EAST WEST UNIVERSITY

A Research Paper

For

Introduction to Sociology

Submitted To

Sifat-E-Sultana

Lecturer, Department Of Social Science

Submitted By

S.m.parvej

ID: 2010-2-10-033

Course: GEN 206

Section: 2

Date of Submission: 15/04/2013

A research

On

Premarital Relationship and Break Up

Among The University’s Students

Acknowledgement

At first I would like to thank my honourable course instructor Sifat-E-Sultana (Lecturer,

Department of Social Science) for giving me a chance to investigate a Societal Problem.

On the time of doing this research my course instructor helped me all the way she could.

I am grateful to her. I just want to say thanks Mam for being so kind of yours. With this I

also want to thank my friends who help me to complete this Research.

Abstract

In the race of modern era, society and culture get changes keeping balance with the time.

Bangladesh is no exception in this respect. Some describe this as a facebook culture.

Bangladesh’s today’s culture where everything is generating by virtually over the internet

was not as same as the 19th century or before that. Today’s facebook culture will not last

forever. After a certain period of time it will change again. As a developing third world

country Bangladesh have lots of opportunity with that also have lots of societal problem.

Some of them are affecting their society directly and some of them are indirectly, some of

them people notice some of them they do not. So premarital relationship and the break up

has now an direct impact on Bangladeshi society and culture. The researcher will show

how this hidden problem come out, main reason of this problem and practical view of

what is happening in the reality and how this societal problem affecting the young

generation or universities students?

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TABLE OF CONTENT

CHAPTER ONE PAGE NUMBER

INTRODUCTION

Statement of the Problem 1

Objectives 2

Importance 2

Research Question 3

CHAPTER TWO

LITERATURE REVIEW

Premarital sexual relationship in Asian Context 4

Premarital sexual relationship in Bangladesh context 4

CHAPTER THREE

METHODOLOGY

WHY Qualitative Methodology

Study Site

Study Population

Sample Size

Data Collection Instruments

Pre-test

Data Processing and Analysis

Reliability and validity

Limitation of the Study

CHAPTER FOUR

Findings

Percentage Analysis of being in premarital relationship 08-09

Profile of the Subjects 09-10

Motivating Factors to involve in Premarital Relationship 11

Motivating factors of Break up after being in a premarital relationship 11

The affect of break up among the young generation and the universities

students

12

CHAPTER FIVE

Discussion 13

CHAPTER SIX

Conclusion 13

Recommendations 14

Introduction

At the beginning of this sociological investigation on premarital relationship and the

break up among university’s students, the researcher wants to show you the background

of the problem. So in this chapter the researcher will present the Statement of the

problem, objectives, Importance, and about the research question of the investigation.

Statement of the problem

Premarital relationship and the break up is two different things. They are related with

each other directly or indirectly. So the researcher will define them separately for the

understands of the readers. Premarital relationship is a relationship what commence

before marriage between a man and women. It can happen any time in any age before get

marriage. In this modern society people make or try to make relationship with each other

from the very beginning of their life. As an example, some days back researcher heard

a seven years old girl saying “I am studying in class two and I have a Boyfriend”. It

is hard to believe that a seven years old girl have a boy friend and what she understands

about being in a relationship? And what is the meaning of relationship to her? Well that is

not the matter of discussion. So relation is not the matter of age now. It is spreading like

internet. In simple word break up means someone was in a relationship before but now he

or she get separated from his or her male or female member with whom he or she did

premarital relationship. The researcher can say premarital relationship is happening

everywhere in the society and the break up problem is also a common word for the

people of the society now. So this is the reason why researcher wants to show this

problem as a societal problem because it is common now, for being in a premarital

relationship and break up. Relationship has lots of kind it can be physical, can be mental,

can be define from the view of kinship, and can be side of family. So researcher will not

talk about this in here. So as the view of premarital relationship researcher will focus only

on the view of universities students. This premarital relationship and the break up is

affecting the society roughly, because of this relationship and the break up many school,

college, universities students falling behind from their aim of life. Sometime they are

trying to kill themselves because of break up. If this things run in this flow, it is not so far

away when young generation of the society will be in a big trouble, whom do the

researcher see as the future of the nation.

Objectives

Here have some important objectives of the research, Researcher want to show this.

a. To explore the actual factors of being in a premarital relationship and break up.

b. To show how this problem has become a major societal problem.

c. What is the affect of this societal problem and how this thing is affecting young

generation of the society?

d. What will be the side affect if these things continue for the country?

e. To show you the practical view about this problem to the society that what is

happening in the society?

