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  1. 1. Tools & Techniques
  2. 2. Your Challenges Please list the top 3 challenges that you face or will face in your immediate future What is your strategy to overcome them? Because only Overcomers are rewarded Others become statistics 20 minutes
  3. 3. The Winning Attitude Because the mind is where it starts
  4. 4. Move from Entitlement to Contribution
  5. 5. Window of Opportunity In the life of every man and woman comes a time when they have a unique opportunity to make an impact and influence others. To succeed we need to anticipate, prepare and act with courage when it opens Once the window closes, your life is over Even if you remain alive
  6. 6. Master or Victim Stances of Success
  7. 7. The Essential Truth Living life is about making choices: Choosing to be a Victim Or choosing to be a Master Both stances are subject to the same givens of society, environment, organization etc. But have very different implications in terms of your development and happiness
  8. 8. The Price of Success Success always has a price. Most people dont succeed because they are not ready to pay that price Because 1. They have not defined success 2. They have not chosen to pay its price Whats the price of your success?
  9. 9. Ask Yourself What is your definition of success? What investment will you need to make? Are you ready to make the investment? Focus on the expected gains
  10. 10. 4, Drivers of Failure And their solutions
  11. 11. 1. Complacency Good enough, never is Create the phantom competitor Create Big Scary Goals It is the nature of the extraordinary goal to inspire extraordinary effort
  12. 12. 2. Aiming low Satisfaction is directly proportional to the degree of difficulty in reaching the goal. Nobody rises to low expectations Compare with your own potential, not with others who may make you look good Nobody knows the best that they can do
  13. 13. Losers compare with others. Winners are too busy beating their own goals
  14. 14. 3. Excuses and blaming Stop blaming others for your situation Analyze what went wrong and create a plan to avoid it in the future. Being objective, even hard, on yourself is the best way to avoid repeating mistakes. What mistake will you not repeat?
  15. 15. Excuses dont change failure to success
  16. 16. 4. Worship of the Self Sloth, laziness, unwilling to take hardship, seeking instant gratification, seeking pleasure & avoiding the pain of learning The surest sign of emotional maturity is to move from like to right. The highest form of pleasure is to give We are our own worst enemies
  17. 17. Please reflect Which long term goal are you sacrificing for short term pleasure? Believe me, a day will come when you will regret it
  18. 18. So what to do? Tools for self development
  19. 19. Planning Specific Measurable Achievable Result Focused Time Bound Plan but be flexible
  20. 20. Performance Focus on performing your current job and deliver more than expected. Develop a reputation for delivering results beyond expectations It is okay to talk about career development but secondary to how you perform your current job. The one who contributes most is heard first Only results build credibility
  21. 21. Expertise Get recognition as an expert in your area. Then look for opportunities to apply your expertise in a broader context. Learn the language of finance. It is the language of business. Be prepared to accept the more 'problematic' and inconvenient job and to offer to help others. Trust = Expertise + Willingness to help
  22. 22. Ownership Track your career and make your own development plan Like a professional athlete, make a habit of constant self improvement Never whine. Ask how you can change things. Others can give advice but only you can implement it
  23. 23. Challenges & Visibility Take the hard job. Err on the side of the bigger challenge. Play offence with your career. But be brave, not stupid Seek out assignments with visibility, but recognize that it cuts both ways Be sensible. If you fail, you will not be rewarded for trying. Ensure a 70% chance to win Leadership = Visibility + Credibility
  24. 24. Mentors & Role Models Seek feedback. Dont be defensive. Be thankful. Listen carefully. Take notes. Take your own decisions Treat the relationship seriously. The one who is afraid of feedback Is afraid of development
  25. 25. Build a network of supporters Dont judge people of other cultures by your standards and value systems Be willing to share information and talk about your own culture so others learn Ask questions but with sensitivity to local manners Be willing to learn and help
  26. 26. Success is where Opportunity meets Preparedness. Ambivalence Passion
  27. 27. Managing Time
  28. 28. What is your Lifes Goal? Today is your last working day and you are retiring. There is a farewell party for you and a friend of yours is giving a speech about you and your achievements What would you like to hear in that speech? How do you want to be remembered?
  29. 29. Techniques for Life Goal Imagine someone is delivering your eulogy or farewell speech on your retirement day. What would you like to hear? Imagine your picture on the cover of your favorite magazine. Write a caption for it. Think of those things in your past which gave you the most pleasure. Recall the incidents in as much detail as possible. What did you do? What happened? Why did you enjoy it? This will point you in the direction of your life goal
  30. 30. Time Activity 5.30 6.00 6.30 7.00 7.30 8.00 8.30 Record what you do every half hour for the whole day Time Log
  31. 31. Effective Time Actual Time Maintenance Time = Available Time Available time used in Life Goal = Effective Time (E T) Is this enough to achieve your Life Goal?
  32. 32. Maximize Effective Time 1. Prioritize: Effort versus Impact 2. Delegate: Urgent versus Important 3. Learn to say the magic word: No. Productivity is directly proportional to ET
  33. 33. IMPACT 20% of what you do, produces 80% of the results INVESTMENT Waste Hard Work Do if you have to Leverage
  34. 34. The 3 x 3 rule 1. Everyday make a list of 3 activities you need to do in order of priority according to impact. 2. Then start on the 1st and continue until you finish it. If you are interrupted, go back to it and complete it. Then go on to the next. 3. If any are left over, re-write the list the next day in the same way.
  35. 35. Urgent but not Important Urgent and Important Neither Urgent nor Important Important but not Urgent URGENT IMPORTANT
  36. 36. The magic word No! Develop Assertiveness: Self expression through which one stands up for ones rights without violating the rights of others.
