Welcome to

Love & Logic

Presented by Dr. Jim Scott

A GUIDE FOR PARENTS

Goals of ParentingRaise Children who are:

IndependentAble to think criticallyGood problem solvingKnow they are loved

Secure

THREE STYLES OFPARENTING

Helicopters

Drill Sergeants

Consultants

HelicoptersHover Rescue

As parents you do it all!

Children learn they do not have to be accountable.

Drill Sergeants

Work by command and intimidation

As parents you call all the shots.

As a child you are taught not to think!

Consultants

Offer help when asked.

As parents your role is to help children solve their own problems

As a child you are valued . You learn there are solutions and consequences to their behaviors.

Love and Logic Principles

Adults set firm limits in a loving way.

Childhood mistakes are seen as an opportunity for Learning

When the adult has immediate Control

Enforceable Statements

Choices WithinLimits

Uh, Oh song

Instant Empathetic Response

When the Adult has No Immediate Control

One-Liners to Neutralize Arguing Strategic

Training

Delayed consequence

InstantEmpathetic Response

Restitution

Problem Solving

NUTRALIZING ARGUING

ANTICIPATORY CONSEQUENCES

EMPATHETIC RESPONSES

CHOICES WITHIN LIMITS“UH, OH SONG”

RESTITTUTION

GUIDING KIDS TO SOLVE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS

CREATE ENFORCEABLE STATEMENTS

Neutralize Neutralize ArguingArguing

•Don’t allow your children to control your actions or you!

Two steps to Neutralize Arguing

1) Use Instant Empathetic Responses

The expression of genuine empathy has an amazing ability to soak up emotions.

I understand..

You sound up set

I know just what you mean

Step 2 Neutralize Arguing

Use love and logic one-liners

It is important that you use these one liners over and over.

Famous One Liners

Keep your composure

Listen be reflective

Create Statements that do not allow for control

Respond with Empathy

Famous One linersFamous One liners

• Send “Can do” Messages

• Give only choices you like

• Take care of yourself and set limits

• Use the sandwich technique

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