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4 Personal Journeys • Laurel D'Andrea •Beyond 50 celebrates and admires how peoplesurvive and thrive despite incredible adversities.

6 The Plight of Dwight• Laurel D'Andrea • Oneman's fix to recovery.

8 Overcoming Obstacles• JudiWallace • Finding the strength within.

10 Register to Save a Life • Annick Lim •Organ donor registration can save lives.

11 Support is Key for Brain Injury • MagdaKapp • Deb's support team is vital to herrecovery.

12 Life! Live It! • Bill Downie • Don't letyesterday rob you of tomorrow.

16 The Kindness of Strangers• Michele Morris • Kindness of strangers toovercome life's obstacles.

20 From Corporate Leadership toCommunity Giving • Chantelle Funk• Introducing our Angel Among Us, Joy Playford.

21 Water, water everywhere...• Sandy Rehaume • The Q & As to clean up.

22 Earring Lost? No... Hearing Loss!• TomMillar • The obstacles to better hearing arefading away.

24 The End to Scary Dentist Visits• Dr. RobertWageman • Nothing personal,Doc,but I hate going to the dentist!

26 The Right Attitude • Dr.Craig Crippen •Practical tips to help you persevere through life'schallenges.

27 Strike “Can’t” From Your Vocabulary• Dr.Wayne Terai • Can’t means: Could’ve AndNever Tried.

28 Here are the Facts • Crimestoppers

29 Staying Alive Tradeshow• Exhibitors wanted!

30 Community Events• Lots to see and do this summer.

31 A Place to Be • Amanda Swoboda• The Artists Among Us Art Show fun for all ages.

32 Bowling Goes Green in City Park• Alan Stirling • Kelowna will welcome the finestyoung bowlers in Canada.

34 Dating in the Middle Ages - Part 2• Darcy Nybo • Online dating site..really does eatup a lot of your time.

35 Travel Tailor Made for Women• Reenie Reid • Are you looking for adventure?

36 One Stumble at a Time• Marilyn J.Brown • Most people are strongerthan they think when facing challenges.

38 Invisible Pain - Coping with MS• Miriam King • The invisibility of this diseasemakes it hard for those living with MS.

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Ever wonder what makes a persontick? As we go through life, we meetindividuals who hold a special place inour hearts. Some fascinate or intrigueus more than others. It may be theirlooks, their personalities,or the gracefulway they handle a situation. We’ve allhad moments in life, experienced trialsand tribulations, but at the end of theday most of us make it through.Overcoming obstacles is the theme

for this issue - we choose it to celebrateand admire how people survive andthrive despite incredible odds andadversities. What does the Second Cupcoffee shop; Rotary International andthe Okanagan Volunteer OpportunitiesFair have in common? They’re placeswhere I connected with the threepeople on the cover.Each one has over-

come an obstacle or two, yet each onehas a passion for life that draws you in.Dwight is part of the 10am coffee

crew that hangs out at the Second Cup.Hehas the biggest smile,acknowledgeseveryone with a warm hello and alwaysseems happy. When it’s time to leave,you see himmanoeuvre the tight spacewith his two stable sidekicks (his canes)and you stop and envy his attitude. Heisgoing to sharepartofhisworldwithus.Judi is a lady, in every sense of the

word, and her smiles lights up a room.Mother, wife, friend and life coach - sheis all of these things andmore. I firstmetJudi at a Rotary event andher smile andlaugh were infectious. The love she hasfor her family and life shows in her eyes.Battling cancer is never easy for anyone,but Judi does it with style and grace,and she is usually the one who liftseveryone else’s spirits. She is achampion volunteer when it comes tocancer and even organized a “coffeegroup,” where survivors andcaregivers meet once amonth. She has agreed toshare her tale and I know itwill move all who read it.Annick is an interesting

young lady with amuch olderkidney. This 37 year old’s bodyhouses a 62-year-old kidney.Thanks to the miracle of

medicine and her father’s donation of akidney, Annick is one of the organdonour registry’s strongest advocates.We are thrilled and excited that peoplelike Annick share their personaljourneys, so we see the importance ofthe registry.Our entire publication is about

people, causes and events dealing withovercomingobstacles. It’s our hope thatone or all inspire you to overcome anychallenges youmay have.My boys are growing up so fast,with

Devon’s graduation this year and Dallasheading into high school, they, too, faceadversities ahead.My advice to them issimple; take the time to ponder youractions, do your research on what-ever is challenging you and ask forhelp.The world is filled with individualswho will help you overcome anything,all you have to do is ask - but moreimportantly, listen and absorb theirwisdom.

Left to right: Laurel, Dallas and Devon.

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ABOUT THE COVER: Annick,Dwight and Judi haveovercome their share ofobstacles. They all face lifewith a great attitude, forthem the little things justdon’t matter. Check out thehurdles each of them haveovercome, it will inspire you.

PersonalJourneysSubmitted by Laurel D’Andrea


Dwight Klimosko was born in Edmonton on January 30,1954. He remembers spending a lot of time with his grand-parents in Leduc, and it was his grandfather who taught himhow to skate when he was four years old. During his adole-scent years, Dwight spent most of his time at the community

rink playing hockey,and hanging at localpizza joints. Helping onthe family’s dairy farmwas a natural thing forDwight ; h is unc leshowed him how to drive and to work on the farm.In 1973,Dwight married the love of his life,Debbie, and had

two outstanding children, Nathan and Shawntel. Both haveachieved great success and he is one very proud dad. He is alsoa very proud grandfather and couldn’t stop bragging about hisbeautiful and brilliant his seven-year-old granddaughter Alexis.Dwight and Debbie had a good life and decided to build a

home in LakeCountry.Dwight hada lot of experience as hehadbeen building homes and both were excited to be doing thisproject together. I guess you could say they had it all.The words that Dwight used next sent a chill down my

spine. October 29, 1985 would be the start of their familydecline. Dwight and family were hit by a drunk driver and lifewas never the same again.Debbie - Dwight’s “blue-eyed angel,” as he graciously calls

her - was injured in the crash. But her strength allowed her totake care of everyone else until further help came. Dwight saysshe deserves a winning lottery ticket for keeping the familytogether. Shawntel and Debbie were hurt physically, whileDwight and his son Nathan sustained head and other physicalinjuries. The head trauma caused Nathan and Dwight tobecome negative in their thinking and speaking, so the familyhad to cope with that aspect as well.So how does one channel negative energy into something

positive, I asked?“A friend of mine explained that I should have a hobby,”

Dwight said, so he gave Dwight his 1964 Pontiac Parisienne

Dwight enjoys his car every time the sun shines.

