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All Wrong? Most%of%the%da+ng%advice%you%get%most%places%is%horribly%misinformed.%You’ll%get%top%10%lists%of%“things%women%wish%men%knew”%that%lead%you%down%the%garden%path,%and%suggest%that%the%road%to%succeeding%with%women%is%by%being%a%dashing%knight%in%shining%armor%like%+mes%of%old%(it%isn’t%now,%and%it%wasn’t%back%then,%either).%

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This%book%isn’t%like%that.%I’m%not%going%to%tell%you%that%“forgeFng%to%pull%out%the%chair”%or%“not%buying%flowers”%or%“not%wai+ng%un+l%the%third%date%to%make%a%move”%are%‘mistakes’,%because%they%aren’t%–%and%those%who%tell%them%to%you%miss%the%point.%

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Instead,%this%book%is%all%about%the%biggest%mistakes%men%make%that%prevent%them%from%geFng%laid,%from%geFng%second%dates%when%they%don’t%get%sex%on%the%first,%and%from%geFng%girlfriends%from%the%girls%they%want%in%those%roles.%This%book%is%solely%focused%on%your%results.%

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UsingThis Book “Things%Guys%Get%Wrong%with%Girls”%is%a%preOy%short,%straighPorward%book,%but%there%are%a%few%+ps%to%using%it%that%can%help%you%get%more%out%of%it.%

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One%of%these%is%going%through%with%an%honest%mind.%It’s%easy%to%read%what%is%to%follow%and%say,%“Anyone%who%does%that%is%a%fool!”%But%you’ll%get%the%most%distance%out%of%this%book%if%you%ac+vely%reflect%on%whether%you’ve%been%guilty%of%these%mistakes…%and%if%so,%how%oVen.%

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Another%+p%is%that%there%are%hyperlinks%scaOered%throughout%this%book%–%use,them.%They%link%to%ar+cles%on%the%main%Girls%Chase%website%that%further%explain%the%subjects%linked%to…%as%well%as%how%to%solve%their%associated%problems,%challenges,%and%difficul+es.%

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And%now,%onto%our%first%mistake…%

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Details:%This%is%mostly%a%problem%with%guys%who%are%mee+ng%girls%in%social%circle%seFngs%–%at%school,%at%work,%or%at%extracurricular%ac+vi+es%like%tennis%or%Frisbee%or%language%class%or%par+es.%

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Problem:%The%deal%here%is%that%guys%get%nervous%about%messing%up%their%reputa+ons%in%social%circle,%and%don’t%want%there%to%be%awkwardness%if%they%get%a%“no”.%So,%they%wait%and%they%wait%and%they%wait%for%the%perfect3moment%to%ask%her%out…%which%usually%never%comes.%Then,%the,girl’s,a7rac9on,for,them,expires.%%

Solu9on:%Quit%wai+ng%for%the%right%moment%and%go%create%the%right%moment!%It%doesn’t%have%to%be%absolutely%perfect%–%it%just%has%to%happen.%Ask,her,out%–%if%she%says%“no”,%no%big%deal,%just%be%friendly%but%neutral%around%her%in%the%future.%Treat%her%like%anybody%else.%But%if%she%says%“yes”%–%well,%won’t%you%be%glad%you%asked?%

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Details:%Most%men%are%taught%(by%family,%friends,%and%society)%that%the%way%to%a%woman’s%heart%is%by%compe+ng%for%the%boyfriend%role.%That%is,%showing%her%you’d%make%a%fine%choice%for%long`term%commitment.%

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Problem:%The%problem%here%is%that%this%is%the,slowest,and,leastreliable,path,to,ge@ng,her.%Unless%you’re%insanely%rich,%incredibly%good`looking,%or%both,%you%won’t%win%in%a%compe++on%against%every%other%man%she’s%ever%dated%by%paying%for%her%meal%at%a%mid`range%restaurant,%telling%her%about%your%trip%to%Europe,%and%hin+ng%at%your%$50,000%/%year%office%job.%Every%other%guy%she’s%met,%dated,%and%slept%with%has%the%same%or%beOer.%

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Solu9on:%Resist%the%urge%to%“be%impressive”%and%instead%s+ck%to%geFng%a%girl%talking%about%herself.%And%all%the%stuff%you%used%to%do%to%show%what%a%fantas+c%boyfriend%you’d%make%–%quit,it.%

