RESILIENCE “God Style” Lifetime Skills

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Class #1 INCOMING!

Reality of Tribulation

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DECK 1 “Resilience God Style”

Lessons 1-5

RESILIENCE “God Style”

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CLASS INTRODUCTIONS

I AM _______________ (NAME?) I AM FROM _________ (TOWN, STATE?) I AM HERE BECAUSE ______________?

RESILIENCE “God Style”

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Week 1 INCOMING! /Introduction, Reality of Tribulation John 16:33

Week 2 HUMPTY DUMPTY/Nature of Trauma James 1:2-4

Week 3 BITTER OR BETTER?/Post Traumatic Growth Hebrews 12:1-3

Week 4 RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE©/Before, During, After Galatians 2:20

Week 5 BUILDING BOUNCE/Ounce of Prevention! Ephesian 6:11

Week 6 WEATHERING THE STORM/Until the Destruction passes by! Psalm 57:1

Week 7 BOUNCING BACK/Without Getting Stuck! John 16:22

Week 8 BOUNCING AHEAD/Into a Hopeful Future! Romans 12:1,2

Week 9 GETTING READY…AGAIN!/Learn and Adapt! II Corin 4:8-11

Week 10 THE ULTIMATE RESILIENT WARRIOR/And even higher! I Peter 5:10

NOTE: The ten weeks correspond to Chapters 1-10 in Resilient Warriors and the Resilient Warriors Advanced Study

Guide. Along with the Scriptures, these will be our primary references during the course.

CLASS SCHEDULE

Before During After

RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE©

Source: Resilient Warriors, www.ResilienceTrilogy.com

LEARN & ADAPT

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Know Your Calling

(Mission, Purpose)

Know Your Enemy

Know Your Friends

Know Your Equipment

(Armor of God)

Deploy with the Right Mindset

Develop/Rehearse “Actions on Contact”

(Get Ready!)

Call 911

(Ask for help)

Start the IV

(Nurture yourself)

Keep Breathing

(Maintain routines)

Your Well of Courage

(Past strengths)

Remember Your Calling

Guard Primary Relationships

Choose Forgiveness

& Gratitude

Grieve Well

Sing a New Song

Revalidate Your Calling

(Discern/Chart the Future)

Comfort Others

LEARN & ADAPT

SOURCE: Page 200, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees 2/12/2014 RFD LLC 2013 6

RESILIENCE “God Style”

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OUR GOALS

GROW IN OUR KNOWLEDGE, APPRECIATION, AND APPLICATION OF GOD’S WORD TO BUILD GREATER RESILIENCE IN OUR LIVES AND IN THOSE WE LOVE AND LEAD

GROW TOGETHER IN FELLOWSHIP AND MUTUAL SUPPORT

ACQUIRE USEFUL RESILIENCE PRINCIPLES AND PRACTICES THAT WILL ASSIST OUR OUTREACH TO OTHERS

“We are often troubled, but not crushed; sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;

there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend; And though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.”

2 Corinthians 4:8, 9

LIFE is a Contact Sport!

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WE are all “Warriors”

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“IN THE WORLD YOU WILL HAVE TRIBULATION….

SELF OTHERS

SPIRITUAL FORCES INEXPLICABLE TRAGEDY

Resulting From: Greek “thlipsis” squeezing Latin “tribulum” threshing

BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER, I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.”

JESUS -- John 16:33(NKJV)

This Tribulation results in Trauma, Pain, Suffering, and Opportunity.

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SUFFERING

What does a “STORM” look like?

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“At intervals between a bomb falling it sounded like church: voices from nearby slit trenches all chanting the Lord’s prayer together- over and over again.

Louder when the bombs hit closer.” Veteran Army Air Forces Bombardier and Olympic Runner Louie Zamperini as recorded in Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand, page 117

Source: Spiritual Fitness Handbook

“We are often troubled,

but not crushed; sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;

there are many enemies, but we are

never without a friend;

And though badly hurt at times,

we are not destroyed.”

2 Corinthians 4:8, 9

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RESILIENCE “GOD Style”

Week 1 – Discussion Summary

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1. Why are you taking this course? What are your expectations?

2. What does “incoming” look like in your life?

How did this make you feel? (fear?, out of control?, anger? Other?)

