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Love in the time of the Internet
Chei BilledoDept. of Psychology
What is LOVE?
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LOVE
• LOVE is a construct• Construct
– An abstract theoretical variable that is used to explainsome phenomenon which is of interest to scientists
– Operationalize!
Interpersonal Attraction
• A person’s desire to approach another individual• Positive evaluation of others• There are several factors that determine to
whom we get attracted to and how strong ourattractions are: attraction cues
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Attraction Cues
• Characteristics and Behaviors of the Personsinvolved– Physical attractiveness– Actual similarity– Perceived similarity– Reciprocity
• Gain-loss hypothesis
Attraction Cues
• Characteristics of the Situation– Familiarity
• Proximity (the location of the people relative to one another)• Propinquity (the actual contact between individuals)
– Situations inducing emotional arousal– Novel and unusual Situations
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Romantic Relationships
• Socioevolutionary Theory (Wright, 1995)• Social Exchange Theory (Thibault and Kelly, 1952)• Equity Theory (Walster, Walster and Berscheid, 1978• Triangular Theory (Sternberg, 1986)
Socio-Evolutionary Theory
• Human being’s innate evolutionary mechanismguides the selection of potential mates tomaximize genetic fitness
• Two adaptive functions of romantic relationships:– sexual reproduction– bonding for the care of the offspring
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Triangular Theory
3 important components– Intimacy: those feelings that promote closeness,
bondedness and connectedness
– Passion: “a state of intense longing for union with theother”; motivational and other sources of physiologicaland emotional arousal (sexual feelings)
– Commitment: decision that one loves a certain other(short-term aspect); the commitment to maintain thatlove over time (long-term aspect)
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What is the Internet?
•A set of numerous interconnected networks that enablecommunication between or among computers.
•The convergence of computers and telecommunicationshas led to a new medium for communication calledcomputer-mediated communication (CMC).
•What is the internet for?
What is the Internet?
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What is computer-mediated communication (CMC)?
•Narrow bandwidth – does not transmit much of theinformation available
•In-person communication is considered as “widebandwidth” people communicate in real time (i.e. atthe same time) using multiple modes simultaneously
•Multi-modal CMCs – webcam, headset, etc.•3d chat?
What is computer-mediated communication (CMC)?
CLASSIFICATIONS OF CMC
•Asynchronous – communication is notsimultaneous; time lag
(e.g., e-mail, forum, blog, socialnetwork sites)
•Synchronous – communication occurssimultaneously between two or moreusers; real-time (e.g., im, chat,videoconference, 3D Chat)
CLASSIFICATIONS OF CMC
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CYBERSPACE?
Cyberspace was a term coined by science fiction writerWilliam Gibson in his novel Neuromancer (1984): “…aconsensual hallucination…”
CYBERSPACE?
- The use of the word “space” can be described as a… “physical” space - Spatial metaphors; contextual co-presence“social” space – built on interaction of users“psychological” space
What is “there” in cyberspace?
What is “there” in cyberspace?
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Unique features according to Suler (2007):•Reduced sensation•Texting•Identity flexibility/anonymity•Altered perceptions•Equalized status•Transcend spaces•Temporal flexibility•Social multiplicity•Recordability•Media disruption•Blackhole experiences
Unique features:
3Communication Online
•Use of emoticons - :-)•Emotes (verbalization of actions) - *hug*•Strategic use of punctuations/capital letters – Hello???!!!! I AMANGRY!•Paralinguistic markers – Hmmmm.. Ahhh… Oooohhh..•Misspellings – Wuv you!•Acronyms – ctc, gtg, brb, hb, rofl, ttyl•Territorial behaviors – flooding (sending too many messagesconsecutively so that others would have difficulty sending)
Communication Online
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Anonymity and the Self
•Defining the self•Self-Description (web-pages, social network pages, blog)•Nick/sn•Avatar•Online behavior
•* There is plasticity of self online. It allows people to playseveral identities.
Anonymity and the Self
•How do people present themselves in cyberspace?
