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a good pet owner out there to find pet housing. And three, the real
owner of the property would have a heart attack one day in the future
when this reckless tenant moved out!
However, I am positive his landlord had not one clue about the
wandering lizards running around the place freely, jumping in and out of
new wooden cabinetry, destroying beautiful tile, marble, hardwood and
carpet flooring, art-deco walls and a winding Hollywood spiral staircase
in the process. To this day, nothing that I have seen regarding pet
damage beats the iguanas inside the mansion. (And I have seen some
nasty pet damage from bad pet owners over the years, but nothing
beats the iguanas ruining a multi-million dollar mansion!)
I do not think that cats and dogs can damage a property as fastnor as extensively as large wild iguana lizards running around loose
inside your home. I will never forget that situation. So it is another
rental horror story.
I am convinced that this story may have been prevented or the
damage minimized had the landlord taken more time with the tenant,
Mr. Producer, before he moved into the property by doing a few simple
but important things. Had the landlord questioned the tenant thoroughly
about the kinds of pet(s) he was bringing into the mansion, written into
his agreement a clause that such iguanas were to be kept at all times
inside their cages, taking a pet deposit minimum of $200 for every
Chapter 5
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Hot Buttons: Annoying Lifestyle Decisions People
Do That Affect Your Ability to Find the Right
Roommate. How to Handle and Avoid These Issues:
Smoking, Drinking, Drugs or Partying, Guests,
Noise, Travel, Furniture and Surprises.
It never fails. You advertise your room as a non-smoking room
and a smoker applies. People do not always read the ads clearly nor
take the time to really sort out whos who on the telephone, either. One
of the fastest ways to ruin a good roommate situation is where there is
clearly a set boundary and someone comes along without regard and
violates it. Whether your hot button is smoking or some other issue,
invariably you cannot count on people to read the ads carefully. You
will get all kinds of responses when you run an advertisement looking
for a roommate, so you need to use caution when screening a potential
roommate. You also need to ruining the rental market for good pet
owners and making it harder for
to be the one to find out what that womans agenda was and
believe me I can tell you that it was not a good agenda.
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Be thankful that you just saved yourself Trouble with a capital
T. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so you want to move on to the
next person calling from your roommate ads. Starting on the next few
pages is a list of some Probing Questions you may want to ask
someone who is calling you from an advertisement about your room for
rent.
Probing Questions to Ask a Stranger on the Phone
VIP IMPORTANT NOTES: This section can be used for men
also who are looking for a roommate. However, the emphasis in this
chapter is for single mothers, so if I omit the male gender at times here
it is because of the target audience I am speaking to in this chapter.
Men are also welcome to use the advice in this chapter to
protect themselves from other men. I do not intend to leave men out
who are honestly looking to find a good male roommate in this book.
However I am writing from my own experience as a single mother and
by now you can see that finding a roommate for a single mother is much
different than in other peoples situations. Again, men are always
welcome to use this section of the book to use for screening their own
male roommates.
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Table of Contents
Title Page
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Dedication 3
Acknowledgments 5
Legal Disclaimer 7
Introduction A Letter from the Author 13
Chapter 1 The First Step: Critical Things to Do Before
You Start Looking or Advertising for
a Roommate 17
Chapter 2 The Second Step: How to Set Your Length
of Rental Time, Security Deposit and
Rent Fees Appropriately 29
Chapter 3 Pets? To Allow a Roommates Pet or Not,
the Value of a Separate Pet Agreement and
What to Do In the Case of Pet Abandonment 39
Chapter 4 I Rented the Room to WHOM? The Stranger
at Midnight Standing in My Kitchen Syndrome 53
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Title Page
Chapter 5 Hot Buttons: Annoying Lifestyle Decisions
People Do That Affect Your Ability to Find the
Right Roommate. How to Handle and Avoid
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These Issues: Smoking, Drinking, Drugs or
Partying, Guests, Noise, Travel, Furniture and
Surprises. 67
Chapter 6 The Paperwork Writing the Rental
Agreement Before You Advertise: What You
Say, Do Not Say, the Important Pitfalls to
Avoid on Paper and the Two Golden Mantras
of Finding a Good Roommate 77
Chapter 7 To Women: Especially Single Mothers 107
Chapter 8 Phone Skills 101 125
Chapter 9 When Your Roommate is an Emotional
Drama: How to Handle a Vampire When
You Become the Psychotherapist Every Day 139
Chapter 10 When Your Roommate Breaks the Written
Contract: Getting Help 145
Chapter 11 Closing Thoughts: The Many Values in
Having a Good Roommate and How That
Helps You in Unexpected Ways 151
About the Author 155
Introduction
A Letter from the Author
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T he empty room sits there, filled usually with your personal stuff
as a temporary storage room. Occasionally the entertaining thought
hits you. You wonder if you would be better off financially if you just do
it one day: get a roommate. But what type of person could I get to rent
from me, where do I start and how do I protect myself? These and
others are all valid questions. And this is why I chose to write this book,
based on my years of experience in dealing with all different types of
roommates: the good, the bad and the ugly.