3. Is EVIL real in this world? Have you ever looked evil in the eyes?

4. How would you define tribulation personally?

5. To balance this out, what does HOPE look like in your life?

3X5 CARD #1 FRONT #2 BACK NO NAME NECESSARY TURN IN TO INSTRUCTOR

Class #2 HUMPTY DUMPTY Nature of Trauma

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Defining Trauma

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“Until it happens to you…”

Why Me? Why Now?

How could you let this happen, Lord?

Trauma = Wound, Damage, or Defeat

“A traumatic situation is one involving an actual or threatened death or serious injury.”

A somewhat clinical explanation…

Common Misconceptions About PAIN

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PAIN IS PUNISHMENT (versus John 9:1-5)

PAIN IS UNPRODUCTIVE (versus James 1:2-4, et al)

PAIN INDICATES SPIRITUAL FAILURE (Paul?, Job?, Peter?)

PAIN IS NOT GOOD (versus Romans 8:28,35,37)

PAIN IS NOT COMPATIBLE WITH A GOOD AND ALL-POWERFUL GOD

Categories above from: Stowell, Joseph M. The Upside of Down. Grand Rapids, MI: Discovery House Publishers, 1991.

“Our investigation of resilience will illustrate how God’s goodness, omnipresence, and omnipotence provide courage and confidence as we struggle with pain in our lives.” Resilient Warriors, page 52

Consider My Servant, Job

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From PAIN to SERVICE God’s Economy of Suffering

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PAIN

PRESENCE OF GOD

In Your Presence is Fullness of JOY The JOY of the LORD is my STRENGTH

I can do all things through HIM who STRENGTHENS me Not to be served, but to SERVE…

A Theology of Suffering?

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GOD IS: A. . B. . C. .

EVIL IS: A. . B. . C. .

THEREFORE, WE: A. . B. . C. . D. .

Week 2 Discussion

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1. How would you define trauma? What are the sources of trauma?

2. How do we make meaning of trauma, esp undeserved pain?

A. Misconceptions regarding suffering? [Review RW, pages 50-52]

1) From GOD?

2) Is pain productive? Examples? You, others?

3. How would you articulate the “Theology of Suffering?” (3-4 main points)

Class #3 BITTER OR BETTER?

Post-Traumatic Growth

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My Theology of Suffering Application Exercise #1

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GOD IS: A. . B. . C. .

EVIL IS: A. . B. . C. .

THEREFORE, I: A. . B. . C. . D. .

“Pain is no evil, unless it conquers us”

Charles Kingsley

“Pain, Problems, Persecution, Prison:

Became God’s unique open doors for two unlearned fishermen to witness to royalty… the very ones who

killed Jesus and were now asking Peter & John spiritual questions.”

Other Examples???

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An Example

“There was a man in the land of Uz whose name was Job… “… blameless, upright, fearing God and turning away from evil.”

(God to Satan) Have you considered my servant Job?

(Satan to God) …he will surely curse you to your face.

(Job) Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I shall return there.

The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.

3 Friends, Wife (Eliphaz, Bildad, Zophar) (Curse God, and die) Wisdom of Youth (Elihu) (33:29,30 – “that he may be enlightened”) God’s Feedback (Where were you when???) Job’s GROWTH through Trauma… (Post-traumatic Growth) “Now my eye sees you… and I repent in dust and ashes”

Consider My Servant, Job

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Agenda

EVENT

Trauma

Adversity

Primary Source for Diagram: Army G3, Comprehensive Soldier Fitness (CSF). Source of Concept/Research: Tedeschi & Calhoun, University of North Carolina, 1980.

Anxiety Sexual Assault Divorce Substances

Violence Anger Isolation Suicide

Perception of Self Relationship Growth Helping Others

Spiritual Growth Purpose of Life Contribution to Society

POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH MODEL Post-Traumatic Growth

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Week 3 Discussion

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1. What does posttraumatic growth (PTG) mean to you?

2. Biblical Examples of PTG?

3. Modern Examples of PTG?

4. Counter examples? Lance Armstrong? Others?

5. Which fork in the road?

Better or Bitter? Wiser? Stronger? Etc?

