Anti-Bullying

Brenda Kvist 02/22/11

What are the four most common

types of bullying?

The four most common types of bullying are:

• Verbal bullying– name-calling, sarcasm, teasing, spreading rumours, threatening,

making negative references to one's culture, ethnicity, race, religion, gender, or sexual orientation, unwanted sexual comments.

• Social Bullying – mobbing, scapegoating, excluding others from a group, humiliating

others with public gestures or graffiti intended to put others down.

• Physical Bullying– hitting, poking, pinching, chasing, shoving, coercing, destroying or

stealing belongings, unwanted sexual touching.

• Cyber Bullying – using the internet or text messaging to intimidate, put-down, spread

rumours or make fun of someone.

Whoare thebullies?

Some signs of a bully are…

• Excludes or shuns another child • Taunts, intimidates or harasses • Spreads vicious rumors verbally and or electronically that hurt or ruin another’s

reputation• Physically aggressive (hits, punches, kicks, slams, chokes)• Has a positive view of violence• Threatens with force or fear; extortion• Marked need to control and dominate others• Damages another child’s property or clothing• Quick-tempered, impulsive, easily frustrated, flares off the top• Takes pleasure in seeing a child (or animal) in distress, unconcerned if someone is

upset• Finds it difficult to see a situation from the other person’s point of view• Refuses to accept responsibility or denies wrong doing when evidence shows guilt• Blames the victim or says the child “deserved what he got”; good at talking way out

of situations• Shows little sympathy or concern for the victim or a child who was hurt• Targets those who are weaker or younger or animals• Intolerant of “differences” whether it be sexual orientations, cultures, religious

beliefs, appearances, age, gender, or abilities and often slams those differences• Is insensitive to the feelings or needs or others; a lack of empathy

Who are the bullies?

What are the effects of bullying

on the person being bullied?

What are the effects of bullying? Bullying makes people upset. It can make you feel lonely, unhappy and frightened. It

can make you feel unsafe and think there must be something wrong with you. You can lose confidence and may not want to go to school anymore. It may even make you sick.

Some people think bullying is just part of growing up and a way for young people to learn to stick up for themselves. But bullying can have long-term physical and psychological consequences.

Some of these include: – Withdrawal from family and school activities, wanting to be left alone. – Shyness – Stomachaches – Headaches – Panic Attacks – Not being able to sleep – Sleeping too much – Being exhausted – Nightmares – Stress and anxiety caused by bullying and harassment can make it more

difficult to learn. – Bullying is painful and humiliating, and kids who are bullied feel

embarrassed, battered and shamed. If the pain is not relieved, bullying can even lead to inward (suicide) or outward (homicide) violence.

Beinga

Bystander

What does that mean?

Hurtful Bystanders                          

Some bystanders . . . instigate the bullying by prodding the bully to begin.

Other bystanders . . . encourage the bullying by laughing, cheering, or making comments that further stimulate the bully. 

And other bystanders . . . join in the bullying once it has begun. 

Most bystanders . . . passively accept bullying by watching and doing nothing. Often without realizing it, these bystanders also contribute to the problem. Passive bystanders provide the audience a bully craves and the silent acceptance that allows bullies to continue their hurtful behavior.

Helpful Bystanders     

Bystanders also have the power to play a key role in preventing or stopping bullying. 

Some bystanders . . . directly intervene, by discouraging the bully, defending the victim, or redirecting the situation away from bullying.

Other bystanders . . .  get help, by rallying support from peers to stand up against bullying or by reporting the bullying to adults. 

Examining the Effects on The Bystander

Why don’t more bystanders intervene? 

They think, “It’s none of my business.” They fear getting hurt or becoming another victim.  They feel powerless to stop the bully.     They don’t like the victim or believe the victim “deserves” it. They don’t want to draw attention to themselves. They fear retribution. They think that telling adults won’t help or it may make things worse. They don’t know what to do.

Bystanders who don’t intervene or don’t report the bullying often suffer negative consequences themselves. They may experience:

Pressure to participate in the bullying Anxiety about speaking to anyone about the bullying Powerlessness to stop bullying Vulnerability to becoming victimized Fear of associating with the victim, the bully, or the bully’s pals  Guilt for not having defended the victim

Be a Helpful Bystanders

Instead of ignoring a bullying incident try the following:

- Tell a teacher (administration) - Move toward or next to the victim - Use your voice "stop" - Befriend the victim - Lead victim away from the situation

What are school

doing toSTOP bullying?

What is cyber-bullying?

"Cyberbullying" is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. It has to have a minor on both sides, or at least have been instigated by a minor against another minor.

Once adults become involved, it is plain and simple cyber-harassment or cyberstalking. Adult cyber-harassment or cyberstalking is NEVER called cyberbullying. It isn't when adult are trying to lure children into offline meetings, that is called sexual exploitation or luring by a sexual predator.

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/2610179/cyberbullying/

Some videos to make us think:

cyber bullying

• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YxKYU3SIDhI

Cyber Bullying

• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZgpmuz2MQc

Teen Cyber-Bullied to Death?

• http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=6146214n

Everyone has rights and responsibilities

Your rights are to: be treated fairly and with respect feel safe be included in groups and activities ask for help when you need it say 'no' to unwanted behaviour make your own decisions be protected from bullying and harassment  make truthful complaints be informed of complaints made about you have both sides of an issue or argument heard be informed of consequences that affect you have a fair appeal process have a supportive adult speak for you

Your responsibilities are to:

treat others fairly and with respect include and welcome others help protect yourself from harm respect other peoples' boundaries give help when needed listen when others say "No" not overpower, bully, harass or abuse anyone control your anger report mistreatment of other people listen to yourself and get help if something seems wrong let people make their own decisions

Anti bullying flash mob brings message of acceptance

On January 27 unsuspecting lunchtime shoppers at Oakridge Centre were surprised by a flash mob performance by three hundred students from Churchill Secondary and David Lloyd George Elementary who took over the main lobby of the centre to perform a dance performance to Bruno Mars hit song “Just the way you are.”

During the three minute performance the student dancers wore pink shirts with the words “Acceptance” in reference to Day of Pink which is the International day against bullying, discrimination and homophobia which will be celebrated in Vancouver schools on Wednesday Feb 23.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MhYyAa0VnyY

Don’t forget to wear PINK tomorrow.

Websites used:

Four types of bullying: http://www.bullyingcanada.ca/content/239900

Who are the bullies?: http://www.pinkshirtday.ca/2010/10/12/signs-of-a-bully/

What are the effects of bullying?: http://www.bullyingcanada.ca/content/239900

Being a bystander: http://www.eyesonbullying.org/bystander.html

Effects on the bystander: http://www.eyesonbullying.org/bystander.html

Cyber-bullying: http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/what_is_cyberbullying_exactly.html

Rights and Responsibilities: http://www.croixrouge.ca/article.asp?id=9246&tid=030

Anti-bullying flash mob: http://www.vsb.bc.ca/district-news/anti-bullying-flash-mob-brings-message-acceptance