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OpeningRemarks

Welcome & Greetings

Spiritual Advice

District Update

AGENDA

LocaleInstructions

MAIN TOPIC

Future Activities

OPENINGremarksBro Ron Cortez

WELCOMEgreeting

sSis Rogelio & Milcah Agbayani

LOCALEinstructions

Sis Rachelle JoverSis Mylanni Bancoro

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LOCALE INSTRUCTIONS1. Let us prepare and invite visitors for our Evangelical Mission

on December 22 after our Annual Thanksgiving. The theme will be “Welcome, Kapatid Ko”

2. Our last day of deposit for the Annual Thanksgiving is on December 7/8 Please submit our deposit card to the Finance Office.

3. Let us all take part in the Worldwide Special Offering for the Aid to Humanity for the victims of calamities in our country on December 7/8

4. Let us prepare for the Annual Thanksgiving which will be held on the following schedules:- December 21 (CWS) 9:45AM, Function Hall- December 22 (Adult) 8:00AM (Tagalog) / 12:00PM (English)

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INGREDIENTSEssential

for a long, happy

MARRIAGE

Dumb RELATIONSHIP Advice

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BAD ADVICE:

The worst piece of wedding advice we received is

simple: Never go to bed angry

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LONG UNPLEASANT NIGHTS

A better idea would be to go to bed angry, get a good

night's sleep and then get up a little calmer, a little more rational and a little

less stupid.

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BETTER ADVICE:

If you're fighting at bedtime, or anywhere close to it; say your prayers, go to bed, get a good

night's sleep and face the disagreement with a calm head

in the bright light of day

FindingTIMEfor yourMARRIAGE(for old timers!)

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REAFFIRM THE VALUE OF “COUPLE TIME”

Decide to put your marriage first, so it can stay strong and vibrant

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REDUCE MEDIA TIME

Set clear limits, reinvest time and focus on real

relationships — beginning with your marriage.

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REDUCE MEDIA ACCESS AT HOME

1. Never keep a TV in the kitchen or your bedroom.

2. Consider eliminating cable TV

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ESTABLISH A DAILY CHECK-IN TIME

Even a 2-5 minute conversation, carried out

daily, can work wonders in your relationship, to help you feel more connected.

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INVEST 30-60 MINS WEEKLY IN A COUPLE PLANNING MEETING

Keep each other informed of what’s going on in each

other’s lives.

SixBASIC PRINCIPLESfor aHAPPY MARRIAGE (for newly weds!)

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- Both the boy (becoming a man) and the girl (growing into a woman) long for independence.

- They crave the freedom from the watchful eye of their parents by joining the companion and love of their lives through marriage.

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- The covenant of marriage includes a long "user agreement" full of "small print.“

- The small print includes hardships, trials, differences and difficulties which will inevitably be faced.

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6 BASIC PRINCIPLES• Cooperation• Finances• Recreation• Intimacy• Friendship & Fidelity• Respect, patience &

humility

Some TIPSon someFINANCIAL ASPECTS

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BUDGET TOGETHER

The main reason I put this as #1 is that in order to

budget together, you need to communicate with each

other.

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BUDGET TOGETHER

Budgeting together also shows a willingness to work together, so it’s important to have that mindset going

in

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LEARN TO COMPROMISEYour spouse’s spending and savings habits are largely a result of their experiences

and perceptions growing up. That being said, those

habits are going to die hard.

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LEARN TO COMPROMISE

Sometimes it is just the difference between

perceptions. Learn to compromise, communicate better, and it will no longer

be a problem.

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SET COMMON GOALS

It is much easier to talk about why you shouldn’t

spend money on something when you both have a goal that you’re excited about working toward together.

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SET COMMON GOALS

Once you do, you’ll realize that those dreams aren’t going to happen unless a

change is made. That change has to be made

together.

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GET HELPIf you are relatively new to

putting a financial plan together, working with a financial advisor can help you set goals and work

together to establish good behaviors.

LOVEandLONG DISTANCE:Make it work for you

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WORK ON COMMUNICATION SKILLS

In a long-distance relationship, however, you’re left with only one form of communication:

Talking.

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WORK ON COMMUNICATION SKILLS

Good communication is essential in any relationship,

but in a long-distance relationship, it’s crucial.

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WORK ON COMMUNICATION SKILLS

Figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are when it

comes to communication, and set a goal with your partner to work on improving the areas where each of you fall short.

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TAKE ADVANTAGE OF TECHNOLOGY

Make an effort to stay close during your time apart, take

advantage of all the technology you have, using the telephone,

social media, e-mail, text messages, and instant

messaging to keep in frequent contact throughout the day.

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TAKE ADVANTAGE OF TECHNOLOGY

The ability to see each other can help bring an extra level of love

and connection to your conversations, as well as

opening up wonderful possibilities for your interaction.

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REMEMBER COMPASSION

When dealing with the stress and frustration of a long-

distance relationship, it can be very easy to find yourself

becoming irritated with your partner on a regular basis.

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REMEMBER COMPASSION

Long-distance relationships can also

become difficult when one or both partners are very

busy or have a lot to deal with in their day-to-

day lives.

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REMEMBER COMPASSION

A long-distance relationship is a time when compassion

becomes especially important. Remind yourself often of the

things that you love about your partner and the reasons you’ve

chosen to be with them.

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GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER THROUGH CONVERSATION

Use this time apart to focus on having great conversations with your partner. Discuss your

plans for the future, and share with each other your goals and hopes for your relationship.

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GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER THROUGH CONVERSATION

Make it a goal to grow closer to each other

through conversation as you spend your time

apart.

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MAKE YOUR PARTNER A PRIORITY

Make sure that, despite the distance, you are still making your partner, and

your relationship, a priority.

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MAKE YOUR PARTNER A PRIORITY

Although helping a long-distance relationship to thrive is tough, it

can also be one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do.

By the time you’re back together, you might just find that

your relationship is stronger than ever!

QUESTIONS

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FUTUREactivitiesBro Ron Cortez

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FUTURE ACTIVITIES FOR BUKLOD’S 51st ANNIVERSARY

1. Ongoing recruitment of additional Buklod OfficersDecember 9 – Start of SeminarDecember 14-21 Devotional Prayer of the new recruitsDecember 21 – Oath taking during the last devotional prayer at Begonia Hall (when available)

2. December 13 (Friday) - Tanging Pagtitipon ng mga Buklod. Time and venue to be advised.

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2. December 14 – Buklod In Action / Mass Visitation to be led by the Buklod.

3. December 22 – INC Evangelical Mission / Welcome, Kapatid KoBegonia Hall Pasir Ris (after the Annual Thanksgiving)

4. December 23 - Buklod Big Night / Dinner For A Cause / Family-Oriented Activities

FUTURE ACTIVITIES FOR BUKLOD’S 51st ANNIVERSARY

DISTRICTupdate

Bro Ian Glindro

SPIRITUALadvice

Bro Josue Ocampo

THANKyou!!!

See you again next month!