Anger management Kumarmahi. Introduction All of us may feel and express anger Many of us have...

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Anger managementAnger management

Kumarmahi

IntroductionIntroduction

All of us may feel and express angerMany of us have difficulties with how we deal

with angerSometime anger is dangerous to us or to

others, when it gets out of control and turns destructive and leads to problem

Anger can be controlled and it can be used effectively

Myths about angerMyths about anger

Anger is dangerousWe should not express our angerAnger is badAnger is goodAnger is sinMale are more anger

Negative effects of angerNegative effects of anger

Bodily system becomes rigid and impureWe damage or abuse othersBroken relationship

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”  -Buddha

Positive effects of anger

Energize us to do somethingEnable us to assertiveHelp us to surviveIt is a way of communicationMotivate us to take action

Nobody makes you angry without your concern

Causes of anger

High expectationFaulty perception and thinkingPersonality factorPoor communication skillsPoor emotional control

“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.”  -Buddha

What do you think?

JudgmentalHateBlamePreoccupiedTake revengeDistrust

“Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.” -Mohandas Gandhi

How do you feel?

FrustrationJealousDisappointmentIrritability

“When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.”  -Epictetus

“Anyone can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way - that is not within everyone's power and that is not easy.”  -Aristotle

“When anger rises, think of the consequences”  

-Confucius

What do you do?

Express – fight, physical or verbal assault, fault finding, demand, control, put down others, gossip, transfer to someone

Suppress – withdraw, cry, guilt, preoccupied, feeling of low, hold it in your mind

Transform - use excessive energy deal with the person or situation in a appropriate manner.

Learn skills to deal

RelaxationAssertivenessCommunication Listening EmpathySelf regulationEmotional regulationCognitive reappraisal Stress management

Tips to control your anger

Learn more about your triggering eventReduce your expectationLearn self-control- delay your responseCheck the way you think, feel Forgive and accept others mistakesExercise regularlyReduce alcohol, smoking, coffinTalk to someone you loveGet adequate sleep

Finally

Understand not all anger is bad

Do not suppress your anger

There is another way to express your anger

Any one can learn to handle or cope up with anger, don’t feel bad about you

Thank you

kumarmahi

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