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Managingrelationships12Friends and peers
As we move through high school, riendships with people o
our own age (our peers) are increasingly important. So much
time is spent with peers that getting along with most o them is
desirable. As we mature, getting along with people we work and
live with will have great importance to our happiness.
With people we like, creating riendships and positive
working relationships is mostly easy. We laugh together, make
allowances or each other, and work out arguments quickly.
But generally, it is the people we do not particularly like that
we have to try hardest with. I we could see into the uture, we
would nd that we will meet many people we won’t like but
with whom we will have to deal airly. Getting on with other
people in a positive way is the nature o a healthy community.
Over time, riendships change. Being able to change in
riendships is one o the great challenges o lie.
A student:
4.2 identies and selects strategies that enhance their ability to cope
and eel supported4.3 describes the qualities o positive relationships and strategies to
address the abuse o power.
My bully, my best friend
It was my Grade 6 experience that set me up
so well or Year 7. I went to a new school in G6.
At my old school I was happy and settled and
had lots o riends. When I came to the new
school, everyone was in old riendship groups
and not interested in making a new riend; they
were not unriendly and spoke to me in class
but never made an eort to include me outside
class. I loved sport and was a strong team player
but, when it came to being picked or the teams,
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I would always be picked last—I came to expect
that and resolved that i they didn’t want me in
their lives then I didn’t want them. There was one
girl that was part o the ‘cool group’ who decided
that it would amuse her to bully me; she thought
that I was air game. It hurt a lot. I learnt to keep
mysel company and hung out a lot in the libraryreading—I was waiting or the year to nish and
to start secondary school when everyone had
to work at making riends again. I learnt to eel
comortable with my own company; I learnt to
nd interesting things to do.
When I started Y7, I was already comortable
being alone so I wasn’t scared to approach other
kids to make riends—the worst that could
happen was that I would be rejected again and I
had a lot o experience with that. What happened
though was that people liked being approached
in a riendly way. I made a group o good riendsand really started to love school. Later in the
year the girl who bullied me in grade 6, who had
been really miserable at the girls’ school she had
started in Y7, started at my coeducational school.
I was walking down the corridor and saw her
looking lost and sad. I came up to her and said
‘Hi, I’m Jenny, we went to school in G6 together,
do you remember me?’ The guilty look she gave
me conrmed that she remembered me andremembered how she had treated me so badly.
I said ‘You look lost; can I walk you to your class?’
She accepted grateully and ater that she clung
to me. As I got to know her I saw that we had a
lot in common. I was okay with mysel so I didn’t
need to punish her—we became best riends and
that nished o a great Year 7 experience.
To her readers, Jenny would recommend:
Don’t give up! So what i some people
don’t like you? I you keep trying it your way,
eventually you’ll nd the riends worth having!
Jenny, 18 yearsfrom Give it a go girl by Sarah Calleja
<www.actionpsychology.com>
Positive infuencesOur amilies and peers can have great infuence
over our development as we move towards
independence.The important thing about being infuenced
by peers and amily is that you become aware o
these infuences and ask yoursel two important
questions.
Where are my choices leading?
What do I really want or my lie?
1 What did Jenny experience in year 6?
2 What does Jenny mean when she says ‘I learnt to eel
comortable with my own company’?
3 What is surprising about Jenny’s attitude to the girl who
bullied her?
4 What is powerul about Jenny’s way o relating to her
ormer bully?
5 How dierently would boys handle the situation described
by Jenny?
Me
M y dr
ea m s
My
family
My
friends
My
heroes
My
peers
Figure 12.1 Infuences
on our development
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Guru Josh’s top 3 inuential people
1 Myoldman,GuruPhil
Guru Phil was a school teacher. He taught maths and was
real keen on it. Unortunately, I could not grasp the simple
workings o an equilateral triangle. Phil, though, never gave
up on me. He got me to 49.5% in Year 10 maths and they
bumped it up to a pass. I never give up on anyone now, even
i they seem to be a total loser.
2Myoldlady,GuruGwen
Guru Gwen was a hairdresser. She cut my hair or ree and
gave me my rst mohawk or Muti Day in Year 8. She was
pretty radical or someone married to Guru Phil. I learnt I
could aord to take some enjoyable risks rom Gwen without
doing anything stupid.