Importance

In our society women harassment, gender discrimination is a common affair now. This

thing is now a matter of discussion in every media, tv channel etc. scholar person present

this as a major societal problem but they are not aware of this premarital relationship and

the break up affect and effect both for the society, country, and their children. As

researcher said before premarital relationship is a common thing among the students,

young generation, teenage boys and girls. Even in some place among the young

generation, a boy or girl is not accepted to his or her friends and culture if he or she is not

in a relationship. Researcher heard somewhere someone is saying “ki tor girl friend

nai? Ja tor life e to britha :/”. So in this situation what will happen? That boy or girl

will try to make a premarital relation with another for being accepted by his or her others

friend. Every work what get done by the people has a good or bad impact. Premarital

relationship and break up has also bad and good impact. On a statistic shows that on

premarital relationship bad impact is high more than Good impact. The bad impact as an

example, immature sexual relationship, mental presser in a teenage age, Bad impact on

the study, early marriage from the parents, suicide, etc. Some people say premarital

relationship has some good impact also, as an example “ they say If I be in a

relationship, I can pass my free time with the partners, I can have a company when

I am alone, I think there have someone who love me, who care about me, I can share

my feelings with his or her etc.

Research question

a. What are the motivating factor that driving the young generation to do premarital

relationship?

b. What are the major reasons behind break up?

c. What is the ration or percentage of marriage with the partner who do such kind a

relationship?

d. How break up affecting the universities students?

e. What do the teenage think about being in a premarital relationship?

f. What roles can religion and moral play to solve this societal problem?

g. What do the parents think about being in a relationship of their children in a

growing age?

Literature Review

Premarital relationship in Asian context

While discussing premarital relationship and the break up among the universities students

in Asian context, the researcher shall consider the cases of Thailand, Nepal, Philippines

and Indonesia. Actually premarital relationship in the other country of the Asia is not that

much alarming likes Bangladesh. On the other hand if the researcher talk about the

premarital sexual relationship then here have an analysis. The prevalence of premarital

sexual among adolescent boys is quite high is Thailand (40 percent), substantial in the

Philippines and Nepal (31 per cent and 15 per cent respectively), and low in Indonesia (7

per cent). So after getting all the information the researcher can say that premarital sexual

relationship is relatively high this countries but the premarital relationship and the break

up is not that much high as ours.

Premarital relationship in Bangladesh Context

Being a relatively new culture trend in Bangladesh, the premarital sexual relation rate

here is negligible. But the premarital relationship and the break up rate is alarming in

here. Among many reasons, having planned to study in the future is associated with a

lower likelihood of engaging in premarital sex among respondents. In terms of family

system, respecting for parents’ values and beliefs about sex is also associated with lower

odds of engaging in premarital sex. Discussion with the parents about sex related issue

here decreases the risk of having premarital sex by seventy percent, although. It is

marginally significant due to the small number of adolescents who ever discuss sex

related issues with their parents. After getting all the information from her the

researcher can say that premarital sexual relationship is not that much usually in

our country but the young generation are suffering because they are doing

premarital sexual relation on the name of premarital relationship. The researcher

discussed at the findings that physical demand is also a motivating factors for the

premarital relationship. So some people use the name of relationship but they

actually do sexual relationship. That’s why this issue does not come publicly as a big

issue. Everyone from our society gives the permission of premarital relationship but

they do not want to give the permission of sexual relation.

Methodology

Methodology is a way to systematically solve the research problem. Through the

methodology we will find out the every related information what we will need to solve

the research problem. Methodology means to the choices we make about cases to study

methods of data gathering, forms of data analysis etc, in planning and executing a

research study. In this chapter researcher will present the why qualitative methodology?

.The study area, study population, techniques of data collection, limitation and ethical

issues. These are the whole procedure of the research work.

Why Qualitative Methodology

In this section researcher want to show you that why researcher took Qualitative method

as his methodology. Before understanding the why researcher choose this we need to

understand what is qualitative methodology? Actually for a research paper we can follow

two types of methodology one is qualitative and the other one is quantitative.

Quantitative methodology is based on the experiment, survey etc. it’s a measurement

way. We can measure the quantity in this method. On the other hand qualitative

methodology means it’s actually the theoretical based method. As an example of

qualitative method case study,interview,ethnography, focus group discussion, observation

etc. Premarital relationship is not a disclosed thing until now in our society. Everyone

wants to keep this thing close. So as the researcher think that here have a lots of points

issues what we cannot measure in quantity. So that why for the help of solving this

societal problem researcher took the theoretical or qualitative method as the research

methodology.

