MAKING FRIENDSChapter 4 Form 3

LEARNING OUTCOME:

2.2 Process information by: a. skimming and scanning for specific information and ideas; b. extracting main ideas and details; c. discerning sequence of ideas ;

LEARNING OBJECTIVES:

By the end of the lesson the students should l be able to: •write a short letter/email with guidance to a friend/cousin in Malaysia on giving advice.

MAKING FRIENDS

Read on the talk on “Making Friends”.

Good morning, boys and girls. Today I’m going to talk about making friends. Making friends can be difficult nowadays especially with so much peer pressure. You are the odd one out if you do not belong to a group that sport a certain hairstyle or wears clothes that are similar in fashion. This does not mean you should follow the crowd blindly.

In order to make friends, first of all you must possess a pleasing personality. You need to become genuinely interested in other people and show kindness to others. If you want people to like you, make them feel important and do it sincerely. Smile always. It costs nothing to smile but it enriches those who receive it. A smile cannot be bought or borrowed. It comes from the heart. It creates happiness in the home and in the classroom.

We do get into arguments occasionally. Some people thrive on arguments though it gives them a sour disposition and creates a depressing atmosphere around them. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and apologise to your friend. If other party continues arguing, excuse yourself and walk away.

Boys and girls, it is of utmost importance to choose your friends carefully. If others try to persuade you to play truant, smoke, steal, gamble or fight, dare to say No”. When you do wrong things, you will lose honest, good and upright friends in no time. Walk away from those who try to influence you to do wrong things.

Be strong mentally and you will not be swayed by bad influences. The more you practise being mentally strong, the easier it will become. It is dangerous to follow a crowd. You are treading on dangerous grounds if you mix with the wrong type of friends who will stab you in the back at the very first opportunity that arises.

So, boys and girls, choose your friends wisely. Do not give in to peer pressure to do things that are wrong. With that I thank you.

A. CIRCLE THE CORRECT ANSWER.

1.

A.nosey and pryingB.fashionably dressedC.genuinely interestedD.very odd and strange

A person who is …… can make friends easily

2.

A.a smileB.a friendC.kindnessD.happiness

The word It in paragraph 2 of the speech refers to

3.

A. Continue arguing.B. Walk away quickly.C. Admit it and apologise.D. Create a depressing

atmosphere.

What should you do if you are wrong about something?

4.

A. a friendB. an enemyC. a relativeD. a teacher

The phrase the other party refers to ….. you were talking with.

5.

A. stop you from breaking lawsB. are mentally strong and stableC. dare to say “No’ to bad influencesD. want to influence you to do the

wrong things

You should walk away from people who

6.

A. follow trend settersB. choose friends wiselyC. always argue with othersD. smile to ourselves consistently

From the talk, we can conclude that we should

B. CHOOSE THE BEST MEANING FOR THE FOLLOWING WORDS AS FOUND IN THE SPEECH.

Vocabulary : Meanings in Context

1.

A. exercisesB. playsC. wears

sports (paragraph 1)…to a group that sport a certain hairstyle or wears clothes that are similar in fashion

2.

A. niceB. enjoyableC. welcoming

pleasing (paragraph 2)…you must possess a pleasing personality.

3.

A. weakenB. flourishC. succeed

thrive (paragraph 3)Some people thrive on arguments though …

4.

A. outlookB. positionC. opinion

disposition (paragraph 3)…it gives them a sour disposition and …

5.

A. miserlyB. gloomyC. overcast

depressing (paragraph 3)…and creates a depressing atmosphere around them

6.

A. pass upB. get aroundC. keep away from

avoid (paragraph 3)…of an argument is to avoid it.

7.

A. limitedB. greatestC. regulated

utmost (paragraph 4)…it is of utmost importance to choose …

8.

A. directB. moralC. current

upright (paragraph 4)…you will lose honest, good and upright friends in no time…

9.

A. invitedB. directedC. influenced

Swayed (paragraph 5)… and you will not be swayed by bad influences.

10.

A. livingB. walkingC. crushing

treading (paragraph 5)You are treading on dangerous grounds if …

Writing an email

C. Read the passage below and answer the question that follows. Most of us have experienced peer pressure at one time or another. Peers are people of our age like our classmates. Peer pressure is when peers try to influence how we behave or what we do or when they try to get us to do something. It is not easy to resist peer pressure. But if we pay attention to put own feelings and beliefs on what is right and what is wrong, we will gain self-confidence. This will help us to stand firm, walk away and resist doing something we do not want to do.

Parents and teachers always advise us to choose our friends wisely. Peer pressure is the main reason why they say this. If we make friends with those who cut classes, smoke or lie, we tend to imitate them and be like them. It is always best to stay away from peers who are a bad influence. We can always find other friends who know right from wrong.

Write an email to your friend, advising him/her on how to stand up to peer pressure.Your email must:obe about 60 wordsobe in continuous writing (not in note form)

How to stand up to peer pressure?1. pay attention to put own feelings and beliefs on what is right and what is wrong

- we will gain self-confidence

- will help us to stand firm

- walk away and resist doing something we do not want to do

2. listen to parents and teachers who always advise us to choose our friends wisely

D. Write an informal letter. Using the points given below, write a letter to your cousin, on the dos and don’ts of being a good friend.owhen you are writing on dos and don’ts, make sure you

use all the points given for both sides of the topicohave a good introduction and elaborate on the points as

much as you can to make it more interesting to readomake sure your letter is not less than 120 words

The Dos and Don’ts of Being a Good FriendDos Don’ts

o Always stand by your friend

o Tell the truth-be sincere and forthright

o Keep your promises-be dependable- return what you borrow-be on time

o Keep secrets of those who trust you

o Betray your friend for your own benefit

o Lie – cheat- trick – deceiveo Break promises- be unreliableo Ask a friend to do anything

wrong or spread gossip that could hurt others

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ANSWERS

Exercise A1.C2.C3.C4.A5.D6.B

Exercise B1.C2.A3.B4.A5.B6.C7.B8.B9.C10.A

pinkychoky@gmail.com

How to stand up to peer pressure?

Dear Pink,Well, to stand up to peer pressure, firstly, we need to know what is right and wrong so that we will gain self-confidence. It will also help us to stand firm. We should walk away and resist ourselves from doing the wrong things. We must listen to our parents and teachers who always advise us to choose our friends wisely.

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25th February, 2016

Dear Pinky,

You have asked for my advices on the do’s and don’ts of being a good friend. Well, to be a good friend, we must always stand by our friend. We must always tell the truth, be sincere and forthright to our friend. Always keep our promises and be dependable. If we borrow anything from our friend, make sure we return it on time. We must keep secrets of those who trust us. Never betray our friend for our own benefit. Never lie, cheat, trick and deceive our friend. Never break promises and unreliable. Never ask a friend to do anything wrong or spread gossip that could hurt others. That are my advices on how to a good friend. Be a good friend to others and they will be good friends to you, too.

Hope you be able to be a good friend. Good night. Meet you again in my next letter, till then, bye.

Your cousin, Blla