3 Myhero,PeterGarrett
Peter Garrett, the great man, was lead singer o Midnight
Oil. He spoke out about any issue he believed in and backed
it up with some o the most inspiring songs. I learnt to be
mysel and say what I believed in rom Mr Garrett.
Asking these questions makes you do some siting (choosing
and sorting) in regard to what infuences you choose to help
you make choices. The siting process, or choosing your own
path by your own values, is what independence is all about. It
means you still have riends to rely on and be supported by, but
you are basically your own person.
1 How does Guru Josh learn something useul
rom all o his Top 3 infuences?
2 List your Top 3 infuences when it comes to
choosing riends.
Understand and apply
3 Explain how infuences change as you grow
rom a baby into an adult.
4 Write a short drama entitled ‘Infuences’ and
perorm it in class.
Keys to positive relationships
Relationships are ideally about living at peace in a community
of people. Even hermits (people who live outside society) can
end up muttering to themselves or perhaps, like Tom Hanks
in the movie Castaway, to some kind of object (in his case,
‘Wilson’, a soccer ball). You might draw the conclusion that it
is almost impossible for people to live happily without some
kind of relationship.
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Positive relationships have two key qualities. They are always:
caring, or characterised by concern or the other person’s
wellbeing
respectul, or characterised by a belie in the other person’s
dignity and worth.
Relationships that lack either o these two qualities are less
than positive, and at worst negative or abusive.
Positive relationships carry a multitude o good outcomes
and benets. These include:
a sense o security in the other person’s company
a sense o wellbeing in the other person’s company
being able to share important or intimate concerns with the
other person without ear o rejection or humiliation
being able to have un with the other person
being able to trust the other person.
Negative relationships do not carry these kinds o benets
and outcomes. The absence o these things is a reliable sign that
you are in a negative relationship. Managing or getting out o a
negative relationship is covered in chapter 4.
Rights and responsibilitiesThere are rights and responsibilities or each o us as we relate
to each other. Rights are what we can expect rom others. They
include being respected:
emotionally and mentally
socially
spiritually and culturally
physically.
Being respected emotionally and mentally means notexperiencing ‘put downs’ and hurtul jokes or verbal attacks.
It means not being pestered, nagged or bullied.
Being respected socially means being included in activities
and events, in and out o school.
Being respected spiritually and culturally means not
experiencing attacks related to our religion or belies, or being
let out o activities and groups because o them.
Being respected physically means not experiencing any orm
o assault or physical intimidation.
Responsibilities in relationships are the fip side o rights.
They are summed up in a simple proverb: ‘Do to others as youwould have them do to you.’
1 How do we know i our relationships are positive?
2 How do negative relationships make people eel?
3 How can positive relationships help people’s general
health and wellbeing?
4 Why are responsibilities as important as rights in
relationships?
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Listening and acceptingSuccessully listening and accepting other people’s opinions
is one o the great tests o school, work and lie. The skill
o listening to other people puts us at a great advantage in
relationships o all kinds. When we are listened to, we eel
worthwhile and respected. When we are not listened to, we eel
dishonoured, humiliated or rejected.
Guru Josh’s tips for listening1 Make eye contact regularly.
2 Imagine you are the other person. How would you eel in
their situation?
3 Breathe deeply and slowly.
4 Nod and give eedback to show you understand what is
being said.
5 Ask questions to help the other person express themselves,e.g. ‘Was that dicult?’ ‘How did you eel about that?’
Accepting other people’s points o view does not mean you
have to agree with them. Accepting other people’s opinions is
basically saying ‘I understand what you are saying and accept
your right to say it.’ Sometimes this is dicult because we
disagree with what is being said. However, while we can win
an argument, a positive relationship is seldom won in this way.
A positive relationship is generally won with respect, even
i it means we bite our tongues when we really want to tellsomeone o! This can be extremely challenging, but extremely
worthwhile.
There is a proverb worth remembering when it comes to
listening: ‘A gentle answer turns away anger while a harsh
answer stirs it up.’ Listening is all about taking a gentle position
and ‘agreeing to disagree’ i it means a positive relationship is
maintained. This does not mean you do not express your own
points o view, but it does mean that the other person will be
more likely to respect your ideas i you do the same or them.
Guru Josh’s tips for accepting others’opinions1 I you absolutely detest the other person’s opinion, it’s
possible to say ‘I disagree’ calmly. It just takes a lot o inner
strength. You could blurt out your disagreement and start an
argument, but that might kill the relationship in the long term.
