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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
From the Book of Sean Covey
GET IN THE HABIT
HABIT #1 Take responsibility for your life.
HABIT #2 Define your mission and goals in life.
HABIT #3 Prioritize and do the most important things first.
HABIT #4 Have an everyone can win attitude.
HABIT #5 Listen to people sincerely.
HABIT #6 Work together to achieve more.
HABIT #7 Renew yourself regularly.
GET IN THE HABIT
HABITS 1,2,3 = “private victory” = Self-mastery
HABITS 4,5,6 = “public victory” = relationships and teamwork
HABIT 7 = “renewal” which feeds the 6 other habits
GET IN THE HABIT
The 7 Habits can help you:
Get control of your life
Improve your relationships with your friends
Make smarter decisions
Get along with your parents
Overcome addiction
Define your values and what matters most to you
GET IN THE HABIT
Get more done in less time
Increase your self-confidence
Be happy
Find balance between school, work, friends and everything else.
What should be the center of my life?
Principle-Centered: The real thing. They cant be bought or sold, they aren’t religious, they are not for discussion. If you break them, you will fail. If you will live by them, you will excel.
Honesty, service, hard work, respect, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty and responsibility.
Baby-steps
Show appreciation for someone’s point of view.
When you have nothing to do, what is it that occupies your thoughts? Remember, whatever is most important to you will become your life-center
Begin today to treat others the way you would want them to treat you
The next time you are in a tough situation, ask yourself ”what principle should I apply?” now follow that principle and don’t look back
THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT
I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself and then make a change.
THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT
Symptoms of poor bank account:
You cave in to peer pressure easily
You wrestle with feelings of depression and inferiority
You’re overly concerned about what others think of you
You get jealous easily, esp. when someone close to you succeeds
THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT
Symptoms of healthy bank account:
You stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure
You’re not overly concerned about being popular
You see life as a generally positive experience
You trust yourself
You are goal driven
You are happy for the successes of others
THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT
Deposits
Keep promises to yourself
Do small acts of kindness
Be gentle with yourself
Be honest
Renew yourself
Tap into your talents
THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT
Withdrawals
Break personal promises
Keep to yourself
Beat yourself up
Be dishonest
Wear yourself out
Neglect your talents
PROACTIVE PEOPLE
Are not easily offended
Take responsibility for their choices
Think before they act
Bounce back when something bad happens
Always find a way to make it happen
Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t
A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT
“Would you tell me please which way I ought to walk from here? “
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.” said the Cat
“I don’t much care where-” said Alice.
“Then I doesn’t matter which way to walk,” said the Cat.
From Alice in Wonderland
A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT
Qualities for a Relationship/Future Spouse:
1. Respect 7. Fun/good sense of humor
2. Unconditional love 8. Makes me laugh everyday
3. Honesty 9. Will make me feel whole
4. Loyalty 10. Good with children
5. Will support me in my goals in life
6. Righteous 11. Good listener 12. Will want the best for me
Make your life extraordinary
Since your destiny is yet to be determined, why not make it extraordinary and leave a lasting legacy?
Life is a mission, not a career. A career is a profession. A mission is a cause. A career asks “ what is in it for me?” A mission asks, “How can I make a difference?”
“Most of us will never do great things. But we can do small things in a great way.” educator Maren Mouritsen
Baby steps
Review your mission statement everyday for 30 days (that’s how long it takes to develop a habit). Let it guide you in all your decisions.
Would I want to marry someone like me? If not, work to develop your talents, abilities, interests.
Habit 3: Learning to prioritize
Pick up a planner
Plan weekly
Time management plus overcoming fear and peer pressure
Identify your biggest time-wasters
Habit 3: Learning to prioritize
Courage Zone Comfort Zone
Things I am afraid of; things I’ve never tried; hard moments; ultimate potential;Unexplored territory; risk; things that are difficult; opportunity; bravery; higher duty; adventure
Things I enjoy doing; relaxation; safety & security; ease; surety; freedom from risk; things I’m accustomed to
The Relationship Bank Account
“Life’s most urgent question is: What are you doing for others?” Martin Luther King
Deposits Withdrawals
Keep promisesDo small acts of kindnessBe loyalListenSay you’re sorrySet clear expectations
Break promisesKeep to yourselfGossip & break confidencesDon’t listenBe arrogantSet false expectations
The Relationship Bank Account
You see life as a competition and winning as everything when:
Using other people, emotionally or physically, for your own selfish purposes
Trying to get ahead at the expense of another
Spreading rumors about someone else
Always insisting on getting your way without concerning yourself with the feelings of others
Becoming jealous or envious when something good happens to someone close to you
Seek first to Understand, then be
understoodThe deepest need of the human heart is to be understood.
Five Poor Listening Styles:
Spacing out
Pretend listening
Selective listening
Word listening
Self-centered listening
It’s me time
Habit 7 is all about keeping your personal self sharp so that you can better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the 4 key dimensions of your life – your body, your brain, your heart and your soul.
It’s me time
BODY – The Physical Dimension
Exercise, eat healthy, sleep well, relax
BRAIN – The Mental Dimension
Read, educate, write, learn new skills
HEART – The Emotional Dimension
Build relationships, give service, laugh
SOUL – The Spiritual Dimension
Meditate, Pray, take in quality media
Caring for your Heart
“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.” Mother Teresa