Couples for Christ BruneiChristian Personal Relationship (CPR)Talk Number 3

Taming the TONGUE!

“Tremendous POWER of the

TONGUE.”

A. Christian IdealTremendous Power of the Tongue

Can be used for blessing,

honor and encouragement

Far too often used for evil and destruction

A. Christian IdealTremendous Power of the Tongue

A. Christian Ideal...

Much wrongdoing is committed with

the tongue….

A. Christian Ideal....

Wrongdoing in speech can be very harmful to

our unity and loving relationships in CFC.

A. The Christian Ideal (Modern Climate)

Hostile to the notion of

controlling speech.

A. The Christian Ideal (Modern Climate)

Commu-nicate your

feelings.

A. Introduction(The Christian Ideal)

Having speech in order is a vital aspect of love.

Love must be communicated.

A. Introduction(The Christian Ideal)

Ephesians 4:29Do not let any unwholesome talk

come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building

others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those

who listen.

A. Introduction(The Christian Ideal)

Having speech in order is a crucial aspect of righteousness.

Having speech in order is a vital aspect of our relationships in CFC.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

1. SlanderThe dictionary

defines slander as the utterance of false charges or

misrepresentations which defame or damage another's

reputation.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...1. Speaking against

(2 Cor. 12:20) For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as

you want me to be. I fear that there may be

discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition,

slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder.

C. Destroys trusts and undermines committed personal relationship....

Never speak in a way that causes brethren to mistrust

one another.

Don't speak in a way that stirs up quarreling or conflict.

D. How do we handle problems of wrongdoing or incompetence?

Go directly to the person concerned.

If necessary, talk to his household head or other CFC leader

who has responsibility for him.

It is possible to talk to another mature person in order to get help in knowing how to handle the

matter. In this case, do not name names.

E. "Exceptions" to the general rule of not speaking against:

When we reprove people

When we have a dispute with someone that we cannot resolve.

When we tell a person's head that we know of or have heard of something wrong

the person has done .

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

2. GossipGossip is

information shared without constructive

purpose or in an inappropriate way with wrong people

or in the wrong time.

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Video:Gossip

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

b. When we do talk about others

• It is OK to talk about others' good qualities or successes.

• It is OK to share about good things that have happened.

• It is OK to pass on neutral information.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

c. We should not listen to gossipProverbs 17:4

A wicked person listens to

deceitful lips; a liar pays

attention to a destructive

tongue.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...d. We are all called to live in the light with one another.

Ephesians 5:8-13For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the

light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose

them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible and everything that is illuminated

becomes a light.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

e. Confidentiality

• Many things we should not speak

about when they are told to us unless we

have a clear responsibility

to do so.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

e. Confidentiality…

• We should not ask others to promise us to keep something we have told them secret.

• We should not promise anyone to keep something secret before they tell us what it

is. Nor should we promise afterwards.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...f. There are times when we are clearly responsible to speak about what we know:

• When we know about wrongdoing

in the life of someone in CFC that is not being

handled properly.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

3. BusybodiesTaking on

matters which are not our

responsibility or concern.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

3. Busybodies… (criticism)

• We are to take responsibility for our responsibilities and trust others to do

the same.

• If it is a serious matter, go to the appropriate authority and then leave it

with them.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

• Don’t pass on another's criticism it.

• Evaluate something you were not involved in.

B. Some Key Problem Areas...

4. Negative Humour A joke or

something that passes for humor

that is at the expense of another

human being.

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B. Some Key Problem Areas...

4. Negative humor….

• Sometimes the humor we engage in is based on something negative about

another person.

• Negative humor is usually a poor attempt at expressing something

positive.

C. Speech that Strengthens...

1. Our speech should increase love and trust

and respect for the person

spoken about.

C. Speech that Strengthens...

2. Our speech should

increase faith and hope.

C. Speech that Strengthens...

3. Our speech should

express love, affection and

support

Take interest in the lives of others!!!

(Matthew 12:36-37)“But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day

of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by

your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be

condemned.”

“Let us learn how to speak so that

everything we say will impart grace to those

who hear.”

The Challenge...

Question:Are you ready to

tame your Tongue?