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The Office of Vicar for The Office of Vicar for Clergy Clergy

[Archdiocese of Los Angeles][Archdiocese of Los Angeles]

A Webcast presented by:A Webcast presented by:

St. JohnSt. John’’s Seminarys Seminary&&

The Office of Vicar for The Office of Vicar for Clergy Clergy

[Archdiocese of Los Angeles][Archdiocese of Los Angeles]

Compete

Avoid

Compromise

AccommodateSati

sfy O

wn In

tere

sts

Satisfy Other’s Interests

DivineCollaboration

Align with God’s Will

Increase Increase security security and love.and love.

Increase Increase security security and love.and love.

Reduce fear.Reduce fear.

Be Not AfraidBe Not Afraid

Reduce fear.Reduce fear.

Be Not AfraidBe Not Afraid

God

Brother Brother

[ Trinity ]1

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5

... love of neighbor is a

path that leads to the

encounter with God and ...

closing our eyes to our

neighbor also blinds us to

God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict

XVI

... love of neighbor is a

path that leads to the

encounter with God and ...

closing our eyes to our

neighbor also blinds us to

God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict

XVI

BrotherBrother

Mediator

Reconciliation

We can not love the God we can not see unless we love the God we see within ourselves and in others.

– St. Bonaventure

We can not love the God we can not see unless we love the God we see within ourselves and in others.

– St. Bonaventure

Sin separates us from God; Sin separates us from God;

reconciliation heals the reconciliation heals the

breakbreak..

Reconciliation - A UserReconciliation - A User’’s Manuals Manual

Sin separates us from God; Sin separates us from God;

reconciliation heals the reconciliation heals the

breakbreak..

Reconciliation - A UserReconciliation - A User’’s Manuals Manual

God

Brother

[ Trinity ]

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Christ Christ the the

MediatorMediator

Christ Christ the the

MediatorMediatorPriest as Priest as mediatormediatorPriest as Priest as mediatormediator

If I have no contact

whatsoever with God in my

life, then I cannot see in

the other anything more

than the other, and I am

incapable of seeing in him

the image of God.— Deus Caritas Est, Pope

Benedict XVI

If I have no contact

whatsoever with God in my

life, then I cannot see in

the other anything more

than the other, and I am

incapable of seeing in him

the image of God.— Deus Caritas Est, Pope

Benedict XVI

See the Divine See the Divine in in the Otherthe Other

See the Divine See the Divine in in the Otherthe Other

God

Brother Brother

[ Trinity ]1

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AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have

AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have

What do you want to What do you want to BeBe that has been opposed?that has been opposed?What do you want to What do you want to BeBe that has been opposed?that has been opposed?

What do you want to What do you want to DoDo that has been opposed?that has been opposed?What do you want to What do you want to DoDo that has been opposed?that has been opposed?

What do you want to What do you want to HaveHave that has been opposed?that has been opposed?

What do you want to What do you want to HaveHave that has been opposed?that has been opposed?

AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have

AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have

Power Power

PrestigePrestige

PossessionsPossessions

PridePride

Power Power

PrestigePrestige

PossessionsPossessions

PridePride

IMPASSEIMPASSEIMPASSEIMPASSE

Barriers to ConveningBarriers to ConveningBarriers to ConveningBarriers to Convening

ExpectationsExpectationsExpectationsExpectations

Need toNeed to Be RightBe Right

Being MadeBeing Made WrongWrong

Need toNeed to Be RightBe Right

Being MadeBeing Made WrongWrong

Emotions Color Emotions Color the the

Story & Story & PerceptionsPerceptions

Emotions Color Emotions Color the the

Story & Story & PerceptionsPerceptions

Destructive Destructive EmotionsEmotions

Destructive Destructive EmotionsEmotions

Faulty Faulty PerceptionsPerceptions

Faulty Faulty PerceptionsPerceptions

The situation was perceived

inaccurately

Prejudice or bias clouded perception

False attributions skewed perception

Perception Errors

The other party’s “inner story” is assumed

Emotional attachments color perception

Senses were impaired

WallsWallsWallsWalls

Desire for Desire for RevengeRevenge

Desire for Desire for RevengeRevenge

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NarcissismNarcissismNarcissismNarcissism

Spiritual Spiritual

DirectionDirection

Spiritual Spiritual

DirectionDirection

FALSE SELFFALSE SELFvs.vs.

Divine SelfDivine Self

FALSE SELFFALSE SELFvs.vs.

Divine SelfDivine Self

Two False Selves FightTwo False Selves Fight

Settlement Settlement CriteriaCriteria

Settlement Settlement CriteriaCriteria

SatisfactionSatisfactionSatisfactionSatisfactionSubstantive

Procedural Psychological

Opposition to Will of God

Problem of Evil