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Birth OrderBirth Order
Why You Are The Why You Are The Way You AreWay You Are
How Can three or four or even eight little How Can three or four or even eight little cubs be so different and yet come from the cubs be so different and yet come from the
very same den?very same den?
Yes, there are exceptions to the standard birth Yes, there are exceptions to the standard birth order rules but the exceptions are explainable order rules but the exceptions are explainable when you understand how birth order workswhen you understand how birth order works..Birth Order is the science of understanding your Birth Order is the science of understanding your place in the family line. place in the family line. Wherever you landed, it has affected your life Wherever you landed, it has affected your life in countless waysin countless ways..
Birds of a Feather Birds of a Feather Flock Together!Flock Together!
The first 23 American astronauts sent into outer The first 23 American astronauts sent into outer space, 21 were first borns and the other two space, 21 were first borns and the other two were only children.were only children.
A great number of presidents and pastors are first A great number of presidents and pastors are first borns. All presidents have been first born males borns. All presidents have been first born males in their family. (Excellent chances of developing in their family. (Excellent chances of developing first born traits and functioning as first borns, first born traits and functioning as first borns, which undoubtedly helped them be effective in which undoubtedly helped them be effective in their role of president and leader.their role of president and leader.
1992 Presidential 1992 Presidential CampaignCampaign
ClintonClinton (first born)- suave, confident, loaded (first born)- suave, confident, loaded with answers, and projected strong with answers, and projected strong leadership ablitiesleadership ablities
BushBush (middle child)- used a mediating (middle child)- used a mediating negotiating style, even while in debatenegotiating style, even while in debate
PerotPerot (last born)- hard hitting, outspoken, (last born)- hard hitting, outspoken, asked lots of embarrassing questions of asked lots of embarrassing questions of his opponents, and often has the audience his opponents, and often has the audience is stitchesis stitches
Babies of the family who are known Babies of the family who are known and loved by millions of movie and and loved by millions of movie and
TV fansTV fans Eddie MurpheyEddie Murphey Goldie HawnGoldie Hawn Billy CrystalBilly Crystal Joan RiversJoan Rivers Leslie NielsonLeslie Nielson Danny DeVitoDanny DeVito Drew CareyDrew Carey Jim CareyJim Carey Steve MartinSteve Martin Chevy ChaseChevy Chase Charlie ChaplinCharlie Chaplin
Exceptions!Exceptions!
Jay Leno is a baby, but both Johnny Carson and Jay Leno is a baby, but both Johnny Carson and David Letterman are middle children, born David Letterman are middle children, born
second of three.second of three.
Bill Cosby, one of the great comedians of all Bill Cosby, one of the great comedians of all time, is a first born. Cosby holds a doctorate time, is a first born. Cosby holds a doctorate degree, is a perfectionist. He named all of his degree, is a perfectionist. He named all of his children with names beginning with “E” –to children with names beginning with “E” –to
remind them to always seek excellenceremind them to always seek excellence..
Final ExamplesFinal ExamplesNewscasters and talk-show hosts on Newscasters and talk-show hosts on television are often first borns and only television are often first borns and only childrenchildrenPhil Donahue, Oprah Winfrey, Sonia Phil Donahue, Oprah Winfrey, Sonia Friedman, Geraldo Rivera, Arsenio Hall, Friedman, Geraldo Rivera, Arsenio Hall, Sally Jessy Raphael, and Rush LimbaughSally Jessy Raphael, and Rush LimbaughRosie O’Donnell Rosie O’Donnell Walter Cronkhite, Peter Jennings,Ted Walter Cronkhite, Peter Jennings,Ted Koppel, and Dan RatherKoppel, and Dan Rather
VariablesVariables Spacing- the number of years between children Sex of the child-Sex of the child- and in what sequence males and females are and in what sequence males and females are
bornborn Physical, mental or emotional differences Sibling deaths-Sibling deaths- which, if occurring early, cause the child below which, if occurring early, cause the child below
to be “bumped up” to the next birth orderto be “bumped up” to the next birth order AdoptionAdoption-- which, may or may not have an effect on birth order, which, may or may not have an effect on birth order,
depending on how old the child is when adopted.depending on how old the child is when adopted. Birth order positions of parents- first born parents usually run
a much different ship than later born Relationship between parents-Relationship between parents- parenting style, and personal parenting style, and personal
values they pass on to their childrenvalues they pass on to their children ““critical eye”-critical eye”- constant criticism takes it tollconstant criticism takes it toll Blending of families- in a step family certain birth orders often
get stepped on
1414 1313
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The Smith Family
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When sex differences create someone “special,” it can put pressure on the child immediately above or below that special
person
The Spencer Family
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1212
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The Massey Family
Personality and birth Personality and birth order are set after age 5 order are set after age 5 or 6or 6
First BornsFirst BornsTend to be conscientious, well organized, Tend to be conscientious, well organized, serious, goal orientedserious, goal oriented, achieving, people , achieving, people pleasers, believers in authoritypleasers, believers in authorityOthers signs include; Others signs include; perfectionistperfectionist, , reliable, list makerreliable, list maker, critical, scholarly, self-, critical, scholarly, self-sacrificing, conservative, supporter of law sacrificing, conservative, supporter of law and order, legalistic, and self reliantand order, legalistic, and self reliant
Two Kinds Of First Two Kinds Of First BornsBorns
Compliant Nurtures and Caregivers
Please othersPlease others Very reliableVery reliable ConscientiousConscientious How-can-I-please-youHow-can-I-please-you Good studentsGood students Needs Mom & Dads approvalNeeds Mom & Dads approval Attract the great white sharks Attract the great white sharks
of lifeof life
The Movers and Shakers AssertiveAssertive Strong willedStrong willed High achieverHigh achiever Hard driverHard driver Set high goalsSet high goals Badgerlike qualitiesBadgerlike qualities The very traits and abilities The very traits and abilities
that enable you to succeed at that enable you to succeed at work, at church, or in other work, at church, or in other organizations will often work organizations will often work against you in your close against you in your close personal relationshipspersonal relationships
Only ChildOnly ChildConfidentConfidentArticulateArticulateSeemingly on top of thingsSeemingly on top of thingsSelf-centeredSelf-centeredThe key to understanding an only child is The key to understanding an only child is knowing why he or she is an only.knowing why he or she is an only.Excellent candidates for growing up to be Excellent candidates for growing up to be ultra perfectionistsultra perfectionists
Middle ChildMiddle ChildFeeling left outFeeling left outIgnoredIgnoredInsultedInsultedBranching off effectBranching off effectSqueezed from above and belowSqueezed from above and belowImportance of peer groupImportance of peer groupGood mediatorGood mediatorSecretiveSecretiveMentally tough, independentMentally tough, independent
The BabyThe BabyOutgoing charmersOutgoing charmersPersonable manipulatorsPersonable manipulatorsUncomplicatedUncomplicatedAbsent mindedAbsent mindedCarefreeCarefreeAffectionateAffectionateTemperamentalTemperamentalSpoiledSpoiledImpatientImpatientNot taken seriously by familyNot taken seriously by family