MOMMY-To Paidi Mou Kai Ego (=My Child and I) + EPOREX (Feb 09)
BJ MCKAY · 2020. 8. 19. · EGO IS THE ENEMY “YOU ARE THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE” - THE EGO....
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XSELF AWARENESS: THE EGO’S ANTIDOTE
BJ MCKAY
BJ MCKAY | LEADERSHIP CONSULTANT | ADVISA
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YOU ARE NOT
ENOUGH
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EGO IS THE ENEMY
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“YOU ARE THE CENTER OF
THE UNIVERSE”- THE EGO
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WHERE DOES MY EGO LIVE
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EGO PROTECTS MY VULNERABILITY
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A
DOMINANCE & VULNERABILITY
TEAM IMPACTINTERNAL SELF CONFIDENCE
Let me include others and collaborate
Needs:Independence
ControlChallenges
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EXTRAVERSION & VULNERABILITY
B
INFLUENCE DATA
EXTERNALSELF CONFIDENCE
Provide me time to think it through.
Needs:
Social acceptanceSocial validation
Social connection
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PATIENCE & VULNERABILITY
C
VARIETYPROCESS AND FAMILY =
SELF CONFIDENCE
I need variety.Needs:
TIME
ProcessFamily
Stability
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FORMALITY & VULNERABILITY
D
FLEXIBILITYCORRECTNESS = SELF CONFIDENCE
Don’t box me inNeeds:
Clear expectations
Performance Feedback
Fairness
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YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE WHAT YOU
UNDERSTAND
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WHY IS THIS A PROBLEM
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“WE SPEND SO MUCH OF OUR LIVES
REACTING TO LABELS, OUR OWN AND
OTHERS”- ANTHONY DE MELLO
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What labels am I busy defending each day?
• :90 exercise• List as many labels/roles that you
carry rapid fire• EX: Mother, Daughter, Teacher,
Boss, Co-worker, Mentor, Athlete, etc
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YOU ARE MORE
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EGO THREATENS HEALTHY WORK
CULTURES
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WHAT IF WE CAN’T MANAGE THE FORCE?
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STOP.BREATHE.
BE.
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10 MINUTES
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EXERCISE:PICTURE YOURSELF
OVERLOOKING A RIVER
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PRACTICE:FOUNDATION OF
SELF AWARENESS
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PLAN
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3 COLUMNS
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5 MINUTES
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HOW MUCH IS LEFT HERE?
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YOUR GOAL:SEPARATE REAL FROM PERCEIVED
THREATS
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THE VALUE RANKING BATTLE
WE SEE THINGS AND PEOPLE NOT AS THEY ARE, BUT AS WE ARE.
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PRESENCE +
LISTENING+
VULNERABILITY
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ACTION• 3 minutes• Think + write down 3 actions you
intend to take based on your personal notes from this session
• SMART style • Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant
and Timebound
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IT’S TIME TO EVOLVE
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