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ThePlightofDwightSubmitted by Laurel D’Andrea


Convertible. This car had been sitting in his friend’s yard since1969 so it was in desperate need of TLC.And it was this car thatwould give Dwight a strong sense of accomplishment.For the next five years Dwight spent his time cleaning,

painting, buying parts and working on his new found hobby.He tells me that many of his friends and some local businesseshelped in his endeavour to get this beauty back on the road.His left leg continues to be his biggest challenge and being

handicapped has made life difficult Sometimes he feels a bitisolated. Dwight says his wife was incredible through theordeal - caring for their home, children and making him feel apart of the family and loved despite his physical impairmentsand head trauma.The ironic thing is he hides his pain well, he always has a

smile, he acknowledges everyone and makes you feel like youmatter. I asked him what got him through it all. He citeshis family first and foremost, close friends and then thecommunity as a whole. Somany strangers stepped up to theplate and offered to help, and he is grateful for their supportand encouragement.When you see Dwight in his beautifully restored car, smiling

ear to ear, keep in mind he would rather have the life he hadprior to Oct. 29, 1985, than the gem he now drives. It has notbeen an easy road to travel, but he is appreciative each andevery day for the love and support he has experienced.Dwight’s final word of advice for us: “Keep your head up andwatch those corners.”


World Cancer Day, February 4, 2012,waswhen I decided to start writing a blogon copingwith a recurrenceof cancer.Ouryear had begun with a roller coaster ofemotions.We began the NewYear with aCelebration of Life for my mother-in-law,who had peritoneal cancer.Two days after her celebration, I had a

colonoscopy that ruled out colon cancer.With a collected sigh of relief, our familycontinued the grieving process. How-ever, celebration was short lived as 10days later a routine mammogram indic-ated the cancer was back. In December,we had just marked three years of posttreatment from a cancer discovered in2008. This new diagnosis shocked ourfamily. I will admit, it initially sent mymind to somepretty dark places.The firsttime around, we were all confident Iwould beat the disease. However, thesecond time, we had just lost ourchildren’s grandmother and with that,

some of our confidence.It didn’t take long formy family to rally

around me again. We spent a weekendcelebrating our daughter’s 21st birthday.My family was able to recharge and getready to face this next challenge.Being innature, fresh air and with loved ones iswhat we needed to feel like we were astrong,united family.My initial thought process when I was

diagnosedwith breast cancer in 2008wasto have a double mastectomy. How-ever,once the risks and statistics were explai-ned tome,I decided apartialmastectomywas the better option. In 2012, my mindwasmade up and there would be no onethat could change it. I decided for me, thebest option was a bilateral mastectomywithout reconstruction.My surgerywas scheduled for February

14 - not themost romanticValentine’s Daybut maybe one of the most important inour 33 years of togetherness. I decided I

needed to do everything I could to getready for the surgery. I made appoint-ments with a physiotherapist andmassage therapist to prepare my body. Istarted doing the post surgical exercisesahead of time usingweights. I also believein the importance of having the mindready for surgery. I started visualizing theprocedure and a successful outcome. Infact, the day before, I used the actual timeof the surgery to imaginehow Iwould feel.I listened to themusic that Iwould listen toduring the operation.As I prepared myself for chemo, I

again used visualization andmeditationto prepare my mind for the tribulations.This time, I was better prepared and hadvery few side effects. On chemo days, Iwould prepare my little bag of goodies. Ihad my music player with visualizationsand relaxing music that I played as I wasbeing prepped. I packed an amethystangel that my sister sent me that helpedme to let go and trust the process. Inaddition, I carried a symbol of Stone-henge for courage and strength. Finally, Ibrought snacks for comfort. I was alsoextremely lucky that I always had myhusband, son or daughter with me,providing unconditional love.We never truly know what life holds

for us, but I believe every now and thenwe are fortunate enough to find thestrength within us to challenge theobstacles thrown in our direction.And ofcourse, the love and support of such anincredible family certainly helps.

JUDI WALLACE, Life Coach • 250-826-4887 •www.judiwallacecoach.ca

OvercomingObstaclesSubmitted by Judi Wallace

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If you would have askedme just a few short years ago whatmy passion was, I wouldn’t have been able to give you ananswer. But, today, I can. I’m an advocate for organ donation. Ihelp people understand the importance of registering theirwishes regarding organ donation.I’ve had kidney disease all my life and had the miracle of

transplantation through a living donor - my dad - in 1999. In2008, I attended the first ‘Give the Gift of Life’KidneyWalk and Iwas hooked. I now volunteer with the Kidney Foundationwhenever I can.Because of the amazing gift my father gave, today I can

celebrate my health, my marriage, wonderful life, family andamazing friends. I was 23 andmy dad was 48. Today, I am a 37-year-old woman living very well with a 62-year-oldtransplanted kidney.Did you know that 85 per cent of us say we would donate

our organs but only 18 per cent have actually have stepped upand registered? There are 836,239 who have registered in BC.I urge you to consider registering your wishes and save your

loved ones the burden of having to make the decision for youat your time of passing.The best way to overcome an obstacle is to educate

ourselves. As a society we fear the unknown and that inturnputs up barriers. Part of my mission in life is to inform thecommunity on how organ donor registration can save livesand perhaps one day save the life of someone they love.I’ve found the more informed people are of the facts, the morereceptive they are to registering. Thus I’ve listed some of thecommonmyths and truths below:MYTH: I’m registered throughmy driver’s license.FACT: The BC Transplant Organ Donor Registry replaced allprevious ways of indicating your decision about organdonation.MYTH: I’m too old.FACT: There is NO AGE LIMIT to register. The health of theorgans rather than the age of the individual will determinewhether the organs can be transplanted.MYTH: I’ve hadmedical conditions.FACT: Everyone should register their decision regardless of anymedical conditions. A medical team does a thoroughexamination of every potential donor to determine whatorgans can be used for transplant.I’d never want to leave a burden on my family for my most

personal final wishes and that’s why I’m registered.My hope isthat youwill register too.Fill out the simple formwith your carecard and remember to share your wishes with your loved ones.Register today! Call 1-800-663-6189 or visit transplant.bc.ca.


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Submitted by Annick Lim

Registered Donors in the Okanagan

Kelowna 26% of the populationLake Country 15.6% of the population

Penticton 19% of the populationSummerland 25% of the population

Westbank/West Kelowna 16% of the populationProvincial Total for BC 18% of the population

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Chances are you know someone who has been affectedby brain injury - it happens in an instant, but lasts a lifetime.In 2008,Debworked as a legal assistant for Hergott Law in

West Kelowna. She was actively involved in staff wellness,and had organized a“bike to work” initiative.One fateful day,she got into her gear - complete with a bike helmet - and setfor home, riding carefully along the shoulder of a busyroadway. What followed changed her life forever.Deb was the victim of a hit and run, and the driver was

never identified. The last thing Deb remembers was the loudyelling of an irate truck driver and a “flash of white paint”before she hit the ditch and was knocked unconscious.Coincidentally, one of Deb’s sons happened to be drivingalong on this same road, when he noticed her bike at thescene.This was fortuitous as it seemsDeb had not thought totake any identification with her that day.Her next memory was of waking up in the hospital with

her daughter at her bedside sobbing,“please don’t die onmybirthday,Mom!” WhileDebwas able to recover physically,shewas not made aware at the time that she’d sustained a braininjury in the fall.Over the next 18months she struggled withfatigue, anxiety, anger, frustration and an inclination thingsweren’t quite right. She recalls a“heavy feeling”and being ina fog. Simple day-to-day tasks, such as cooking or cleaning,did not come easily, and she found herself making mistakesor forgetting to follow through.The issues withmemory loss,problem solving, planning and organizing were significant.She remembers standing in the shower and not knowinghow to use the shampoo and conditioner - a problem thatresulted in her “looking like either Donald Trump or PhyllisDiller!”In 2009, a doctor administered a simple neuropsych-

ological test and told her that she had a brain injury. Havingthat information made a huge difference. Deb began toimprove steadily. Through determination, a strong faith, andlearning strategies,such as having a quiet place and knowingher physical and mental limits, she was able to becomestronger and more independent. She is still easily distractedand, as she calls it, “goes down rabbit holes” (such as beingcaptivated by the sticker aisle in Walmart), but she acceptsthis behaviour and allows herself to be who she now is.Deb believes that brain injury is one of the loneliest

injuries that can occur.A support system is vital to healing,and she was fortunate to have a wonderful family at herside. Deb has started a small soap business and remainsinvolved with a peer support group at BrainTrust Canada inKelowna. She is also an avid supporter of her previousemployer Paul Hergott’s “OneCrashIsTooMany.com”campaign to reduce preventable car accidents.