Walther (2000): Social Information Processing Theory – message sendersportray themselves in a socially desirable manner in order to draw attention ofmessage receivers and foster anticipation of future interaction.
How do people present themselves in cyberspace?
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Do people lie then?Miller (1995): the selves presented in web pages do not seem to bequalitatively different from “selves” presented in other ways
Clay (2000): in interactive CMC, there is an attempt to express the “real self”online, especially when one desires to form and maintain relationships
Do people lie then?
Anonymity and Disinhibition
Disinhibition – reduced self-regulation;Two major effects:
1. People use it to act out a certain need or emotion (e.g.,flaming, cybersex, gender switching)
2. Accelerated and Increased level of disclosure
Anonymity and Disinhibition
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LOVE online?
Stage 1: The use of attraction cuesin online interactions
• Age and Sex• Attractiveness (Nick, Avatar and Self-presentation)
• Similarity• Proximity and familiarity (intersection frequency)
• Overlapping social circles• Physical attractiveness
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Stage 2: The establishment of intimacyleading to friendship
• Similarity• Perceived characteristics• Perceived quality of communication
Stage 3: The intensification of attractionleading to a romantic relationship
• Exclusivity, Regularity, length of theinteraction
• High Level of disclosure• Other forms of communication (text,
phone, e-mail, webcam) – Back-channeling
• Validation of existence (pictures, otherforms of communication)
• Terms of Endearment
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Stage 3 (continuation)
• Long-term plans/meeting in person• Verbalization of feelings towards each
other(“pasakalye” – “halabsyu”, “wuv you”)
• Verbalization of the physical aspect ofintimacy(mwah, “cyber foreplay”, phone sex)
• Physical attractiveness (nick, self-description, pictures)
Stage 4: The decision to meet in person
• Physical attractiveness stillplays a role, but not as big as“in-person” meeting only
• Initial meeting is usually anaffirmation of the intimacyestablished online
• Accelerated physical intimacy:holding hands, kissing, neckingand petting, sexual intercourse
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Stage 5: The decision to continue orterminate the romantic relationship aftermeeting in person
Online versus In-person• Similarities
– Perceived and actualsimilarities
– Reciprocity– Proximity and
familiarity/propinquity effects(intersection frequency)
– Novelty of the situation(inherent online)
– Physical attractiveness
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Online versus In-person• Differences
– Location– Accelerated intimacy online
• higher levels of self-disclosure on CMC• hasty verbalization (limited non-verbal cues,
deindividuation effects)
– Physical components of a relationship
Heightened attraction?
Social Identity model of DeindividuationEffects(SIDE) theoryby Postmes, Spears & Lea (1998)
• Members of the ingroup and the outgroup are bothtreated as stereotypical group members: Ingroupfavoritism increases, and outgroup bias/rejection isheightened
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Hyperpersonal Perspectiveby Walther,1997
“selective self-presentation”• editing and off-line processing for the purpose
of presenting self in a more desirable manner• people may idealize the impressions that they
construct of their communication partners
Attraction Cues Attraction Cues
Computer-mediatedCommunication (IRC)
In-personCommunication
Lack ofIntimacy
Intimacy IntimacyLack ofintimacy
Friendship RomanticRelationship Romantic
RelationshipFriendship
AcquaintanceAcquaintance
Long-termCommitment
Termination ofRelationship
Termination ofRelationship Decision
to meetIn-person
IN-PERSON INTERACTIONONLINE INTERACTION
THE FORMATION OF INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION AND ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP ONLINE
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• Meaningful relationships are formed throughonline interaction.
• The question is not whether the relationshipis real or not, but whether the relationship iscomplete or not.
• Friendships, which rely solely on intimacy,may be complete online.
• A romantic relationship, on the other hand,demands physical component. This becomesthe impetus for couples to move from onlineto “in-person” interaction.
• The theories of attraction based on in-personinteractions are applicable to onlineinteractions with slight modifications.
• (AND THE INTERNET IS NOT JUST FORPORN! – chei monster)
thank you! gtg! ;-)
thank you! gtg! ;-)