Personal Argumentation

It is OK to Lose

Types of Argumentative Behaviors

Nonassertive

Passive, with limited self confidence agrees to what others want.

No comfortable solution

Lose/Win Situation

Types of Argumentative Behaviors

Aggressive

Hostile, that will focus only on this person getting what they want regardless of others feelings

Short term solution

Win/Lose Situation

Types of Argumentative Behaviors

Cooperative, finding solutions that work for all involved

Long term solution

Win/Win Situation

Assertive

Types of Argumentative Behaviors

Aggressive Nonassertive

Lose/Win

Assertive

Win/WinWin/Lose

Indirect Aggression Whiners

What do you think of when you hear the word…argument?

Defining Argumentation

Types of Conflicts

Simple

Pseudo

Ego

Subject or Topic oriented

Communication breakdown

Personality differences

Constructive arguing is the key to a successful relationship

Defining Argumentation

Common Traps

Unresolved Issues

Failure to stick to issues

Relationship Argumentation

Garbage Bagging

Winning at all costs

Why Can’t We Lose?

Arguing tied to our self esteem

Relationship Argumentation

Why Can’t We Lose?

Relationship Argumentation

It is ok to lose an argument

That is how we grow