A high percentage - in fact 85 per cent of brain injuries canbe preventedwith the use of helmets.Sadly Debwas not oneof these. But “wearing the gear” and taking “safe risks” isalways thebest course of action for lowering the risk of injury.Staying safe in other ways is also important for injuryprevention. For example, falls can happen easily in the homeand it is important to ensure loose rugs are fixed in someway.Also it is important to keep your brain healthy.As you age asresearch shows it’s possible to reduce your risk of Alzheimer’sdisease and other dementias with proper eating, beingmentally and socially active, and keeping stress low.BrainTrust Canada is a progressive non-profit organization

that provides community rehabilitation for peoplewith braininjury, and has a strong focus on prevention. For furtherinformation call 250-762-3233.

MAGDA KAPP is the Director of Communicationsfor BrainTrust Canada,where she is responsible forthe association’s marketing initiatives and wasinstrumental in programs, such as the award-winning Protect Your Head campaign for youthand the SponsorMyHead online contest.Magda ismarried and lives in West Kelowna with herhusband and golden retriever.

Brain InjurySubmitted by Magda Kapp

Deb believes that brain injury is one of theloneliest injuries that can occur.

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At age 35, I was a fit, healthy, nonsmoker, low-cholesterol kind of guy.Yet Ihad crushing chest pains on exertion,run-ningdownmyarmtomywrist,andviolentruns of very rapid heart arrhythmias.But I thought, “Hey, I’m a young fit

athlete,always have been,can’t bemuch,just pushed a little too hard.”After procrastinating for a year, I went

tomyGP. I had the usual heart tests;ECG,stress test, x-rays and finally a holtermonitor that would trace my heart beat.Committed to capture all I could on thetape, I put ski boots in a duffel bag andmarched up a hill, which resulted in along run of wild beats and pain. I gotdizzy, saw shooting stars that weren’tthere and fell into a snow bank. Istruggled to my feet and went home,mildly pleased and quite smug that I hadcaptured on tape the symptoms I hadbeen describing.Little did I know I was experiencing

ventricular fibrillation or sudden deathsyndrome.Two days later the GP calls. “Bill, I have

results of the holter monitor,meet me atemergency now and bring your tooth-brush!” It sounded serious, and it was.When I walked into emergency, I wasplaced into awheelchair andwhisked off

to ICU, admitted and wired up. Despiteexperiencing broken bones and tornligaments, I had never been in hospitalovernight. The little rolling table had anassortment of dishes,bottles,saucers,etc.I had no ideawhich onewas for brushingteeth or voiding - a new word for myhospital vocabulary. At some point thatnight I had to void, so I re-arranged thewires and hopped out of bed with abottle from the rolling table. Bells wentoff, lights flashed,nurses came sprinting -I guess one’s heart rate goes up when

one stands up.The next day came an angiogram.

The cath labwas on a lower floor and thestaff wheeled me down the elevator.Along this route is the cut off to themorgue. I did have a fleeting thoughtthat was where we were headed - thatperhaps I was dead and this is what itwas like - not much different than life.Life, death and ICU stress conjure up allsorts of mind games! When we passedthe hallway leading to the morgue andkept going, I knew I must still be alive.

Life! Live It!Submitted by Bill Downie

Bill is an avid outdoorsman and recreational enthusiast.

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The results of all the tests revealedelectrical problems - ventricular fibrill-ation clocked at 300 bpm (or quivers),and a plumbing problem - 98 per centblockage of the left anterior descendingcoronary artery. Not good.I have bad genes - my dad and both

grandfathers died of heart disease intheir early 50s. But I was determined tomitigate the negative impacts of thegene pool for my kids.Fol lowing my stay in ICE, I

occupied a room with other heartpatients. I noted that I started tomimic the hospital shuffle. When Iwas a probation and parole officer andused saw inmates in jail, they had thesame gait - the jailhouse shuffle. It’s aninstitutional thing, I guess.I was airlifted to Vancouver for a

coronary angioplasty - a relatively newprocedure at the time,and then returnedto KGH by air ambulance to monitor theVF. I was released within days.“You’re good to go, get back to your

usual routine,” the cardiologist said. Mynormal is very active. One week later Iwas back playing in the senior men’sbasketball league, without pain, smilingeven when the opposition roared overme. “Why? Because I’m here.” That’ssomething not to be taken for granted.I was always fit, but took up running

and that summer I recruited twoneighbors to run with me to train andcomplete in the Kelowna Midsummer10K. my timewas terrible,but I got fasterand competed in manymore races.Another bout of heart concerns

plagued me in 2010 - angina, irregularrhythm, etc. Same battery of testsrevealed the same artery and othersblocked and ventricle walls thinning. Noneed for further intervention at the timeI was told, just go be normal again. Mynormal continued to be hiking, skiing,

biking, snow shoeing,whitewater raftingand wilderness canoe trips.About five years ago I went to Ottawa

as one of two voluntary sector leadersfrom across Canada to join a Federal TaskForce. I didn’t have a car there, so Ibought a road bike and used that to rideto and fromwork.

I rodelong and fast and on my route was apool. Naturally, since I was alreadyrunning and biking, I thought, why notlearn to swim anddo a triathlon? So I didand completed in my first one in 2006.Then came the lesion on my face. For

over a year I rationalized (again) that itwas just a sore from my reading glasses,sunglasses or perhaps swimminggoggles. Finally, I showed it tomydoctor.He arranged a biopsy and,yep, it was skin

cancer. After a total of four surgeries, it isno longer an issue in my daily routine.Frankly, I never think about it.In 2006, I started to have other funny

things happening to my body. I haddifficulty controlling my razor whenshaving, suffered from a stiff neck andshoulders and was exhausted by noon.Then, I couldn’t write. At a meeting oneday, I asked one of my managers tomakenotes because I couldn’twrite.