Study Site

The researcher knows that to conduct a research or to present the picture of the research,

you must need to select an area for your research. As our research topic is the “premarital

relationship and the break up among the universities students” we selected different

universities for our investigation, as an example East West University, IUB, EDEN, Atish

Deponkor University, we took exception as college Raihan College Azimpur, As a

School VNSC. All of the school college and universities situated in Dhaka City.

Study Population

It is a big problem for the researcher to select a prefect group of people for your research.

In here researcher targeted those people who have a good communication with him from

different universities, as it is a hidden problem for the society so everyone was not that

much easy to get the correct information. In this research the study population includes

both male and female ranging from young to middle adult.

Sample Size

As Bangladesh is involved the third world Muslim country, where most of our people is

Muslim. We cannot get all of the hidden stories from the people. So it was so difficult to

get the stories but even after that the researcher tried his best in this respect he got the

help from a group of people. The researcher conducted a interview of 3 students from the

school, 3 students from the college and 5 students from the University with this two story

of being in a relationship and after that break up.

Data Collection Instruments

The data for the study have been collected by some of psychical and indirect interview.

The researcher used face to face interview, interview over the skype, interview over the

facebook chat, interview over the phone, so everyone know that premarital relationship

and the break up is a major problem in our country now. As it is making a lot of problem

for the society. It is matter of fact on what we need to give a good attention on it, the

premarital relationship and break up making some of the major problem.

Pre-test

Collection the needed data on the research problem is not that kind a easy. There have a

lot of reason behind this, some subject may not give you the correct information or will

tell you false, than your research will be in a big trouble. You will not get the exact over

all practical view of this problem. So before collecting the main data the researcher made

a good relation with the subjects and need to make them easy to say the truth and correct

information. The researcher also collected the raw data for the research problem before

collecting the main data.

Data Processing and Analysis

Data analysis is the process of systematically searching arranging the interview

transcripts, field notes and other martial that the researchers accumulate to increase the ir

understanding of the study and to enable them to present what they have discovered.

Qualitative results have been obtained manually and the researcher has prepared the study

based on the transcripts of the interview and case studies.

Reliability and Validity

To construct the study reliable and valid, the researcher has used both direct and indirect

or virtual interview and case studies. The researcher’s interviewing as a non-partisan as

well as the length and intensity of interview session have greatly increased the validity

and reliability of collected data. The study design also makes it possible to triangulate

the qualitative findings from core respondents with the findings derived from in-depth

interview.

Limitation of the Study

The researcher had to complete the investigation in a short time, although the time was

enough for me to complete the research but if the researcher get more time on this topic

than he can added more practical information from the subject. They could be more help

full to get the exact view of this investigation.

1. As we are talking about a matter which is not so published and cannot be shared

with everyone. The researcher had to face the problem of getting the hidden

information.

2. The researcher had a problem with the time, as we know everyone is busy in

today’s world so that was tough to match the time with the subject to talk about

the matter.

3. The researcher had a difficulty to show the exact findings of the research problem,

because it was so tough to gather all the information and make them understand to

the viewer.

Findings

As we know that finding is the main part of the research problem. Because in the finding

section we must need to show the raw practical data what researcher collected from the

different place, researcher needed to collect the data and arrange the data what viewer can

understand easily. In this section researcher will show you the arranging data and exact

findings about the investigation. The real factors what is influencing the young

generation to do the premarital relationship? Profile of the subjects. What are the reasons

behind the break up?

ON THE YEAR OF 2012

AGE PERCENTAGE OF BEING IN A

PREMARITAL RELATION

13 TO 16 79%

16 TO 20 65%

20 TO 25 50%

25 TO 30 30%

So on the age of 13 to 16 age people are consider as teenage. So you can see that the

tendency and the percentage of being in a premarital relation are high on the time of

school going people. The researcher got some reason behind this. First reason is the

emotion 13 to 16 a boy or girl remain emotional, they do not think much before doing

such a thing, that is their growing time, second reason is their have boys or girls who

motivate them to do so, can be their friend or relatives or family members.

At the age of 16 to 20 people remain in a college sector in our country. So on that time

their emotion cannot drive them to do so. That is their growing age on that time they start

to think about their future. So because of that percentage of being in a relationship in less

than teenage aged guys. They try to think legal or positive way, there have another thing

the researcher want to show you, that is the tendency of being in a relationship remain

low but the tendency of doing sexual relation with the friends, relatives etc remain high.

At the age of 20 to 25 a man or women remain in a university level. They do not get that

much time to think about the relationship in this age. They think about their study, they

think about their future aim, leading a happy and peaceful life do not want to get attached

in premarital relation, they think about their family, they fixed it up that they will not do

any kind a relation, their marriage will be arranged by their parents. But even after that

some of the people do premarital relation on the universities time, but the ration of break

up among them is low. They try to choose the right person for the next of their life.

