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Today’s Class will Cover

1 Hour to Relationship Wow- What will make the MOST Positive difference in

your Relationship in 1 HOUR???

An 8 Step Journey

Who are we?Why are we qualified to teach you this material?

Have you heard us speak before and where? Are you familiar with our approach?

Rabbi Shlomo SlatkinMasters in Counseling Psychology

Advanced Clinician in Imago Relationship TherapyIn practice for over a decade

Working exclusively with couples and relationship issues

Some of Shlomo’s Works and Media Features.

Our StoryWe experienced serious

Marriage Conflict ourselves shortly after our first child was born. We got help and this is why we are here today doing

what we’re doing.

When you discover this…everything

changes.It’s continued to keep us together - even when

we have had our ups and downs.

Before we reveal the one thing that made the most positive WOW for our marriage…

• Let’s understand the most important ingredient, the prerequisite, for any marriage to succeed.• The absence of this ingredient is the number #1 cause for

divorce.• What do you think it is?

Lack of Commitment is the #1 Reason for

Divorce**With this ring…National Survey on

Marriage in America. (2005). Gaithersburg, Maryland:

National Fatherhood Institute

Don’t tell me I have to do anything else!

We’re not here to hit you over the head and blame you for your marriage problems by giving you a whole speech that you aren’t committed enough.

We are going to explore what makes couples commit or cease to commit and how our relationship wow can allow you to recommit in a whole new way.

People stay in a marriage for all sorts

of reasons.-children-finances

-peer pressure-negative beliefs about divorce

-fear of the future

If you’re staying together for the kids or for $$, these things are not enough in the long run.

You MUST have a REAL DESIRE to be with your spouse. Otherwise, when times get too hard, you’ll bolt.

But what if I…• Have fallen out of love?• Think my spouse is the problem?• Feel like I married the wrong person?• Think I would be better with someone else?

What got us back on track?We were able to re-commit to our relationship because we discovered our relationship WOW. Once we understood this WOW, everything began to make sense. We understood why we were suffering and we had hope that things could be better.

We discovered….

…The Secret Agenda of Relationships

There is a reason why you picked your spouseand there is a reason why you are fighting now

Why did you pick your spouse?

What made them stand out over everyone else you may have dated?

There was something special, a feeling that you might not be able to put your finger on.

The Imago• Imago=image• We all have an unconscious image of our ideal partner• This image is a composite of the positive and negative characteristics of our primary caretakers• In other words, marriage is the unfinished business of childhood.• We fall in love with someone who will help us recreate what was so

familiar and actually get it right this time, if we get conscious

We all have unmet childhood needs• Whether you had bad parents or good parents, they weren’t able to

fulfill all of your needs.• We seek out a spouse that will help meet those needs we didn’t get• The problem is that it’s not so easy. The one who can heal us the most

also can hurt us the most. The thing we need most from our spouse is the hardest thing for them to give and viceversa.

The Three Relationship Stages• 1) Romantic Love- the attraction that hooks us in and anesthetizes us.• 2) The Power Struggle- the eternal conflict most couples face• 3) Real Love- The conscious marriage

Conflict is for the purpose of growth and healing

• Back to our story: When we discovered the very conflict that we were experiencing was tailor made for us, based on our Imago, we were able to recommit• We saw the big picture, the secret

agenda• We were sold on our relationship, now

all we needed to learn were the skills that would help us move on our journey towards a conscious relationship

What if your spouse doesn’t remind you of your parents?

• Pick• Project• Provoke

The 8 Step Journey of Marriage

Importance of Commitment

Challenges to commitment

Secret of Commitment-Changing your

Perspective

The Secret Agenda of

Relationships-Making sense

of why you picked each

other and why you are fighting

Your ImagoUnmet

childhood Needs

Relationship Stages

Conflict is for the purpose of

growth and healing

What happens when people commit?