In due course, it was off to theGP with my list of about 10symptoms. That led to a referral to

a neurologist where I under-went anumber of tests. “This requires furtherexploration,” I was told andwas sent off tothe Pacific Parkinson’s Research Centre atUBC to have an assessment there.Months later I get the diagnosis. “Mr.Downie, you have a chronic, progressive,incurable brain disease.” That’s a list ofwords you don’t want strung together inone phrase!“Bummer,” I said. “I better get at it - I

have lots to do - adventures to seize”.The chronic, progressive incurable

brain disease is Parkinson’s. It’s sneaky. It

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infiltrates your life very slowly and it challenges every strategywith which you try to mitigate it. It’s a journey!I won’t go into detail of all the symptoms of Parkinson’s

disease; you can look them up. It has been aptly described byJoel Havermann: “Like you are always bucking a strongheadwind, always trucking uphill.” And it seems the journeynever gets easier.It’s a very complicated, cunning and determined disease

that seems focused on controlling most aspects of your life.When you think youhave it neutralized - or at least copingwithit - it presents somewhere else. I’m reminded of that carnivalgamewith the gopher puppets that pop up - you try to smackone with a club and another pops up. In the book, A LifeShaken, the author describes the disease as one that moveswith aglacier’s speedandpower.Thoseof uswith aprogressivedisease describe a future more challenging than the present,hence one of my favourite expressions - “it doesn’t get anybetter than this.”Like all formidable adversaries, heart disease, cancer, and

Parkinson’s have taught me, as well as tested me. They havereinforced my faith in the resilience of the human spirit. I canguarantee that life is not going to unfold as you had planned -life happens along theway,with its inherent bumps and lumps,and even regrets. But there is lots of wiggle room for joy,adventure and humour. Don’t let yesterday rob you oftomorrow.I’m way to busy to be stuck in self-pity or mired in the“why

me” mentality. There are moments, though, that I need anemotional tune up, but I am not going to let what couldbecome an obsession with disease minimize my potential andcontribution. I am somuchmore thanmy challenges.Here are my suggestions for inoculating yourself against

letting a debilitating disease or challenging life circumstanceget you down:• Be as active as you can, very active.• Have a sense of adventure.• Surround yourself with positive people and be one of them.• Lighten up and don’t take yourself so seriously - no one elsedoes.• Look after your body,mind, and emotions.• Maintain a sense of spirituality and wonder.• Care a lot about people and use things, and don’t get thosetwo reversed.• Make the world a better place because you were here.A quote I like is: “We are continually faced with a series of

great opportunities, brilliantly disguised as insolvableproblems.”

BILL DOWNIE has called the Okanagan home for over 30 years. He hascoached minor sports, sat on numerous community-based boards andCity of Kelowna committees.His hasworked as amanager in the provincialgovernment, instructor at both UVIC and OUC, seconded to a Federal TaskForce in Ottawa and as Executive Director at KCR. Bill is an avidoutdoorsman and recreational enthusiast. In spite of his many accom-plishments, his pride is in the successes of his three adult children.

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Overcoming obstacles sometimesmeans tripping over those obstacles,falling, and getting back up again. I havehad the pleasure of sharing my cancerjourney over the last year with thefaithful readers of this magazine.When Iam in medical waiting rooms, I often seepeople reading Beyond 50, as they waitfor test results or procedures.

In fact, not too long ago as I satnervously awaiting an MRI, I noticedsomeone beside me reading an article Ihad written about managing stress. Ithought the irony was delicious and Ilaughed in spite of myself. So the story Isharewith younow is for all thosepeoplesitting in waiting rooms, worried aboutwhat’s next. Hopefully this will remindyou that we all fall from time to time,butwith the help of others,we ultimately getback up again.

Recently, I was at a pedestrian cross-walk at a local mall in the middle of abusy day of traffic. I hurried to cross thestreet and that’s when it happened.Something seemed to grab hold of myankle, and with arms flailing, I started tofall face first onto the pavement. Mysunglasses left my head in one direction,while my keys took flight in another. Mypurse skidded through the intersectionas I lay there like road kill.

And that’s when I saw him - the kindstranger running towards me, whograbbedmy hand and peeledme off theground. He gathered all my belongingsand offered me his arm as I limpedungracefully forward. I looked back tosee a tangled wire, the culprit thatcaused my demise, and the strangerpicked it up to ensure that no otherunsuspecting travellers would be caughtin its trap.

With genuine concern he asked if Iwas okay. I almost answered, “no, Ihave two cancers, and I have beenfighting really hard for awhile now.”Luckily, my brain did its duty as a filterbefore I divulged my entire medicalhistory.When I realized he was asking if Iwas okay in reference to my fall, Imanaged to stammer, “I think so.” Thenhe wanted to know if he could callsomeone to come and get me. I assuredhim I would be alright, and frankly, I justwanted to get the heck out of there, as

my egowasmore bruised thanmy body.My knight in shining armour started

to hand back my belongings andinadvertently I grabbed his Purdy’s bagby mistake, which was wrapped tightlyaround his arm. We both laughed andhe said, “Maybe you should take mychocolates, I think you deserve themafter what just happened.” I laughed alittle too loudly, in my nervousness andembarrassment.

We parted ways as I rushed backthrough the intersection to find thesafety of my vehicle, and ultimately myhome. I am afraid to look on YouTubeunder the heading “Falling woman incrosswalk,” as I’m sure I will be there.There were many people who witnessedmy fall that day, but only one personcame tomy aid. I am forever gratefully tohim, and perhaps he will read this storyand know how much I appreciated hiskind gesture.

So the next time you see someonefall, literally or figuratively, put out yourhand to help them up. They may pay itforward when someone else’s turncomes.There are times when we need torely on the kindness of strangers toovercome life’s obstacles. I believekindness is in each of us, and it is theessence of our humanity. It allows us tosurvive the fall, knowing that with thehelp of others, we will get back up, timeand time again.


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Joy Playford recently switchedgears. She retired from a 27-yearcareer in development bankingto take on a new challenge -community leadership. For thepast two decades, Joy held avariety of senior managementand leadership roles in theBusiness Development Bank ofCanada. One of the mostimportant things for her wasworking with people and havingthe greatest impact for clients.

Three years ago, life threw Joy a curveball. At the height ofher corporate career, she was diagnosed with ovarian anduterine cancers. The diagnosis was daunting and scary. How-ever, she felt confident in the people taking care of her.

Two years later, Joy was cancer free and preparing forretirement. Her future direction was clear; she was passionateabout her community and using her leadership skills to helpmake a difference.

“I was so grateful for the wonderful care I received at the

BC Cancer Agency, it was a natural thing forme to use my skills in a meaningful way, it’s agift,” says Joy, who chairs the BC CancerFoundation’s Regional Development Council(RDC) in Kelowna.

Joy’s mantra is, “heads, hearts and hands,”as she believes that community is about thecollaboration of these parts, a comingtogether of many people to make the wholecommunity better. She also believes thatphilanthropy must start at home, and leadsby example. Joy and her husband, Marty,made a significant gift to the Foundation in

celebration of her retirement and successful cancer outcome. The gift helped to seed a new research program, PREDICT,

that will soon start at the BC Cancer Agency Sindi AhluwaliaHawkins Centre for the Southern Interior. “PREDICT is reallyabout patients, clinicians and researchers collaborating andsharing knowledge to make things better now, and ensurebetter outcomes for the future,” Joy explains. “It was theperfect expression of what I had already benefitted from.”

