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Help Your Child Be Bully Free

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Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. [email protected] [email protected] (270) 227 (270) 227 0431 0431 www.bullyfree.com www.bullyfree.com


Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com www.bullyfree.com

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What is the problem? What is the problem?

n n Students mistreating students Students mistreating students

n n Peer victimization Peer victimization

n n Peer abuse Peer abuse

n n Bullying Bullying


Goals Goals

n n To increase your understanding To increase your understanding of the nature of bullying. of the nature of bullying.

n n To present the rationale for To present the rationale for preventing and stopping bullying. preventing and stopping bullying.


n n To discuss what to do when you find To discuss what to do when you find out your child is a victim. out your child is a victim.

n n To provide you with tips for helping To provide you with tips for helping your child who is a bully. your child who is a bully.

n n To give you my passion for preventing To give you my passion for preventing and stopping bullying. and stopping bullying.


The Reason for My Passion!

I believe in the Golden Rule.

“Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

Dr. Allan Beane’s son was bullied.


Definition of Bullying Definition of Bullying

Bullying is a form of overt and Bullying is a form of overt and aggressive behavior that is intentional, aggressive behavior that is intentional, hurtful, and persistent (repeated). hurtful, and persistent (repeated). Bullied children are teased, harassed, Bullied children are teased, harassed, and assaulted (verbally and/or and assaulted (verbally and/or physically) by one or more individuals physically) by one or more individuals and often socially rejected by their and often socially rejected by their peers. There is an imbalance of peers. There is an imbalance of strength (power). strength (power).


Criteria for Determining a Criteria for Determining a Bullying Situation Bullying Situation Bullying is a form of overt and aggressive Bullying is a form of overt and aggressive behavior that is behavior that is intentional intentional, , hurtful hurtful (physical and/or psychological), and (physical and/or psychological), and persistent persistent (repeated). Bullied children are (repeated). Bullied children are teased, harassed, and assaulted (verbally teased, harassed, and assaulted (verbally and/or physically) by one or more and/or physically) by one or more individuals and often socially rejected by individuals and often socially rejected by their peers. There is an their peers. There is an imbalance of imbalance of strength (power) strength (power). .


Types of Bullying Types of Bullying

n n Direct Direct

– – Physical and verbal Physical and verbal

n n Indirect Indirect

– – Social/Relational Social/Relational


n n Other Other

– – Cyberbullying Cyberbullying, etc. , etc.


Physical Bullying Physical Bullying

n n Hitting, slapping, elbowing, Hitting, slapping, elbowing, shouldering (slamming) shouldering (slamming)

n n Pushing/shoving Pushing/shoving

n n Kicking Kicking

n n Taking/stealing, damaging or Taking/stealing, damaging or defacing belongings/property defacing belongings/property


n n Restraining Restraining

n n Pinching Pinching

n n Flushing someone’s head in the toilet Flushing someone’s head in the toilet

n n Cramming someone into his/her Cramming someone into his/her locker locker

n n Sexual harassment Sexual harassment


Verbal Bullying Verbal Bullying n n Name Name calling calling

n n Insulting remarks and put Insulting remarks and put downs downs

n n Repeated teasing Repeated teasing

n n Racist remarks/harassment Racist remarks/harassment

n n Threats and intimidation Threats and intimidation

n n Whispering about them behind their Whispering about them behind their back back


Social and Relational Social and Relational Bullying Bullying


n n Destroying and manipulating Destroying and manipulating relationships relationships – – turning your best friend against you, stealing turning your best friend against you, stealing your boyfriend or girl friend, etc. your boyfriend or girl friend, etc.

n n Destroying reputations Destroying reputations – – Gossiping, spreading nasty and malicious Gossiping, spreading nasty and malicious rumors and lies about someone rumors and lies about someone

n n Embarrassment/Humiliation Embarrassment/Humiliation


n n Negative body language (facial Negative body language (facial expressions, turning your back to expressions, turning your back to someone) someone)

n n Threatening gestures Threatening gestures

n n Ranking Ranking – – socially classifying others socially classifying others

n n Hurtful graffiti Hurtful graffiti


n n Excluding someone from a group Excluding someone from a group (social rejection/isolation) (social rejection/isolation)

n n Mean/nasty notes passed around or Mean/nasty notes passed around or sent to someone sent to someone

n n Hate petitions (promising to hate Hate petitions (promising to hate someone) someone)


n n Cyberbullying Cyberbullying

• • Cyberbullies Cyberbullies are often victims of bullying are often victims of bullying

• • Can feel stronger online Can feel stronger online – – can be a different can be a different person online person online

• • Instant messages Instant messages


• • Cell phone text messages Cell phone text messages

• • E E mail mail

• • Web pages/websites Web pages/websites


• • Use of chat rooms Use of chat rooms • • Chat language Chat language

• • LOL (“laughing out loud”) LOL (“laughing out loud”) • • BRB (“be right back”) BRB (“be right back”) • • “Ur “Ur guna guna a! a! (2day for * (2day for *ing ing my bf and Ur my bf and Ur ded ded.” .”

