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Commemorating the Missing

Drafting / Translation: Ajay YadavReview/Editing: Krishna Chandra ChaliseyDesign/Printing: Quill Design/Sewa Printing Press, Kathmandu, Nepal

Published in August 2016 by International Committee of the Red Cross (ICRC)

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ForewordMany people go missing during armed conflict and some never come back; they remain unaccounted for even years after the conflict has ended. Not knowing if their relative is dead or alive, families search and wait, hoping against hope, unable to find an emotional closure because of the uncertainty of the fate of their loved one. The emotional and psychological suffering is severe. As per the ICRC study of 2008, the ultimate need of the families was the need for an answer on the whereabouts of the missing relatives to bring closure to the ambiguity. Despite the ICRC’s efforts on clarifying the fate of their missing relatives during and after the armed conflict, over 1300 people still remain unaccounted for in relation to the ten-year long armed conflict that ended in 2006 in Nepal.

In 2010, the ICRC launched an accompaniment programme (Hateymalo) to address the multifaceted needs of the families that came to completion in 2016 benefitting over 1200 families. In the course of the implementation of the Hateymalo, the families expressed the desire to remember and recognise their loved ones and undertook initiatives to build commemorative memorials. Besides the construction of the memorials, the families also performed prayer ceremonies and wrote poems. The exposure visits of the families to different Hateymalo districts played an important role in sharing experiences regarding the process of commemoration.

This photo book 'Commemorating the Missing' presents efforts of the families of the missing in Nepal to commemorate their loved ones. Fifty-nine commemorative memorials such as water wells, pillars, gates, waiting places, and temples were constructed in the name of missing persons in 39 districts. Apart from keeping the positive memory of missing persons alive, such initiatives also provided recognition to the families. The fact that the memorial structures have public utility and benefit all community members also brought them one step closer to being reintegrated and supported by their communities. Since they are unable to undertake the proper final rites, creating commemorative spaces enabled them to collectively share their feeling of loss while also building awareness of and solidarity for their plight.

The ICRC partnered with non-governmental organisations and the Nepal Red Cross Society to implement the Hateymalo in 46 districts. The ICRC thanks all governmental and non-governmental agencies and

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Commemorating the Missing

Commemorating the Missing

partner organisations for joining us to make the programme successful. I appreciate the partnership of the Nepal Red Cross Society both at the headquarters and district level to carry out this programme. I also thank National Network of Families of Disappeared and Missing Nepal (NEFAD) for their inputs in producing the photo book. I wish to express my sincere thanks to all ICRC colleagues associated with the Hateymalo programme for their commitment and dedication during the entire project period.

This book is a tribute to the entire families of the missing in Nepal and other parts of the world. Through this book, the ICRC would also like to draw the attention of the concerned authorities in Nepal to the plight of the families of the missing and ask them to respond to their needs without further delay.

André PaquetHead of MissionNepal

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Landscapes of Memory and Remembering the Disappeared in Nepal

Introduction

The conflict in Nepal (1996-2006) resulted in more than 1300 cases of enforced disappearances and missing. National Network of Families of the Disappeared and Missing Nepal (NEFAD) demands that every case is resolved in accordance with the needs and desires of the families.

From Individual Suffering to Collective Activism

Many families suffered because of the disappearances during the conflict, however there were no voices or associations to represent independently or to advance the families' demands and campaign on their behalf for truth, justice and memory. In the aftermath of the conflict (2006 onwards), families themselves began to form Family Associations (FAs) and networks across Nepal to speak out for their needs and rights. Individual family activists and FAs in some districts have worked to extend their network, built contacts and increased solidarity through mobilization and the launching of various campaigns in villages, districts, geographical regions to bring all families together to have a national voice.

NEFAD was founded in 2009 to support families of those whose loved ones disappeared either on account of the actions of the State or Maoist forces, and to help families advocate for their rights to truth, memory and justice. NEFAD represents all those affected by conflict and disappearance, regardless of ethnicity, social background or political affiliation.

Since the 2006 comprehensive peace agreement, families of the disappeared have waited for answers about their loved ones. It has however remained difficult to hold perpetrators accountable. NEFAD – the only organization of, by, and for victims of disappearances - brings the agenda of families to the national level and demands both accountability and the creation of sustainable support measures for families. The Government of Nepal has not made a serious commitment to investigate disappearances despite establishing a commission, with no policy of exhumation, memorialization and comprehensive reparation to the families. A majority of families face poverty and suffer from social and economic inequalities. Women are particularly affected.