Joy also sits on the BC Cancer Foundation’s DiscoveryLuncheon committee. Last year the inaugural event raisedfunds for a leading-edge HDR Brachytherapy pilot at theAgency, looking at a new treatment method for prostatecancer. The 2012 Discovery Luncheon will raise funds forPREDICT.

“As a cancer survivor, I can speak to the fact that beinginvolved with BC Cancer Foundation has been veryempowering. It inspires me to work with communitymembers, doctors and professional staff, who are partneringto move cancer research and treatment forward,” says Joy.

One of the things she’s discovered by volunteering onthe Foundation’s Council is, “there are plenty ofopportunities for us to continue to make a difference.”

Joy believes that as more boomers retire from theircorporate positions, we’ll see more people engaging inphilanthropic and community roles with their time, talentand financial resources. “It’s a true coming together of thehead, heart and hand,” she says.

Learn more about the BC Cancer Foundation, theDiscovery Luncheon and ways you can volunteer your skills

to enable cancer research. Call 250-712-3921 or visit www.bccancerfoundation.com

CHANTELLE FUNK is a Development Officer at theBC Cancer Foundation in the Southern Interior andcoordinates events including the Sindi AhluwaliaHawkins Golf Tournament (August 24) and theDiscovery Luncheon (November 14).

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My neighbour left hissprinklers on all day, mydaughter’s window was left

open, so when we got home herroom was soaked. What do weneed to do to make sure there is nopermanent damage to the house?

Check the room for anyelectrical hazards beforestepping on the wet floor. If it’s

sunny and warm, open the window tolet the moisture out. Remove all wettextiles, clean and dry them beforereturning them to the room. Lift thefurniture and set the feet on non-absorbent blocks (Styrofoam).

If the box spring and mattress gotwet... sorry no promises that they’ll dry.Remove baseboards, casings and wetunderpad, if the room is carpeted.Laminate and hardwood can only bediagnosed on a case-by-case basis.

We had an above groundinflatable pool and the boysthought it would be ok to let

the dogs in for a swim. The dog’sclaw sliced the pool and it burst. The8,600 gallons of water ended up inmy basement. How do I dry it outand how long do I have to keep aneye out for mould damage?

Turn off the breaker and call anelectrician to check forhazards. If it is sunny and

Warm, open the window to let the

moisture out. Remove everything fromthe basement - yes, everything

It’s impossible to know what thecontamination levels are going to be.Sort through your contents and setthem out to dry with the hope ofsalvaging them.

If beds, couches and chairs, and anyfurniture made from particle board gotwet, you will most likely end updiscarding them. Remove baseboards,casings, doors and MDF door jambs.Remove and dispose of wet drywall atleast 1’ above the tide line (usually 2’).Loosen the vapour barrier and checkthe insulation in the wall cavities. If it iswet, remove it. Remove all laminate andcarpet and dispose of it. Check yourfurnace, hot water tank and appliancesfor water damage. Allow the framingand flooring to dry completely - mouldshould not be a concern. Keepchecking in and around the framing forearly signs of microbial growth until it iscompletely dry.

We found some water in ourcrawl space and it is black incolour, what does that mean?

‘Black in colour’ meansnothing... What you need todetermine is where the water

came from. If the black colour water isfrom a sewer drain; it is consideredcontaminated. When handlingcontaminated water and affectedarticles, you must wear personalprotective equipment.

If the water was from a washingmachine, sink or bathtub overflow, andyou know the spill did not occur morethan 72 hours ago, it may not be ‘blackwater,’ but you should wear PPE just toprotect yourself from any bacteria thatit may have picked up on it’s way to thecrawl space.

Regardless of the contaminant level inthe water, the entire area that is affectedshould be cleaned and disinfected.

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Two older women run into each other outside an exclusivedepartment store. One woman is carrying a lot of packagesand it’s clear she’s been shopping.

Woman 1: “I don’t know why we haven’t seen youaround the gym lately! I ran into your doctorand he said he’d told you to ‘diet andexercise.’”

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It’s easy to chuckle when itcomes to “mis-hearing” or having“selective hearing,” even at our ownexpense, but for many, hearing loss isno laughing matter.

As a youngster, I observed the negative effect of hearingloss at home, mostly during the banter around the dinnertable and while the TV was on. You see, my dad workedextremely hard to provide for my mom and six children. Butexcessive noise at work damaged his hearing.

The mystery of his hearing loss was subtle at first, buteventually became “the elephant in the room.” Manyembarrassing situations and frustrating years later, dad finally

accepted that his hearing loss was a real disability he neededto address.

At the suggestion of a supportive friend, he had a hearingevaluation with a Hearing Professional. The evaluation

determined that his hearing loss was a work-relatedinjury. And I can thankfully say, “the rest ishistory,” Once he accepted and confrontedthe major communication obstacle in his life,dear old dad came to enjoy a fuller andricher life with the help of hearing aids. Why is hearing loss so hard to accept? This

is a great question! Even though there areseveral causes of hearing loss, the latest statistics

show that it affects one in two people over the age of50, yet it takes most people five to seven years to take action.

Valuable time is lost that can negatively personalities andself-esteem, as well as, friendships and career opportunities.Time and time again, people rationalize hearing loss withstatements such as, “I don’t have a hearing problem,” or “otherpeople just mumble.”

There are many consequences of untreated hearing loss,such as withdrawal from social interaction due to

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embarrassment or frustration; forming a habit of askingothers to repeat themselves; or giving up and “zoning out.”

In my clinic, I see first hand the toll hearing loss takes oninnocent victims. Left untreated, it can cause deep scars ofisolation and even depression. Immanuel Kant sums it upbest; “Not being able to see isolates you from objects. Notbeing able to hear isolates you from people.”

When my father received his first set of hearing aids, hewas self-conscious when wearing them. And it’s no wonder,

as they were big and ugly, not to mentionthey squealed quite a lot!

Hearing aid techn-ology has been revolu-tionized, providingwearers with smaller,discreet hearing aids

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If you find yourself or a loved one struggling to hearclearly, I encourage you to take the first steps toward a newworld of richer, fuller sound. With Connect Hearing’s no costor obligation trial program, and our “SoundCare Assurance,”the obstacles to better hearing are fading away. Come in fora complimentary hearing evaluation at one of our Okanaganclinics today.

TOM MILLAR is a Registered Hearing InstrumentPractitioner / Clinic Manager for Connect Hearingin Glenmore. He has 15 years of combinedexperience in the Optical and Hearing Industry.His outdoor passion is downhill skiing at Big WhiteMountain with his wife and young son. Anemerging interest in digital photographic art hasbegun to mix with his love of the beautifulOkanagan.

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If I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it 1,000 times: “Nothingpersonal, Doc, but I hate going to the dentist!” Maybe, youcan remember saying those exact words at your dentalappointment. The fact is, I felt the same way as a youngstervisiting our dentist in 1958 at an upstairs office on BernardAve. I white knuckled it though a painful needle, a painfulfilling, and then I was numb for the rest of the day. Thankgoodness those bad ol’ days are gone.

