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Our Lady of the Valley Church 630 Valley Road - Wayne - New Jersey - 07470 - www.olvwayne.org

973-694-4585

Sacrament of Reconciliation Saturdays 4:00-4:30pm

Sacraments of Baptism,

Marriage & Personal Appointments

Please call the Parish Office

Schedule of Masses Weekdays

Monday - Saturday 7:30am Weekends

Saturday: 5:00pm Sunday: 8:00am, 10:00am

and 12:00 Noon

“The Church is Holy, not just because all are welcome. The Church is Holy, because all belong.”

Timothy M. Matovina University of Notre Dame

(paraphrased by Pope Francis at General Audience)

July 9, 2017

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Rev. Peter VB. Wells, Pastor 973-694-4585, Ext 7246

VonBreton@aol.com

Rev. Peter Filipkowski, Parochial Vicar 973-694-4585, Ext 7204

Deacon Vincent Cocilovo vcocilovo@olvwayne.org

Sister Dorothy Dee, SSJ, Pastoral Associate Adult Formation/Ministry of Consolation Ext. 7245 - SrDorothy@olvwayne.org

Elaine George, Parish Secretary Ext. 7200 - Secretary@olvwayne.org

Barbara Mennella Office Assistant Ext 7203-reception@olvwayne.org

Judi Cocilovo, Director of Faith Formation / Youth Ext. 7208 - jcocilovo@olvwayne.org

John Peragallo III, Director of Music Ministry John@peragallo.com

Irene Luberto, Parish Financial Administrator Ext. 7243 - finance@olvwayne.org

TRUSTEES OF THE PARISH Marie Armenio

mrarmenio@olvwayne.org

Our Parish is Served By Weekly Mass Intentions

Weekend Collection

Fourteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time — July 9, 2017

Sunday, July 9 8:00am Joanne Bellofatto Stephen Figlar Jessica Gaita

10:00am Josephine Cutrofello Michael Gilmartin James A. Murray Marek Jakub Pluta Doris Woodmancey

12:00pm Carmela & Victor Liguori Pam Raventine

Monday, July 10 7:30am Sophie Bielewicz

Tuesday, July 11 7:30am Charles Marino Linford Yarnall (Special Intention)

Miraculous Medal Novena to follow Mass on Tuesday

Wednesday, July 12 7:30am Wynne DeRosa

Thursday, July 13 7:30am For the People

Friday, July 14 7:30am For the People

Saturday, July 15 5:00pm Bill Marrinan Patrick Sharkey

Sunday, July 16 8:00am Gaetano & Angelina Ferraro Edward Goodrich Albert Nowack Kristine Yarmula

10:00am Estelle Aldi Gerard Farese George Hundt Sr. Marek Jakub Pluta

12:00pm Carmela Abela Russel Iuculano Paul Liskay

Weekend of July 15—16:

Our Lady of the Valley 5:00pm Father Peter 8:00am Father Wells 10:00am Father Peter 12:00 Noon Father Peter

Holy Cross 5:00pm Father Wells 10:00am Father Wells

Presider Schedule

Weekend Collection: July 1-2, 2017

Numbers not available due to early printing.

Thank you for your continued generosity!

Social Ministry Corner

Do you have a family member or friend who is gay or lesbian? Would you like to have a better understanding on the church’s teachings on this? Would you like resources to learn more about this topic? If you’ve answered “yes” to any of these questions, or have additional questions about the LGBT community and the Catholic Church, you are invited to call Deacon Vince at 862-264-2134, or feel free to speak with him directly after Mass. All calls/inquiries will be strictly confidential.

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Weekly Remembrance

The Sanctuary Lamp, which burns near the tabernacle, in church and is the reminder of our Lord’s presence in the Most Holy Eucharist, will burn in loving memory of:

Gennaro Carpenito

Also, the altar bread and wine, which will become the Holy Body and Precious Blood of our Lord, was given in memory of Gennaro Carpenito from his Loving family.

“Is anyone among you suffering? They should pray…Is anyone

among you sick? They should summon the presbyters of the church, and they should pray over them and anoint them with oil in the

name of the Lord.” (James 5:13,14)

Pray for the Sick:

Joseph Brucato Jr., Carol Brugaletta, Father Michael Burke, Louis Caprio,

Ralph Cicetti, Kathy Corrao, Robert Darpino, Carole DeSimone, Flo Felano,

Josephine Ganz, Marie Liffers, Margaret Link, Mary Maksuta,

Gloria Minnocci, Ronald Panipucci, Michael Renaldo, Kristen Sedlacik, Paul Tafuri, Michael Waldinger

Summer Time Reminders

Faith Formation News

There is an opening for a 4th grade catechist at the 8:30am session. If you are interested, please contact Judi at the Faith Formation office; (973) 694-4585 extension 7208, or by email: jcocilovo@olvwayne.org.

Weekday Mass Schedule

Beginning, Saturday, July 1, and extending through Labor Day, September 4, the Eucharist will be celebrated Monday through Friday at 7:30am here at Our Lady of the Valley. There will be no Saturday morning Mass during these weeks.

Parish Center Office Hours

Beginning the first week of July and extending through Labor Day, September 4, the Parish Center will be closed on Fridays. The Parish Center will be open Monday through Thursday from 9:00am—5:00pm The offices are closed for lunch from 12:00 Noon to 1:00pm.