• • Means? Means? • • “You’re “You’re gonna gonna get a black eye today for get a black eye today for kissing my boyfriend and you’re dead.” kissing my boyfriend and you’re dead.” ( (Crosbie Crosbie, 2003) , 2003)


n n Afraid to tell parents Afraid to tell parents

– – Fear that parents may restrict use of Fear that parents may restrict use of telephone and/or computer telephone and/or computer

– – Fear that they may increase supervision Fear that they may increase supervision – – causing some loss of freedom or privacy causing some loss of freedom or privacy


How are boys and How are boys and girls different in their girls different in their

bullying behavior? bullying behavior?


n n Boys more direct and girls are more Boys more direct and girls are more indirect (social/relational) indirect (social/relational)

n n Boys and girls are both physical and Boys and girls are both physical and verbal verbal

n n Boys are typically more physical in Boys are typically more physical in their aggression their aggression – – Girls are becoming more physical Girls are becoming more physical


n n Girls bully in groups more than boys Girls bully in groups more than boys

n n Girls more often attack friends and Girls more often attack friends and individuals they know individuals they know


Redefining Manhood Redefining Manhood We need to redefine manhood. You can be a We need to redefine manhood. You can be a man and not be involved in sports. man and not be involved in sports.

When children describe victims, they often When children describe victims, they often say: “He isn’t good at sports.” say: “He isn’t good at sports.”

Physical education and recess often center Physical education and recess often center around sports around sports— —displaying weaknesses of displaying weaknesses of some students. some students.


How frequently does it How frequently does it occur? occur?


n n 20% 20% 58% or more of students 58% or more of students have reported being bullied have reported being bullied (varies from school to school) (varies from school to school)

– – School personnel underestimate School personnel underestimate – – Most of it occurs in secret Most of it occurs in secret


n n In a survey of 558 students in a In a survey of 558 students in a mid mid western middle school: western middle school:

– –80% of the students had 80% of the students had engaged in bullying behaviors in engaged in bullying behaviors in the previous 30 days ( the previous 30 days (Espelage Espelage, , 1999, in 1999, in Weinhold Weinhold and and Weinhold Weinhold) )


When and where When and where does it happen? does it happen?


n n Starts around age 3 Starts around age 3 n n Increases in frequency toward end of Increases in frequency toward end of elementary years. elementary years.

n n Becomes more physical toward end of Becomes more physical toward end of elementary years. elementary years.

n n Peaks during middle school years. Peaks during middle school years. n n Continues through high school. Continues through high school.


High High Risk Areas Risk Areas

n n Bathrooms Bathrooms n n Hallways Hallways n n Stairwells Stairwells n n Gym and locker rooms Gym and locker rooms n n Cafeteria Cafeteria n n Playground Playground n n On buses On buses


n n Waiting for the bus Waiting for the bus n n Parking lot Parking lot n n Classroom Classroom n n Commons area or lobby Commons area or lobby n n Library Library n n Between buildings Between buildings n n Etc. Etc.


Why doesn’t your child Why doesn’t your child tell you or some other tell you or some other

adult? adult?


n n Embarrassing Embarrassing

– – Feel defective because no one seems to Feel defective because no one seems to like you like you

– – Embarrassed because you can’t stand up Embarrassed because you can’t stand up for yourself for yourself

n n Fear that adults might make it worse Fear that adults might make it worse n n Have seen adults told and nothing was Have seen adults told and nothing was done done


Why must bullying be Why must bullying be prevented and stopped? prevented and stopped? n n More prevalent today and in more More prevalent today and in more serious form serious form

n n Occurs in every school Occurs in every school

n n Creates fearful environment Creates fearful environment

n n Poor school attendance and dropouts Poor school attendance and dropouts

n n Negative impact on learning Negative impact on learning


n n Toxic shame Toxic shame

– – Poisonous shame Poisonous shame – – not good shame not good shame – – Impacts trust in: self, others, and life Impacts trust in: self, others, and life

n n Self Self harm (mutilation) harm (mutilation) n n Suicide Suicide – – 30% of suicides caused by bullying 30% of suicides caused by bullying