Most kids today would rather go to the dentist than gettheir hair cut. Why? Because they are treated like celebrities.They get praised and prized for being good, all the whilewatching a Disney Classic on TV. With modern techniquesand materials, it doesn’t hurt! (At least it shouldn’t. There arestill a few rough old-school dentists around... but most arevery gentle.)

But what about those of us who carry emotionally-charged memories of the bad ol’ days. I have good news. It iscalled oral sedation dentistry. Basically a trained sedationdentist can give you a dose of “sleeping pills” and you willdoze though the whole procedure, and likely not evenremember being there! Not bad, eh? Obviously, your medicalhistory is screened to make sure you qualify. But for most

dental cowards or for really long dental appointments, it isideal and very safe.

So don’t put off that needed dentistry or the smile youalways wanted because you are scared. Talk to your dentistabout oral sedation. If he isn’t trained for it, he can refer youto someone who is. Soon you’ll be saying, ”I love going to the

dentist. Just look at my beautiful smile!”

DR. ROBERT WAGEMAN was raised in WinfieldB.C. He moved back to Kelowna in 1978 with hisnew bride, Nancy, where they raised their two, nowmarried, children. Ziprick Road is named after hisgreat-grandfather, and Reiswig Park after his greatuncle and Wageman Road in Winfield after his Dad.

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No life is without its fair share of issues and problems. Weall know the saying, “It’s not the problems that determineyour state, it’s your attitude towards them.” But this oftenseems much easier said than done. Here are some practicaltips to help you persevere through life’s challenges:

If we can stay open-minded and not get too emotionallyupset when confronted with a problem, that automaticallyreduces the size of the problem. It can be very difficult toresist the slide into despondency. We have to cultivate theattitude of a warrior, a thinker, and stand firm and not let ournegative thoughts rule us. We can gain strength byremembering the times when we were successful and theenergy and vibrancy that success gave us.

Like any other positive quality, our determination can becultivated and increased. When fear of an impendingobstacle strikes the pit of your stomach, you can visualizebreathing out this fear, and breathing in determination andresolve.

If it is the sheer magnitude of a task that is worrying you,break it down into smaller tasks and tell yourself to just focuson getting the first small task done. A huge project is done inlittle steps so focus on the next most important thing, ratherthan taking on some enormous idea that can be completely

overwhelming.Inspiration is an important factor in maintaining one’s

resolve. By reading stories, we know we are not alone andthat within the human spirit lies the capacity to solve theseproblems. Try to surround yourself with as much inspirationin the form of books, music and people as possible. By thesame token, you can remove yourself from influences that arediscouraging you from reaching your goal. Surround yourselfwith people you admire and want to be more like - reach uprather than reaching down in your relationships.

We often increase obstacles with our own self-doubt. Weshould instead try and increase our faith in ourselves, and ourability to surpass the object in front of us. When a doubtingthought comes, we can ask ourselves whether this thoughtreally has any basis in reality - most of the time it does nothave any basis at all. Sometimes by even accomplishing somesmall preparatory tasks, we can instill faith in ourselves for thebigger tasks to come.

DR. CRIPPEN is a Kelowna physician and an activemember of Kelowna’s medical and recreationalcommunity. He and his staff at DermMedicaproudly offer supreme services in medical andlaser treatments. With this clinic being present inKelowna since 1994 (previously called KelownaVein Clinic & Aesthetic Solutions) Dr. Crippenmakes it his greatest priority to see that he and hisstaff exhibit technical excellence and attention topatient needs.

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Beethoven. JFK. Roger Bannister. What dothese people have in common? You maysurmise they are members of some elite,secret brotherhood, but it’s far simpler thanthat. The common thread these men shareis that they have overcome major obstacles.Beethoven was deaf, yet composedsymphonies. JFK was told it was impossible toland on the moon, but proved them wrong. RogerBannister ran one mile in less than four minutes - despite“experts” saying it was impossible!

Working as a doctor for the last 18 years has really givenme an appreciation for what is possible when helpingpatients find the health that they’ve lost. When weacknowledge and respect the power of the mind-body con-nection, then, and only then, can amazing things happen.

I see so-called “miracles” happening in my office on a dailybasis. Patients have often had their hopes stripped, and toldthey “have to live with it.” But the mind is a powerful thing: itcan heal you, and it can make you sick. There are countlessstories of people who have had a “terminal” illness, who,through the power of the mind, have healed themselves. Onthe other hand, who hasn’t felt physically ill when they havebeen stressed out? (Eg: butterflies before public speaking).

If you have a health issue, think about what’s going on inyour head. Are you thinking about all the things you will dowhen your health returns? Or are you thinking about howthe health issue has been limiting your life? The law ofattraction states that “what you think about, comes about.”

I try to emphasize this with my son with regards to the

word “can’t.” More often than not, we use the word “can’t”when we really mean “won’t.” For example, “I can’t ask myboss for a raise.” Is this really can’t, or won’t? This may takesome serious thought and effort, but the next time you usethe word “can’t,” about what you’re truly saying. Over theyears, my coach had drilled into my head this saying: “Can’tmeans: Could’ve And Never Tried.”

If you’re dealing with a challenge, whether it’s physical,emotional, relationship-based or monetary, take a step back,and really look at it from several angles. You may need to

trade-in some “stinkin’ thinkin’” and re-frame the situation to find the solutionyou’ve been looking for.

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JULY 20121 39th Annual Kelowna Folk Fest,

Prospera Place1 18th Annual “Kelowna POPS

Orchestra Canada DaySpectacular”

July 1- Parks Alive! Aug. 31July 2- Drumming for Kelowna Kids, Aug. 24 Kelowna Drum Studio

6-8 Keloha Music & Arts Festival,Waterfront Park

7 2nd Annual Swingers Open GolfTournament for Central OkanaganHospice

11 Moonlight Movie Tour Kelowna, 12-14 Granfondo Kelowna.

13 Take a Hike! Okanagan IrrigationHistory - Glen Canyon Reg. Park,

14 64th Annual Across the Lake Swim18 Moonlight Movie Tour Kelowna,

July 19- GOLF: The Musical and Fortune’s Aug. 12 Fools, Kelowna Summer Theatre

Festival21 Caribbean Festival, City Park,

Jubilee Grandstand21 Cherry Festival, Kelowna Farmers &

Crafters Market. 24 My Magazine Cover - Family

Sundays, Kelowna Art Gallery

25 The 7th Annual Ugly Jacket GolfTournament Harvest Golf Club,

27 Take a Hike! Okanagan HeritageHike - Trepanier Creek GreenwayRegional Park

28-29 Bats for a Cause - BC Children’sHospital - Mission Sports Field

28-29 Cops for Kids Charity Slow PitchTournament, High Noon Park.

28-29 Kelowna Dragon Boat Club Races,Waterfront Park.

