Warm-up Activity

• What is self esteem???

• Create a bubble map describing what you think self esteem is.

Do you have a Choice…

Self-Check

• Take out a piece of paper• Fold in half

SELF ESTEEMSELF-CONCEPT

Understanding Yourself

Definitions

• Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves

• Self-concept: Picture or perception of ourselves

Definitions

• High Self-Esteem

• Low Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem

• When does it Form?

• Where Does Self-Esteem Come From?

Half-full

• Self-esteem has been compared to a bucket of water. It starts out full when we're born, but whenever we develop negative beliefs about ourselves, it's like poking little holes in that bucket and our self-esteem drips out

• brainstorm a list of things we do or say to ourselves or to others that pokes holes in the self-esteem bucket.

How do values and morals fit into feeling good about yourself?• Knowing yourself is a prerequisite

to a good self esteem• Discover your values – a value is

something you strongly believe in• Live by what you value – the closer

your values come to your actions the happier you will be.

You become which you think

about most.

The Good Self-EsteemAdvantage

Who has contributed to your self esteem?

SELF-CONCEPT

• Picture or perception of ourselves

Self-Concept Circle

No one can Make you feel inferior Without your Consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

Negative Self Concept

• Dwell on mistakes and weaknesses

• Don’t feel confident

• Afraid of failure

How is self-concept built & destroyed

Building• Find a good role model

• Praise & compliments• Focus on the positive• Keep criticism to a

minimum• Set & achieve goals

Destroyed• Comparing yourself

to others• Putting yourself

down• Drug abuse?

Positive Self Concept

• Confidence-you feel good about yourself and what you can do

• Do not confuse confidence with conceit.

• Conceit is an inflated self image.

Statistics

• The majority of young teens have a low to medium self concept.

• Teenage girls tend to have a lower self concept than teenage boys. Why???

Self Esteem

0-25%

26-50%

51-75%

76-100%

Little Engine…

ACTION PLAN FOR IMPROVING SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-CONCEPT

It’s never too late to be who you might have been. ~ George Elliot

Building Self Esteem

1. Identify with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that build your self-esteem

2. Build others – give sincere compliments often

3. Think positively4. Set and achieve goals5. Do something challenging each day6. Look your best7. Do something for someone else8. Learn a new skill9. Handle things one at a time

Building Self Esteem

1. Use criticism constructively2. Ask for help – take advantage of learning

opportunities3. Improve your personal living space4. Allow personal growth time each day5. Post self-improvement reminders in obvious

places6. Do not say negative things about yourself7. Reward yourself often8. List your accomplishments each evening 9. Volunteer to share your skills with others

• Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change.

• Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change.

• Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair.

Have Realistic Expectations.

Perfection is not possible but bettering our self should be a lifetime goal.

Emphasize your strengths.

• There are two different people in the world. One that says “I wish I had” and the one that says “I’m glad I did”.

• Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.

• How much do you believe in your self? On a piece of paper write down the percentage of how much you believe in yourself. 100%? 75%? 50%?

• What are you achieving with that percentage?

• What would happen if you believed in yourself 25% more?

Dreams and self belief are free. You can take all you want and walk away.

Food for thought…Response

• Write down this quote… “You can’t love others until you love

yourself”.

• What does this mean? • How does it relate to self esteem?• How can you raise the self-esteem

of others?

Warm-up – Next Day Activity• Break students into groups and ask them to role play the

following situations. • parent makes hurtful statements to a child which would cause

low self-esteem • the appearance of a person with low self-esteem • the appearance of a person with high self-esteem • friends encouraging a person who has low self-esteem • a person with low self-esteem and a person with high self-

esteem applying for the same job • the appearance of a person with high self-esteem