do it, don’t embarrass each other in front of others. 6. Spell out quirks. Several couples have told us the biggest challenge of the first year of marriage was simply getting used to each other’s quirks …Decide if any will be totally intolerable to the other and agree to work on those habits before you start screaming or otherwise driving each other bonkers. Blessed Pentecost Sunday to you. In Christ’s Peace, Father Jim Ferry
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4 JUNE 2017
Dear Brothers and Sisters of Our Lady of Lourdes,
This Saturday (June 3), couples from around NJ and the region gathered for a Pre-Cana retreat in Connor Hall. Each of them is preparing for the Sacrament of Matrimony. The prayer, hospitality, and meditations of the retreat are made possible by our dedicated Pre-Cana team of retreat facilitator-couples and volunteers from the parishes of St. Joseph’s, Our Lady of the Lake, and Our Lady of Lourdes. We are very grateful to all of them. The event – which takes place here at Lourdes – involves the commitment of couples and the sponsorship of both St. Joseph’s and Lourdes parishes. I share with you an article below from the Paulist Fathers’ website -- www.BUSTEDHALO.com – an article about life pre-Cana and post-Cana. Our own Pre-Cana team of couples shares their own lives with these engaged couples. Regarding sacrifice for one’s spouse, they recognize that their commitment involves compromise but always for the greater goal of communion on the wedding day and every day. Or, as Jesus reminded us about sacrifices made in love for God and for neighbor: “he that shall lose his life for my sake will find it.” (Matthew 16:25)
EXCERPT FROM: “6 Tips for Being Better Prepared for Marriage”
Source: Paulist Fathers’ website: www.BUSTEDHALO.com
BY LYNN FREEHILL-MAYE JUNE 13, 2016
For our own wedding, we agonized about the ceremony, guest list, music, food, flowers, and every other logistic you could imagine. So three months before the big day, I decided to step back from getting ready for the wedding to get ready for the marriage. That meant taking a marriage prep course, gathering advice from married friends, and reading Timothy Keller’s excellent new book The Meaning of Marriage. Here are some of the tips we took to heart. 1. Name numbers. Rather than just the stock “discuss your expectations for money,” consider writing down and comparing some specific numbers. What do you expect your combined income to be five years from now? Will you have separate or joint bank accounts? How much do you each think should be saved for retirement? What percentage of your income should be spent on vacations or travel? How much can you each spend per month without consulting the other?
2. Frugality? Define it. Some pre-marital exercises have people describe whether their partner is “frugal” or “lavish.” But as one married friend pointed out, her husband’s idea of an extremely frugal lifestyle was her idea of a reasona-ble, average one. It’s more useful, she says, for couples to compare their definitions of frugality and lavishness with specific income numbers and ideas of items to save or spend on.
For Your Stewardship of Time, Talent and Treasure
FISCAL YEAR STARTING JULY 2016 WEEKLY GOAL: $ 6800 Collection May 20-21* $ 5556 Deficit: $ 1244
* Includes Online Giving Weekly Average Deposit WE ARE A STEWARDSHIP PARISH
SHARING TIME, TALENT AND TREASURE Welcome! Every member needs to be registered in the Parish
and become active in the life of Our Lady of Lourdes.
When moving, please notify the Parish at 973.325.0110 or [email protected]
Electronic giving has arrived. If you wish to enroll, a link to
Parish Pay is available on our website: www.lourdeswestorange.org
3. Plan ahead for holiday traditions. The first few years may be easy, splitting or alternating holidays between your family and your spouse’s. When kids enter the picture, though, your presence will become more sought-after by the grandparents. Will you want huge extended-family gatherings that may require travel? Or would you rather establish quiet holidays at your own home? Do you need snow underfoot, or does a bright Hawaiian Christmas Day sound just as nice? Now’s the time to think ahead about what traditions you’d like to maintain or establish. 4. Trade off chores. Running a household is almost like running a business, with a surprisingly wide variety of tasks to be performed. There’s vacuuming, cooking, laundry, bill paying, grocery shopping, doing dishes, car maintenance, home repair, yard work, cleaning bathrooms, taking out garbage, filing taxes and manag-ing gadgets, for starters. Make a list of those chores, plus any others that come to mind. Circle the ones you like to do, and “X” the ones you prefer not to. Have your partner do the same. Compare lists. Negotiate. 5. Establish better conflict habits. Talk about how arguments were resolved in each of your families — and what you might like to do differently. Agree on some ground rules. Some basics: talk it out, lower your voice, and don’t use the silent treatment … And although you’ll hear other couples do it, don’t embarrass each other in front of others. 6. Spell out quirks. Several couples have told us the biggest challenge of the first year of marriage was simply getting used to each other’s quirks …Decide if any will be totally intolerable to the other and agree to work on those habits before you start screaming or otherwise driving each other bonkers.
