5 Signs that your marriage is heading for divorce All relationships go through ups and downs and although you try not to read too much into every action of your spouse, the signs are often so clear that you fail to see them.  You find yourself being so close to the situation that you don’t get to see the bigger picture of what is really going on in your marriage.  This often happens, especially after being married for a few years.  Spouses get into a comfort zone, and after gradually getting use to the changes it can often be misunderstood as being normal.  Then one day you suddenly realize that something is not right, and if you have reached that point, then here are a few signs to look out for:1.       Lack of communicationCommunication is one of the key factors that make a relationship work.  Without spontaneous communication, a couple soon drifts apart.  With time, you lose the urge to share an experience, confide in your partner, or just simply talk about anything and everything that comes to mind.  Instead, harsh conversations arise that bring conflict and anger to the surface.  Criticism, sarcasm and derogatory comments between partners occur more often and can lead to a feeling of being disconnected and separated.  Couples often find themselves fighting over simple things which clearly show an underlying feeling of being unhappy in the marriage.

2.       Teamwork goes out the windowAs communication between a couple diminishes, so does the level of teamwork that make the relationship work.  Activities that both parties enjoyed in the past, now seem like a distant memory or may seem like too much effort to undertake.  The desire to spend quality time doing something together is missing.   The gap between spouses become so great that instead of “us” or “we” the focus shifts to “I” and dynamic soon gets lost.  Each person ends up going their own way, doing their own thing and the joy of having someone to share with soon gets lost.

3.       NegativityPositive, hopeful and loving conversation is replaced with an overwhelming bombardment of negativity.  Apart from the negative conversation that takes place, the experience and the feeling you get when just being with your partner leaves you feeling angry, disappointed or uncomfortable.  This leads to you detaching yourself from the situation, shutting down every time the person comes into the room.  Even just the thought of being with your spouse makes you feel negative towards him or her.

4.       One spouse refuses to tryThe problems in your marriage seem to outweigh the solutions, and when one spouse refuses to try     work and sort out the problems, it is like talking to a brick wall.  The rhythm that both parties dance to at the same time is virtually nonexistent.  It might feel like one person is trying too hard, while the other is not trying at all.  This makes matters even worse, as the person who doesn’t care about the relationship anymore feels forced to do so by the other person who is over compensating by doing everything over the top.  This push and pull of energy is damaging to the very fibre that makes a marriage work, and the lack of compromise soon escalates into a fight.

5.       A lack of respectSpouses stop taking each other into consideration and because of this the respect soon disappears as well.  Each partner becomes selfish and self-involved, leaving the other feeling dismissed, rejected and condescended to.  This is an extremely toxic place for any marriage to be in, and when you feel this happening in your marriage, especially if you are unable to resolve the issue in a civil manner that makes your spouse understand how his or her behavior has made you feel, then it is far better to consider a divorce.These signs are a sign that you marriage is in trouble, and when you can relate to any of the points mentioned above it might be time to sit down with your spouse and have a serious talk.  If you find that after the talk things stay the same or even get worse, then you might be in a place in your life where you need to make a change.  There is always hope at the end of any tunnel, and if you are considering a divorce in Toronto, then give Baker & Baker Law Firm a call.  We aim to make divorce quick, simple and final.

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