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How to Assist Someonein Severe Distress
A Publication of the Police Protective Fund
Wisdom from Chaplain David Fair, Ph.D.
Photography Phil LeConte
A Guiding Hand in the DarknessLaw Enforcement
Chaplaincy is not for everyone. If Iʼm working
with a chaplain candidate, one of the first things I do is take him to the scene of a trauma. I watch his eyes,
his facial expressions and most of all his demeanor.
Usually within 5 minutes I can tell you if he has what it
takes to be a Police Chaplain.
As Police Chaplains we have to be the calm in the
middle of the storm -- the eye of a hurricane. There
has to be that place of calm compassion on the scene of a horrific trauma. If only
for an instant, they know the Chaplain is there. It is called, the “Ministry of
Presence”. Most often just being there calms the
situation.
Police Chaplains are trained professionals, but
they canʼt be everywhere at once. Therefore the first responding officer, the
paramedic or even a private citizen may be
pressed into service trying to calm down a person who has been stabbed, raped, survived a car wreck when others did not, or witnessed
the traumatic death of a loved one.
There is an old saying, “ Do all you can do. But all you
can do is enough”
Chaplain David Fair, Ph.D.
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to helping someone in severe distress regain some control and a sense of calm after experiencing or
witnessing a traumatic event --.
Chaplain Daveʼs Five Essential Steps 5
You can be of no good to anyone if you are injured or dead. Professional Chaplains or paramedics never enter an area unless they know the scene is safe. Law enforcement must
secure the scene before anyone else enters.
1. Wait until the police have secured the scene.
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In a panic state, abnormal breathing is one of the main reasons a person may feel as if they are having a heart attack and are going to
die. With shallow breathing the brain does not get enough oxygen and all sorts or psychological things start to happen. You must get the
attention of the person. Say “Iʼm here to help you. Please listen to me. Look at me."
2. Control Breathing
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People who have witnessed a trauma are likely in psychogenic shock. You need to get them to look at you. Use simple words and speech. You will need to repeat. They will ask you the same questions over
and over. Be patient.
3. Speak Slowly and Clearly
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4. Use the Person's NameIn speaking to a family
member, use the individual's name. They are not the
"victim", the "deceased", the "remains" or anything else.
"Iʼm sorry John is dead." "Sue has been severely
injured." "Jack is missing."
The name is important to the family.
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If it becomes your responsibility to deliver a death message, have the
person sit down. Tell then you have some very bad news.
Then state simply and briefly: “Is your husband John Doe? Ma’am, I’m
sorry to tell you there’s been a bad traffic accident. Mr. Doe was killed.
I’m so sorry: he is dead.” This may seem cold, but the person has to hear
the word ‘dead’.
Don’t say “passed away”, “gone with the Lord”, “expired”, or “is sleeping
with the angels.” No. He is dead. There have been many accounts in
which a chaplain or first responder has tried to ease the blow, and the
survivor misunderstood and thought the victim was still alive.
5. Use the "D" Word
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YOU CAN DO THIS!These five tips will be your guide until a Chaplain or a trained clergy member arrives.
If you end up being the only one to comfort a survivor, remember this phrase: “ Do no further harm”. God gave us two ears and one mouth, so we need to listen twice as much as we talk. Donʼt make decisions for them. Instead, empower them to make their own decisions.
Let them take control again by giving them choices to make. "Can I get you water or tea?"
You can do this. Control your own breathing. Stay calm. And silently pray to your higher power if you like.
Thank you for helping others.
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