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Commemorating the Missing

Commemorating the Missing

From Memory to Action

NEFAD itself is becoming a symbol of the fight against injustice and memorial works in Nepal for the families and relatives of the disappeared and missing. The process of framing memory must seek to bring people together and not to divide them. The memorial sites (e.g. those built by the Hateymalo accompaniment programme) become places for dialogue and the reunion of the families and communities. The families are affected by a number of factors: the legal and political, cultural and religious, moral and social issues, and the ways in which collective memory is constructed and narratives emerge. The way families and communities define their relationship to the past is also closely linked to their belief system and approaches to life and death, right and wrong, good and evil, and innocence and culpability. Divergent values, misconceptions, stigmas and alienation still exist in local communities around families of the missing.

Memorialization in Nepal is an age old concept, as a means of honouring, recognizing and remembering someone. The families, both individually and collectively, in our communities have begun to focus on ways to address the past, placing at its centre the emotional and moral needs of victims of disappearance.

NEFAD has been engaging across Nepal with the families and their associations on advocacy, building a family movement and leadership, as well as local memory initiatives and various campaigns, while partnering and coordinating with the Nepal Red Cross Society (NCRS) and the International Committee of the Red Cross (ICRC) for family support and policy lobbying, most broadly in the Hateymalo programme that has covered more that 90 percent of the families of missing from the conflict. This has increased the level of solidarity and willingness to join the family campaign, contributing to the rebuilding of relationships between previously divided communities, providing spaces for families to be recognized and reintegrated into society. In the absence of human remains, memorial works can provide spaces for mourning and reflection and contribute to long term healing. The range of local commemoration and memory events have advanced truth-telling and the establishment of the historical record by the families, through the process of memorialization, and helped to promote constructive dialogue, discussion and debate from local to national level.

NEFAD engagement on commemoration and memory initiatives:

NEFAD has been fully engaging to advance the family campaign through memory initiatives from a family level to villages, districts, and on the national stage. In coordination with NRCS and ICRC, it has been

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commemorating the International Day of the Disappeared (August 30) for many years by sending out solidarity messages and memory post cards to the families across Nepal, which has been powerful and emotional.

In 2012, NEFAD launched the ‘INVISIBLE NO MORE’ campaign, and used photographs, and personal effects of the disappeared in a MEMORY BOX to link these initiatives to the family campaign. In later years, NEFAD also organised a Family-Walk to Bhairabnath (the Army Barrack in the capital where the mass disappearance occurred), a Memory Walk in district headquarters and commemorated the international Day of the Disappeared both at the individual and collective level. NEFAD has also linked memory to the arts and theatre for wider civic engagement and public education to send messages to the new generation about Nepal’s violent past and disappearances. To continue the construction of local memory and family activism, NEFAD has launched a quilting initiative with the wives of the disappeared in the mid-western region, where the former Hateymalo members continue to come together to share their stories and produce a memory quilt to remember their lost husbands. This process will be continued and extended throughout the nation.

NEFAD is committed to recording a history of the disappeared and the families as oral history, as a part its long term “Truth, Memory and Justice” Campaign. It will continue to collect and document oral narratives, establish places of memory and remember the disappeared through various memory activities and initiatives.

NEFAD is happy to be a part of this publication, and appreciates the role of the ICRC, both during the conflict and in its aftermath, and its contribution to build family activism, memory initiatives and national awareness. This publication will play a significant role in remembering those disappeared relatives and will serve as an archive for education and the history of our time.

Ram Kumar BhandariPresidentNEFAD

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Commemorating the Missing

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Introduction

In 2010, the ICRC launched an accompaniment programme called Hateymalo. While providing psychosocial support to the families of missing persons, the ICRC in collaboration with national non-governmental organisations (NGOs) and the Nepal Red Cross Society (NRCS) delivered psychological, economic, legal, administrative and sociocultural support to them. With support groups being at the core of its multifaceted interventions, the programme helped families to cope with their specific problems and rebuild social and community bonds. The Hateymalo which was implemented in 46 districts of the 75 districts of Nepal came to an end in 2016 benefitting more than 90% of the families of the missing (FoMs) and was carried out in five phases. The totals number of the missing persons stands at 1334 as of July 2016.