Moving?

The summer weeks many times are when families and individuals move to a new location and home. If that will happen to you this summer, please contact the Parish Center so that we may update the census. If you are moving, but remaining a parishioner, please let us know the new address. If you are moving and will no longer be a parishioner here, we are sorry to see you go and we wish you well in your new home, but please contact the Parish Center so that we can remove you from the census.

Come join our Family

Parish’s Sacramental & Prayer Life

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Years ago people looked upon the months of May, June and July as the time for weddings to be celebrated. While it is true that more weddings are celebrated during the summer weeks, we do have a significant number that occur during the rest of the year. Also, while most weddings take place on Saturdays, more and more it is becoming common to celebrate the wedding on Friday or Sunday. Occasionally couples will have many questions concerning the whys and wherefores of the marriage celebration. In keeping with both church law and tradition, the marriage ceremony takes place in either the parish church of the bride or the parish church of the groom, that is, the parish church that either one of them or their parents are registered members. Sacraments are community celebrations and as such are normally celebrated in the place where the community gathers week after week: the church building. It is also common to have the wedding celebrated in the chapel of a college, university or high school if the bride or groom is a graduate of that school. With special permission from the Bishop of a diocese, permission can be granted to celebrate the Sacrament of Marriage between two Roman Catholics outside. Permission can be given for the ceremony to take place in some other place when a Roman Catholic marries someone who is not Roman Catholic: a baptized Christian of another denomination, a Jewish person, a Muslim person, etc. Permission can also be given for the vows to be witnessed by someone other than a Roman Catholic priest or deacon: A minister of another Christian denomination, a Rabbi, and Imam, etc. Or both a priest and the minister can officiate at the wedding, but only one of them witnesses the vows and signs the license along with the witnesses. And use of the word ‘witness’ is important. In our Roman Catholic tradition we believe that the bride and groom marry each other, the priest does not marry them. The priest, best man and maid of honor are there strictly as witnesses to verify that the bride and groom pronounced the vows and married each other. For most Roman Catholics, the wedding ceremony takes place within the Celebration of the Eucharist (Nuptial Mass). The use of the Wedding Ceremony without the Nuptial Mass is used depending on the faith level of the parties involved or when either the bride or the groom is not Roman Catholic. The ‘Common Policy on Marriage’ adopted by the Roman Catholic Dioceses of New Jersey require that arrangements with the parish church be made at least one year in advance. This is to ensure plenty of time for the necessary paperwork to be completed, Pre-Cana sessions to be attended, etc., consultations with the priest and music ministers, etc. The couple should always select the date with the church prior to making arrangements with the caterer. Beginning in 2017, a new ‘Order of Celebrating Matrimony’ began to be used in the United States. It brings the prayers of the Marriage ritual into line with the prayers that are in the Roman Missal we now use. There are also some slight adjustments to the ritual itself.

Father Wells

Sacrament of Marriage: Who, What, Where and When

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Marian Pilgrimage

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Spiritual Reflection

Do Go Gentle

Jesus’ words in this week’s Gospel are consoling.

Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart, and you will find rest for yourselves. For my yoke is easy, and my burden light.

A great comfort, these promises. Whenever death or loss or suffering descend upon us, there is a safe place to go.

But aren’t these words hard to trust?

The alternative viewpoint is given by Dylan Thomas, the poet. He was not wiser than Jesus, of course, but he wrote this to his dying father:

Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.*

Rage is quite different from rest, isn’t it? In the same poet’s great poem, “Fern Hill,” Thomas says,

Oh as I was young and easy in the mercy of his means, Time held me green and dying Though I sang in my chains like the sea.

Green and dying. Chains. Dylan Thomas was a raggedy man, who, if rumor is true, drank himself to the death he dreaded. He loved his youth and sang glad song to it, but death always stood waiting, and it could not break the chains death wrapped around him. Jesus also said his yoke was easy, but he went through torture and death. How can this be?

Here is an approach. Maybe labor and burdens are not meant to be erased from our lives, not expunged or thrown away. Instead maybe they are meant to be pathways to a solid ground far underneath our troubles, into a quiet grounding where there is real stillness and rest.

What quiet grounding?

Jesus says it is meekness and humility of heart.

In the desert Jesus had already told the devil that the only food Jesus needed was “every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.” Maybe the only real goods in life are those rooted firmly in the love that is God, together with meekness and humility, which are Jesus’ life.

“Watch me,” he says. “I am meek, and riding on an ass, on a colt, the foal of an ass” (First Reading). Here is a paraphrase the rest:

Watch me on the sad height of Calvary and see. I have let it all go—belongings, beloveds, reputation, all. One thing remains. In it I find my rest. Make it your life, whatever your sorrow is, whatever act of living and of dying and being burdened you suffer. It will not be heavy. This is the center of my life and the reason my burden is light.

Love of God, received and given.

If we can begin to let go into the arms of the Great Love, if we can give our life away—as an alternative to raging—we might find rest from our burdens. We might see that death is the ultimate act of giving ourselves away. Jesus did this, in the midst of his burdens. Meek and humble of heart he was, not proud and above it all.

Try it: take your troubles and release them gratefully to the one who can give you rest.

John Foley, SJ ________

* Do Not Go Gentle, by Dylan Thomas