Mind Your Business by Randy Elrod #AGMWholebrain.

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Mind Your Business

by Randy Elrod

#AGMWholebrain

The Master and His Emissary

by Dr. Iain McGilchrist

The Mindful Brain

by Daniel J. Siegel

C.O.A.L.

1.) Curiosity

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“Curiosity Killed The Cat...”

“It Is A Miracle That Curiosity Survives Formal Education.” -Albert Einstein

The So How:Free Thinking

Two Diagnostic Questions

Internal/External not

Left/Right

1. (Internal)How Can I Be More Curious

About Myself?

2. (External)How Can I Be More Curious About My World?

2.) Openness

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“Open Yourself Up, And You Will Get Hurt”

The So How:Radical

Transparency

Two Diagnostic Questions

1. (Internal)How Can I Be More Open To

Myself?

2. (External)a.) How Can I Be More Open To

My Team?b.) How Can I Be More Open To

My Customers?

“Openness Is About The Courage And The Vulnerability To Say, “Yeah, I’ll Try

It. I Feel Pretty Uncomfortable And I Feel A Little Vulnerable, But I’ll Try It.” -

Brene´ Brown

3.) Acceptance

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“Shame On You!!!”

“Shame Is The Enemy Of Acceptance” -Randy Elrod

The So How:Living

Shameless

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6 Types Of Shamers

1.) The Affirmer: The person who actually feels shame

for you, gasps and confirms how horrified you should be.

2.) The Sympathizer: The person who responds with

sympathy (“I feel so sorry for you.”) rather than empathy (“I get it, I feel

with you and I’ve been there.”

3.) The Hero Worshiper: The person who needs you to be the pillar of worthiness and authenticity, who can’t help you because they are

too disappointed in your imperfections.”

4.) The Reprover: The person who is so uncomfortable

with vulnerability that they scold, “How did you let this happen?”

5.) The Fixer: The person who is all about making it

better, and out of their own discomfort, refuse to acknowledge that you can

actually make terrible choices (“You’re exaggerating. It wasn’t that bad.”)

6.) The One Upper: The person who confuses connection with the opportunity to one-up you. (“Well, that’s nothing. Listen what

happened to me...”)

Two Diagnostic Questions

1. (Internal)Do I Talk To Myself The Way I

Would Talk To Someone I Really Love And Respect And

Whom I’m Trying To Comfort In The Middle Of A Breakdown?

2. (External)Are My Expectations Of Others

Reasonable?

4.) Love

“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” - Barbara De Angelis

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Jesus

Others

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The So How:Unconditional

Love

Two Diagnostic Questions

1. (Internal)Deep down in my core because

of my family, religion and education, do I feel it is wrong to love myself before others?

2. (External)Do others feel loved when they are around me? My family, my

team, my customers?

CuriosityOpennessAcceptance Love

“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” -Carl Jung

Notes and Powerpoint

http://randyelrod.com/agm

Notes and Powerpoint

http://randyelrod.com/agm