The Hateymalo programme reflects the ICRC’s philosophy of accompaniment and was built upon long-standing approaches to psychosocial work that uses both peer support and para-professionals from FoMs and the wider community. The programme mobilized Nepali psychologists, counsellors, and para-professionals. The approach respected and nurtured community-driven, bottom-up, and culturally relevant practices, instead of directly replicating the Western approach of Mental Health and Psychosocial Support (MHPSS). Networking with local actors - both governmental and nongovernmental - sensitizing them to the needs of FoMs, and linking FoMs to the resources available through referrals were the approaches adopted.

The resource mobilisation process was, in particular, relevant to helping FoMs meet their needs. The selection and capacity-building of grassroots organisations and district chapters of the NRCS were also appropriate and relevant: these local bodies provided FoMs with speedy support and sustained the learning of benefactors from a variety of sectors.

By making support groups, a core component of its multi-faceted interventions, the Hateymalo was designed to help FoMs to cope with the emotional and psychological challenges of having a loved one missing. Simultaneously, it also aimed to discover new connections and resources to enable FoMs to move ahead in life. In addition, the programme emphasised on building solidarity networks of other local service providers and mobilizing them to provide FoMs with assistance; primarily the economic, legal, and administrative.

Core interventions

Through support groups, FoMs received emotional, social and cultural, economic, legal, administrative, therapeutic support and advice about their right to know. The accompaniers functioned as key persons

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in providing emotional support to and connecting FoMs with local resources through community mobilisation. A summary of the activities conducted under each component of the programme are as follows

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Components Activities

Mental health and psychological support

Focus groups for the mothers, wives, and fathers of missing persons

Individual counselling for screened persons

Psycho-education on stress and coping

Life skills training for adolescents

Consultation, referral, and support for mental health

Family support Information sessions

Referral to organizations specializing in mediation

Spiritual and cultural support

Construction of commemorative public spaces like chautara, community buildings, and water supply systems

Commemorative rituals (puja and family solidarity picnics).

Social and community support

Community sensitization activities (street theatre/ plays, art exhibitions)

Community gatherings and interactions

Mobilization of community leaders and local organizations

District-level workshops and interactions

Economic support Distribution of livestock, seeds, and/or financial support for income generation

Training in cornerstone principles of Heifer International, effective livelihoods, both on- and off-farm, and kitchen gardening

Group sustainability training (cooperative management) and exposure visits

Passing on the gift (formation of groups, training, and ceremonies).

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Legal and administrative support

Information and orientation to FoMs about legal provisions and administrative processes

Accompaniment through the processes of accessing administrative and legal rights (obtaining legal documents, certificates, interim relief, scholarships, social security funds, citizenship, and the like)

Support for access to free health check-ups and medication.

Study and dissemination of the civil legal Issues related to FoMs in Nepal to stakeholders and relevant authorities

Right –to- know Dissemination of information to FoMs about their rights and procedures regarding the whereabouts of the missing persons through the International Day of the Disappeared and publication of a list of missing persons

Follow up on individual cases of missing persons through family visits and follow-up group meetings

Support to family associations at the local and national levels

Table 1

List of activities by component

Missing persons

Total districts Total households

Total population

1295 46 1350 7965

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Families hav-ing received

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Families hav-ing received an official in-formation on whereabouts of the missing

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Table of Contents

Pilot Phase .............................................................. 1

First Phase .............................................................. 9

Second Phase ...................................................... 19

Third Phase ........................................................ 27

Forth Phase ......................................................... 39

Poems .................................................................. 59

Commemoration Sites .................................... 70

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Pilot Phase

The ICRC launched the pilot phase of its Hateymalo Accompaniment Programme in Bardiya district in August 2010. The programme covered 267 Families of Missing persons (FoM). By the end of the pilot phase in June 2012, the families of missing persons had conducted two worships ceremony, constructed 6 waiting places, 1 monument, 5 water pumps and 1 temple and organised tree plantation programme in the memory of their loved ones.

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Waiting PlaceMotipur – 5, Madaha, Bardiya2011

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First Expansion

The programme expanded, for the first time, to nine additional districts namely: Dang, Banke, Kapilvastu, Rupandehi, Nawalparasi, Chitwan, Kathmandu, Bhaktapur and Lalitpur in March 2011. The first expansion covered 326 additional families. Families of missing residing in these nine districts accomplished 9 worships ceremony and constructed 6 waiting places, 1 monument and 1 memorial gate, also organised tree plantation before the completion of the programme in June 2013.