This book is written for both men and women. There is a lot to
learn before you find a roommate whether you are a man or a woman.
These days the process of finding the perfect roommate for you can
seem like a daunting task. It is wise to seek out information before you
gamble with the search for a roommate. The process of finding
a roommate today is not as easy as placing a room for rent ad in the
newspaper or a flier in some public place. In todays climate, it is
especially important if you are a woman or a single mother with a child
or children
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About the Author
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Finding your twin heart which leads to your vision in life is like
having a compass and without your twin heart - you are lost. When the
Twin Heart is Present, It Bears Fruit. -- Nicole
y the time Nicole was 13 years old, she played seveninstruments piano, guitar, violin, clarinet, accordion, drums
and xylophone. Nicole performed in the Childrens
Orchestra at Cal State Los Angeles as the first, second violinist and
clarinetist as well as in Malibus Annual Keep Christ in Christmas events
as a child with her family and their guitars. Nicole played various
musical instruments throughout her childhood in numerous different
venues and winning various awards for her music, including performing
at Disneyland as a child musician on the violin. Nicole also performed
piano on the Leeza Shows Days of Our Lives Christmas special as a
young adult.
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Alcohol plays both a recurring theme in Nicoles life and in her
familys life. Little over a month after our national 9/11 tragedy in 2001,
her family experienced their own personal 9/11. At the young age of 21
and in a new marriage to her brother, Nicoles Sister-in-Law, a beautiful
girl named Tina was tragically killed by a drunk driver, devastating her
family and her sister-in-laws family as well. In addition to this tragedy
from a drunk driver which still has profound implications for her family,
Nicole continues to witness first-hand as a child the damage alcohol
causes when a close family member suffers from addiction left
untreated. Due to the genetic disposition of alcoholism within her
family, Nicole remains one of the few surviving members today who
refrains from drinking alcohol within her family.
On her 21 st birthday, October 24 1990, Nicole stopped drinking
alcohol after nearly dying of alcohol poisoning with a .24 BAC (blood
alcohol count) level and almost crashing her car the day before. This
was her second near death experience, having nearly died of an
accidental alcohol overdose from an anaphylactic seizure (allergicreaction leading to a heart attack) at the young age of eighteen. Today
in 2011, Nicole maintains her sobriety and recovery from alcoholism for
over twenty years.
Nicoles early experiences with music contributed to her
sensitive, sharp phone skills and uncanny business acumen in working
with people from all walks of life, especially on the telephone. Nicoles
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Grandmother, a daughter of a Lord in the House of Commons, was
a highly sought after psychic in Londons high society at the turn of the
century. Nicoles Grandmother studied the psychic arts and learned
from the local gypsies how to do tea leaf readings which were quite
popular at the time. Nicole inherited her Grandmothers psychic gifts.
Due to her own early experiences and uncanny psychic gifts,
Nicole cultivated neighbors while growing up in Malibu, California in the
1970s and 80s on which to practice her psychic talents. In the late
eighties and early 1990s, Nicole became one of the earliest pioneers
to operate one of the First 24 Hour Live 900 Psychic Lines, Twin Vision
(America) at the young age of 21. Yes, Nicole answered her own
psychic telephone line 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for many years
straight!
Nicoles Original Vision and Inspiration for Twin Vision
Americas Psychic Hotline came from an old family treasure, and belief
that When you find your twin heart, it bears fruit. Discovering your twin
heart in life and thus, your vision is what made Nicoles psychic
readings very unique for each client and why Nicole was so in demand
for her unusual style of psychic readings, having her cards physically
born in her hands. Nicole never took the easy way out of doing
psychic readings by using Tarot cards And Nicole always maintained
that by creating her own cards they were truly organic gifts that kept her
clientele base growing and they connected Nicole to an authentic
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psychic energy in helping people during the recession of the early
1990s.
