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A LEADER’S MINDFUL DAY: PART TWO
Marnie Aylesworth, D. Ed.
REVIEW FROM PART ONE
We Talked About:
• The brain when “threatened” as it relates to leadership
• Three Levels of Leadership: Self, Your People, Your
Organization
• The Three Qualities of Leadership: Mindfulness,
Selflessness, Compassion
• Self-care and what that really means as a leader
• Strategies to understand ourselves and lead ourselves and
practices to strengthen selflessness and compassion
towards ourselves
GOALS FOR THIS SESSION
1. Understand Your
Staff
2. Mindful Leadership
3. Selfless Leadership
4. Compassionate
Leadership
1. UNDERSTAND YOUR STAFF
UNCONSCIOUS BIASES
• People are not what they say and
think…. They are what they have
experienced and feel
• Our minds create our reality
• If you see your people in only one way,
your expectations of them will be
limited
BEGINNER’S MINDSET
• Curiosity
• Choose to see people as
high performers
• Make it a habit to ask at
least one meaningful
question of anyone you’re
with
UNDERSTANDING EMOTION
EMPATHY CAN BE
DANGEROUS
• May hamper diversity-
easier to empathize more
with people like us
• Can’t do it for multiple
people at the same time
without burning out
• It is fleeting – it must be
combined with
constructive action to
have real impact
MANAGING EMOTIONS
Selflessness = Not Taking Things Personally
2. MINDFUL LEADERSHIP
THE POWER OF PRESENCE
MINDFUL PRESENCE
Do Less, Be More – many problems simply need an ear, not an action. They just need
presence and time. Become the container for them to process the issue.
Personal Touchpoints - greeting people, getting to know them and their family
members names, take a genuine interest in their lives, hand written letters of gratitude,
personal messages of encouragement.
PHYSICAL PRESENCE
When the body contracts, so does the mind
TRUST
• Be Authentic
• Trust in Others – They have the best
intentions
• In High Trust organizations:
• Report 74 % less stress
• 106% more energy at work
• 50 % higher productivity
• 76% more engagement
• 60 % more job satisfaction
3. SELFLESS LEADERSHIP
“A leader is best when people barely know he exists,
when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say:
We did it ourselves” Lao Tzu
QUALITIES OF A SELFLESS LEADER
1. Being of Service
2. Grow Your People
3. Let Go of Status
4. Give Credit, Take Blame
5. Radical Acceptance
SKILLFUL (NON) ACTION
Remember that addiction to action?
…….. Refrain
LET GO OF STATUS
GIVE CREDIT, TAKE BLAME
RADICAL ACCEPTANCE
• All the qualities needed for selfless leadership –
• Humility
• Calmness
• Acceptance
Can be cultivated through training…. Training the brain.
4. COMPASSIONATE LEADERSHIP
QUALITIES OF COMPASSION
• Having positive intentions for others
• Having the desire to help alleviate
their problems
• Joy of seeing others succeed
• Ability to see all others as of equal
worth
WISE COMPASSION
Compassion must be paired with
wisdom and sound judgement
It does not change your actions but it
changes the way you conduct those
actions.
BECOMING A COMPASSIONATE LEADER
• When we get too busy, we “Lose our heart”
• In every interaction ask yourself “How can I be of benefit to this person?”
• The more you train to increase compassion, the less space you will have for
anger…you don’t have room for both in your mind at the same time.
• When you enter a meeting or pas a person in the hall, notice the expression on their
face. When you see hurt, pain or regret in them, breathe compassion into them in one
outbreath and imagine you remove their pain with your inbreath (without taking it on)
IT’S HAPPENING ALL AROUND US
REFLECTION AND ACTION PLANNING
MINDFULNESS BELLS
Willard, C. (2010). Child’s
mind: Mindfulness
practices to help us to be
more focused, calm and
relaxed. Berkley, CA.
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