© Leadership Strategies 1 Leading with Confidence Dr. Stephen G. Payne Leadership Strategist.

© Leadership Strategies 1

Leading with Confidence

Dr. Stephen G. Payne

Leadership Strategist


Manage my personal behaviors

Create a vision of

successful functioning

Align people’s hearts,

minds and actions

toward the vision


Confidence

• Confidence is an outward projection of my state of mind, it is how much I believe in myself; believe that I/we can accomplish what I/we have to do.

• Sometimes people tell me that I am confident when I am not - my insider’s view is very different. Be careful: not feeling confident does not always mean not being confident.


• Some things boost my confidence: e.g., when the results show that my ideas are right I get validated, affirmed.

• Some things help me project more confidence when I do not have it: e.g., product knowledge, rehearsing, planning, preparing lists - these help me affirm before I start for real.


• Confidence breeds confidence. When I behave confidently, then others respond confidently and things get done easier.

• An unconfident meeting with a customer can be a nightmare. The lack of confidence gets amplified.

• Can I manage my confidence? Can I help my team gain more confidence?


• Easy: List Four Situations In Which You Did Not Feel Confident:


Beware The Pit of Doom

THE NEW

REALITY

THE VALLEY OF DESPAIR

THE MOUNTAINS OF HOPE

PIT OF

DOOM

THE CURRENT REALITY


The Valley of Despair

• Everything is changing

• Loss of expectation

• Loss of confidence in results

• Emotional reactions: avoidance, depression, etc.

• THIS IS NORMAL!


• “What you focus on in life is what you receive.”

• If this is true, then your confidence is impacted strongly by what you focus on.

• If I focus on weakness I may not be confident, if I focus on strength I may be.


ObjectsProcessesGoalsKnowledge

Beliefs

INNER WORLD

OUTER WORLD


Knowledge

Goals

Doing

Objects


• Difficult: For each of the Four situations in which you did not feel confident, what is the core thought about yourself in that led 1) to the feeling of lack of confidence and 2) the behavior of lack of confidence.


Leading Your Self First

• Recognizing instantly that you do not feel confident.

• Acting to restore confidence– The journey (of self-doubt)– The higher belief/hope– Surrendering fears– Affirmations and prayers– The Great White Stone– Talking it out– Planning and preparation


Leading with Confidence

• Firstly comes self-confidence. Self check. Focusing on higher values, affirming to higher beliefs within. Building this into preparation. Practicing every day.

• Remember the power of modeling successful behavior and attitude to the team.


• Secondly comes the confidence of the team. Use what you have - results, processes, knowledge, and beliefs. Teach them to self check as a group and as individuals. Always restate higher beliefs. Use positive reinforcement for behaviors and thoughts. Recognize the “valley of despair” and minimize it.

© Leadership Strategies 1 Leading with Confidence Dr. Stephen G. Payne Leadership Strategist.

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