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Details:%Just%like%most%guys%spend%all%their%+me%down%in%the%trenches%compe+ng%to%be%girls’%boyfriends,%very%few%men%compete%(effec+vely)%for%the%lover%role%–%leaving%wide%open%for%you%the%fastest,%simplest,%and%best%path%at%geFng%girls%in%bed%and%in%rela+onships%with%you.%

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Problem:%The%reason%most%men%compete%on%providing%safety%and%security%for%women%is%because%it’s%a%lot%harder%to%compete%on%providing%excitement,%sensuality,%and%aOrac+on.%It%requires%a%lot%more%work%on%your%end%–%you’ve%really%got%to%upgrade%yourself.%

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Solu9on:%This%one%requires%a%bit%of%labor%on%your%end%–%and%a%shiV%in%how%you%approach%women.%You%must%strive%to%become%a%provider%of%excitement,%freedom,%adventure,%lust,%in+macy,%and%deep,%good%emo+ons.%Once%you%accept%this%as%your%mission,%building%a%sexy,vibe%and%sexual,tension%in%your%interac+ons%is%almost%second%nature.%

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#4: BeingToo Bold Details:%While%the%majority%of%men%struggle%with%the%opposite%of%this%problem%(which%we’ll%cover%next),%plenty%of%guys%s+ll%lose%women%by%being%overly%bold%–%and%this%one%especially%plagues%men%who%are%new%to%honing%their%skills%with%women.%

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Problem:%You%absolutely%want%to%move,fast%with%women,%but%it’s%important%you%do%so%at3the3right3moment%–%that%is,%when%a%girl’s%open%to%moving%forward%with%you,%and%won’t%be%socially%compromised%doing%so.%Very%aggressive%men%who%are%s+ll%geFng%their%bearings%down%socially%can%miss%these%cues,%or%not%look%for%them%altogether,%and%cause%women%to%autoCreject%by%seeming%to%be%unaOuned%to%them%and%out%for%dates%or%sex%with%just%whoever%they%can%get.%

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Solu9on:%Having%a%sound%process%that%you%follow%is%the%key%here.%Once%you%build%your%process%–%certain%steps%you%follow%with%girls%–%you%can%work%on%tes+ng%to%see%where%you%can%skip%steps%and%move%faster;%that%way,%you’re%able%to%move%rapidly%with%the%girls%who%want%to%move%rapidly%with%you,%without%unnerving%the%girls%who%like%you%but%need%a%less%brisk%pace.%

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#5: Not Being Bold Enough Details:%Rather%than%be%too%bold,%most%men%actually%follow%the%“play%it%safe”%principle%when%it%comes%to%how%they%interact%with%women%–%that%is,%they’d%rather%err%on%the%side%of%not%making%a%move,%than%making%one%and%making%it%too%soon.%

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Problem:%Women%have%a%strong%sexual%and%roman+c%preference%for%confident%men%who%make%moves%with%them%and%aren’t%in+midated%by%them.%Their%interest%in%men%quickly%cools%off%if%it%seems%like%those%men%aren’t%going%to%be%bold%and%take%ini+a+ve%with%them%to%bring%things%ever%closer%to%physical%in+macy.%

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Solu9on:%The%mental%paradigm%shiV%that’s%needed%here%is%realizing%you’re%a%lot%more%likely%to%lose%women’s%interest%by%failing%to%make%a%move%than%by%making%one%too%soon.%If%you%try,to,kiss,her%and%she%says%“no”,%she’s%a%lot%more%likely%to%say%“yes”%next%+me.%But%if%you%never%try%to%kiss%her,%she’s%going%to%get%cold%on%you%and%have%lost%interest%by%the%+me%you’re%finally%ready%to%make%your%move.%Fortune%favors%the%bold%–%and%so%do%women,%too.%Time%limits%help%you%here%–%ask%her%to%sit%with%you%within%10%minutes%of%first%mee+ng%her;%invite,her,home%with%you%at%most%2%hours%into%the%date%you%plan%to%do%this%on;%kiss%her%within%10%minutes%of%bringing%her%into%your%apartment%or%home.%Time%limits%strip%you%of%your%wiggle%room%and%force%you%to%take%ac+on.%

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Details:%Related%to%not%being%bold%enough,%missing%escala9on,windows%is%what%happens%when%a%man%fails%to%realize%a%woman%is%open%and%recep+ve%to%him%advancing%things%with%her,%yet%does%not%take%ac+on.%

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Problem:%Missing%an%escala+on%window%a%woman%was%giving%you%can%very%quickly%sour%her%on%you,%and%turn%hope%that%she%had%that%the%two%of%you%would%get%together%into%biOer%disappointment.%Much%of%the%+me,%one%missed%window%is%all%it%takes%to%spell%the%end%of%a%great%connec+on.%