Getting sober at the young age of 21 at the same time as this
new adventure with Twin Vision America, Nicole experienced incredible
growth, opportunity and life changing experiences which would later
strongly influence her decision to keep her sobriety and work on her
recovery from alcoholism. Fresh out of school with a degree in
Computer Operations and Management in 1990, with the help of
a business partner, Nicole was instrumental as a background consultant
with the development of telephone training for Herbalife Internationals
Cellular Wealth Builders University. The Twelve Step telephone
training program which Nicole modeled from her sobriety program at
that time, helped the re-birth and re-launch of Herbalife International in
the United States, Australia and Canada with the revolutionary
telephone training concept she helped her business partner build. This
time period was also the early years and a crucial time for Nicole in
her sobriety and recovery program in addition to her businessresponsibilities. Because of Nicoles life changing experiences with the
Live 900 Psychic Line and being instrumental in the background
development of the telephone training program, historic at the time for
her then business partner, she decided to maintain her sobriety and
recovery while going back to school to study Psychology.
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After quickly earning her place on the Deans List and her
Honors in Humanities at Pierce College in Woodland Hills, California,
Nicole transferred to the University of Southern California (USC) and
graduated this prestigious research university with a Bachelors degree
in Psychology. After earning her BA in Psychology and passing
Californias CBEST Exam, Nicole returned to Pierce College in
Woodland Hills, California after discovering a new department called
Addiction Studies in her tenth year of sobriety which started at the
school after Nicole left.
Under the leadership of world-renown James Crossen, R.N.,
M.F.T. and Ph.D., Nicole is now more than half way through the
Addiction Studies program as an Honors Student in addition to
maintaining her place on the Deans List at Pierce College in Woodland
Hills. Dr. Crossens cutting-edge research and program on the study of
trauma (especially relating to PTSD) and addiction influenced Nicoles
decision to return to complete her studies in addiction at this school.
Recently Nicole was invited to become a Lifetime Member of theprestigious International Honors Society, Phi Theta Kappa at Pierce
College. And Nicole was recently named as a member of the schools
Presidents List.
During the early years of the 2000s, Nicole was invited to
perform the role of Denise Brown for the IDEA Japanese Television
Networks story of Nicole Brown Simpsons and Ron Goldmans
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murders to be broadcast in Japan. Denise Brown is the sister and
Founder of the Nicole Brown Simpson Foundation, an organization
dedicated to speaking out against domestic violence. Nicole found it
prophetic on several levels that she played the role of an advocate
against domestic violence through her performance of Nicole Brown
Simpsons sister, Denise Brown for a television audience. The irony of
this story would not be lost on Nicole on multiple levels. A few years
later during her own personal crisis of domestic violence, the reminder
of her acting role as Denise Brown, advocate against domestic violence
gave Nicole strength to find her own voice and leave that situation
behind as a single mother with a newborn baby.
During her anti-war years at the start of the Iraq war in 2003,
Nicole managed to start and maintain a peace vigil, then a newsletter
for the peace and progressive community which found its way all around
the world to an audience of thousands by standing out and vigiling
every week against the Iraq war for 2 years on the street corner from
2003 2005. From 2006 through the end of 2007, Nicole also had her own weekly radio show on 89.5 FM KTEC on the OIT Campus in
Klamath Falls, Oregon devoted to peace and progressive issues. As
a tireless advocate for life and humanitarian causes, Nicole participated
during crucial moments in our nations history as an outspoken
advocate for the human condition.
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Currently Nicole is working on writing several different books.
For a current and complete list of books by Nicole, please go to her
publishers website: http://stores.lulu.com/alspublications
Some of Nicoles other recent books are: Whats Your
Addiction Temperature? A Road Map to Healing from Pain of Addiction
Using TEL Therapy (that is the Workbook that accompanies this Main
Text), Roommate Revolution: Save Money by Winning at Finding the
Perfect Roommate, Psychic Secrets! What Is Your Psychic Gift and
How to Use It Properly. and Grow Your Phone Room or Go Bust:
Make Money on the Telephone and Avoid the Phone Room from Hell
an Insiders Essential Guide,
Nicole teaches others from her accumulated experiences asa guest speaker, teacher, author, psychic, phone room manager and
most dear to her heart, continues her advocacy work in speaking out for
social justice issues. Nicole plans to continue her tireless work in
teaching others to find their own voice, advocating for the voiceless and
helping others find their own unique voice and twin heart in life.
Join us in your journey to finding your twin heart See Nicoles
daughter, Angelinas Daily Blog at:
http://www.TwinVisionAmerica.com
Nicole makes occasional Guest Appearances on this Daily Blog toshare insightful tips on how you can find your own twin heart.
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Remember that together no matter what our differences, we can
help save lives! Thank You so much for caring to help make this world
a better place! LChaim! To Life!
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