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A prayer ceremony for the missing. Rupandehi 2011

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Second Expansion

In November 2011, the Hateymalo Accompaniment Programme expanded to six more districts. The expansion facilitated access to 121 Families of Missing residing in Jhapa, Morang, Sunsari, Kaski, Tanahu and Lamjung districts. Families of Missing constructed 4 waiting places, 1 monument and 1 memorial gate during the programme implementation period. The programme was concluded in September 2014.

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Waiting PlaceTaltalaiya, Itahari, Sunsari2014

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Welcome gate with the names of the missing personsDistrict Administration office, Damauli, Tanahu2012

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A Prayer ceremony being organised for the missing.Fedikuna - 9, Bhotewodar, Lamjung2013

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Waiting place Shahid Park –7, Pokhara, Kaski2013

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Third Expansion

The third expansion of the Hateymalo began in March 2013 and delivered services to 256 families living in Kailali, Kanchanpur, Surkhet, Gorkha, Dhading, Nuwakot, Rasuwa, Mahottari, Dhanusha, Siraha and Saptari districts. The relatives of missing persons carried out three worships ceremony and constructed 10 resting places, 1 monument, 1 memorial gate and 1 water supply memorial project. The programme was phased out in September 2015.

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Waiting placeSakhada Bhagawati temple, Chhinnmasta, Saptari2015

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Waiting placeSiraha Municipality–1, Siraha2015

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Waiting placeDistrict Health Office, Jaleshwor, Mahottari2015

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Resting placeJogimara –5, Hekrang, Dhading2014

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Waiting placeDhading Besi, Nilkantha municipality, Dhading2016

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Entrance gate to the templeDupcheshwor Mahadev, Rautbesi –8, Nuwakot2015

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Waiting placeDistrict Administration office, Gorkha2015

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Waiting placeLatikoeli –9, Bulbuliya, Surkhet2015

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Resting placeBelauri Municipality –6, Kanchanpur2015

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Fourth Expansion

One and a half year of support from Hateymalo Accompaniment Programme was provided to 325 Families of Missing from Achham, Baitadi, Jumla, Kalikot, Dailekh, Jajarkot, Salyan, Rolpa, Rukum, Baglung, Myadi, Parbat, Syangja, Kabhre, Sindhupalchok, Ramechhap, Sindhuli, Rautahat and Makwanpur districts since May 2014. By the end of the programme in March 2016, families of missing persons accomplished one worship ceremony and constructed 12 resting places, 4 monuments and 1 water supply memorial project.

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Waiting placeManthali municipality–2, Bhutekhola, Ramechhap2016

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Resting placeKamala Mai municipality–6, Khullamancha, Sindhuli2015

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MonumentShahid Park Chandranigahpur, Rauthat2015

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MonumentShahid Park, Hetauda municipality–11, Makwanpur2015

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Establishment of Ganesh idolDevisthan–1, Dhulikhel, Kavrepalanchowk2016

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Waiting placeTribhuwan Adarsh School premises, Syangja Bazar, Syangja2015

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Waiting placeKalika temple premises, Baglung Bazar, Baglung2015

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MonumentMusikot -1, Rukum2015

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Waiting placeMijhing –7, Shulichour, Rolpa2015

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Waiting placeDistrict Administration Office, Salyan2015

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MonumentSmriti Chowk, Dailekh Bazar, Dailekh2015

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Waiting placeJumla airport, Chandannath municipality –1, Jumla2015

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Waiting placeSatbanjha, Chauraha, Baitadi2015

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Some poems written by the Families of Missing Persons

a]kQf JolQmsf kl/jf/x¿åf/f n]lvPsf s]xL sljtfx¿

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hfb'u/–a'l4;fu/

p;n] Pp6f gful/stfPp6f b'O{ lsnf] rfdnsf] s'kgPp6f ltn:dL /x/ lbP/ Pp6f ef]6 dfu]sf] lyof],/, d a'l9 cf}+nfsf] gËdfly ykSs a;]sf] sfnf] bfudf x/fPsf] lyPF .

p;n] gf+Unf]hqf] uf]nf] / ;fF3'/f] ;+;f/ ePsL d]/L cfd}l;tnf]ssyfsf] rfdTsfl/s gfos em}+ cfP/ cg]s ltn:dL syf ;'gfP/Pp6f zxLb dfu]sf] lyof] /, d}n] /lGsb} cfPsf] uf]nLn] 5ftLsf] b]a|] s'gf g]/ gS;fsf] 6\of6' vf]kfPsf] lyPF .