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Solu9on:%In%order%not%to%miss%escala+on%windows,%you%must%be%con+nually%pinging%women%to%see%if%they%are%ready%to%be%moved%forward.%You%can%most%easily%use%compliance,tests%for%this:%when%you%move%girls,%invite%them%to%sit%with%you,%get%increasingly%physical%with%them,%and%invite%them%home%with%you,%you%discover%how%genuinely%interested%in%you%they%really%are.%(Flir+ng,%by%comparison,%isn’t%nearly%as%effec+ve%an%indicator%–%we’ll%discuss%why%in%a%moment.%Move,girls%and%compliance%test%instead%of%looking%for%flirta+on)%

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Details:%Men%who%are%inexperienced%with%women%tend%to%get%very%excited%by%flirta+ous%behavior%by%women.%And%women%know%this%–%and%they%use%it%to%their%advantage.%

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Problem:%Flirty,behavior%is%used%most%oVen%by%women%not%to%signal%interest%in%a%man,%but%to%elicit%signals%of%interest%from%him.%Flirta+ous%women%use%their%flirta+ousness%to%get%aOen+on%from%men,%which%validates%them%and%makes%them%feel%good.%Men%who%fall%for%it,%though,%quickly%become%dull%and%uninteres+ng%to%them.%

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Solu9on:%This%takes%some%training%–%experience%in%party%environments%(like%bars,and,nightclubs)%is%the%best%for%this,%since%it%exposes%you%to%women%on%“maximum%flirt”%and%“minimum%aOen+on%span”%–%but%you%need%to%become%aware%that%flir+ng%and%interest%are%two%very%different%things.%Women%who%are%genuinely%interested%in%you%tend%to%be%less%flirty%in%conversa+on%and%interac+on%with%you,%not%more%–%focus%on,%again,%escala+ng%compliance%and%looking%for%which%women%comply%with%you…%not%which%women%flirt%with%you.%

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Details:%Men%oVen%treat%women%they%like%as%projects%to%chip%away%at,%with%the%belief%that%the%harder%they%work%and%the%more%+me%they%put%in,%the%closer%they%get%to%snagging%the%girl.%

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Problem:%This%mindset%ignores%aOrac+on’s%expira+on%date,%and%it%also%treats%women%as%open%to%being%won%over%by%any%man,%provided%that%man%is%determined%enough.%In%fact,%some%women%will%respond%to%you,%and%some%won’t;%and%while%you%can%change%the%minds%of%some%of%those%who%don’t%respond%to%you,%much%of%the%+me%it’s%like%inves+ng%more%and%more%+me%digging%for%gold%in%a%mountain%that%ul+mately%contains%no%gold.%

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Solu9on:%Focus%on%moving%fast%and%hiFng%your%escala+on%windows,%and%look%for%compliance%above%all.%If%women%do%not%comply%with%you,%they3are3not3interested3in3you3like3that…%and%you%probably%won’t%change%their%minds.%Use%a%woman’s%compliance%with%you%as%gold%nuggets%you%find%while%digging;%the%more%nuggets%(compliance)%you%come%across,%the%beOer%your%odds%are%–%and%the%less%you%get,%the%faster%you%should%move%on%to%beOer%prospects.%

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Details:%Touch%is%probably%the%easiest%way%for%men%who’ve%yet%to%really%start%working%on%their%lover%value%/%sexiness%to%ramp%up%sexual%feelings%in%women.%Escala+ng%physical%contact%in%increasingly%in+mate%ways%turns%women%on%like%liOle%else.%

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Problem:%New%guys%tend%to%shy%away%from%touching%women%too%much%because%1.)%they%aren’t%in%the%habit%and%it%feels%awkward%to%them,%and%2.)%they%figure%they%wouldn’t%like%a%stranger%touching%them,%so%they’re%beOer%off%not%touching%this%new%girl%un+l%they’re%beOer%acquainted.%What%ends%up%happening,%however,%is%that%the%two%con8nue%feeling%like%strangers,%and%never%get%much%beOer%acquainted.%

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Solu9on:%While%men%who%are%very%advanced%can%some+mes%skip%touch%and%be%fine,%because%their%strong%sexual%vibes%compensate%for%the%lack%of%touch,%any%man%who%is%anything%other%than%dripping%with%sensuality%needs%to%be%touching,women%he%wants%to%get%together%with.%Start%with%incidental,touch,%and%work%your%way%up%to%increasingly%more%in+mate%and%lingering%touch.%

