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*I recommend that at least these essential slides be taught. Anger Management PPT Slide Guide 6 © 2014 by Dennis Fitzpatrick • www.DennisF.us Page 1 of 30 Anger Management PowerPoint Guide by Dennis Fitzpatrick Class 6: Self Evaluation & Forgiveness Slide Title 1 Music Before Class: “Clouds” by Claude Debussy (8:03) and Quotations I start the music 15 minutes before class. I have chosen music that will bring about calmness and a sense of beauty in my students. I want them to be receptive. I also want them to ponder the quotations shown. I ask a different student to explain each quotation. By pondering meaningful quotations, I raise the emotional level of the students to a higher plane for the rest of the class.

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Anger Management PowerPoint Guide by Dennis Fitzpatrick

Class 6: Self Evaluation & Forgiveness

Slide Title

1 Music Before Class: “Clouds” by Claude Debussy (8:03) and Quotations

I start the music 15 minutes before class. I have chosen music that will bring about calmness and a sense of beauty in my students. I want them to be receptive. I also want them to ponder the quotations shown.

I ask a different student to explain each quotation. By pondering meaningful quotations, I raise the emotional level of the students to a higher plane for the rest of the class.

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2 15 Group Rules

I like to review the group rules whenever there is a new member in the group. This helps to reinforce the rules with the older members as well. I go around the room and ask different students to read and explain the rule, if necessary.

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3 Review

I review skills taught in the past and see who did the mental homework.

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4 Review: Asia3: Fair Fight Negotiation1

I go over this slide again to reinforce its content from a prior class. I also want to know if any of the students discussed Fair Fight Negotiation with their mates. Fair Fight Negotiation is the quickest way to romance from conflict.

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5 Review: Asia3: Fair Fight Negotiation2

I review this slide carefully since it will keep my students from getting arrested again.

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6 *Is There A Relationship between Work Disputes and Violence?

Some students solve disputes at work better than they do at home. Some think they should be bosses at home. This slide discusses these issues.

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7 *How To Counsel Yourself & Others (Reality Therapy-WDEP)

This is valuable information that helps students too think clearly about solving their problems. It is also useful for a parent counseling their children.

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8 *Management Styles & DV

Lead management is a great improvement over “boss management” styles that are frequently the cause of violence. This slide explains the difference and suggests Lead Management as a good model to use at home.

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9 Before Video: Lead Management SAS

Many students don’t believe that a workplace could be like this until they see it. The incidence of violence is low in such an environment.

─What is more important: the customer or the employee?

─Does your employer use Boss or Lead Management?

─What was the turnover rate at SAS?

─How does SAS prevent work addiction?

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10 Video: Lead Management SAS (13 min)

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11 After Video: Lead Management SAS

─What is more important? Answer: the employee

─ Does your employer use Boss or Lead Management?

─What was the turnover rate at SAS? Answer: 3% while competitors had a 20% turnover rate. Also no layoffs.

─How does SAS prevent work addiction? Answer: they encourage a 35 hour work week.

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12 Joke: Marriage – Pain and Jewelry

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13 *How Can I Tell If I Am Mentally Healthy?

This important question needs to be answered to assess the health of the family. Dr. Glasser gives this answer: “You are mentally healthy if you get along with the important people in your life. The cause of almost all public mental health problems is unhappiness.” It is a present unhappy relationship.

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14-15 *Self-Evaluation Questions To Correct 1-20

It is very important to train the students to turn from accusations to self-evaluation questions. A good list of such questions is not easy to come by. These 20 questions are first given in the usual dysfunctional manner by the counselor. Then I go around the room and ask the students to turn the accusation into a self-evaluation question before showing them the answer in red. The purpose of a self-evaluation question is to ask it so a discussion results instead of a defensive withdrawal.

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16-17 *Self-Evaluation Questions Restated 1-20

Then I reinforce the self-evaluation questions by going around the room and having the students restate it correctly while I say it the wrong way. At the end I ask how many students were raised totally or partially with the dysfunctional statements. I am always surprised how few ever heard self-evaluation questions while growing up.

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18 *Are There Quality Schools?

Many students don’t know of Dr. Glasser’s work with Quality Schools. It is a revelation to find out the principals on the slide behind a Quality School.

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19 *Story Corp: Julio Diaz 2:51

This amazing story is worth three minutes of listening. Mr. Diaz is a counselor who meets a robber in a most unusual manner.

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20 *Is There A Relationship between Resentment and Violence?

Resentment is the top offender in relationships. Instead of working together to solve an issue, we see the other as a person trying to harm us.

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21 *Forgiveness

There are 10 reasons why it is in my self-interest to forgive. These 3 slides list these reasons. I explain the first 3 reasons.

22 *Shakespeare Then I read this magnificent quote of Shakespeare from the Merchant of Venice on mercy.

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23 *10 Reasons to Forgive:

I continue with the 4th to 10th reason it is in my self-interest to forgive. Very few will argue with this once it is explained.

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24 *Forgiveness: 3 Steps

It is not enough that I want to forgive, I must release the issue or take an action with my best talent if the issue is serious. Every act of forgiveness involves an unlearned lesson or the same situation will occur again. I must identify the lesson and set new boundaries to defeat it next time.

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25-26 *Forgiveness Self-Evaluation Quiz 1-20

These 20 self-evaluation questions give the student an opportunity to see how well they do with forgiveness.

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27 *Amends

Making amends is the other side of forgiveness. I make amends for harm I have done. I will not be free of quilt or shame until I do so. Forgiveness is used when I forgive others for the harm they have done.

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28 Story Corp: On Forgiveness 3:35

This moving story illustrates the nobility of forgiveness.

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29 *Forgiveness FAQs

These three questions about frequently arise: How can I forgive someone who died? How can I forgive if I cannot forget? How can I forgive the offender?

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30 *Violence vs. Peace

This slide contains my 3 favorite quotations on achieving peace through forgiveness. Many students ask for a copy of this slide.

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31 Before Video: The Amish on Forgiveness

This brief (3 min) but effective video shows how the Amish handled their tragedy with forgiveness.

─How did the Amish handle the death of their children?

─Did they approach the wife of the killer?

─Forgiveness frees me from what?

32 Video (3:18): The Amish on Forgiveness

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33 After Video: The Amish on Forgiveness

─How did the Amish handle the death of their children?

─Did they approach the wife of the killer?

─Forgiveness frees me from what?

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34 Meditation Sounds: Seaside

I teach a simple form of meditation at each class. I use a brief meditation of 1 minute focusing on how I could make myself happier. The student will automatically begin to listen to the student’s inner voice. The beginning of all change is when I listen to my conscience. Usually we do not take the time to do this. If there is time, some students will discuss their meditation.

I might begin the meditation by saying “I permit myself to be as happy as I can be in this present moment.” The purpose of the meditation is to practice how I can calm myself when upset or become even calmer. It is not a religious exercise.

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35 *Discussion Questions

Each class also has a list of discussion topics that are related to the theme of the class. Some use these questions for homework though I find a discussion with the group is more productive.

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