30 CNIB Golf Walter Gretzky CelebrityClassic, Kelowna Golf & CountryClub

JUNE 201214 Beyond the Blues: Depression in

Youth, Trinity Baptist14 Elder Abuse Awareness Forum,

Okanagan College, 14 Annual Nature Trust of BC Wild

Festival for Youth 15 Working Women’s Twilight Golf

Tournament, Gallagher’s Canyon, 15 Canadian School of Ballet -

SHOWCASE, Kelowna CommunityTheatre

15 Take a Hike! How Mission CreekWas Formed - A Geologic Journey

16 Kelowna Gospel Mission 30K Club

Bikeathon, Mission Park Greenway16 Boat for Hope for Variety16 Kelowna Community Music School

Student Recital, Kelowna Art Gallery16 Canadian School of Ballet -

KALEIDOSCOPE, KelownaCommunity Theatre

16 Walk for ALS, Rhapsody Plaza,Waterfront Park

16 Father’s Day, Kelowna Farmers &Crafters Market

17 Awesome Abstraction - FamilySundays, Kelowna Art Gallery

17 Boyd’s Autobody Father’s AnnualCharity Car Show

17 BC Fish Day at Shannon LakeRegional Park

20 Marches, Musicals and More,Kelowna City Concert Band

20 Mary’s Wedding, The ShorelineTheatre and Kelowna Museums.

22 6th Annual GO Party! fundraiser,Kelowna Art Gallery

22 7th Annual BC SPCA GolfTournament, Sunset Golf & CountryClub,

23 Push to End Homelessness, Innfrom the Cold

22-23 3rd Annual Okanagan RhythmFestival, Mary Irwin Theatre

24 Golf for Life Charity Classic, KelownaSprings Golf Course.

24 Annual Strawberry Tea & GibsonHeritage House 100th Anniversary,

June 29- Westside DazeJuly 2

June 30- Lille Gard 2012 - Music and Arts July 1 Festival, Bottega Farm Inn

AUGUST 20121 Snowbirds, Waterfront Park. 1 Kids Day, Kelowna Farmers &

Crafters Market3-5 Center of Gravity 10 Cops for Kids Golf Tournament,

Sunset Ranch11 Downtown Kelowna Block Party, 11 The Royal Revival of Rock & Roll,

Westbank Lions Community Centre12 Motorcycle Rodeo, Kelowna &

District Safety Council12 Kelowna Fusion Festival

Ogopogo Golf Tournament,Kelowna Golf & Country Club

12-17 Apple Triathlon KOS Kids and TeensCamps Strathcona Park

12-19 Kelowna Pride Week13 A Hot Night for a Cool Cause

13-18 Summer Arts Scene for Youth 14 Dancing Barefoot in the Park,

Peachland15 22nd Annual Capri Charity Golf

Classic18 Corn Festival, Kelowna Farmers &

Crafters Market

18-19 Kelowna Apple Triathlon20 Moonlight Movie Tour Lake

Country21 Moonlight Movie Tour West

Kelowna22 Moonlight Movie Tour Kelowna24 BC Cancer Foundation Golf Classic

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25 Motorcycle Scavenger Hunt,Kelowna & District Safety Council

26 2012 Kelowna Kidney Walk,Waterfront Park

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A career, strong family connections,volunteering... and mental illness havecharacterized *Judy’s life. To the manypeople who have worked and livedalongside her, she is friendly, talentedand loves her family. But none of thesethings protected her from prolongedseasons of depression and anxiety.

According to statistics, she is amongthe 20 per cent of Canadians whoexperience mental health issuesserious enough to require treatmenteach year. She is also one of more than30 artists who will displaying her work atthe Artists Among Us Art Show, Septe-mber 10-23, at the Kelowna Art Gallery.

For Judy and so many of us whohave experienced difficulties withmental health, pursuing mental fitnessis as critical as physical fitness to ahealthy life.

“We need to look at our lives like athree-legged stool,” says Shelagh Turner,Executive Director of the CanadianMental Health Association. “Physical,mental and spiritual. If any one of theseis missing or weakened, the stool isn’tgoing to be able to stand. We need totend to our mental fitness, just as muchas nutrition or physical exercise.”

Cultivating mental fitness can helpequip us to deal with obstacles so thatthey don’t wind up dealing with us.Mental fitness refers to a person’scapacity to think about, plan and act ondecisions that contribute to emotional,social, spiritual and physical develop-ment.

Some tips for flexing a fit mindinclude:

* Collect positive emotionalmoments. Intentionally recall timeswhen you have experienced pleasure,comfort, confidence or other positiveemotions.

* Learn ways to cope with negativethoughts. Negative thoughts can beinsistent and loud. Learn to interruptthem. Don’t try to block them (that

never works), but don’t let them takeover. Sometimes our own unhelpfulthinking can be the biggest obstacle.

* Consider doing one thing at atime - especially when you have a loton your plate. For example, turn off yourphone when you are with family orfriends and stop making that mental “todo” list.

Obstacles in life can stress and wearus down. Committing to mind andbody fitness keeps us “in shape” toeffectively manage life’s challenges.

Come celebrate overcoming adver-sity and the creative spirit of people

who have experienced mental healthissues at the Canadian Mental HealthAssociation’s 7th Artists Among Usexhibit, September 10-23, at theKelowna Art Gallery.

AMANDA SWOBODABSW is the Connectingthe Dots Coordinator atthe Canadian MentalHealth Association. Sheis passionate about usingher diverse personal andprofessional experiencein promoting mentalhealth and wellness.

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It doesn’t seem long ago that I wascompeting in the Scottish U25 LawnBowlingChampionships.Some30 yearslater, I’m the organizing chair of theCanadian version being held atKelowna Lawn bowling Club in August.My renewed interest in the game

was kindled by a newspaper article inAugust 2010 about the re-vampedgreen at the City Park Club.Until then ithad looked like the 100-year-old clubwasabout togounder,duetoadecline inmembership and an almost unplayablegreen. If it hadn’t been for a few hard-working members, a full-time greenkeeper and a grant of $10,000 from thecity, I fear that would have been its fate.

My parents are still avid bowlers.Mymother has represented Scotland on 78occasions, including the Common-wealth Games, and until recently, myfather was president of the World

Indoor Bowling Association andScottish team manager. I had nominalsuccess in the game,winning the BritishPolice Pairs and a few other minortrophies - not quite the exceptionalstandards my parents reached, butthey’re still proud.I decided to join the Kelowna Club,

and quickly realized that although themembers were few, they had a passionfor the game. Everyone rallied to helpimprove the fortunes of the club. Ibecame vice president last year.Due largely to a free trial games

initiative, the membership doubled lastyear. Potential players are invited toattend the club on Wednesdayevenings where they receive freelessons and coaching. All that isrequired is a pair of flat soled shoes anda desire to have some fun.The club played host to the Interior

Cash Spiel Tournament,which attractedthe current Canadian champion to forma team with the current junior femalesilver medalist and Kelowna’s ownConnor McGowan, the current BC U19Junior gold medalist.The players and officials who

attended the event were amazed at themassive improvement in the playingsurface. In fact, the president of BowlsBC suggested we tender a bid to holdthe Junior Nationals this year. Thistournament has never been heldoutside amajor city before. But if you’renot in it, you can’t win it.With the invaluable help of Chad

Douglas from Tourism Kelowna, a bidwas submitted and much to my sur-prise and delight, it was approved.ThusAugust 6-14, Kelowna will welcome thefinest young bowlers in Canada tocompete in the U19 and U25championships. Thewinners of theU25will represent Canada in theWorld U25Championships, to be held in Walesnext year.We are currently looking for

sponsors and donations-in-kind to helpwith the tournament. Further detailscan be obtained by contacting the Clubor visiting the website www.kelownalawnbowlingclub.com

There is a popular misconceptionthat lawn bowling is a game playedonly by seniors. This is certainly notthe case. World, National and Regionalchampions are consistently under theage of 30 and Northern Ireland has a 14year old on their national team.Havingsaid that, many a good tune is playedon an old fiddle, and while beinghorrified that I nowqualify as a senior atage 55, feel that my best bowling is stillto come.The new season is now under-

way and we have alreadyattracted several newmembers and have anumber of people takingadvantageof the free trialmembership program. Iwould encourage anyone,at any age, to come andgive it a try.


