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Agile Parenting Manifesto

GEOF LORY

GTD CONSULTING

PMP, ACP, CSM, MCP, DAD



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Guide Introduction

• Time in the IT industry

• Short job history

• Parenting experience

• My story

• Agile/Scrum role experience

• Writings/blogso Project Management & Parenthood

• Credentials◦ Endorsements◦ Training skills and experience

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Situational Parenting

Adapted from “Situational Parenting” Paul Hersey, Ron Campbell

Team Member Readiness

High S4 Low S1S3 Moderate S2

Self-Directed Authority-Directed

Able & Willing Able but Unwilling Unable & UnwillingUnable but Willing

Low Guiding Behavior High

High Support and Low Guidance

<-Encouraging – Problem Solving->

High Guidance and High Support

<-Explaining – Persuading->

Low Support and Low Guidance

<-Observing – Monitoring->

High Guidance and Low Support

<-Guiding – Directing->

S3 S2

S4 S1

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Parenting Paradigm“We judge our children by

their behavior,

but

we judge ourselves by our intent. “

“Learn to see through the eyes of a child. “



1. Positive – support or encourage

2. Negative – stop or degrade

3. Conditional – quid pro quo

4. Extinction – lack of any response

Parental Reinforcement

“This is from the perspective of the child not the intention of the parent.



Forming• Feelings not dealt with• Work place is for work• Established line prevails• No ‘rocking the boat’• Poor listening• Weaknesses covered up• Unclear objectives

Storming• Risky issues debated• Wider options considered• Personal feelings raised• More listening

Norming• Established procedures

agreed to• Commitment is strong• Roles and responsibilities

are accepted

Performing• High flexibility• Autonomy• Synergy

High Performance Teams

From Bruce Tuckman’s stages of group development



Forming

NormingPerforming

Observing Monitoring

Directing Guiding

Explaining

Encouraging

(Participative)

Team Stages and Parenting/Leadership Styles

StormingBruce Tuckman – Stages of Group Development

Paul Hersey – Situational Leadership Theory

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Agile Parenting ManifestoWe own the serious responsibility of developing the parents of tomorrow. To best prepare our children for this

new world which we can only begin to understand, we follow these values:

Goals and Purpose over rules and processes

Release of Human Potential over conformity to preconceived outcomes

Compassionate Courage over convenient complacency

Practice and Progress over preaching perfection

A Focus on the Environment over controlling behaviors

“That is, while there is value in the items on the right, we value the items on the left more.”



We follow these principles:Consistent traceability of practices to purposes assures integrity of word and deed. We practice what we preach and preach what we value, and

our children observe this.

We recognize the uncertain nature of the environment in which we parent and our children live. We stay conscious enough to adapt to

change while maintaining the goal.

Encouragement of curious exploration and reflective experiencemaintains consciousness at a level that can leverage possibilities.

Approaching situations with a sense of adventure and hope creates positive energy that builds self-esteem and respectful self-confidence.

Providing family members with open and honest communications.

Live a life of continuous self-reflection and have the strength to admit and accept the truth about ourselves.



We follow these principles:Commitment to the right path, not just the easy path – acting with integrity.

We believe a safe and supportive environment is essential for practice that develops proficiency.

Action that is evidenced or experienced will always be understood more than ideas and words.

The visible results of practice are the primary measure of progress.

Give children the environment and support they need, and trust the behaviors will follow suit.

At regular intervals, focus on the family structure and psyche.

Tune and adjust both as needed, but no more.



Treat others with uncompromising truthLavish trust on your family and friends

Be overtly receptive to new ideasTake personal risks for the family’s sake

Give credit where credit is dueDo not touch dishonest dollars

Put the interests of others before your ownMentor unselfishly

Be sincerely compassionateWhen in doubt, love

Family Operating Agreement


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Recommended Resources

www.anthonywolf.com

www.marypipher.com

www.projectconnections.com/articles/agileparenting.html

www.projectconnections.com/articles/glory.html

Situational Leadership by Paul Hershey

Speed of Trust by Stephen M. R. Covey

Management by Responsibility by Michael Durst



Geoffrey LoryManager of Expectations

GTD Consulting612.961.4108

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