  37. 37. How to say No! 1. Develop a reputation for being goal focused 2. Never drop-in on anyone without notice 3. Never Forward chain emails. Delete the ones you receive, unread. And tell everyone that you do this. Make punctuality an obsession
  38. 38. Who is smart? You or your phone? https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2017/0 4/27/well/family/27well_phone.html What is your score and what do you intend to do about it? Smart phones and stupid people recipe for disaster
  39. 39. Friends Remind you of the Hereafter You learn something new every time You can confidently introduce them to your parents Your cant afford those that dont fit this model
  40. 40. In the Final Analysis 1. Remember it is not about Time at all. 2. It is about Life. Your Life
  41. 41. Force Field Analysis Problem Solving tool
  42. 42. What to do? Strengthen positive forces (Enablers) Remove negative forces (Inhibitors) Removing negative forces is more important than strengthening positive forces because there is an internal push towards good in all of us
  43. 43. Exercise Goals Enablers Inhibitors
  44. 44. Locus of Control Concept of Internal Control Development of a New Scale Hanna Levenson, American Psychological Association, 1982 Questionnaire by : Prof. Udai Pareek, IIMA
  45. 45. Disclaimer Psychometric instruments are not an assessment of you but your own assessment of yourself Scores indicate trends and are not exact Scoring depends on frame of mind They are meant to begin exploration, not conclude Validate scores with your own real-life data
  46. 46. Internal > or = 33 32 29 28 22 21 18 < or = 17 External Others > or = 30 29 21 20 17 < 17 External Chance < 10 VERY HIGH HIGH TRUST IN SELF LOW TRUST VERY LOW CONFIDENCE DYSFUNCTIONAL DEPENDENCE REALISTIC DEPENDENCE INDEPENDENCE REBELLION POSSIBLE PROBLEMS IN COPING Scoring
  47. 47. Where is the control point of your success? What is Locus of Control?
  48. 48. Strengths 1. High confidence in self and ability to influence others, career, relationships, happiness, fulfillment 2. Belief that you can control yourself, others and situations Cautions 1. Need to control, others feel trampled, low empowering, listening, empathy, low need to collaborate or help others 2. If failure: Blaming, guilt, self-punishment, unrealistic drop in confidence Any strength maximized, is a weakness Internal Locus of Control
  49. 49. I (Internal Locus of Control) A score of 28 to 18 indicates that the individual lacks such self-trust and needs to examine his or her strengths by using feedback from others. A low score (17 or less) in this area represents little self-confidence and could hinder a person from utilizing his or her potential. 50
  50. 50. Strengths 1. High willingness to follow, obey orders, loyalty, good team player, realistic dependence 2. Works in a stable environment where rules are known & leadership lines are clear Cautions 1. Helplessness, confusion, frustration when needs not met because leadership takes you for granted, playing politics 2. Unrealistic dependence, high stress, low empowerment, blame game Take back your remote External Locus of Control
  51. 51. A score of 29 to 21 reflects a realistic dependence on supervisors, peers, and subordinates. A score of 20 to 17 shows an independence orientation and a score below 17 indicates counter dependence or rebellion. EO (External Others)
  52. 52. Do 1. They are not you, so they need more strokes than you 2. Be aware of what you say and do it thoughtfully Dont 1. Treat them like you would like to be treated 2. Take them for granted Managing Externality They can become highly productive
  53. 53. External Chance 1. Believe that what happens is controlled by non-human forces luck, stars, fate 2. Often a copout strategy 3. Cultural, religious beliefs 1. Be cautious 2. Ask questions respectfully 3. Dont argue or try to push your beliefs 4. Help them to see how they can influence their success stars favor the brave Cross-cultural sensitivity is critical
  54. 54. Home work Reflect on the implications of your score on the achievement of your vision. What changes, if any do you believe you need to make in order to succeed? What are the implications of your current scores on personal stress, frustration, energy and the ability to collaborate with and energize others? 55
  55. 55. Going forward Some of the attributes that got you to this point in your success will continue to be assets in your role as a business leader Some will have to change 56 What can you leverage? What must you change?
  56. 56. 3 questions for today Where are you today? Where do you want to be tomorrow? How are you going to get there? 57 Success is directly proportional to clarity
  57. 57. Where do you want to go? How do you know if you are headed right? Goal Setting
  58. 58. Being & Doing Goals Being Goal I want to be the head of the organization. Doing Goal I want to create and share a vision that will take this company to the Fortune 100 list. To do you dont have to be Unless you do you will never be
  59. 59. SMART Goals Specific Measurable Actionable Realistic Time bound
  60. 60. Gaining Commitment What is the goal? Write it down clearly Why should it be done? Understand how it impacts globally Whats in it for me? Understand its significance for yourself
  61. 61. Roadmap & Beyond How do I know that I am on track? Create a Roadmap with Milestones By when should it be done? Set time frames for completion Celebrate small successes If you want to know what someone values, see what they measure. ~ Mikel Harry, 6 Sigma
  62. 62. Skill Practice Pairs Using the learnings from this module please set one goal for yourself In pairs please see if the statements satisfy the SMART format 20 minutes
  63. 63. Action Plan What do you need to start doing?Start What do you need to stop doing?Stop What do you need to continue?Continue
  64. 64. Watch Yourself Others do!! Watch your thoughts, they become words, Watch your words, they become actions, Watch your actions, they become habits, Watch your habits, they become character, Watch your character for it becomes your destiny
  65. 65. People remember us not by what we consumed But by what we contributed
  66. 66. For thoughts & questions www.yawarbaig.com