Blessed Pentecost Sunday to you.
In Christ’s Peace, Father Jim Ferry
PRAY FOR THE SICK Vincent Aiello, Sean Bailey, Suzane Ball, Brendan Byrne,
Gina Cammarata, Darlene Cangialosi, Teresa Carbin,
Josephine Ciullo, Tom Collinson, Jeannie Cox, Peggy Dolan, George Fania,
Pierre Ferrus, Helen Filan, Anna Frazzano, Darius Galate, Catherine Gascoyne,
Judy Givas, Michael Harris, Marissa and Richard Hedstrom,
Jovann Henry, Yann Henry, Prepty Joint, Evelyn Judge, Tim Klein,
Stan Krenkowitz, Pio Nestor Liendo, Caitlin Maloney,
Leonard Margo a, Marion McConville, Stephanie Montano,
Noreen Meyers, Liam Morley, Florence Olabiyi,
William Ollenschleger, Thomas P. O’Neill, O lia Ortega, Idelourdes Pe on, Patrick Pierre, Mark Quarno, Thelma Ramaglia,
Margaret Rella, Mary Lou Ruppel, Vincent Santucci, Jr., Heather Scoffone, Patricia Seib, Natalie Sims, Joe Taylor,
Jimmy Tiernan, Robin Toplin, Ann Whelan. If you wish to have a loved one prayed for,
please call the rectory at 973.325.0110.
MASSES FOR THE WEEK SATURDAY 3 JUNE 8:30 am - Laura Molina 5:30 pm - Owen & Kathy Mooney 7:00 pm - (Spanish) Maria Dolores Valle & Cruz Valle
SUNDAY 4 JUNE 7:30 am - People of the Parish 9:30 am - Michael Chiaramonte 11:30 am - Jaroslav & Rose Konvalinka
MONDAY 5 JUNE 8:30 am - Thanksgiving Mass TUESDAY 6 JUNE 8:30 am - Dorothy McNally
WEDNESDAY 7 JUNE 8:30 am - Michael J. Wilk THURSDAY 8 JUNE 8:30 am - Nunzia Buono FRIDAY 9 JUNE 8:30 am - Leslie Krieger SATURDAY 10 JUNE 8:30 am - Michael O’Boyle 5:30 pm - Linda Halleran 7:00 pm - (Spanish) Gente de la Parroquia– People of the parish
SUNDAY 11 JUNE 7:30 am - People of the Parish 9:30 am - Robert & Bernice Shiel 11:30 am - Vincent Santucci
LITURGICAL MINISTERS—SUNDAY 11 JUNE
Mass Lector Eucharis c Ministers Altar Servers
7:30 am Howard Casey Howard Casey Mary Ellen Chandler Sr. James Soon
Rosalinda Saniel Lisa Westheimer
9:30 am Choir
JoAnn Melhorn Joseph Petrillo Ann Pflug John Pflug Bill Talbot
Natalie Heurtelou Maire Murphy Seamus Murphy
11:30 am
Maxine Nzegwu Virginia Dimapilis Michelle Gizzi Paul Hirsch Nancy Lanfrank
Faith Nzegwu Amir Stewart
11:30 am Children’s Liturgy of the Word
Annamarie Frey
10:30 am RCIA Sacred Heart Room
Eileen Reilly Alice McCauley
5:30 pm
Pat Sigalas Judith Albore Emily Kunz Frank Refinski Patricia Villarosa
Anika Fernandes Jennifer Fernandes Briana Sampson
THIS WEEK’S CALENDAR OF EVENTS
SUNDAY 4 JUNE 9:00 am - Recita on of Rosary—Church
9:30 am & 11:30 am Mass Bap sm MONDAY 5 JUNE 8:30 am - A er Mass—Miraculous Medal Novena 1:00 pm - Rosary Altar Society Annual Luncheon—Connor Hall WEDNESDAY 7 JUNE 6:00 pm - Adult Choir THURSDAY 8 JUNE 10:00 am Deadline - News, Announcements For June 18th Bulle n email: lourdesbulle [email protected]
SUNDAY 11 JUNE
This week’s Sanctuary Candle, a gi of the Abad & Ma as Families, is in memory of LORING ABAD (23RD ANN)
This week’s Bread and Wine, a gi of Gamie & Lindy Saniel, is in memory of GUILLERMO FERRARIS
THEROSARYALTARSOCIETYissellingShopRiteGiftCardstobeusedasCASHtobene itOurLadyofLourdesChurch.GiftcardswillbeavailablebeforeandafterallMassesonJune17&June18orbycall-ingtheRectoryat973.325.0110,Monday-Friday,9:00am-2:00pm.Thankyouforsupport. CarolFord,President
Peace & Good Scholarship Application
