Anger Management

Breohn Anderson

Anger in relation to the Bible

They say in the bible that thou shall not kill but in a quote in the bible it says "I'm telling you that anyone who is so much as angry with a brother or sister is guilty of murder" (Matthew 5:22).

So God is saying taking anger out on some is just as sinful as a murder.

Anger ValueAnger is a valuable signal, because it lets us know when something is wrong or a when there is a problem, It does not solve the problem. Things that happen

We want something and are not getting it

From past experience, we expect trouble

We have feelings of powerlessness

Sad Feelings

Etc.

3 Options confronting Anger1. You can choose to react angrily or not

2. You can become aware of what you are feeling.

3. You can be aware of the intensity of your anger, if you are in control of your anger, it controls you.

Causes Of AngerAnger is caused by external events called provocations, which create angry thoughts, angers arousal, and angry actions.

6 Major CausesDependency Relationships ,Resentment

Grief, Victim Mentality

Abusive Relationship, Low Self-Esteem

Ten steps to Control Anger

1. Make a list of things that make you mad, and memorize it.

2. Talk about your feelings, let people know when something is bothering you.

3. When you feel angry, do something with the energy. Slowly breathe in and out ten times. On the exhale, spread your fingers.

4. When you feel the urge to strike out at at someone, raise your shoulders, as you breathe in deeply; rapidly lower your shoulders as you exhale. Notice your jaw muscles, shoulders, chest, and torso muscles.

Ten Steps to Control your Anger cont.

5. Make peace with yourself and the person who is the object of your anger. Forgive yourself first. Than apologize to the other person for the lack of control

6.Mentally visualize two paths. Have one of these paths be positive, pleasant, and full of light. Have the other path be dark, gloomy, and depressive. Then send your angry feeling down the dark path and over the cliff.

Ten Steps 7.Notice if you feel like yelling, screaming,

or hitting. Before you act on your anger, think of why you are angry. Is your angry feelings legitimate, or did you create a situation to justify your need to be angry.

8.Talk your way through your anger. Tell yourself you can change from being a reactor of your emotions to being a processor. Notice your thoughts, change negative thoughts to positive.

9.Change the image you have of yourself from “blowing your stack; to being a cool headed person”. Whenever you are able to control your anger, reinforce it by saying something kind to yourself

10.Daily seek ways to change your image, inner thoughts, and outer behavior, so the two match.

Myths That all anger is unhealthy or destructive

That anger is an all-or-nothing phenomenon

If you don’t let your anger out, it builds and explodes out

That angry people yell and scream a lot

That anger management means keeping your mouth shut.

FactsNot all anger is unhealthy or Destructive

Sometimes Anger is Justified

Anger is not an All-or-Nothing PhenomenonAnger typically occurs in degrees, ranging from mild annoyance to rage

It is not always necessary to let your anger out

Anger does not work like steam in a kettle. It is not necessary to release it in order to avoid explosion

Facts Cont.Not all angry people yell or scream

Many people keep their anger to themselves or show it in their behavior

Anger and its effects on the

body• It can speed up the heart rate

• Blood pressure rises as blood vessels constrict

• Frequent anger may speed up the process of atherosclerosis

• Doctors now consider a hear disease risk

Definition of Anger

AngerNoun- A strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.Verb- To arouse anger or wrath in

Personal Relations

I think Anger Management has helped me since 6th grade where I was mostly angry and a lot of people perceived as an angry kid

I think the main reason I was angry because I felt lonely and even though I I had a lot of friends I was still lonely so that brought my anger and sometimes I would do something that would damage me

5 Good Ways of Anger

Anger Protects

Anger Signals-

Anger rules

Anger Talks

Anger Teaches

Brain and AngerA group of brain structure controls and our anger such as the limbic system

The frontal lobe of the brain are what people use to control heir anger

How Anger Shows up in Families

Criticize you about your grades

Hound you about getting work or chores done

Question you about things in your life you prefer to keep private

Refuse to allow you to go places or see friends

Limit your use of computers, video games, cell phones, TV, or other things

Passive Aggressive Anger

Meaning : People showing their anger indirectly so they don’t have to admit

their mad.

Displaced AngerMeaning: People often doing things

unconsciously

Anger in relationships/

TriggersYour partner doesn’t call when he says he will

Your partner ignore your phone calls or text messages

You see your partner talking to another girl or boy

You catch your partner in about where they have been

Your partner dumps you and doesn’t have the guts to tell you face to face, but breaks up with you by email or through someone else

You feel you partner is spending too much time with he friends

Jealousy The biggest source of anger in relationships

It’s a mixture of insecurity, fear, and anger

HATEIs the feeling of extreme dislike and anger toward someone

Hate is the angriest thing you can say to someone

HATE is when you are unwilling to let go of that anger

That built up hate and anger can cause you to stress and and physically harm yourself

Signs of anger turning into Hate

You often think about the person you’re angry at

You burn inside when someone even mentions the persons name

You feel a need to tell other how you were hiurt, wanting them to feel your anger too

You start seeing yourself as completely innocent and the other person as totally at fault, instead of admitting your role in the problem

You often think of ways to get revenge

You feel intense anger weeks and even months later

What leads to anger in

friendshipsGossip

Keeping secrets

Competitiveness

Teasing and name calling

Balancing Time between Friends and Dating Partners

Being Able to handle anger in

friendsBe clear on what you expect from friends

Don’t let your anger build up

Disorders and Anger

ADHD- you get angry quickly without thinking about how you express

Your anger doesn’t last very long, and you may regret your action later

School is likely frustrating for you and contribute stress and anger poblems

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)Responding “no” whenever parents or others in authority ask them to do something

Losing their temper easily

Being easily annoyed

Annoying others on purpose

Blaming other people for their own mistakes

Wanting to get revenge on people who they think have done them wrong

Conduct Disorder- Usually violate the rights of the others , over and over again.

Bullying others

Starting fights

Using a weapon to threaten or hurt others

Being physically cruel to others or creature

Destroying property

Sourceswww.selfgrowth .com

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