o;n] cfkm\gf cfFvfaf6 kmn]sf] ;Ddf]xgsf] aN5L d]/f cfFvfsf] tnfpdf km\ofFs]/Df]/f cfFvfsf] Ps wsf]{ rds pg]/ nu]sf] lyof]p;n] hfb'oL zAbsf] u'nfaL ?dfn d'vaf6 tfg]/ nf]Eofpb} d]/f ar]/f h:tf sf]dn / sfFkL /x]sf cfjfh kf]sf] kf/]/ nu]sf] lyof] .p;n] ;kgfsf] dvdnL sk8fn] dnfO{ 5f]k]/ atf;df p8fpb} d]/f 9''s9'sLx¿ l;Ssf em} uf]hLdf af]s]/ 5g\5g\ ahfPsf] lyof] .

ha a'em]F p;sf] 5nha d}n] p;sf] 6'gfaf6 vf]h]F d'lQm/, dfFu] ;a yf]s,o;n] cWofF/f s'gflt/ aGb'ssf 3f]8fsf] 6fksf] cfjfh h:tf] r'6\sL ahfof] Rof6\6 /, d kl/alt{t ePF–lah'nLsf] kf]n / Kn]sf8{x¿df 6fFl;Psf kDkn]6x¿df ;/sf/L clkm;sf 9';L kl/;s]sf 98\8fx¿df/, ;dosf rfp/Lx¿df x/fpg] cfFz'sf dl;gf w;f{x¿df .

SYNOPSIS

The Magician- Buddhi Sagar

The poem tells how the people are shown the dream by the politicians and how the common people follow them only to realise everything was

false.

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hnhnf kxf8–ladnf t'Dv]jf

cfkm\g} :d[ltn] 3'dfpb} NofOk'¥ofpF5 dnfO{ ltd|f] ;Demgf;DdafbneGbf l56f] l56f] lx8\b}r/gdf afv|fsf ayfgx? wkfpFb}xfdLn] ;f6]sf cfTdLotfcem} klg 9's9's ul//x]5 oL hnhnf kxf8df

ltd|f] dfofdf of] ljzfn r§fgdf d}n] n]v]sf] 5'ld7f] uLtdx;'; u/ t atf;df auL/x]sf] 5 .

s;d vfP/ uPsf] ltdL

To; lbgb]lv kmls{P/ cfPgf}nfdf] ;do latL;Sof] ltdLnfO{ ;Demb} ltd|f] gfddf /f]k]sf] xn'jf a]bsf] af]6 kmNg z'? e};s]sf] 5 .

oxfFsf dflg;x?n] o'4 lal;{;s]sf 5g\ ltdLn] 6]s]sf] df6f] af]a dfnL{n] sxfF sxfF k'¥ofO{;Sof]d, 5' pbf;cfkm\g} :d[ltn] 3'dfpb} NofO{k'¥ofpF5lsg, ltd|f] ;Demgf;Dd .

SYNOPSIS

The Jaljala Hill- Bimala Tumkhewa

In this poetry, the poet recalls the childhood & adolescent days that she spent together with her loved one who left her vowing to come back which, however, never happened. His memory

still visits her time and time again.

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a]kQf gful/ssf] 8fo/L–/fat

r/f / rf}kofn] klg af; a;]sf] ;fFemd}n] cfˆg} 3/df af; kfO{g

km"n l6k]em}+6kSs l6k]/ s'g atf;n] r9fOlbof] s'g 9'Ë]–O{Zj/sf] uf]8fdf <

af]s]/ cfFv}e/L hnlaGb' cfsfzs'g :ju{k'/L gu/Ldf 5' d <

r'Fl8Psf] rËfem}+/Gkmlgb} /Gkmlgb} e'd/Ldfs;/L cf]em]n ePF, Ps Ps cfFvfaf6 <

dxfzo, d Ps a]kQf gful/s Ûd x/fpFbf d;Fu d dfq x/fOgF

d;+u} x/fof]–afpcfdfsf] hjfg 5f]/f]h;n] gla/fO{ v'jfpg' lyof] Ifo/f]usf] lgMz'Ns cf]vtL

d ;+u} x/fof]–t?gL >LdtLsf] nf]Ug] h;n] lslglbg' lyof] cfpg] bz}df Ps;/f] wf]tL

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dxfzo, d Ps a]kQf gful/s Û

d]/f] lhGbuL Rofltbf;+u;+u} Rofltof]–;+lawfgsf] Pp6f kfgf;+u;+u} Rofltof]–Dffgjtfsf] Pp6f ls:;f;+u;+u} Rofltof]–

