THE FATHER FACTOR

(Pro 17:6) Children's children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their

fathers.

A Concise Explanation of the Father Factor

More than our culture, environment, and education: more than our circumstances

of life or socio-economic level; even more than our Mothers! Nothing humanly has had, is having, or will ever have a more

profound influence and impact on Who we are, What we are and what we Do than our Father. Whether he was present or

absent…Whether we loved him or hated him, or “somewhere in-between”

Whether we knew him very well or didn’t know him at all. Whether he spent plenty of time with us, or none at all… Whether we realize it or not, and Whether we like

to admit it or not… All of us were and greatly affected and deeply impacted by the man we refer to (or refuse to refer to)

as “Father”.

•4 out of every 10 children will go to bed tonight without a dad in the house.•25% of those kids see their dad once a week.•35% of those kids don’t see their dad at all!•60% of all children born in the 90’s were born to single parent homes.•3000 children a day watch their parents finalize divorce.•38% of all Christian men are not satisfied with their marriage •75% of all Christian men who have children are not satisfied with their role as DAD!•6.5 million men are incarcerated in this country.•1 out of every 32 adult men are in jail somewhere right now.•70% of these men came from fatherless homes.

• Suicide. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes

• High School Dropouts. 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes

• Juvenile Detention Rates. 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes

• Confused Identities. Boys who grow up in father-absent homes are more likely that those in father-present homes to have trouble establishing appropriate sex roles and gender identity.

• Behavioral Disorders. 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes

I. The Father Factor is Biblical

A. Dad’s were given the

responsibility to reveal God

to their Children

Worship(Pro 17:6) Children's children are the crown of old men; and the glory of

children are their fathers.

Authority of his word(2Ti 3:16-17) All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, throughly

furnished unto all good works.

Discipline (Heb 12:6-8) For whom the Lord

loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he

receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he

whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are

ye bastards, and not sons.

Security(Php 4:19) But my God shall

supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

(Mat 7:11) If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto

your children, how much more shall your Father which is in

heaven give good things to them that ask him?

Love (Rom 8:35) Who shall separate us

from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or

nakedness, or peril, or sword? …

(Rom 8:39) Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be

able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our

Lord.

A. Dad’s were given the

responsibility to reveal God

to their Children

B. Dad’s were given the

responsibility to produce a Godly seed

(Mal 2:14-15) Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD

hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against

whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy

companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make

one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed.

Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously

against the wife of his youth.

I. The Father Factor is Biblical

II. The Father Factor is Generational

A. It is generational through our

Teaching

(Psa 71:17) O God, thou hast taught me from my youth: and

hitherto have I declared thy wondrous works.

(Psa 71:18) Now also when I am old and grayheaded, O God, forsake me not; until I have

shewed thy strength unto this generation, and thy power to

every one that is to come.

Bruce Wilkerson

“Success for us as moms and dads isn’t

just about how well we run as individuals, but

about how well we pass the baton. And

only when the story of the generation who is

to follow is told will our “win” at raising kids be

know”.

Howard Hendricks

“You only see the quality of

your parenting when you see

what your grandchildren

become”.

(Pro 20:7) The just man walketh in his

integrity: his children are blessed after him.

A. It is generational through our

Teaching

B. It is generational through our

Positive Influence

(Psa 78:5-8) For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law

in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: That the generation to come might know them, even the children which

should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of

God, but keep his commandments: And might not be as their fathers, a

stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart

aright, and whose spirit was not stedfast with God.

(Ruth 4:21-22) And Salmon begat Boaz, and Boaz begat

Obed, And Obed begat Jesse, and Jesse begat

David.

A. It is generational through our

Teaching

B. It is generational through our

Positive Influence

C. It is generational through our

Negative Influence

(Exo 34:7) Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving

iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no

means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children's

children, unto the third and to the fourth generation.

Abraham (Gen. 12& 20) and Isaac (Gen 26)

David (2 Sam. 11) Solomon, Rehoboam

I. The Father Factor is Biblical

II. The Father Factor is Generational

III. The Father Factor is Powerful

Charles Francis Adams, grandson of John Adams and son of John Quincy Adams, served as a Massachusetts state senator, a

US Congressman and ambassador to Great Britain under Abraham Lincoln. He was also very meticulous about keeping a

daily journal and encouraged his children to do the same.Henry Brooks, fourth of seven children, followed his advice and began journaling at a young age. A particular entry written when Brooks was eight, following a day spent with his father, he wroteWent fishing with my father today, the most glorious day of

my life.The day was so glorious, in fact, that Brooks continued to talk

and write about that particular day for the next thirty years. It was then that Brooks thought to compare journal entries with his

father.For that day’s entry, Charles had written:

Went fishing with my son, a day wasted.

(Eph 6:4) And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition

of the Lord.

(Col 3:21) Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

7 ways parents provoke their children 1. Provoking through Physical Abuse 2. Provoking through Neglect 3. Provoking through Psychological Abuse 4. Provoking through Failing to Understand5. Provoking through Too High of Expectancy 6. Provoking through Reliving their life through them.7. Provoking though Unacknowledged Mistakes

Bill Glass, an evangelist who spent the last 25 years counseling

men who where incarcerated, says that of the thousands of

prisoners he has meet, not one genuinely loved his dad. 95% of those on death row hated their

fathers

Christopher Anderson did a study of 7,000

women that worked in the topless bar and

strip clubs profession. “Most women

conceded that they were probably looking for the male attention that they never got in

their Childhood.

I. The Father Factor is Biblical

II. The Father Factor is Generational

III. The Father Factor is Powerful

IV. The Father Factor is Unavoidable

There is no such thing as a father that yields a neutral influence. A father’s lack of involvement or absence in the life of his kids is a

negative influence.

I. The Father Factor is Biblical

II. The Father Factor is Generational

III. The Father Factor is Powerful

IV. The Father Factor is Unavoidable

V. The Father Factor is Reversible

(Psa 68:5) A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his

holy habitation.

(Psa 27:10) When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me

up.

(Mal 4:5-6) Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet

before the coming of the great and dreadful day of

the LORD: And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart

of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a

curse.