Remembering 33 Young Remembering 33 Young People Who Killed People Who Killed

Themselves Because of Themselves Because of Bullying Bullying


n n Raises risk of suicide in Raises risk of suicide in bystanders bystanders

n n Common theme in school Common theme in school shootings shootings


37 Incidents 37 Incidents


n n Runaway from home Runaway from home n n Gang membership Gang membership n n Cult membership Cult membership n n Hate groups Hate groups n n Drugs Drugs


n n Teen pregnancies Teen pregnancies n n Stress (Post Traumatic Stress) Stress (Post Traumatic Stress) n n Depression and anxiety disorders Depression and anxiety disorders n n Long lasting emotional effects Long lasting emotional effects n n Creates society problems Creates society problems – – Bullies more likely to have criminal Bullies more likely to have criminal records and abuse others as adults records and abuse others as adults


Bullying: Bullying:

– – Weakens the mind Weakens the mind – – Weakens the heart Weakens the heart – – Weakens the body Weakens the body – – Weakens the spirit Weakens the spirit


What are the warning signs? What are the warning signs?

Characteristics of Characteristics of Victims Victims


– – Sudden change in school attendance Sudden change in school attendance

– – Sudden change in school performance Sudden change in school performance

– – Sudden loss of interest in favorite Sudden loss of interest in favorite activities activities


– –No friends or fewer friends than No friends or fewer friends than other children other children

– –Unexplained physical injuries Unexplained physical injuries

– –Frequent headache and Frequent headache and stomachache stomachache – – stress related stress related health problems health problems


– – Loss of appetite Loss of appetite

– – Nightmares Nightmares

– – Sudden change in mood or Sudden change in mood or behavior behavior n nOverly sensitive, cautious, clingy, and Overly sensitive, cautious, clingy, and angry angry

n nSad, lonely, depressed, and anxious Sad, lonely, depressed, and anxious


– – Loss of self Loss of self esteem and self esteem and self confidence confidence

– – Prefers company of adults Prefers company of adults

– – Seeks friendships with the wrong Seeks friendships with the wrong people people

– – Starts bullying others Starts bullying others


Characteristics of Bullies Characteristics of Bullies


n n Seeks to dominate and/or manipulate Seeks to dominate and/or manipulate peers peers

– – Enjoys power and control Enjoys power and control

n n Loves to win at everything; hates to Loves to win at everything; hates to lose at anything lose at anything

– – Poor winner (boastful, arrogant) and a Poor winner (boastful, arrogant) and a poor loser poor loser


n n Gets excited when conflict arises Gets excited when conflict arises between others between others

n n Stays cool during conflicts in which he Stays cool during conflicts in which he or she is directly involved or she is directly involved

n n Exhibits little or no emotion (flat Exhibits little or no emotion (flat emotionally) emotionally)


n n Always blames other people for Always blames other people for conflict conflict

n n Shows little or no remorse for his or Shows little or no remorse for his or her negative behavior her negative behavior – – lack of lack of empathy for others empathy for others

n n Disregards rules and disrespectful Disregards rules and disrespectful

n n Defiant or oppositional toward adults Defiant or oppositional toward adults


n n Expects to be “misunderstood” or Expects to be “misunderstood” or “disrespected” “disrespected” – – attacks before he or attacks before he or she is attacked she is attacked

n n May or may not have poor self May or may not have poor self esteem esteem

n n Cruel to animals Cruel to animals


Starting At Home Starting At Home

n n Teach self Teach self control through discipline. control through discipline.

n n Communicate a zero tolerance of Communicate a zero tolerance of mistreatment of others by consistently mistreatment of others by consistently applying negative consequences for applying negative consequences for bullying behavior. bullying behavior.


n n Teach the Teach the Golden Rule. Golden Rule.

n n Teach your children that mistreatment Teach your children that mistreatment and kindness are powerful and kindness are powerful – – creating creating memories. memories.


n n Hold family meetings to teach Hold family meetings to teach empathy, sensitivity and values. empathy, sensitivity and values.

n n Teach your child to control his/her Teach your child to control his/her anger. anger.


n n Discuss models of acceptance Discuss models of acceptance (newspaper stories, television stories, (newspaper stories, television stories, movies, etc.). movies, etc.).

n n Discuss bullying scenes you watch on Discuss bullying scenes you watch on television and in movies. television and in movies.