“A couple came for a 2 day intensive to decide if they should stay together after years

of marriage or separate. They just weren’t sure they could each get their needs

fulfilled in this relationship. The husband complained that his wife was wishy-washy

about what she wanted. He thought, if she would be completely committed to the

relationship, then the 2 of them could work hard to meet each other’s needs and

create a happy life together. As they were sharing a deep dialogue with each other

about the pain they were experiencing, she blurted out, “I’m committed!” Tears

flowed down his face and he stepped out of the process and asked, “What did you

say?” She said, “I’m committed to our relationship.” It was a touching moment and the

beginning of a complete shift in their relationship. After years of thinking that this

relationship was going nowhere, they decided to make it work. And to this day, it has

worked!

Commitment is Freeing!“The irony of commitment is that it is deeply liberating: in work, in play, in love. The acts frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitation. To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life”. – a Starbucks Cup

Understand why you’re experiencing the conflict

you are facingYou’ll have an easier time committing

Because it’s not about it being better elsewhereIt’s all about loving the one you’re with

You’re off to a good start…

Commitment will redirect you and get the energy flowing in the right direction, but you need more knowledge about relationships and

practical skills that you can apply.

Commitment is the 1st Step of the Amazing 5

Step SolutionWhat are the next 4 Actionable Steps?

Seal your ExitsDetox your Marriage

Acknowledge the OtherLove Infusions

Don’t forget about…The 4 Critical Moments

The 5 love languages…Lots of Amazing Relationship Ideas and Solutions

Where Can You Get the Skills and Tools That You Need to be Successful?

In only 1 hour, we covered 8 Steps.

Importance of Commitment

Challenges to commitment

Secret of Commitment-Changing your

Perspective

The Secret Agenda of

Relationships-Making sense

of why you picked each

other and why you are fighting

Your ImagoUnmet

childhood Needs

Relationship Stages

Conflict is for the purpose of

growth and healing

Marriage Bootcamp

You Will See your Spouse Differently

Fall in Love Again

What Couples are Saying about our Mind Blowing Insight and Life Changing Solution

“After going through your program, I feel like a completely different person. Although we have spent years in therapy, we were still on the verge of divorce. The skills we have learned with your Imago therapy have helped us break the vicious cycle of conflict and we are actually able to enjoy each other’s company again.”

Harold

Worst Marriage Ever?I receive your weekly blogposts and read your recent post entitled “ How do you know when your marriage is over?”. You debunked common reasons that couples see as warranting divorce and boldly claim that even the worst marriage can be saved. I wanted to write you so that you can share with your readers our story because if any marriage was doomed to fail, it was surely ours.We came to see you almost a year ago for therapy. As you may remember we only came for one session and we were in bad shape. My husband did not want to continue and being that we he was unemployed and I was making a meager salary, we couldn’t afford weekly sessions. We did get your digital program though we didn’t touch it for months. The marriage got worse to the point where he through burning grease at my face. I thought it was over. Things only got worse from there. My husband was put in jail on false charges, I lost my job, and then I found myself sick for months. I discovered there was a sewage leak in my bedroom that was contributing to my condition. This was the turning point. When we first received the digital download, I downloaded your audio mp3s to my husband’s phone, hoping he would listen to them.I started to notice that our communication had changed. He had implemented some of the strategies you suggest on his own. We began connecting again. We stopped the constant bickering. For the first time in a long time, I had hope that our marriage could succeed.We are now expecting our first child any day now and couldn’t be happier. Thank you so much. Your program saved our marriage and we are eternally grateful. Please continue to let other couples know that if your program could help us, it could help anyone, as you would be hard pressed to find a marriage as bad as ours was.Z, Baltimore, MD

“Like You Were Talking Directly To Us!”

“When we listened to your audios, we thought you were talking directly to us. Everything you said was so relevant to our situation.”Margie, Ohio

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Jam-Packed with Practical Tools that You can Apply Immediately.

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Reopening up The Bootcamp

Our schedule only permits us to do this for these next 3 weeks. We don’t

know when we will have the opportunity to offer this again.

Questions?

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See you Next Week!Thank you for joining us.