If you are a High School senior (class of 2017) and you have been involved in the parish as an altar server, choir member, lector, in youth ministry, religious education for four (4) years or more, you are eligible for a gift from our “Peace and Good Scholarship Fund” in memory of Monsignor Joseph Petrillo and Deacon Ernest Abad.
We request your application by Friday June 9, 2017. Please see the flyer in the bulletin or call the rectory 973.325.0110 for an application and the details.
“PARISH BINGO AT LOURDES”
We regret to report that Bingo will be discon nued at Lourdes. A er a valiant effort by our team of volunteers, we have been unable to sustain the par cipa on currently needed to con nue Bingo. Our Last Bingo was held on Tuesday, May 30.
We are grateful to our volunteers for pulling together for our parish and for our Bingo players. They have served Lourdes very capably and charitably. We are also grateful for our Bingo patrons who have helped our parish by their support.
In Christ’s Peace, Father Jim Ferry
ROSARY ALTAR SOCIETY will hold its Annual Luncheon on Monday, June 5, 2017 at 1:00 pm in Connor Hall. ALL ARE INVITED TO ATTEND. Carol Ford, President
COLLECTION FOR JUNE 24-25 ”MISSIONARY CO-OPERATIVE”
Our annual collec on for the Propaga on of the Faith, the Missionary Co-opera ve Appeal, will occur, with a visi ng missionary, on June 24-25, 2017. If you wish to use the pre-printed envelope for this appeal, please note that the envelope itself will not be dated but simply labeled “Missionary Coopera ve.” You will receive this envelope in the month of June. If you give before or a er June 24-25, we will ensure that the Propaga on of the Faith receives your generous offering. Thank you for your generosity.
CHRISTIAN BOOK DISCUSSION – Our Next Book: “TELLING SECRETS”
by: Frederick Buechner With eloquence, candor, and simplicity, a celebrated author tells the story of his father's alcohol abuse and suicide and traces the influence of this secret on his life as a son,
father, husband, minister, and writer. Join the Book Discussion Group on Thursday, June 16th at 7:00 pm in the Knights of Columbus Room, Connor Hall as they review their latest book. For informa on please call: JUDY ALBORE - 973-746-2606.
A VERY SPECIAL THANK YOU TO OUR LADY OF LOURDES: My day is made! I just received your very generous Box Top dona on. Your support means so much, not only to the school, but to the kids you are helping. I just wanted to take a moment to express my sincerest apprecia on for your help in the support of St. Joseph’s School Box Tops Fundraiser. You can rest assured that your contribu on will be put to good use by the school. Have a blessed day!
Sincerely, Ana (Box Tops Coordinator) Saint Joseph School, Jersey City, NJ
We rejoice with our Graduates......
We congratulate and rejoice with all our graduates. The celebra ons for the graduates are well-deserved. For some families, however, a full meal on any evening is a cause for “celebra on” as o en mes, their tables are bare or sparse with food. Please help us to con nue to distribute much-needed food throughout the Archdiocese. Your contribu ons to the Catholic Chari es clothing bins help to provide the funding for the con nua on of our many programs. Thank you.
