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Types of Conflict
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encounters
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Power’s Close Ties with Conflict: Defining Characteristics
Power: Always present-symmetrical &
complementary Can be used ethically & unethically Is granted Influences most conflicts
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Power Currencies: Possess or Control Some Resource
Resource Currency: material-$, property, food
Expertise Currency: special skills/knowledge
Social Network Currency: links with family, friends, acquaintances
Personal Currency: physical beauty, intelligence, charm, Comm skills, funny
Intimacy Currency: unique bond
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How do you approach conflict?
Avoiding Keep issues to myself Usually avoid open
discussion of my differences w/ others
Try to stay away from topics of disagree.
Keep disagreements to myself to avoid hard feelings
Try to avoid unpleasant exchanges
Accommodating Generally try to
satisfy others’ needs Usually accommodate
others’ wishes Give in to others’
desires Often go w/ others’
suggestions Try to satisfy others’
expectations
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Conflict approaches cont.
Competing Use my influence to get
my ideas accepted Use my authority to
make decisions go in my favor
Pursue my side of an issue
Sometimes use my power to win
Use my expertise to make sure decisions go my way
Collaborating Investigate issues to find
solutions acceptable to both Integrate my ideas w/ those
of others to come up w/ decision jointly
Work w/others to find solutions that satisfy both our expectations
Exchange info w/ others so we can solve problems together
Bring all our concerns out in the open so issues can be resolved
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Conflict in Relational Systems
Complementary conflict style-different, mutually reinforcing behavior
Symmetrical conflict style-both people use the same tactics.
Parallel conflict style-shifts complementary & symmetrical patterns from one issue to another
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5 Conflict-Handling Modes
Compete Collaborate
Compromise
Avoid Accommodate
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Cooperativeness
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Nonass
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CooperativeUncooperative
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COMMUNICATION PATTERNS IN CONFLICT
UNPRODUCTIVE-Early • Disconfirming climate• Poor listening• Evident, negative nonverbal• Cross-complaining• Assuming, Discounting, Mind-reading
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Unproductive cont.
Middle Negative climate cont. to spiral Kitchen-sinking Interruptions Derailing-rerouting Cross-complaining & cutting other off
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Unproductive cont.
Later Self-preoccupation Counterproposals-competing Self-summarizing Egocentric communication Metacommunication Promotes dogmatism, rigid thinking,
etc
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Negative Spiral
EgocentrismPoor listeningDisconfirmationDefensivenessDogmatismHostile mind readingKitchen-sinkingSelf-summarizing…..
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Constructive Conflict
Early Climate sets the tone-recognizing &
acknowledging Sensitivity Use of “I” language Openness Use of questioning
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Constructive cont.
Middle Agenda building-focusing Bracketing for side issues Ongoing respect demonstrated Perception checking Clarifying Acknowledge ideas, feelings, concerns
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Constructive cont.
Later Collaborative resolution Contracting-negotiating & acceptance
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Short-Term Conflict Resolutions
Separation Domination Compromise Integrative agreements Structural improvements
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Long-Term Conflict Resolutions
Collaboration
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Unsolvable Conflicts
You & the other Are not willing to change Have goals that are irreconcilable &
strongly held Uncooperative Chronically defensive Violent
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Grace
Let go of anger, blame, judgments Given with no strings Not always appropriate May be a measurement of how a
relationship progresses