2 Guru Phil always said, ‘Treat others as you’d like them to
treat you.’ This is a key to accepting people and creating
positive relationships.
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Give and takePositive relationships are all about giving and receiving. I you
are entirely ocused on yoursel, this will be almost impossible.
But i you are able to empathise with the other person (or
imagine what it would be like to be in their shoes), you will see
the need to give them the same things you expect to receive.
Giving and taking can be summed up in one word: sharing.
It can involve sharing:
ood and snacks
use o equipment and space
tasks and duties at school and at home
the limelight!
Expressing needs is a vital part o giving and taking. I the
other person is not aware o a need, they cannot act on it or
provide any means o meeting it. Expressing needs can be as
simple as saying ‘I need a hug’ or as complex as putting on
a bad mood over the course o a week until the other person
notices. Quite clearly, being open and saying what you eel is ar
more positive or a relationship than sulking around or acting
out some weird emotional drama.
• respect
• listening
• time
What
I give
• respect
• listening
• time
What
I take
• respect
• listening
• time
What
I give
• respect
• listening
• time
What
I take
1 Have a two-minute conversation with a partner about
‘what’s hot and what’s not’. Ater two minutes, write
down what you remember rom listening to the otherperson. How well did you listen? Was it hard or easy?
2 Form two groups to debate the subject ‘the best sport o
all time’. When someone interrupts, the other team gets
a point.
Understand and apply
Figure 12.2 Positive relationships
are about give and take.
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Providing and accepting supportSupport is caring or other people’s physical, mental, emotional,
social or spiritual needs. It can occur in any kind o relationship
and is all about being there or other people when they need
you, listening to their concerns and assisting them to be
eective and successul in lie. Providing support may mean
helping someone:get rst aid
access ood, water or shelter
get over a dicult experience like the loss o a close riend or
relative
nd the right career or job
build their sel-condence and sel-esteem.
Accepting support can be equally as challenging as
providing it. Accepting support means that the ollowing has
taken place:
you accept you have a problem and verbally express the
need or supportyou respect the person oering support
you have hope or a positive outcome.
All o us will nd we have to swallow our pride when it
comes to accepting support when we need it. This can be very
hard, especially i a person:
is ashamed o the problem that created the need or support
believes deeply that they must end or themselves.
Negotiating respect and support or people begins and ends
with listening, accepting and creating a positive relationship.
When young people nd themselves in a state o diculty
surrounded by shame, it is very important they can trust aperson who oers support. At the same time, it is important
that more experienced and qualied people are involved in
critical situations so that the person experiencing diculty can
be assisted in the best possible way. While keeping secrets can
make the relationship positive, some secrets are harmul to the
person needing support and must be shared with appropriate
people like parents, PDHPE teachers and doctors. Expressing
needs is vital to healthy relating.
1 Why is expressing your eelings and your needs so
challenging?
2 How can we make it easier or each other to express
our needs?
3 Why can giving be as enjoyable as receiving?
4 Why is receiving love important or a human being?
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Appreciating diversity in relationshipsPositive relationships come in many shapes and sizes. They are
neither right nor wrong unless someone perect can judge them.
As most o us are imperect, it is best to not be judging others.In the 21st century, same-sex relationships are recognised
by most governments and societies. However, there are
segments o our society that vocally oppose such relationships,
thus encouraging negative stereotyping o homosexual men
and lesbians.
Whatever our opinions are about sexuality, to live in a
caring and respectul society we must be caring and respectul
ourselves, no matter who we relate to.
1 Write dialogues o the ollowing situations so that each person
involved expresses their needs. In pairs, read one another’s
dialogues and make a list o things to avoid/try when expressingneeds.
a A parent wants their 13-year-old to come to a amily dinner
while the 13-year-old knows they must study or an exam.
b A teacher is doubtul o a student’s readiness or the senior
soccer team while the student eels they can do it.
2 Role-play the ollowing scenarios and act out the resolution so
that a positive relationship is preserved.
a A boyriend and girlriend have an argument over who spends
the most money on their dates.
b Two siblings want to use the amily car on Saturday night.
c A wie is concerned her husband does not spend enough timewith her. The husband eels he never has time to go shing.
d A girlriend and boyriend have a conversation about what
they want to do over the weekend. The girlriend really wants
to spend time talking about a problem she has at school.
However, she is embarrassed to express this as a need.
Understand and apply
1 What is Australian society’s attitude to same-sex
relationships?