Kelowna Lawn Bowling Club 2011.

BowlingGoesGreen inCityParkSubmitted by Alan Stirling

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Mon at the Scottish Singles in 1995.

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For those of you who read Beyond50 regularly, you may have stumbledacross my article in the last issue ondating in the middle ages - a.k.a. datingafter age 50. I want to find myself a bestfriend and life partner. But it is mucheasier said than done. I did sign up with Magnetix Dating

Agency and Julie Clitheroe became mypersonal matchmaker; something Iobviously needed help with. Appar-ently even after 50 years on the planet,my picker is off. I’m not saying this tobe hard on myself; it is simply the truth.

In order to be fair, I went to anonline dating site to see what I couldfind on my own. The last few monthshave gone like this...I met with Julie, gave her my

information and my list of what I waslooking for and what I did not want. Ittook about the same amount of time totype all the information, fill outquestionnaires, and add some photosto my online profile. The difference was,on my own I didn’t have a soundingboard to clarify things and give mefeedback . I t was just me at thekeyboard, hoping what I wrote wouldattract someone into my life.Without Julie’s help, I had to do all

the sifting and searching. The first weekI read through hours and hours ofprofiles, looked at several hundredphotos of fish, dogs, horses, houses,

motorcycles, sunsets, children andgrandchildren, blank photos and theodd picture showing an actual man.Most of those were taken from adistance, with hats and sunglasses and,what appeared to be, the obligatorydog, fish or other woman in the shot. Iquit after finding 10 possible suitors.The next week I went back and re-

read the profiles. Half of them my agewere looking for someone 15-20 yearsyounger. Apparently becoming a fatherat 50-plus is in vogue. That left five, soI sent off an email to introduce myself.Three replied. Not bad odds, but so farI’d spent about 27 hours online and nothad so much as a coffee date.By then Julie had sent me photos

and a brief description of two gentle-men. I went out for coffee with each ofthem, had lovely conversations andrealized I was not what they werelooking for and visa versa. Meanwhile back online, I was still in

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know my possible future dates. It’samazing how many online daters preferto remain online for a long time.Personally I like to meet when there isstill something left to find out abouteach other. Eventually I did go on twodates, met two nice men, and discov-ered we weren’t right for each other.You could say we flunked chemistry.Julie sent me two other matches and

I went to meet each of them. They werea step closer to what I wanted, and thebeauty of dealing with Julie directly wasI could tell her what I liked about eachone - thereby giving her the informa-tion needed to find an even bettermatch for me. Total time invested with an online

dating site - approximately 38 hours.Total time invested with Magnetix -approximately six hours and thatincluded four dates!My time is valuable and I am content

to leave the matchmaking to Julie andMagnetix so I can concentrate on mywork, family and friends. Stay tuned -I’ve yet to connect with my best friend,but keep the faith and I’ll keep youposted.

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There’s an old proverb that says “Astumble may prevent a fall.” In my view,there are two outcomes from thatsaying: A person can learn from his/hermistakes, gain wisdom, and possiblysteer away from a more serious fate, or astumble may prevent a fall, but wearheavy-duty kneepads, just in case. Given my family’s numerous visits to

the Emergency Room over the years, Iam more familiar with the latterscenario. That’s simply the way it goeswhen there’s a high klutz factor woveninto the genetic mix.In reality, though, I’m a great believer

in learning from past mistakes beforethey explode in your face again. I knowfor a fact that one sinfully delicious,warm out-of-the-oven chocolatebrownie that whispers, “Eat me,” is adefinite impediment to me fitting into

my summer shorts. “To err is human” isalso a popular maxim for me, and betterto work off one brownie than a wholedish of them. I admit to weaknesses around buffet

tables, a nibble here and there (heck, Ilove good food!), and sometimes Iactually recall stumbling home aftertwo many glasses of wine. There have even been

some ins ightful t idbitsknown to surface at suchevents, such as the time Ifinished a mouthful of friedcalamari only to realize itresembled a rubber washer Ihad replaced in the gardenhose the week before. (It wasa great observation andinspired titillating conver-sation at the time.) In short,I have stumbled my waythrough diets, avoiding the scary fads,learning the needs of my metabolism.

In England, there’s a term for acalming speed bump in a road. Theycall them “sleeping policemen.” Forme, it always conjured up a mentalimage of some poor British constablelying across the roadway, sleeping offone too many pints at the localestablishment at the end of a shift.(Having a proper British constable inthe family, I have been assured this isnot often the case - although it isn’tuncommon to have a rapport with thepub owners.) We use the same raised bump idea

in North America for slowing traffic. Asdrivers, often there is a warning sign atthe side of the road signalling theapproach of the bump, but sometimesyou’re still startled by the bouncing ofyour tires combined with your speed.Regardless of the warning, the

experience makes you moremindful for travelling thatroad a second time. (The onlytime you’re allowed to get “airtime” is on the ski hill.)Life is indeed full of

obstacles - physical as well asmental ones. Avoidance issometimes the healthiestapproach. Unfortunately,hurdles will continue to

present themselves on aregular basis. I believe mostpeople are stronger than theythink when facing challenges.

A level head and determination aretwo good allies when you encounterstumbling blocks in your path. And ifyou ever encounter a “sleepingpoliceman,” I hope he’s only dozingafter a lunch break.

MARILYN BROWN is aregular contributor toBeyond 50. Follow herhumorous, quirky anduplifting reflections ofeveryday life on herblog www.cubbyholewriter.com. She welcomesyour comments.

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finds it difficult to do her work at timeswhen her MS is relapsing. Amber takes her girls to the park and

has to rest when she gets there beforeplaying with her daughters, due tofatigue from the simple walk over.

Dee gets around in a wheelchair, yetshe’s training vigorously for the upcom-ing MS Bike Tour. The invisibility of this disease makes it

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a bike, shopping and working all take atoll on a person with MS. People withMS need to feel safe in discussing theirneeds so they can live as close to anormal life as you and I. The Okanagan Chapter of the MS

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disease through our various clientservices programs. This is why we holdfundraisers like the Scotiabank MS Walkeach spring. Come September, Dee will take part

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RONA September 8-9. For more inform-ation contact Miriam at the chapteroffice, 250-762-5850.

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Amber and Blake at the MS Walk.

Dee riding her bike.

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