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SPONSOR MAGAZINE / Issue 2 ��
For New Sponsors
Becoming a SponsorSO SOMEONE HAS ASKED YOU TO BE THEIR SPONSOR. WHAT DO YOU DO?
First, remember you can-not carry something youhaven’t got. Do you have
a Sponsor? Your ability to share withanewprospectarelimitedtoyourownexperience,soyoucan-notshowanewcomerhowtoworkwithasponsorifyoudonotworkwithaSponsor.CallyourSponsorassoonassomeoneasksyouandwhimper, “What do I do?” Your Sponsor isyourbestguide tobe-ingaSponsor.
Do you have a network of people intheProgramwithwhomyoucandiscussyourlifeandoptionsinrecovery?Doyoucontinuetodostepworkwithyourspon-sor,evenafteryearsofsobriety?Doyouhaveaspirituallifeandwillyoubeableto share what you have with the new-comer,evenif theyarenotof thesamefaithasyou?
The experience of a Sponsor andSponsee working together is uniqueand should be between equals, one ofwhomhasmoreexperienceinRecoverythantheother.Itisacloseteacher/stu-dent relationship that may evolve intoa friendship, but it is not necessary tobecome friends for successful Sponsor-ship.
Being a Sponsor does not mean youaresuperiortothenewcomer,justsome-onewhoisalittlefurtheralongthepaththan the Sponsee, and willing to sharewhatyou’vedone.
A Sponsor helps the Sponsee under-stand the basics of the Program, works
theSponseethroughtheSteps(particu-larlythe4thand5thSteps).
A Sponsor shares basic informationintheBigBook,mostoftenbysittingto-gether to go through the first 181 pages out loud, defining the words and con-ceptstomaketheSponseeawareofthetoolsbeinglaidathisfeet.
WHAT A SPONSOR IS NOTA sponsor is not a bank. Loaning or
borrowing money between a sponsorandasponseecantainttherelationship.The two of you will talk about financial issues, but money can ruin what couldbeaworkingrelationshipthatcouldhelpboth.
Asponsorisnotataxiservice.Aspon-sormaytakeasponseetomeetings,par-ticularly to the Sponsor’s Home Group, butthesponseeshouldbeencouragedtodevelopanewnetworkofpeopleintheprogramforridesanddiscussion.
A sponsor is not a counselor. Thatmeans marriage- or employment-coun-selor. You will discuss the sponsee’s is-suesandproblems,butyoudonothaveany authority other than your own ex-perience and background in the Steps.Evenifyouarealicensedcounselor,thisisnotaprofessionalrelationship.
A sponsor is not a therapist. Again,even if the sponsor is a licensed thera-pist, this is not a professional relation-ship. The Sponsor’s job is to help thenewcomer through Recovery using theSteps. The principles in your daily lifeare the focusof theSponsorandSpon-see.Thiswill coverareasofmoney, re-lationships, employment, sex, desire,defects,andspirituallife.
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A SPONSOR IS NOT PERFECTNo one in our Program has attained
perfection, but progress is our ongoinggoal. You may make mistakes, but learn fromthemandsharewithyourSponseehowmistakescanbeusedaspartofthelessonsrequiredforRecovery.
WhatyourSponseeseesyoudoiseve-rybitasimportantasanythingyousay.
Ifyoudonotknowsomething,behon-est. Your willingness to seek an answer forsomethingyoudonotknowcanbeapowerfullessonforyourprospect.
SUCCESSFUL SPONSORSHIPHavingaSponsororbeingaSponsor
doesnotguaranteethattheprospectwillstaysober.
If your Sponsee goes out and startsdrinking again, find someone else to workwithwhomaywantwhatyouhavetooffer.
Ifyoustaysober,theSponsorshiphasbeeneffective.
If your Sponsee stays sober, it is notbecause of your wonderful Sponsor-
ship. It is because you have helped theSponsee to find and develop his spiritual awakeningandpersonalrelationshiptoapersonalhigherpower.
WHAT TO CALL THE PEOPLE YOU SPONSOR?Over the years there are many differ-
ent terms used to describe the personbeingSponsored.Dr.Bobused“cookie”andBillused“protoge.”
In some parts of the country theyare called “sponsees,” “babies,” or “pi-geons.”
Although it is widely used in theNortheastasatermdescribingtheten-dency for well-cared homing or racingpigeons to rain excrement onto theirhandlers,“pigeons”wasatermusedbyDr.Bob.Inhisarea,whensomeonewastoo drunk to find their way home and had to be led, they were “pigeon-eyed”andneededspecialattention.
Dr.Bobusedthephrasewithagreatdealofaffection for those forwhomhetriedtosharethegiftofsobriety.
THE SPONSOR MAGAzINE SYMBOL
Before we started the magazine, we wnated to find asimplewaytoconveytheimageofSponsorship.
We fially arrived at two figures, on the Steps, on eof whome has a light to find his way. The only reason he hasalightisbecausesomeongaveittohim.
The original symbol showedmanypeopleonthesteps,and the ones furtherupthestairwayhadlamps. But the“Keep It Simple”guidance madeus reduce it toonepairoftravel-lersonthepath.