dxfzo, d Ps a]kQf gful/s Û

elglbg'–w'/L cfFaf]df em'08\ofPsf] k'/fgf] sf]6/, 9f]sf 5]pdf /fv]sf] Pshf]/ h'Qfpg}sf] ef]

st} bf]af6f] rf}af6f]df d]/L cfdfn]5ftL lkl6/x]sL b]Vg'eof] eg] Elglbg'–d PSn} 5}g, of] cb[Zo nf]sdf

st} d]/L >LdtLn] 9f]sf p3f/} /fv]sL 5 eg]elglbg'–l;/fgLdf 5 lax]sf] t:aL/

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3';vf]/L / b]zb|f]xLn] /S;L lkPsf] ;fFemd}n] cfˆg} 3/df kfgL lkpg kfO{g

r9fP/ sfnf] afo'k+vL 3f]8fs'g lawftfn] 5f]l8lbof] of] cgsG6f/df

of] d's{§f a:tLdfs;sf] 6fpsf] af]s]/sf] xfF;L/x]5– of] c§fxf; xfF;f] <

dxfzo, d Ps a]kQf gful/s Û

st} d]/f afn] ;/sf/L sfof{nosf] 9f]sfdflgwf/ 7f]sL/x]sf] b]Vg' eof] eg]

st} d]/f ;Gtfgn] yfKnf]df cgfysf] kl/ro af]s]/dnfO{ vf]lh/x]sf] e]6\g' eof] eg]b]vfOlbg' –laxfg} pbfpg] 3fd/, 6fpsf] dflysf] lgnf] cfsfz

dxfzo, d Ps a]kQf gful/s Û

cGtdf,b]zn] vf]lhxfNof] eg]egLlbg'–b]zsf lgDtL d}n] b'Old6/ æsfqf]Æ hf]ufOlbPsf] 5' .

SYNOPSIS

A Memoir of a Disappeared Person - Rabat

The memoir of a disappeared person gives the account of how the lives of a father, a mother, a wife and a child take a difficult turn when a young person -the breadwinner of the family- disappears. The diary portrays the hardships of the dependents of the disap-

peared person.

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/f]lsPsf] ;do–k|la0f vltj8f

d]/f] ;do ToxLF /f]lsPsf] 5 6Ssa/km ag]/

ltdL cfnL nufpFb} lyof}dflnssf] k}lt; la3]dfd :ofpnf kf] a6'Nb} lyPF clnk/

lsg /flsof] xF, ;]gfsf] uf8L <lsg xfdkmfNb} cfP pgLx? ltdLlt/ <lsg n5fb}{ l3;f/] ltdLnfO{ <eg sxfF nu] ltdLnfO{ <d vf]lh/x]5' ltdLnfO{To;} lbgaf6 nuftf/xf]===== d]/f] ;do ToxL cl8Psf] 5 ,9SscfF;'sf] lxFp ag]/

dflnsn] eGb} lyPltd|f] n'ufdf ufef/fsf] kmf]6f] lyof] /] Ûca ltdLn] ;f:tL kfpF5f} /] Ûxf]Og dflns x'Fb} x}gp t ldtn] dn]l;ofaf6 k7fOb]sf] e]i6df lyof]To;df t Pp6f la+8L vfg] Pstf/] afaf lyof]xf] ToxL t xf] uef/flaZjqmflGtsf] gfosdflns ulh{P====d}n] tl;{P/ sfFk]sf] :j/df eg]Fla/fof] dflns d]/f] nf]6gn]hfg]sf] eP nfpg] lyPgTof] d'nf yfª\gf]a'em]sf] eP ldtn] k7fpg] lyPgg Tof] Hofgdf/f kmf]6f]

dflns d]/f] nf]6gn] slxNo}tkfFOnfO{ g/fd|f] u/]sf] 5}gd]/f] nf]6gn] slxNo}tkfO{sf] s'enf] lrtfPsf] 5}g

a]xf]; eof] Û9Nof] Ûs7\of+lu|P/ sqmSs k/]//flsPsf] 5 d]/f] ;dooxLF lg/ ÛaNn tNn d'lem{P/ kl5 oxL 7fFpdf x]bf{x]b}{dflns t;f{pg] ;]gf klg cfPtf]8] ;f/f tfnfkmf]8] ;f/f 9's'6Ln'6] dflnssf] esf/L klgltd]/ s} nflu xf] eGb}b'Orf/ hgf 3f]8f r9] d dflyntfl/b}F lyPF d

xf];df cfFpbf d ToxLF lyPhxfFaf6 ltdL x/fPsf lyof}ltdLn] nfpFbf nfpFb} 5f]8]sf] cfnLdf yf]]/} /utsf 6f6fx?;+u ntkltPsf] / s6\sl6Psf]cfˆgf] hfF3 5fDb}d ltdLnfO{ klv{/x]5' xf] oxLF g]/ t /f]lsPsf] 5 d]/f] ;do9Ss hd]sf] ;d'Gb| eP/

v} s] s] e};Sof] /] b]zdf/fhf klg 5}g /]