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Details:%When%you’re%new%and%everything’s%happening%fast,%it’s%easy%to%get%a%liOle%“sloppy”%and%do%things%like%make%out%with%girls%or%brazenly%sex%talk%with%them%in%front%of%their%friends%and%other%people.%You’re%there,%in%the%moment,%and%excited,%and%you%want%to%see%what%you%can%pull%off.%

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Problem:%A,woman’s,reputa9on%is%perhaps%her%most%precious%asset%to%her.%And%anything%that%threatens%it%gets%thrown%to%the%ground%and%trod%on.%That%means%you,%too,%if%you%even%mildly%risk%making%her%looking%like%an%“easy”%girl%in%front%of%her%friends,%acquaintances,%or%oVen%even%total%strangers.%

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Solu9on:%Make%discre+on%a%priority.%While%it%may%not%be%important%for%you,%personally,%it’s%deeply%important%for%all%of%the%women%you%interact%with…%and%it’s%also%deeply%important%for%you%not%having%women%throw,you,under,thebus%in%order%to%preserve%their%hard`won%social%reputa+ons%that%you’ve%swept%along%and%threatened%with%your%overly`public%romancing%or%courtship%displays.%Be%discreet,%keep%it%under%the%radar,%and%get%her%somewhere%private%before%you%really%start%puFng%the%moves%on%her.%

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Details:%Inexperienced%men%tend%to%treat%everyone%largely%the%same%–%men,%women,%elders,%children,%the%works.%Something%they%oVen%term%“being%respecPul.”%They%treat%all%others%like%friends%and%equals.%

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Problem:%When%women%are%assessing%prospec+ve%mates,%they%aren’t%looking%for%men%who%are%their%equals%–%they’re%looking%for%men%who%are%more%excep+onal%than%them,%more%dominant%than%them,%and%more%authorita+ve%than%them.%The%men%who%treat%them%like%friends%and%equals%get%short%shriV%in%the%ma+ng%game.%

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Solu9on:%Rather%than%treat%women%like%pals%with%breasts,%treat%them%as%though%you%find%them%silly,and,cute.%Women%adore%men%who%view%them%as%adorable%–%not%as%friendly,%or,%alternately,%as%in+mida+ng.%Tease%women,%be,playful%with%them,%and%above%all,%treat%them%like%what%they%are:%just%girls.%

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Details:%A%lot%of%the%advice%out%there%tells%men%to%not%be%too%aggressive%going%for%sex.%Lots%of%men%hear%this%and%think,%“Whew%–%I%was%nervous%about%making%a%move,%so%this%means%I%don’t%have%to%do%that%any%+me%soon!%That’s%a%relief.”%

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Problem:%As%wonderful%and%roman+c%as%da+ng%can%be%made%out%to%be,%it’s%really%all%about%one%thing%in%the%end:%a%man,%and%a%woman,%ma+ng%together%as%all%creatures%do.%And%if%any%given%woman%starts%feeling%like%you%can’t%or%won’t%do%what%the%male%of%the%species%must%do,%she’ll%reason%you%can’t%be%a%very%high%caliber%mate%aVer%all%–%and%will%lose%all%interest%in%having%you%as%anything%other%than%“just,friends.”%%

Solu9on:%The%solu+on%here%is%simple%enough%–%you%need%to%be%taking%the%girls%you%like%to%bed%with%you!%If%you’re%inexperienced%and%nervous,%strict%rules%you%adhere%to%help%a%lot%here%–%use%date,compression,%or,%if%you’re%a%bit%more%advanced,%follow%the%guidelines%for%first,date,sex%or%second,date,sex.%

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Wrap Up You’ve%now%got%a%bead%on%the%non`poli+cally%correct%–%but%instead,%the%actually%correct%–%things%that%guys%get%wrong%all%the%+me%in%da+ng.%

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You%know…%the%ones%that%actually%prevent%you%from%sleeping%with%girls%and%taking%them%on%as%lovers,%girlfriends,%partners,%and%paramours.%

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If%you%follow%the%solu+ons%you’ve%been%presented%with%here,%and%fix%the%errors%you%see%in%your%own%approach%to%da+ng,%you’ll%start%geFng%a%lot%more%results%with%women%than%you%ever%have%before%–%and%that%means%a%much%beOer%and%more%fulfilling%romance%and%sex%life%for%you%(and%girls%around%you!).%

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Next Steps... Now%that%you%know%what%you%need%to%do,%it’s%+me%to%unlock,your,full,poten9al.%%

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