Three Things Your Child Can Do Three Things Your Child Can Do When They Hurt Someone When They Hurt Someone

n n Say, Say, “I was wrong.” “I was wrong.” n n Say, Say, “I’m sorry.” “I’m sorry.”

n n Say, Say, “Please forgive me.” “Please forgive me.”

n n B Be kind e kind to the person to the person. .


What should I do when What should I do when I find out my child is I find out my child is a victim of bullying? a victim of bullying?


n n Be thankful you know. Be thankful you know.

n n Do not call the bully’s parents Do not call the bully’s parents – – Don’t Don’t be Mr. or Ms. “Fix be Mr. or Ms. “Fix it.” it.”

n n Discuss the bullying events with your Discuss the bullying events with your child (who, what, where, etc.) child (who, what, where, etc.) – – do do not interrogate not interrogate – – avoid “Why” and avoid “Why” and “You” questions. “You” questions.


n n Keep a log/diary and take pictures of Keep a log/diary and take pictures of injuries injuries – – report physical assaults to report physical assaults to school and police. school and police.

n n Ask your child to write down what Ask your child to write down what happened, thoughts, and feelings. happened, thoughts, and feelings.

n n Let your child know it is normal to feel Let your child know it is normal to feel hurt, fear, embarrassment, shame, and hurt, fear, embarrassment, shame, and anger. anger.


n n If your child says, “No one likes me If your child says, “No one likes me at school,” don’t disagree. at school,” don’t disagree.

n n Stay calm Stay calm – – do not be too quick to do not be too quick to blame anyone blame anyone – – do not respond until do not respond until you have the details. you have the details.

n n Make sure your child understands Make sure your child understands that no one deserves to be bullied. that no one deserves to be bullied.


n n Explain why bullies mistreat others. Explain why bullies mistreat others.

n n Ask yourself, “Is my child Ask yourself, “Is my child contributing to this problem?” contributing to this problem?”

n n Ask yourself, “Is there anything Ask yourself, “Is there anything about my child that needs to be about my child that needs to be “normalized?” “normalized?”


n n Don’t tell your child to retaliate. Don’t tell your child to retaliate.

– – Retaliation often makes bullying worse Retaliation often makes bullying worse and last longer. and last longer.

n n Don’t tell your child to Don’t tell your child to i ignore gnore the the bullying. bullying.

n n Tell your child to Tell your child to avoid avoid bully bully – – when when possible. possible.


n n Find out what other parents and Find out what other parents and students know about the bully students know about the bully – – don’t don’t mention the bullying. mention the bullying.

n n Talk to other parents of victims Talk to other parents of victims – – What have they done? What have they done?

n n Find out if the school has an anti Find out if the school has an anti bullying policy. bullying policy.


n n Explain that bullies seek certain Explain that bullies seek certain reactions reactions – – want to hurt you and want to hurt you and make you upset. make you upset.

– – So, don’t let them know you are upset. So, don’t let them know you are upset.

n n Do not promise your child that you Do not promise your child that you will not tell anyone. will not tell anyone. – – Tell him/her you will do your best not to Tell him/her you will do your best not to make it worse. make it worse.


n n Express confidence that a solution Express confidence that a solution can be found can be found – – give child hope. give child hope.

n n Contact your child’s teachers (do not Contact your child’s teachers (do not be seen at school when you make the be seen at school when you make the report). report).

– – Work through school personnel as Work through school personnel as appropriate and as necessary. appropriate and as necessary.


n n Ask for an adult your child can report Ask for an adult your child can report to everyday at school to everyday at school – – ask your child ask your child who he/she would like to report to. who he/she would like to report to.

n n Be patient Be patient don’t give up don’t give up – – maintain maintain and instill hope. and instill hope.


n n If possible, file formal charges against If possible, file formal charges against the bully the bully – – assault, etc. assault, etc.

n n Seek a restraining order. Seek a restraining order.

n n Ask certain adults at school to Ask certain adults at school to befriend your child and to monitor befriend your child and to monitor his/her activities. his/her activities.


n n Ask grandparents to maintain strong Ask grandparents to maintain strong ties and communicate frequently with ties and communicate frequently with your child. your child.