2 How can our opinions about same-sex relationships be
hurtul to others?
3 How do same-sex couples have children?
4 Can same-sex couples raise children as eectively as
heterosexual couples?
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Interpersonal communication
Interpersonal communication is what happens when people
relate to each other. This can mean, depending on who you are
relating to:
spoken messagesbody messages (or body language)
written messages.
Show pony....Figure 12.3 People
are always relating
even i they are not
speaking.
When people get together, even i they are not speaking,
they are always relating. For example, i you are alone in a lit
and a stranger enters the lit, you will do something to signal
your reaction to their entry. You may smile, or say ‘hello’, or old
your arms, or stare at the ceiling, or move to the side. All these
things send a message about you to the other person. You may
be open, riendly or shy, or simply uninterested. But you will
always show some sort o response. That is why we are called
human beings. We nd it impossible not to react in some way
when we enter each other’s presence.
Changing modes o communicationThe growth o technology has created new modes o
communication. These include:
mobile phones
the internet
email.
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Taken together, these new modes o communication
have created an enormous industry. They have also made
communication more instant. Access to other people is now
24 hours a day.
What did you really hear?In communication, there is a message sent and another
received. This sounds simple, but the nature o human language
and interaction is complex. The result is that the message sent
is not always the one received. Little gestures, tones o voice,
choice o words and the state o mind o both the sender and
the receiver can mean a world o dierence in communication.
Figure 12.4 The message sentis not always the one received
?
1 Discuss the dierences between 18th-century
Australia and Australia today. How did past modes
o communication limit relationships? How did these
modes o communication make a positive contribution
to relationships?
2 Have mobile phones improved our ability to relate to
people today?
3 How has the internet helped lonely people looking or
a relationship?
4 What precautions should be taken when relating to
people over the internet?
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1 Play a game o Chinese Whispers, in which
a message is started and passed throughthe class. Compare the message sent with
the one nally received.
2 Below are some situations where
communication is made dicult.
• Identiy the part o the communication
process where the problem occurs.
•Suggest a dierent solution to each
problem.
•Discuss your ideas with a partner.
a You have just been to the dentist and
had a tooth removed. Your mouth is stillswollen and numb rom the anaesthetic
and it is dicult to talk. Your riend rings
you when you get home and wants you
Understand and apply
to explain how to do the mathematics
homework.b You are in a oreign country where English
is not spoken and you cannot speak the
language. You nd yoursel completely lost
in a bazaar and cut o rom the rest o
your group.
c You SMS a riend to ask them to meet
you ater school at 3 pm. At 3.05 pm you
receive an SMS to say the riend is waiting
or you at your home. What went wrong?
d You have received an email rom a riend
that reads ‘I thought you liked me but now
I’m not so sure. Are we going to be more
than good riends?’ You have no idea what
they are talking about. What will you do?
Overcoming barriers to communicationThere are many blocks to good communication. As a listener it
is a good idea to remember that pen tapping or other distracting
habits can be o-putting or the speaker. A speaker can eel
undervalued i the person they are speaking to only wants to
talk about themselves instead o actively listening. Jumping to
conclusions, cutting the other person o, putting them down or
blaming them will not lead to constructive conversation.
1 In pairs:
a Each take a ew minutes to prepare a
talk on a sport. Make the speech to your
partner, but don’t mention the name o the
sport. Your partner has to guess which
sport you are talking about. While your
partner is speaking, don’t listen or speak.
Look around, tap, doodle, hum, look away
and ace away. Swap over.
b Ask your partner which sport you were
talking about. Discuss with your partner
how you elt about their behaviour when
you were giving your speech.
Understand and apply
2 In one minute, describe a household object
but do not name it. Again your partner has
to guess the name o it. Practise listening,
but you cannot ask questions. Swap over.
Discuss whether the task was easy. Why/
why not?
3 In two minutes, tell your partner about
your avourite holiday. When you nish,
your partner has to repeat everything that
was said without taking notes. Swap over.
Discuss how eective you were at this task.
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Resolving confictResolving confict in relationships and riendships relies on
good communication. In act, we might say that the essence o
confict is a breakdown in positive communication.