At last at the age of 25 to 30 people become mature and they have the perfect knowledge

about everything. On that time they need to think about their corporate life, family,

marriage etc, So there have some rare people who do relationship in this age. Actually in

this age people have a tendency to arrange marriage.

So in this section the researcher will start by giving you the profile or background

information of the subjects.

Profile of the Subjects

At first researcher divided the young generation by their age. By relating in which

position they are in now? In here the subjects some of them are students, some of them

are in the job. The raw data was collected from based on the area of Dhaka city. Some of

the subjects are from the same area and some of them are not.

Name Age Home

district

Educational

level or

institution

Profession Religio

n

Until No. of

Relationshi

p

Until No.

of Break

up

A Female

14 Khulna Class Nine On VNS

Student Islam 5 4

B

Female

13 Barisal Class Eight On

VNS

student Islam 10 8

C

Female

16 Dhaka SSC Candidate

On VNS

Student Hindu 6 3

D

Male

18 Comilla HSC Second

year On

Raihan School and College

Student Islam 4 3

E Male 20 Khulna HSC

Candidate On

Raihan School

and College

Student Islam 4 4

F Male 21 Comilla HSC

Candidate On

Dhaka

Imperial

College

Student Islam 3 2

G

Female

23 Faridpur Student Of

BBA

department On

IUB

student Islam 2 1

H

Female

22 Bagerhat Student Of

Social worker

On Eden girls

College

Student Islam 3 2

I Male

23 Bagerhat Student Of BBA On EWU

Student Islam 2 2

So based on the information easily we can calculate the ratio or percentage of the young

generation participate on Premarital relationship and Break up. Before showing you the

profile of the subjects the researcher showed you the percentage analysis of the

premarital relationship and the break up. So after analyzing all of the information the

researcher has got some motivating factors for premarital relationship. So after getting

all this information the researcher can say that the tendency to do premarital

relationship is high on school going students. Now in recent they are making more

relationship and doing break up commonly. So we can say that teenage people are

affecting now more by this relationship. On the other hand in youth and middle

aged people are not attached widely with this premarital relationships where they

want to just lead a happy and peace full life with his or her family and also want to

get marriage by the choice of their parents. About the universities students they are

also doing premarital relationship but the percentage is not that much high. But it

will not constant so the corrective action to prevent this social problem we must

need to be conscious about our children that what are they doing outside of the

home.

Motivating Factors to involve in Premarital Relationship

It is not simply the fact that young people get involved in premarital relationship and with

this they are also getting involved in physical relation in an immature age. This is causing

a lot of trouble for the society and our future generation. As an example lack of interests

in marriage, divorce after marriage when he or she knows about his or her spouse

previous relationship.

1. Emotion.

2. Curiosity about Love.

3. Surrounding Environment.

4. Mutual Negotiation.

5. Physical Demand.

6. For removing loneliness.

7. For getting a mutual life partner.

8. For getting financial benefited by the person.

Motivating factors of Break up after being in a premarital relationship

As the findings and the information of the subjects there have some motivating factors

what are responsible for breakup of the premarital relation. Because of this premarital

relationship and the break up a lot of young people is suffering in our society. Some of

them have already taken the decision of not going for marriage or love again. Some of

them have being addicted in drag because of relation break up. They are showing below:

1. Believe.

2. Lack of mutual understanding.

3. Immature age.

4. Keeping two or more premarital relationship on the same time.

5. Selfish thinking of both partners.

6. Quarrel between each other a lot making a gap on them.

On the above the researcher showed you some of main motivation factors what are

responsible for the breakup of premarital relationship. Among them most of the suspects

have given the blame to believe and keeping two or more relation on the same time.

The affect of break up among the young generation and the

universities students

As from the collected information the researcher has got the information that there have a

lot of bad affect of premarital relationship and the break up. Right now we are going to

show you some of them.

Lack of Interest in Marriage

As regards to the significance of marriage to the research subjects, almost all have a

uniform sort of sentiment regarding marriage. After getting break up they are saying

like “I am just pieced of being in a relationship all this days”. So this kind of

thinking is making them more aggressive about the marriage. They are thinking

that if premarital relationship hurts this much and have a l ot of problem what will

happen after the marriage?

Drag addicted

After breaking up when a person become alone he or she feels much loneliness. Then

they try to live by holding something. On that time some of them think about drag,

smoke, others things what is harmful for them. On that time they just get addicted by

different kind of Drag. They just loss their wish to live. So they do not care about

anything.