– – Serve as good listeners. Serve as good listeners.

n n Ask older children who have good Ask older children who have good morals to mentor your child. morals to mentor your child.


n n Involve your child is activities inside Involve your child is activities inside and outside school. and outside school.

n n Monitor your child’s whereabouts and Monitor your child’s whereabouts and friendships. friendships.

n n Monitor your child’s viewing of Monitor your child’s viewing of violence on television, in video violence on television, in video games, and in movies. games, and in movies.


n n Limit the time your child has on the Limit the time your child has on the computer and telephone computer and telephone – – rehashing rehashing mistreatment may lead to retaliation. mistreatment may lead to retaliation.

– – Especially monitor your child’s use Especially monitor your child’s use of Internet and e of Internet and e mail. mail.


n n Watch for signs of anger, anxiety, Watch for signs of anger, anxiety, and depression. and depression.

n n Watch for signs of Post Traumatic Watch for signs of Post Traumatic Stress. Stress.


n n Watch for signs that your child Watch for signs that your child may be suicidal. may be suicidal.

n n When appropriate, seek When appropriate, seek professional counseling for your professional counseling for your child. child.


n n Make sure your child gets Make sure your child gets adequate rest, exercises, and adequate rest, exercises, and eats right eats right – – helps cope with helps cope with stress. stress.

n n Help your child identify talents Help your child identify talents and gifts and develop a hobby or and gifts and develop a hobby or skill of social value. skill of social value.


n n Keep lines of communication open Keep lines of communication open with your child and his/her school. with your child and his/her school.

– – Ask about their day. Ask about their day. – – Ask how he/she was treated. Ask how he/she was treated. – – Be a good listener. Be a good listener.

n n Don’t be afraid to involve your child in Don’t be afraid to involve your child in deciding what should be done. deciding what should be done.


n n Develop social skills and teach Develop social skills and teach friendship making skills. friendship making skills.

– –Children with at least one friend Children with at least one friend are less likely to be bullied are less likely to be bullied (Hodges, Malone, and Perry, (Hodges, Malone, and Perry, 1997). 1997).


– – Having a “best friend:” Having a “best friend:”

n nreduces duration of bullying, reduces duration of bullying, emotional problems, and emotional problems, and behavioral problems (Hodges, behavioral problems (Hodges, Boivin, Vitaro, and Bukowski, Boivin, Vitaro, and Bukowski, 1999). 1999).


n n Develop self Develop self confidence and self confidence and self esteem (enroll in martial arts, give esteem (enroll in martial arts, give choices and brag on choices, choices and brag on choices, emotional rehearsal, visualization, emotional rehearsal, visualization, etc.). etc.).

n n Encourage positive self Encourage positive self talk. talk.

n n Teach him/her to never walk alone. Teach him/her to never walk alone.


n n Involve your child in Involve your child in service/helping projects. service/helping projects.

– – Helps heal his/her emotions. Helps heal his/her emotions. – – Helps child feel valued. Helps child feel valued.


n n Provide Assertiveness Training Provide Assertiveness Training

– – Look confident (assertive body Look confident (assertive body language) language)

– – Move closer, turn sideways, eye Move closer, turn sideways, eye contact contact

– – Arms beside body and hands in Arms beside body and hands in pockets pockets


– – Assertive statements Assertive statements – –make “I” make “I” statements such as: statements such as:

n n“I feel angry when you call me “I feel angry when you call me names because I have a real names because I have a real name. I want you to start calling name. I want you to start calling me by my real name. Call me me by my real name. Call me Allan.” Allan.”


n nAsk your child to write down all Ask your child to write down all the comments of bullies and write the comments of bullies and write down comebacks down comebacks – – “I” “I” statements, etc. statements, etc.

– – Fogging Fogging— —(admit characteristic) soft (admit characteristic) soft verbal comebacks verbal comebacks


– – Exhaust the topic Exhaust the topic (repeated questioning (repeated questioning about putdown) about putdown)

– – Obvious Obvious— —point out that the bully sees point out that the bully sees the obvious the obvious— —”Wow! He noticed I have ”Wow! He noticed I have big ears.” big ears.”

– – Broken record Broken record — —repeat “What did you repeat “What did you say?” or “That’s your opinion.” say?” or “That’s your opinion.”


– – Respond with a non Respond with a non defensive defensive question that challenges the bullies question that challenges the bullies behavior behavior – – not the bully not the bully: :

n n “Why would you say that?” “Why would you say that?” n n “Why would you want to hurt my “Why would you want to hurt my feelings?” feelings?”