NEXT WEEK: Analyze one of your life traumas in terms of Before, During, and After (Resilience Life Cycle). In Advanced Study Guide: Pgs 13,14 and pgs 36-39

Class #4 RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE©

Before, During, After

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Before During After

RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE©

Source: Resilient Warriors, www.ResilienceTrilogy.com

LEARN & ADAPT

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Analyze one of your life traumas in terms of the Resilience Life Cycle©

Learning from Trauma -- A Critical Life Skill Application Exercise #2

REFERENCE: Resilient Warriors Advanced Study Guide, pages 13,14, 36-39

? 1. My “Body Slam:” ___________________________________ 2. My Reactions: _____________________________________ 3. My Thoughts: _____________________________________ 4. My Feelings: ______________________________________

BEFORE DURING AFTER LEARN & ADAPT

1. Was I Prepared for this life experience? _______________

2. How could I “Get Ready” for this?

A. __________ B. __________ C. __________

3. Did I have “Actions on Contact” prepared in advance? _______

1. How did I “Weather the Storm?”

A. __________ B. __________ C. __________

2. What/Who were my “life preservers?”

A. __________ B. __________ C. __________

1. Did it get worse? 2. Did I grieve the loss?

(D,A,B,D, Acceptance) 3. Did I get stuck?

A. Guilt? B. Anger? C. Bitterness?

4. Am I still stuck? 5. How do I get unstuck?

A. New Song? B. Forgiveness? C. Renewed Purpose?

1. What did I LEARN? A. Before?_________ B. During?_________ C. After?__________

2. Did I GROW? How? A. __________ B. __________ C. __________

3. Did I ADAPT in order to “Be Ready” for future life traumas?

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The Greatest of Commandments Comprehensive Personal Fitness™

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“28One of the scribes came and heard them arguing, and recognizing that He had answered them well, asked Him, “What commandment is the foremost of all?”

29 Jesus answered, “The foremost is,

‘HEAR, O ISRAEL! THE LORD OUR GOD IS ONE LORD; 30 AND YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH

ALL YOUR HEART(EMOTIONAL), AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL(SPIRITUAL), AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND(MENTAL), AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH(PHYSICAL).’

The second is this,

‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR(RELATIONAL) AS YOURSELF.’

There is no other commandment greater than these.” 31

Mark 12: 28-31, NASB, Parenthetical and Bold comments added

COMPREHENSIVE PERSONAL FITNESS™

Comprehensive Personal Fitness™ leading to RESILIENCE

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• PHYSICAL (“Body is Temple of Holy Spirit”)

– Diet, Exercise, Hygiene, Sleep

• MENTAL(“Taking Every Thought Captive”)

– Thought Patterns, Intellectual Curiosity, Acuity

• SPIRITUAL(“To be spiritually minded is life & peace”)

– Connection with God, faith practices

• EMOTIONAL(“Slow to Get Angry”)

– Regulation, Temperament

• RELATIONAL(“Let us LOVE one another”)

– Connectivity, Mutual Support

Comprehensive Personal Fitness™ MILITARY APPLICATIONS

• Physical • Mental • Social • Emotional • Spiritual

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Marine Operational Stress Surveillance and Training(MOSST)

U.S. Army -- Comprehensive Soldier Fitness A structured, long term assessment and development program to

BUILD THE RESILIENCE and enhance the performance of every Soldier, Family member and DA civilian

• Physical • Family • Social • Emotional • Spiritual

• Physical (Strength)

• Mental (Mind)

• Relational (“Neighbor”)

• Emotional (Heart)

• Spiritual (Soul)

Army/AF Judeo Christian Marines/Navy

U.S. Army Comprehensive

Soldier Fitness (CSF)

Holy Bible Great Commandment

Mark 12:30,31

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Learn & Adapt

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LEADERS

INDIVIDUAL WARRIORS

Before During After

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Week 4 Discussion

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1. Do you remember the story of Captain Scott and Tiffany Smiley in Chapter

4 of Resilient Warriors? In Before, During, and After terms, how did they

navigate their trauma?

2. With your Application Exercise #2 worksheet, how did you navigate a past

trauma?

3. How would you assess yourself regarding Comprehensive Personal

Fitness™? What realistic goals do you have in each one of these areas?

4. How do you do these things without dependence on self-effort?

MY Comprehensive Personal Fitness™ Application Exercise #3

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PHYSICAL

Diet?

Exercise?

Hygiene?

Sleep?

MENTAL

Thought Patterns?

Intellectual Curiosity?

Acuity?

SPIRITUAL

Connection with God?

