A Beautiful Mind

What happens however when the mind works against us? When it tricks us into believing that what is not real to be the actual, destroying our sense of being?

We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think.

When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.

The mind is everything, What you think you become

The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind.

Teach Yourself to think...

I breathI walkI talkI think

I do not have to think about these things then why I have to think about thinking?

Because...

Thinking is most fundamental thinking skillYour skill to think will determine your

happiness and success in lifeYou need to think to make plans, take

initiatives, solve problems, open-up opportunities and design your way forward

Without thinking you are like a cork floating along with the stream

Thinking is fun and enjoyment, if you learn how to think

Thinking and intelligence are separate.

What about feelings and values?

Most important things in lifePurpose of thinking is to deliver to you values

you seek.Values and feelings are insufficient without

thinking

5 stages of thinking

TO – PURPOSE AND OBJECTIVELO – LOOK AROUND THE SITUATIONPO – CHECK THE POSSIBILITYSO – NARROW DOWN MULTIPLE

POSSIBILITIESGO – POSITIVE AND CONSTRUCTIVE

ACTION

Millions software for computers

Software for the human brain

Great physical beauty with a boring mind is boring

You might get attention but will never keep that attention

Older, physical will fade

Beauty of Mind is independent of age

Can actually increase with wisdom and experience

Expected Value

(Odds of Gain) x (Value of Gain)

More often gives wrong result

Because of

Estimation Errors in Odds

and

Estimation Errors in Value

Six success elements in Relationships

It takes a combination of 1. Self-awareness,2. Self confidence, 3. Positive personal impact, 4. Outstanding performance, 5. Communication skills and 6. Interpersonal competence to succeed in your career and life.

How do I handle/prevent/reduce

conflicts?

There are five methods to handle conflict:

Running away Being obliging to the other party

Defeating the other party Winning a little/ losing a little

Co-operating

Resolving conflict is an art of communication

Use interpersonal communication skills

Ways?

1.How To Agree

2.How To Disagree

3.How To Listen

4.How To Differ

5.How To Respond

How To Agree

Genuinely seek to find points of agreement – not sycophantic pretence

No contribution if you simply agree with everything

Other person view right – spell it out

Changing perceptions to look at

things in different way is an

important step

How to agree without compromising

Define your principles and openly declare them Stay away from secret liaisons Take turns to agree Try to find a middle path

How To Disagree

Do not disagree for the sake of disagreeing

Do not disagree just to show how clever you are or to boost your ego

Do so politely and gently /= rudely and

aggressively

Distinguish between having a different opinion and disagreeing with

an opinion

Point out that a fact or statement is simply wrong

How to Disagree without Offending

Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble

An open mind leaves a chance for someone to drop a worthwhile idea in it.

Use phrases like “In my opinion,” “I believe that,”

Speak two languages, one of them Body. Sometimes, it’s what you don’t say that

counts.

How To

Listening is not just having to wait impatiently until you can yourself speak

A good listener pays attention and seeks to get the maximum value

You should make a habit of

repeating back to the speaker

what you think you have

understood

You should use question to check on fact

How to Listen effectively

Listening has to be learned Listening takes time Compose yourself physically Listen with an open mind and an open heart Give visual encouragement to the speaker Don't interrupt Don't rush to fill a silence Ask open questions Know when to stop listening

How To Differ

There are times when only one of a different set of opinions can be right

Seek to explore and explain the reasons for the difference

Different may arise from:

- Personal preference, values, point of view

- Perception, personal experience

How to Be Different

It is okay to imitate a variety of people in small waysAdopt ideas from a variety of sources Find good, positive friends with diverse interestsBe intelligent to decide who you want to beRespect other people's differencesself-discovery is an ongoing processBe bold!

How To Respond

Go further than just agreeing with

a point that has been made

You may wish to extend a

suggestion by enlarging it and

growing the suggestion

You may want to modify an idea to make it more

acceptable to yourself, stronger and more practical

Instead of the usual ‘battle’ of arguments there is a joint effort to explore the subject

Additional

1. Questions

2. Concept

3. Alternatives

4. Emotion And Feeling

5. Information and Knowledge

6. Attitude

Questions are key

means of interaction

in any conversation

or discussion. A

listener should seek

to ask question

Concept

Concepts are like parents that breed children (ideas) and like road junctions that open up several other roads

Alternatives

Because we have an adequate ways of doing

something does not mean that there might not be

a much better way. If we try we can find that better

way

Emotion And Feeling

Adjectives are usually subjective and tell more about

what their user is feeling than about the matter

itself. Beware of adjectives used to make a point in

place of logic or information

Ultimately, choices and decisions are based on emotions and feelings

Information And Knowledge

You do not need full and complete information about a subject in order to discuss that subject

Very little information?? Imagination and speculation is the basis for discussion

India could be 40 times bigger by 2050 (Ten Things for India to Achieve its 2050 Potential)

Improve GovernanceRaise Basic Educational

AchievementIncrease Quality and

Quantity of UniversitiesControl Inflation: Why

Not Have Inflation Targeting?

Introduce a Credible Fiscal Policy: A Medium-Term Strategy

Liberalise Financial Markets

Increase Trade With Neighbours

Increase Agricultural Productivity

Improve InfrastructureImprove Environmental

Quality

Conclusion

Mind in Action, others to see how beautiful your mind is!

Enjoyment, using your mind becomes form of enjoyment.

Conversation Club, with only qualification to speak and understand the language other speak.

Credits

Pictures: Flickr.com Random Google Search

Book: How To Have A Beautiful Mind :Edward de Bono

Quotes: Brainyquotes.com

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