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Dfflns klg x'Gg /]c? klg Nofof] s]s] cfof] /]cxF, ltdL cfFpb} cfPgf}===k|To]s dfl3df d ltd|f] af6f] x]5'{ .k|To]s ci6dLdf d ltd|f] lrq sf]5'{

rf8af8 bz}ltxf/ ;a} cfFp5====t/ ltd|f] af6f] x]/]sf] oltsf aif{ e};Sof]g ltdL cffp5f} g s'g} clk|o ;dfrf/cflv/ 5f} sxfF ltdL <sxfF nu] ltdLnfO{ <

oxLF g]/ t hd]sf] 5 d]/f] ;do9Ss lgnf] dfg;/f]a/ eP/

e]6]b]lv ltdL of ltd|f] kmf]6f]df ePsf] dfG5] -uef/fnfO{_;f]Wg' lyof] Pp6f k|Zg Ûs] qmfGtL eg]sf] b]zsf] c+za08f xf] <ls sf6fsf6 xf] ldn]/ a;]sf] ufFpdf <qmflGt eg]sf] hftsf] lgdf{0f xf] ls hftsf] lagfz <a0f{ / au{sf] z'?jft xf] ls cGTo <

t/ ltdL cfPgf}ls sf6fsf6 xf] ldn]/ a;]sf] ufFpdf<qmflGteg]sf] hftsf] lgdf{0f xf] ls hftsf] lagfz<a0f{ / au{sf] z'?jftxf] ls cGTo

p;f]eP eg t===slt xhf/ aif{kl5 c;ndf bf; dflns aG5 clgdlns rfxLF bf; <xf] ot} lt/ d]/f] ;do /f]lsPsf] 5 ,8Dd hd]sf] ;u/dfyf eP/===

g cfFz'n] kvfNg ;S5 o;nfO{g cfuf]n] kufNgdg'iosf] s'/f u5{ hfaf] ;/sf/ltd|f] kvf{O{df

xf] t dg'iosf] s'/f u5{ hfaf] ;/sf/ltd|f] kvf{O{df .

SYNOPSIS

The Time On Hold- Prabin Khatiwada

A Wife's narration of how her husband was taken away by one of the parties to the conflict even though he had nothing to do with the conflict and was not involved in any way. The poem also presents how the innocent people suffered at the hands of both parties to the conflict.

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a]kQf d lrxfg leqaf6– k'?iff]Qd vgfn

d d/]sf] 5}g dnfO{ dfl/Psf] 5 / ufl8Psf] 5, of] lrxfgleq .nfO{ hnfpFg' kYof]{ cfuf]sf] /fkdf

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Disappeared Me - From The Graveyard- Purushottam Khanal

This is a lamentation from a person in a grave. He says he is not dead, but he was killed and buried under the earth. With his burial, buried are his opinions

and his ideologies, adds he.

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Where Did He Go ?- Durga Kaphle

A story of a woman -Phulmaya - who is waiting the arrival of her husband. Despite her incalculable attempts to get an answer on her husband who was taken away forcefully, all she has, after 14 long years, is one single

question: Where did he go ?

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COMMEMORATION SITES BUILT BY THE FAMILIES IN MEMORY OF THEIR LOVED ONES

SN Districts Place Type Date of Inauguration

1 Accham District Hospital premises, Mangalsen – 5 Waiting place 2015

2 Baglung Kali temple premises, Ba-glung Bazar Waiting place 2015

3 Baitadi Satbanjha, Chauraha Waiting place 2015

4 Banke Rajhena-2, Maitihawa Waiting place 2012

5 Banke Kohalpur, Chauraha Resting place 2012

6 Bardiya Dhadhawar – 7, Thanphena Dugdha Waiting place 2012

7 Bardiya Gola-7, Tingharuwa Water/hand pump 2011

8 Bardiya Khairichandanpur-3, Man-galpur Water/hand pump 2011

9 Bardiya Magaragadhi -5, Sonpur Waiting place 2011

10 Bardiya Mahamadpur-8, Bhaisahi Temple in school compound 2012

11 Bardiya Manau- 8, Nauranga Water/hand pump 2011

12 Bardiya Manau -8, Parsenipur Water/hand pump 2011

13 Bardiya Rajapur-16, Bikrampur Waiting place 2011

14 Bardiya Basgadhi – 5, Madaha Waiting place 2011

15 Bardiya Basgadhi – 8, Satariya Community home 2011

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16 Bardiya Basgadhi – 8, Nebada Waiting place 2011