Faith practices?

EMOTIONAL

Regulation?

Temperament?

RELATIONAL

Connectivity?

Mutual Support?

Some Leading Questions: 1. How do I assess my status in each of these areas? 2. To what degree am I prioritizing these fundamental values in my life? 3. Do I hold myself accountable to these priorities? 4. Have I enlisted others to help? 5. How does success or excess in one area affect the others? 6. What realistic changes/commitments make sense for me now?

A. ____________________________ B. ____________________________ C. ____________________________

Class #5 OUNCE OF PREVENTION

Building Bounce

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Know Your Calling

(Mission, Purpose)

Know Your Enemy

Know Your Friends

Know Your Equipment

(Armor of God)

Deploy with the Right Mindset

Develop/Rehearse “Actions on Contact”

(Get Ready!)

Guard Primary Relationships

Choose Forgiveness

& Gratitude

Grieve Well

Sing a New Song

Revalidate Your Calling

(Discern/Chart the Future)

Comfort Others

LEARN & ADAPT

SOURCE: Chapter 5, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees 2/12/2014

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Know Your Calling

(Mission, Purpose)

Know Your Enemy

Know Your Friends

Know Your Equipment

(Armor of God)

Deploy with the Right Mindset

Develop/Rehearse “Actions on Contact”

(Get Ready!)

BEFORE

Calling: n.; “a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action especially when accompanied by conviction of divine influence.”

Resilient Warriors, page 86, Merriam-Webster Collegiate Dictionary

1. Do you agree with this definition? What would you add/subtract?

2. Is Calling a “one time thing?” Can it change?

3. What are the ingredients of Calling? General? Specific?

4. Do you have a Calling? A. Can you articulate it to others? (one sentence) B. Was there an event that crystallized your Calling? C. How did God motivate your Calling decision?

Oh Boy, some more homework!

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Know Your CALLING

“Save me from all those who pursue me, and deliver me. Or he will tear my soul like a lion.”

Psalm 7: 1,2

“Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

I Peter 5:8

“But resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same experiences of suffering are being accomplished by your brethren who are in the world. After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.”

2 Peter 5:9,10

Armor of God: Ephesians 6: 10-18 “Be Strong in the Lord…”

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Know Your Enemy

Know Your Equipment

it's been said a friend is like a mighty sheltering tree a place of refuge we can run when trouble comes for you and me someone we can count on through the thick and thin when the storms of life are blowing, there's just nothing like a friend (there's just nothing like a friend)

there've been days that i was sure that i couldn't make it through clouds of doubt came rolling in and i didn't know what i would do i would've given in and said i just can't go on if it hadn't been for a friend that helped me to be strong (helped me to be strong)

you can face the highest mountain and the climb won't feel so high or cross the darkest valley and it won't seem so wide nothing is impossible when a friend is by your side

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Know Your “911 FRIENDS”

“we all need sheltering trees friends in our lives who'll get down on their knees

and lift us up before the king of kings we all need sheltering trees”

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Sheltering Trees, by New Song

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Deploy with Right Mindset

• “Mindset” is inextricably linked with “Heartset”

• King Jehosophat’s “deployment” (putting Levites out front in battle formation) reflected both his mindset and his heartset. 2 Chronicles 20

“For Ezra had set his heart to study the law of the Lord and to practice it, and to teach His statutes and ordinances Israel.”

Ezra 7:10

“For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace.

Romans 8:6

SOURCE: Chapter 6, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees 2/12/2014

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Call 911

(Ask for help)

Start the IV

(Nurture yourself)

Keep Breathing

(Maintain routines)

Your Well of Courage

(Past strengths)

Remember Your Calling

DURING

“ACTIONS ON CONTACT”

“Stop, Drop and Roll”

Reflexive Action (Pavlovian Response) Infantry Term Immediate Action Drills “What if…” British Army EG

Deploy Evaluate/Develop Situation Choose Course of Action Recommend/Execute

Week 5 Discussion

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1. Review our Homework : Comprehensive Personal Fitness.

2. Why is CALLING so important???

3. Which of the other five “Resilience Builders” represents a “growth

area” for you? Which one do you think is a personal strength?

4. What does the concept of “Actions on Contact” mean to you???

Why are they important???

See “Resilience God Style” Deck 2

for Lessons 6-10

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