– – Just say “so.” Just say “so.”

– – Use humor Use humor – – make the bully laugh make the bully laugh

– – Be kind Be kind to the bully to the bully

– – Distract bully Distract bully by starting a by starting a conversation about something conversation about something he/she likes or enjoys he/she likes or enjoys


– – Ask your child to write down all the Ask your child to write down all the comments of bullies and then rip comments of bullies and then rip the paper to pieces. the paper to pieces.

– – Approach (with a friend) bully Approach (with a friend) bully (when he/she is alone) and make (when he/she is alone) and make assertive statements. assertive statements.


– – Confront bully concerning his/her Confront bully concerning his/her spreading lies/rumors. spreading lies/rumors.

– – Expose ignorance of bully (i.e., Expose ignorance of bully (i.e., share facts regarding your medical share facts regarding your medical problems, talk openly about problems, talk openly about disability, etc.). disability, etc.).


– – Give permission to tease Give permission to tease– – “Well, it’s “Well, it’s okay to say what you want. It okay to say what you want. It doesn’t bother me.” doesn’t bother me.”

– – Make an asset of characteristic Make an asset of characteristic— — ”Well, I guess Michael Jordan and I ”Well, I guess Michael Jordan and I are alike, we both don’t have hair.” are alike, we both don’t have hair.”


n n Teach your child not to expect Teach your child not to expect mistreatment mistreatment – – using visualization using visualization – – see himself or herself being see himself or herself being accepted by others. accepted by others.


n n Teach your child to throw something Teach your child to throw something and run and run— —when in danger. when in danger.

n n Transfer your child to another Transfer your child to another school/district (last resort and may school/district (last resort and may not work). not work).


What should I do when What should I do when I find out my child is a I find out my child is a

bully? bully?


n n Stay calm. Stay calm.

n n Discuss the bullying events with your Discuss the bullying events with your child (who, what, when, etc.) child (who, what, when, etc.) – – do not do not interrogate. interrogate.


n n Meet and work with your child’s Meet and work with your child’s teachers to change your child’s teachers to change your child’s behavior. behavior.

n n Apply clear, fair, and significant Apply clear, fair, and significant negative consequences (e.g., negative consequences (e.g., grounded, child must repay stolen grounded, child must repay stolen money, timeout, restore what has money, timeout, restore what has been destroyed). been destroyed).


n n For a day, go to school with your For a day, go to school with your child child – – wherever your child goes, wherever your child goes, go with him/her. go with him/her.

n n Require your child to apologize Require your child to apologize orally and/or in writing to the orally and/or in writing to the victim. victim.


n n Teach your child that power can Teach your child that power can be experienced through doing be experienced through doing good (e.g., through service good (e.g., through service projects, helping others, projects, helping others, correcting wrongs, providing correcting wrongs, providing leadership role in promoting leadership role in promoting acceptance of others). acceptance of others).


n n Help your find an area of interest Help your find an area of interest and a hobby, a job or a way to and a hobby, a job or a way to provide a community service. provide a community service.

– –“An idle mind is the devil’s “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.” workshop.”


n n Require child to monitor his/her Require child to monitor his/her behavior and report to you behavior and report to you— — teaching self management and teaching self management and self self control. control.

n n Immediately reinforce/reward Immediately reinforce/reward positive and accepting behaviors. positive and accepting behaviors.


n n If needed, seek professional If needed, seek professional counseling for your child. counseling for your child.

n n Explore reasons why child is Explore reasons why child is bullying others. bullying others.


President Jimmy Carter said: President Jimmy Carter said:

“Peace is active, “Peace is active, not passive not passive

Peace is doing, Peace is doing, not waiting, not waiting,

Peace, like war, Peace, like war, must be waged.” must be waged.”


We Need Your Help! We Need Your Help!

n n Declare war on bullying! Declare war on bullying!

n n Lend a hand! Lend a hand!

n n Stop bullying now! Stop bullying now!


Word of Advice! Word of Advice!

Enjoy your child! Enjoy your child!


The Challenge! The Challenge!


Bully Free Program Bully Free Program Materials/Resources Materials/Resources n n Books for teachers and counselors Books for teachers and counselors n n Books for students Books for students n n Book for parents Book for parents n n Posters and stickers Posters and stickers n n Bracelets Bracelets n n Card game Card game n n Etc. Etc.


Questions and Answers Questions and Answers


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