Table 12.1 Common causes o confict
With friends Borrowing without asking
Arguments over game rules
Revealing a secret
With teachers Student’s ailure to complete homework
Student’s late arrival to class
Teacher not believing student’s excuse
With family Untidy room
Curew rules
Choice o clothes
Common ways o responding to confict include:ignoring the problem or reusing to discuss the issues
involved
aggressive behaviour, such as verbal or physical abuse
suppressing our eelings and allowing the other person to
decide the outcome
sulking and trying to manipulate the other person through
guilt
negotiating a mutually agreed position through open
discussion.
You can see rom these that not all ways o resolving confict
are eective!
Negotiation and compromiseNegotiation is the process by which an agreement is reached,
ater discussing conficting viewpoints. It does not necessarily
bring about a win–win situation every time, as this is not always
possible. Sometimes one or both parties have to compromise
their position in order to resolve the confict. Ideally, in
this situation, the aim is to reach a compromise that allows
both people to eel happy, and eel that they were treated
with respect.
4 Make a list o 14 items. Read the list to
your partner and see how many they can
remember without taking notes. Swap
over and use a dierent list. Discuss how
well you went. When are you in a situation
where you have to try to remember a lot o
inormation? What can help you do this?
5 In two minutes, tell your partner about your
most prized possession. Explain why you like
it so much. You may ask questions. Swap
over. How did this eel compared to the other
tasks?
6 Write a list o strategies to overcome the
communication barriers you have explored.
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In confict situations it may be useul to allow time or
tempers to cool and or each individual to think through their
position rationally. Oten i some time is allowed to elapse since
the actual incident, those concerned may then be able to view
the issues rom a more realistic perspective than is possible in
the heat o the moment. Eective negotiation may involve:
understanding the position o the people involved
stating the problem objectively
looking at the problem rom all angles
identiying any obstacles to resolving the problem
generating a range o solutions
reaching an agreement
evaluating the result o the agreement.
‘I’ statementsWhen confict arises, it is important to communicate our
eelings clearly. The use o ‘I’ statements is one method o
taking the sting out o honest discussion. This involves startinga sentence with ‘I’, rather than ‘You’. For example, ‘I eel angry
when you tell me what to do.’ This statement lets the other
person know how you eel but does not criticise or attach blame
to the other person. It spells out the source o confict but
shows the other person that you are taking responsibility or
your own eelings. This is most eective i it is ollowed by some
suggestion o how to resolve the situation.
1 Describe the qualities you seek in a good
riend. What is it that makes a close
riendship last?
2 Draw a model o the communication
process. Include a list o barriers to eective
communication.
3 In pairs, conduct a conversation on any
topic while sitting in the ollowing positions:
back to back, acing each other very closely,
acing each other with eyes closed.
Discuss these questions with your partner.
a What were the barriers to eective
communication?
b How important are the non-verbal cues in
understanding the message?
c How did you eel when your personal
space was invaded?
4 Dene the term ‘active listening’ and explain
its role in eective communication.
Understand and apply
5 In groups, prepare a role-play where
someone has to say ‘no’ assertively in
a number o scenarios. Evaluate the
eectiveness o the communication.
6 Write down a description o a confict
situation that you have experienced in recent
weeks.
a How did you resolve it?
b Could it have been resolved more
eectively?c Explain the role o negotiation in confict
resolution.
7 Create a piece o text dealing with some
aspect o confict resolution. You can try:
a a poem
b a cartoon
c an advertisement or a newspaper.
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1 Explain two keys to positive relationships.
2 State why appreciating diversity is important to a healthy community.
3 Explain what approaches can be taken to resolve confict.
4 Outline two ways to overcome communication barriers.
5 Explain what infuences our approaches to relationships.
1 Design and write content or a new website or young people. The website must deal
with the issues o ‘youth relationships’.
2 Write a short story dealing with the theme ‘riends or lie’.
3 Create and implement a survey examining the reasons why riendships break up.
Write a report on your ndings.
Match the ollowing words with their denitions.
1 community A Being reliant on another person
2 dependence B Valuing the worth o another person
3 independence C Being sel-reliant
4 respecting D A group o people in relationships
5 humiliating E Paying due respect 6 sulking F Help
7 honouring G Expressing yoursel strongly
8 aggressive H Manipulating another person with emotions
9 assertive I Expressing yoursel too orceully
10 support J Making another person eel small
> Go to <www.cyh.com.au>. Use the inormation you nd there to design a poster topromote confict resolution.
> Go to <www.dryes.com.au>. Use the inormation you nd there to design a one-minute
talk on healthy communication in relationships.
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