17 Bardiya Sorahawa – 2, Jagatiya Waiting place 2011

18 BardiyaThakurdwara-5, temple pre-mises inside NRCS subchap-

terWater/hand pump 2011

19 Chitwan Rapti municipality-5, bhan-dara Waiting place 2012

20 Chitwan Kalika Municipality-11, Padampur Waiting place 2012

21 Dang Bela-2, Kathberuwa Resting place 2012

22 DailekhSmriti Chowk, Narayan

MunicipalityMonument 2015

23 Dhading Hekrang, Jogimara - 5 Monument and resting place 2013

24 Dhading Dhading Besi, Nilkantha Municipality Resting place 2015

25 Dhanusha NRCS Premises, Bangad-abar-6, Dhanusha Waiting place 2014

26 Gorkha Jibisa Chowk-3, Prithivi Na-rayan Municipality Waiting place 2015

27 Jajarkot Bherimalika-4, Bohara tole Waiting place 2015

28 Jhapa Kankai Municipality –4, Ko-tihome Monument 2014

29 Jumla Jumla airport, Chandannath Municipality-1 Waiting place 2015

30 Kailali Dododhara – 7, Bauniya bazaar Water tap 2015

31 Kalikot Bharta-8, Jitegada Water tap 2015

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32 Kanchanpur Belauri Municipality – 6, Be-lauri Bazar Resting place 2015

33 Kanchanpur Krishanpur - 4, Bani Resting place 2015

34 Kapilvastu Barkalpur - 09, Chouhanna-pur Resting place 2012

35 Kapilvastu Sirshihawa - 08, Rupgunj Resting place 2012

36 KaskiSahid Park, Ward No 7,

Pokhara sub metropolitan city

Waiting place 2013

37 Kathmandu Chandragiri municipali-ty-21, Purano Naikap

Monument and community building 2012

38 Kavrepalanchowk Devisthan-1, Dhulikhel Established of Ganesh idol 2016

39 Lamjung Fedikuna-9, Bhotewodar VDC Lamjung

Renovation of temple and Puja (worship) 2013

40 MahottariDistrict Health Office prem-ises, Jaleshwor municipali-

ty-4Waiting place 2015

41 Makwanpur Hetauda municipality-11, Sahid Smarak Monument 2015

42 Morang Biratnagar Sub-metropoli-tan city-10, Hospital road Waiting place 2014

43 Nawalparasi Daunne temple Statue of Goddess Saraswati 2011

44 Nawalparasi Shivamandir - 08, Mahara-jasthan temple Entrance gate to the temple 2011

45 Nuwakot Dupcheshwor Mahadev, Rautbesi - 8 Entrance gate to the temple 2015

46 Ramechap Manthali municipality-2, Bhutekhola Waiting place 2016

47 Rauthata Sahid Park Chandranigah-pur, Rauthat Monument 2015

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48 Rolpa Liwang-6 , Hospital chowk Waiting place 2015

49 9Rolpa Mijhing – 7, Shulichour ba-zar Waiting place 2015

50 Rukum Musikot – 1 Monument 2015

51 Salyan District Administration Of-fice, Salyan Waiting place 2015

52 Saptari Sakhada Bhagawati temple , Chhinmasta-4 Waiting place 2015

53 Sindhuli Kamalamai municipality-6, Khullamancha Waiting place 2016

54 Sindhupalchok Chhautara Municipality-3, Tudikhel Waiting place 2015

55 Siraha Siraha municipality-1, Shiva Chowk Waiting place 2015

56 Sunsari Itahari Sub-metropolitan city-3, Taltalaiya Waiting place 2013

57 Surkhet Latikoeli – 9, Bulbuliya Waiting place 2015

58 Syangja Patali bazar-1, Tribhuwan Adarsha School Waiting place 2015

59 Tanahu District Administration Of-fice, Damauli bazaar

Welcome gate with names of the missing 2012

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