Suicide

After breaking up some of them think about doing suicide. In the region of Asia there

have a record of Suicide of both male and female because of the break up. This suicide is

making trouble for the victim family and friends. The parents becoming alone losing

their only way to live.

Discussion

At last after getting all of the practical present related information the researcher wants to

say that premarital sexual relation is not alarming in our country maybe that’s why we are

still low percentage on the time of AIDS. Where are the other countries like developed

country the premarital sexual relationship is not a matter of crime? They just consider it

as not a big deal. So among most of the developed countries sexual relationship is

common. Premarital relationship among the school, college students on them is not that

much high. But they also have some good percentage of universities students who are

doing or trying to do premarital relationship. In here as a third world country premarital

sexual relation is not common in here because a lot of reason, as an example religion,

guidline of the parents. Environment, Society behavior, everything have a good affect on

the premarital sexual relation. Maybe that’s why until not the percentage of premarital

sexual relationship is low in here but the main problem is hiding in here that is among

young generation a lot of people doing premarital sexual relationship on the name of just

premarital relationship and the ratio of break up in here is alarming. Because of this kind

of premarital relationship and break up our young generation are affecting a lot. As an

example because of break up “lack of interest in Marriage”, Percentage of Suicide is high

among young generation, Divorce because of the premarital relationship of both male and

female partners, students are being failure of getting their aim, Increase in Drag addicted

person among young generation etc.

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Conclusion

After all this discussion now we can understand what is practically happening in our

society on the name of premarital relationship. In which aged generation is affecting

more because of this premarital relationship and the big issue of break up. The researcher

tried to discuss all the things in between this investigation. So premarital relationship is a

big issue now in our country, if we cannot get back on the right our young generation on

the right tracks then maybe we will fall in a big trouble. Even we cannot imagine what

can be the side effect of this problem if it carries on its flow. After all of this the

researchers have some recommendation about the matter.

Recommendations

The researcher suggests some recommendation to keep premarital relationship and the

problem of break up under control so that it does not turn hazardous to people involve

and, in turn, to the society. The recommendations are:

a. Interaction among family members should be increased which would contribute to

the strengthening of family tie.

b. Religious preaching must be more elaborate and accurate as regard to the issue.

c. Media should act more responsibly while focusing on the issue.

d. Gender discrimination should be reduced to the possible limit.

e. Adult channels and programs need to be brought under control to restrict

adolescents.

f. The issue should be included in the national curriculum to increase the

consciousness among the all aged people.

References

Releases (march 8.2012). Available:

http://www.antiochian.org/pre-marital-sex.html

Relation, P.S. (march 7 2012) Premarital relationship and break up

http://www.medicalnewsroday.com

Sex, P. (March 1, 2012). Premarital Sex Available

http;//www.allaboutworldview.org-sex.html

Pervious findings from “premarital sexual relationship in Bangladesh”

Question for the direct interview with the subjects

1. What is your family name?

2. What is your age?

3. Where is your home district?

4. What is your profession?

5. In which religion do you belong?

6. What is the name of your educational institution?

7. Did you do premarital relationship before?

8. Did you break up with any one?

9. What was the reason of your break up?

10. In your premarital relationship anything happened like physical relation or

something else?

11. What do you think? Why you make a premarital relationship?

12. Did you do any kind of unethical or self harmful work after break up?

13. He or she left you or you left him or her?

14. After your break up did you again involved in another premarital relationship?

15. In your whole life how many times your heart got attracted by someone special?

16. How many times they broke your heart?

Case study 1

There was a school going girl in the Bagerhat district named Miss Munni islam was

studying in the class Nine at the year of 2009. On that time she involved in a premarital

relationship with a boy who was 28 years old. That was her first love. At first they cope

up with the relationship easily but it was getting worse after day by day. The male partner

was starting to give mental pressure to her. Because of the physical demand of the boy.

The boy was giving pressure to make physical relation with him. At first the girl was

disagree. Then one night there was a accidents. The boy and the girl was living in the

same village and they were neighbor. So when the girl disagreed the situation one night

the Boy get into the girl’s room where the girl was sleeping with her all the family

members of the family was in a deep sleep. The boy was successful to fill the physical

demand of his own. The girl could not say anything because of her family reputation and

background in the village. So the girl was unexpected rape by his boy friend. Then the

girl decides to leave the village and she did. After that night the girl’s life changed

because she feels thirsty to being in a relationship again and she did again. So that was

the start after that she did more than five premarital relationship and from four of them

she did break up until not and among five she made physical relation with the three

person.